I definitely suffer from extreme body dysmorphia, when I look at myself in the mirror I feel so HUGE, so fat. But when I look in candid photos others take of me, I look skinny. Not abnormally, but normal. How do I get over this?! I constantly obsess over my body image. I hate my thighs and always will. This sucks.
i have bad body dysmorphia too and it’s rly rly rly not fun !! i’m so sorry ur going thru this as well :( the first thing to remember is that ur weight doesn’t define you, as cheesy as that sounds . try not to let looking fat affect ur self confidence bc there is absolutely nothing wrong with that !! being fat is beautiful too !! whether u actually are or not !! second, my old therapist who i love and miss dearly gave me this list of things to do/think to help change your inner voice:
-see things on a continuum, not all or nothing
-change loaded thoughts: “i am fat” to “i am not comfortable with my body”
-what is the evidence, other than your own harsh judgement that i am _____
-replaces shoulds, woulds, and oughts with less demanding language. “it might be nice if i felt better about my body”
-be adamant in a stance like “i refuse to buy into this societal ideal of attractiveness”
-are you dwelling on what you don’t like and forgetting that parts of you that you do like?
-acknowledge something you like about your appearance every time you look in the mirror
-catch yourself blaming your looks, see that you have no evidence for your conclusion and tell yourself “STOP BLAMING”. then move on to something you enjoy doing
-do the thoughts and opinions you suspect others are having about you sound strangely similar to your own opinions of yourself?
-talk back to yourself. “i can’t read minds. i need to stop thinking about what others might be thinking. instead i need to change what i am thinking.
-have all your negative thoughts been true? (no!)
-don’t deprive yourself of involvement in activities you enjoy because of negative feelings about your body
-catch your negative thought before the discontent spreads
-”i’m not feeling really good about my body right now. this isn’t a good time to focus on my looks, it’s just going to make me feel worse. i am going to stop this”
-replace “i am” thoughts with “i feel” thoughts