i'm not doing this anymore though

anonymous asked:

Ah is there a reason why you won't be writing series anymore :'( ?

Yes, there are a few reasons actually.

For one, I don’t want to have to deal with updates anymore. There is a big pressure that comes with people asking for the next part and even though I know in my head I can do whatever I want and update when I please, it feels like I need to update every week/ every other week, and I can’t maintain that. I mean, sometimes ON THE DAY of an update I’ll already have “so when’s the next one???” which can be a little….inconsiderate. I mean, I FULLY APPRECIATE that people look foward to the next one, but I also can’t chug out updates for one series when I have others going on.

Two, I believe you should write what you want to read. I prefer to read oneshots over series, and the oneshots I like to read are normally long ones that have a full and solid story and are almost the length of a series, like First Light by Inktae. Although my series are considerably longer than oneshots (ex: all of Imperfect Pair is 60k long) having everything put into oneshots eliminates the need for updates while still sharing the same stories I have in mind.

That would change my schedule from writing 8-10 fics a month…to about two or three. It’s something I have been wanting to do for a long time but have only recently been inspired to do it.

Don’t worry, the same types of stories will be coming out, I have a lot of Jungkook angst coming up (and Hobi too???? Sorry Hobi) LOL, but it will just be in a different form. I hope you can enjoy it all the same!!

Andrew: *pulls back curtain while Neil is in the shower*

Andrew: Are we - stop screaming, it’s me - are we out of ice cream?

anonymous asked:

Hi I'm sorry if this sounds rude but you mentioned your friends are giving up fic writing? And that you came close to.I notice writers get much fewer rebblogs than artists but I didn't know it's that bad. Who are you talking about and do you guys talk about this, like is there a chatroom for writers?

Hi anon! This isn’t rude at all, don’t worry! This is going to be a bit of a long answer, so bear with me :’)

I don’t know if I can mention names here, I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable, so I can’t really give you more details than I already have: I am friends with this person and they probably won’t be writing fanfics anymore.
I can tell you though that I’ve also spent most of the last couple of weeks wondering if there was still a point in posting my writing at all.

The thing is, writers barely get any feedback. Especially ones that aren’t insanely popular. We pour so much of ourselves into our writing, so it’s incredibly discouraging to barely get any comments, kudos, likes or reblogs.

In my personal experience, tumblr is an awful place for writers. I’ve got a decent-sized following on ao3 I think (though I don’t have much to compare to) and even there, with more than 100 people subscribed to me, I only tend to get around… 5 or 6 comments max per fic that are actually reviews (as in, comments with more content than “please update soon” or “this was nice”) - which is already more than I know many of my writer friends get.
On tumblr, I’m lucky if two or three people reblog my work, and that’s exactly the problem: Who’s going to see it if no one reblogs it? Likes are fine and of course I appreciate those, too, but in the bigger picture they’re meaningless.
Once a fic is done, it’s done. It’s out there then, and I can’t keep reblogging my own posts again and again in the hopes that someone will pay attention to them. I get one shot, maybe two if I reblog my fic again for people in other timezones, but that’s pretty much it. I’m not surprised that it’s gotten so frustrating that it makes people want to quit.

…as for your other question - I don’t know if there’s any larger chatroom or space for writers. I know some people have group chats, but it’s mostly a private thing, as far as I know? I’m really not a big name in this fandom so there might be a lot of stuff going on that I don’t know about.

As for me - I just message people a lot, with the tumblr feature, or on skype or snapchat if I know them better. I’m open to any and all conversations (most of mine with other writers started by me yelling at them about how much I love their work ^^), so if you want to talk to me please don’t hesitate to shoot me a message. That’s what they’re for, after all? My ask’s always open, and I don’t mind private messages either.

In any case - there’s quite a few people in my immediate vicinity that I’ve talked to and I consider friends - many of them are writers, some are artists, some do both, some do neither. I talk about this problem (of wanting to write, but barely receiving any feedback, of feeling like we’re wasting our time) to pretty much anyone who will listen, but it’s frustrating because I don’t have the influence to change anything. Of course I’ll try to keep my fellow writers motivated and try to change their minds about giving up, but there’s only so much I can do, and in the end it’s their decision. Most writers I’ve talked to really enjoy writing fanfics, and it takes quite a bit of disappointment to get you to the point where you want to just… stop. So… yes, it’s a big problem.

I’m going to wrap this up now, but… again, I cannot emphasize enough how important comments are to writers. I’ve talked to some people who’ve said they’re not sure if their comments will even make a difference, because they feel they haven’t got anything interesting to say - picture it this way. As a writer, I’m standing on a stage and presenting a thing, and in response, about twenty people give me polite nods (kudos, likes) and four actually start clapping. But there’s like two hundred people (hits) standing in this room, and I kind of feel stupid now.
All comments matter. At this point, they might save you your writers. Because with less and less feedback, there’s less and less incentive to actually post things.

I can’t say much for other fandoms because it’s been a while since I’ve written substantially for anything but Haikyuu, which is still a relatively active fandom? But I get the feeling that’s starting to wear off, too.

Enthusiasm shifts, and I get that. But if you still enjoy an author’s work, please, please, by all means leave them a comment. Otherwise it might be the last work you read from them.

Skam should come with a PSA

Just a fair bit of warning for anyone already getting stressed about people hating people (whether it’s the girl squad or the balloon squad or the fact that Isak and Even are still relevant for people): It will continue like this until the season is nearly over.

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anonymous asked:

He has said multiple times that he hates that ppl associate him as the "good looking" musician and wants to be known for his music instead. He was saying he even wanted to shave off all of his hair bc that's all ppl were looking at. I'm thankful he just didn't shave it off bald bc he got REALLY close to doing it a few weeks ago. This is why he cut his hair. Some fans have already "left" him because he isn't as attractive anymore... but that was the whole point. He didn't want fans like that.

Wow! That’s actually a really good and powerful reason! I get it. And, honestly, I have to commend him for doing it, because it makes a shit load of sense, actually. Thanks for that explanation though, because I was just thinkin’ he’d gone off the deep end! Haha!

-admin a

anonymous asked:

I feel like most of the criticism around andromeda is just circle jerking. Like yeah they have made mistakes that a Triple A studio shouldn't have made but mostly that can be fixed in patches. I'm genuinely enjoying the game and the conversations do feel natural, with awkward silences and all. I think that people forget that 6.5-7.5 is still above average, and in the range of "good"

the main problem is that patches or not, no studio should get away with selling an unpolished product for full price, so even though the criticism is overshadowing that the game outside of its problems is still good and fun, they deserve to get backlash for things that were done sloppily 

it’s the only way they learn that it’s not being accepted anymore, also ratings wise on average big budget titles get way too many points for just hitting the marks of what a triple A title needs to include / look like at minimum, what else they bring to the table makes the difference between a 7 or a 9

  • Every article from every godforsaken mainstream "feminism" site: I just wanna talk about how getting my nails done today was the most Empowering™ feminist act ever and how doing my nails and makeup and things that most women feel pressured to do is actually a radical activist statement when I do it because having long nails is my social praxis (I totally know what that means) and I'm using this $60 waste of money to overthrow the patriarchy. Also I'm just gonna throw around a bunch of buzzwords like "intersectional" while using "q****" both as a verb and as a way to describe myself even though I'm a totally gender conforming woman who literally only dates men.
Notable Guests and Incidents From my Career at Chick-Fil-A
  • Elderly woman in the drive thru that insisted her meal should be free because the total cost was the same as her birth year. 
  • Obligatory group of shirtless frat boys. 
  • Guy who pulled me aside and demanded to know if we wash our floors with grease because the (freshly mopped) bathroom floor was slippery. 
  • Soccer mom that intentionally poured a large strawberry milkshake onto her son’s head as punishment. She asked for a new one.
  • Kid that stood on a table and sung Let It Go uninterrupted from start to finish. She received a standing ovation from everyone in the restaurant.
  • Teenage girl that paid for a to-go order, about $45 total, entirely in singles. 
  • College-age girl that asked if it was true that we were handing out free sandwiches to gays and, if so, if she could have one. I told her we weren’t doing that promotion at our location, but I’d buy her a sandwich if she gave me her number. She politely declined. 
  • Prank caller asking if we wanted to buy weed. The manager replied by saying we had a guy that sold to us for 10$/quarter and to call back when he could match that
  • Multiple instances of kids pooping in the playplace.
  • Another prank caller asking if we sold burgers. The manager (a different one) told them there was a Five Guys across the street, so why on earth bother looking for a burger here anyway?
  • That time Arthur Darville came in.
  • Drive thru guest who regularly asks, very specifically, for “coke zero, NOT diet coke with extra ice’
  • A basketball team from a local high school got banned for using their trays to slide down the slide.
  • This happened to be the same night that the staff all stayed an extra 20 minutes after the doors were locked and took turns using a tray to slide down the slide. 
  • Guy with a southern accent that addressed me as “you with the tits,” shoved his sweet tea under my nose for a refill and then, upon noticing my murderous expression, said, “Service with a smile, darlin’,” winked, and walked out.
  • Woman who told me in a watery voice, upon observing my name tag, that her recently deceased daughter’s name was Emily too. She comes back and chats with me occasionally. 
  • My coworker, Tyquan once finished his conversation with the guests by saying “Love, Peace, and Chicken Grease!” It is now a meme and basically all of our customers know him. 
  • That time I was explaining to one of the girls what Rocky Horror Picture Show was and this elderly couple leaned across the counter with wide eyes and exclaimed “You’ve never heard of Rocky Horror!?” And proceeded to yell their favorite audience participation lines. 
  • Guy who’s on the security staff of a local college frequently comes through the drive thru on his segway. We are all on a first name basis with him.
  • A skinny fuckboy who consistently, for over two years, has always come in wearing a trilby, carrying a copy of hamlet, and ordering “Coca-Cola” instead of coke. 
  • Some redneck-type guy with no front teeth that asked me if almost everybody on the staff is “saved” (they are.) He then asked me how old I was and if I was a nice Christian gal (I’m not).
  • Guy who geek-checked me for my Keyblade necklace. He didn’t play the spinoffs.
  • I went into the low fridge one day and the stack of juice boxes had toppled over, basically burying everything else. I asked the manager what happened, and he looked at me dead in the face and said “it was an appleanche.” 
  • Stoners calling to ask if we delivered.
  • Guy who said, in a deadass tone: “If you guys call it Chick-Fil-A because the staff is all chicks why don’t y’all wear more revealing shirts?” And I honestly didn’t even know what to do because a) our staff is not all women and b) Sir do you realize that this is a heavily Christian establishment I mean christ.
  • Unknown guest who left me several napkins with pictures drawn on them, labelled “tip.” To date it is the third tip I’ve ever gotten and by far the best.
  • That time we traded four large strip trays for eight cases of White Castle.
  • Woman in the drive thru that demanded to speak with the owner because we told her that she could not get six large cups of ice for free and would have to pay for a bag of ice instead.
  • Guy in a full replica batman cosplay. He came in, walked around, took some pictures with people, and left.
  • There was a baby boomer that screamed literally right in my face because his nuggets were cold. I had shit to do though and his breath with nasty so after six whole minutes of this (I timed it) I burst into tears and told him it was just my first day. Later the manager told me that she saw the whole thing and that she almost peed herself from laughing so hard and that I wasn’t allowed to do that anymore. 

And finally…

  • Prank caller asking if we could do a birthday party for 52 lesbians.
  • What I say: I'm fine.
  • What I mean: Do you think Kris, Luhan, and Tao talk to each other and are still friends even though they aren't part of Exo anymore? Are they still friends with the other members? When was the last time they saw each other in person? Just because they aren't in the group anymore doesn't mean they still can't talk to the other nine. Or do they choose not to? Do they listen to Exo songs and support them that way? Does Exo listen to their solo projects? There's so much I want to know.

I imagine that the Marauders (and Lily and Marleen and Mary and… well, all of those arseholes, really) tell each other that they love each other all the time. It starts out in their very first year, with James telling them all he loves them because he was always a very affectionate child and the others latching onto it because none of them got enough love in their childhoods. (Remus is a fucking werewolf, Sirius came from the Black Household, and Peter’s sister got all the love, since their mother never wanted a son; she’d only wanted a daughter.)

They’re all doing it by the end of First Year. It just becomes a part of their vernacular. 

Naturally, Sirius and Remus say it to each other just as much as the others, but Sirius can’t –for the life of him, damn it– figure out if it means anything else. He wants it to –boy, does he want it to– but he has absolutely no idea how to distinguish between the platonic and… well, the less platonic. So he says nothing.

And then, they start fucking. 

That’s all it is. Sirius pushes his emotions down because he can’t think about it any other way. Remus is just a mate helping a mate. They’re just… doing it to do it. Practicing for the girls. It doesn’t matter that Remus sleepily mumbles that he loves him as they cuddle after sex, because that’s what they’ve always said. Nothing has changed. The gaping black hole in his heart doesn’t matter. 

It isn’t until Remus comes up to him in the Common Room and curls up in his lap that Sirius actually questions it. He stiffens minutely, but it’s enough for Remus to be like ??? What’s wrong??? You literally had my dick in you last night are you okay??? I just kissed your neck Padfoot you look like you’re terrified I’m going to bite you. 

And Sirius stares at him for a full thirty seconds, in which Remus begins to squirm a little under the gaze, and then blurts out YOU LOVE ME???????

And Remus’ eyebrows skyrocket. They fuckin’ leave the planet’s orbit. “Yes??? I tell you that a lot???” 

“But you tell Prongs you love him. You tell Wormtail you love him.” 

Remus stares at him and then slowly, slowly begins to shake his head, because it had never even occurred to him that Sirius might doubt his actual intentions. He supposed they did sorta skip the whole Talk that usually came with dating, but he’d assumed it was implied. It had been implied!!! 

But apparently, Sirius hadn’t picked up on that particular implication, because he’s still staring wide-eyed down at Remus. So Remus sits up properly and kisses him, long and full on the mouth. Sirius melts into the kiss, like he always does, because he can’t resist because Moony is so brilliant. When Remus finally pulls away, Sirius’ eyes are slightly unfocused. 

“I don’t do that to Prongs,” he points out, and nuzzles his nose back against Sirius’ collarbone. “I love you, Sirius. I want to date you. To be honest, I kinda assumed we were already dating.” 

And Sirius just kinda goes……. oh. 

It’s worth Remus’ soft puffs of laughter against his skin, though. His Moony is so brilliant.

13/9/16– It’s been a while, hasn’t it!

anonymous asked:

i'm a trans guy, 30s, been fat all my life. i'm desperate for top surgery, but every surgeon says i have to lose weight. exercise with my huge chest is hard enough, but now makes dysphoria worse (it's like my boobs are the reason i can't have my boobs off). since age 7 (not a typo), i've been fatshamed and forced on every diet. these days i exercise reasonably, eat decently. i know i'm never losing the weight, though. i need top surgery more than anything. i don't know what to do anymore.

You shouldn’t have to face these barriers, I’m sorry you are dealing with fat-phobic and transphobic doctors. Your size is not the problem, their ignorance is the problem. And hugs to little seven-year-old you. I have a son, and no vulnerable little boy should ever be treated like you were treated. Your weight was just fine then and its just fine now.

If you search my “trans health” tag you will find a post with resources about top surgery that may help. Yours is, unfortunately, a very common problem.

Long story short is that not all doctors require weight loss before top surgery, but you may need to shop around widely to find someone who is both willing and competent to perform the surgery on fat people. As a rule, surgeons do not receive adequate training performing surgical procedures on fat bodies, and we all pay the price for their lack of knowledge and skill. 

Does anyone else have advice, validation, or lived experiences to share?

mshandayani  asked:

Hei, I'm a new Yuzuru fan, Yuri on Ice brought me here. I've watched the last two Worlds and GPF, but I want to him as a person. Do you know where I should start it? Like, what competitions important to him and are there shows that show him off ice? Thank you beforehand

Here you have two documentaries about him: (x) (x) actually, I’d suggest starting with these maybe :)

Also, here’s a thread where you can find several videos and interviews. (x) Some of the videos might not be there anymore though. It will probably be a pain to go through the whole thread, but there’s a lot of stuff that might be interesting.

Here’s one of his recent interviews (x). Also, @yuzusorbet has translated several interviews, so you might want to check out the whole blog. For example, “serious” interviews aside, there was a series of small interviews for one of his sponsors that might give you an insight to some small details of his daily life.

When it comes to competitions…you should definitely watch his FP at worlds in 2012, his Olympic SP, all his GPF finals. There are also a lot EX that are worth watching: White legend in Sochi, Requiem at worls 2016, Notte stellata from this season, Change, Vertigo, Believe, Hana Ni Nare…honestly, if you like him I suggest watching pretty much all the major competitions he’s done xD

If you are looking for an insight to his skating (x). these are translations of some podcasts about Yuzuru, by ITA esp commentators.

anonymous asked:

On THAC I couldn't help see that you had Welsh flags in the house you filmed at. Why is this? (Asking bc I'm Welsh and our flag is cool as fuck if I do say so myself who else has a fucking dragon on their flag)

that was joseph’s and i actually have no idea no that you mention it, im tagging @josephdelage even though he doesnt check this website anymore

anonymous asked:

can u give viktor a smooch, pretty please? (love your art style btw, its absolutely beautiful💖💖💖)

“Absolutely~!”

(THANK YOU SO MUCH THOUGH ANON ;O; ❤️️❤️️❤️️)

anonymous asked:

So I know a lot of autistics who are really proud to be autistic and I think that's great and I wish I could be like that but I just don't know how. I hate all my autistic traits. I hate that I'm bad at conversation, I hate that I take everything people say seriously, I hate that I never know the right thing to say. I talk about my special interests, which no one cares about, too much. I have barely any friends. Everyone I meet thinks I'm weird. I don't know what to do anymore.

I’m gonna let you in on a secret. Even I feel this way sometimes. There’s so many things I really kinda hate about being autistic, especially things like my poor concentration, audio processing issues, needing to be given instructions 2, 3, 4, 5 times before I even begin to be able to remember them. Slow reaction times, poor decision making, sensory integration issues. Having absolutely no idea how to help the people I care about when they need me. I could go on and on.

Now, the thing is, though, that even if I didn’t have any of these issues, even if I wasn’t autistic, I’d still find things to hate about myself. Maybe ‘cause I have depression, maybe ‘cause it’s ingrained in people from a very young age that you have to hate yourself otherwise you’ll never improve, or you’re too full of yourself, or you haven’t done anything to deserve to not hate yourself. And these things are ingrained in neurodivergent kids tenfold. That’s why radical self-love is so important to so many of us.

I can guarantee that every single autistic person, even those of us who are super proud of being autistic, has something they hate about themselves, that they wish they could change or get rid of. That’s the human experience. You could take away every single thing you hate about yourself, and all that would happen is you’d find something else to hate.

It sounds super pessimistic, I know. But you are what you are. You can’t change it. You’re stuck with it, no take-backs. What you can change is how accepting you are of yourself. How much you care about other’s perceptions of you versus how much you care about your own perceptions of yourself. What those perceptions of yourself are. That’s something you can change. But you’ve gotta want to.

-Brother Cat

Brother Cat’s right. Even though we’ll sometimes be proud of who we are, we also go through a lot of self-doubt. I’ve dealt with this more than I’d like in the past three years of being unemployed and feeling like either no one understands me or no one wants to hire autistic people like me. I’ve dealt with it all my life in all the bullying and other crap people have thrown at me all my life (even before I knew I was autistic). It sucks. But remember–it’s not your fault you’re autistic. It makes life incredibly difficult, yes, but that’s why you have to keep persisting.

I know this sounds cheesy and trite, but find those good things about yourself. Find the ways that being autistic can benefit you and the people around you, like (for example) thinking outside the box or catching details that others may have missed and making everyone’s lives that much better as a result. That’s what I do, at least.

- Auntie Cat