i'm not a fan of ignorant people

Canon Disney/Lucasfilm sources: Kylo doesn’t want to kill Rey, he feels a mysterious connection with her and wants to teach her the ways of the Force


Originally posted by technopery

Fan site completely unaffiliated with Disney or Lucasfilm: Kylo Ren hates Rey and wants to kill her, Rey bought BB-8, Han Solo and Chewbacca had a torrid love affair, Bush did 9/11, 


Originally posted by angelisironman

So often, I find talking with most Doctor Who fans in real life is so disappointing. If I meet and actually start a conversation with a random fan I meet in real life, there’s a 99% that they only know New Who, which is to be expected, but there’s apparently also a high chance that they’ll think RTD’s Who is the best the show has ever and will ever be.

I really don’t want to sound like I’m stereotyping or a fandom elitist or anything, maybe its just my bad luck? But every conversation quickly becomes them talking about how everything is bad now, and me having to awkwardly wait for an opening about how I like something in the show, and then them turning it to negativity again. Meanwhile, with fans online and friends, I feel like I can criticise the parts of the show I don’t like because I can also highlight all the things I love to bits.

The other day I was talking to someone who said “I don’t think anyone likes the show once Moffat’s taken over.” and ????? how isolated do you need to be to say something like that in the year of our lord 2017

anonymous asked:

Hi! I want to ask advice.I'm learning fine art at a university, and try to do my best, but every day I feel like the fandom groups/facebook etc. slowly but surely kill my passion for 3 years. Ignorance, humiliation, disregard. I'm at my wit's end. I dont know what should I do, I want to keep drawing, but I feel like its pointless, and no matter how hard I try my artwork is useless. I feel like I'm making a mistake by believing, I can work as an artist, and I should search for something else.

This message kind of makes me very sad. 

There’s one thing I can advice. Quit the groups and fandom circles that make you burn out so much. There is no way every single fan in a fandom you love is ignorant, or humiliating, or disregarding. Find YOUR people who will support you and re-charge your passion. 

I feel like it’s in a way how I feel about tumblr recently. I see so many posts on my dashboard that either make me super bitter or annoyed…I kind of feel like a sea of salt after I spent too much on tumblr, but whenever I’m out of it I’m back to the ray of sunshine. I guess there are blogs and posts I feel no longer connected to. And it’s normal.

SO. Try finding someone you connect to. Having a one loyal friend in a fandom you can always talk to is much better than seeing the art (even if it’s great art) from a person you don’t understand. 

There is absolutely no way that your artwork is USELESS. I generally feel that the main point of art should be bringing YOU joy. If you draw there should be something you love about it. I guess it shouldn’t really rely on recognition only. 

Also, I might sound like Katara, but hey, faith pays off. If you truly believe in something it’s going to get you there eventually. 

anonymous asked:

How are you still a fan of Sam after all he's let happen to the fandom and to shippers in his name? You haven't personally been hurt by it so is it easier for you to ignore and pretend none of it ever happened? I'm struggling with my feelings about him and would love your insight.

As I have always said, I fan how I choose, and do my best to allow others the same privilege. If anyone reading this thinks I am talking about you, I promise you, I’m not.

I am sorry that there are people in the fandom who feel hurt. Its a shame that that was the result of something that should have been a fun and light-hearted experience. Please, however, don’t make assumptions, even posed as a question, such as ‘You haven’t personally been hurt by it so is it easier for you to ignore and pretend none of it ever happened?’ You don’t know what I have and haven’t been hurt by in this fandom, or by whom. I’m not pretending or ignoring anything. But I’m also not letting things have more presence in my life than they deserve.

You ask how I can still be a fan of Sam. First of all, I don’t believe that Sam did anything to fans, or allowed anything to be done to fans. I’ll talk more about that later. Even if I believed Sam did do something, that still doesn’t require me to stop supporting him. There is no one on this earth who has ever hurt me as deeply as my husband. No one has ever hurt him as deeply as I have. We don’t set out to hurt each other, but life is messy and people are imperfect. This is why I work every day of my life to practice the brutally hard art of forgiveness. Forgiveness isn’t an ‘If/Then’ equation. It’s not, ‘If this person is submissive and humble and admits all of their faults, then I will forgive.’ Forgiveness is a single party activity that is not dependent on any other person’s actions or opinions. I can forgive my husband when he hurts me because I choose to, whether or not he has asked for forgiveness. Forgiveness is for me, not him. Forgiveness makes me a better, happier, stronger person, more in control of my life. Let me ask you a question: Why would I NOT forgive my husband? Why would I hold on to anger, hurt or frustration? How would it benefit me? What would I get out of it? Heartburn, high blood pressure, anxiety - I don’t need more of that in my life. Besides, I know my husband is a really, really excellent man. His list of positive qualities is miles long. But he is imperfect, as am I. I forgive him, he forgives me, we focus on being better, learning from our mistakes and reveling in the soul fulfilling joy we find in each other. That is not ignoring or pretending, that is choosing our own happiness and health in spite of the messiness that is sharing life with another human. We are all responsible for our own happiness and happiness is a choice. My life is far from perfect and far from easy, but I am a generally happy person because I choose to be. Even if he did do something which hurt me (he didn’t), I can choose to forgive and move on. How can I still be a fan of Sam? Because I choose to be.

You ask how I can still be a fan of Sam after all he’s let happen to the fandom. He didn’t let anything happen to the fandom. We are not some unified group who get together each month and read the minutes and faithfully follow the bullet items on the agenda. Fandoms are very fluid bodies. There is no entrance exam, or document to sign, no oath to swear or dues to pay. People come and go as they please with no explanation due anyone at any time. Therefore, there is no control over what happens in a fandom at any given time, and my perception of this fandom is completely different from another fan, who may not be on Tumblr, but is on Twitter, or who is on Tumblr, but we have no followers in common. There are the Instagram fans, the Facebook fans, the multi-platform fans, the book group fans - and in each of these areas there are subsets of fans such as fanart, fanfiction, shipper, non-shipper, gifmaker, video maker, live tweeter, sam fan, cait fan, toby fan, graham fan, duncan fan, etc, etc, etc. There are thousands upon thousands of people who consider themselves part of this fandom. There are subsets of this fandom I probably haven’t even conceived of. We couldn’t possibly all share the same experiences, even in the same fandom, because there is simply too much diversity on every possible level. Therefore it is literally impossible for anything to happen to the fandom. You believe that something terrible happened to the shippers, but not even that is possible. Who are the shippers? Am I one, do you know how I categorize myself? We are all in control of our own experience. Sometimes that means not engaging or blocking, muting, ignoring, biting your tongue and generally not paying attention to people who don’t deserve your attention. It’s not Sam’s job to tutor us all about how to successfully fan, and it’s not his job to soothe ruffled feathers when one person hurts another person. How could he even begin to know? There are two sides to every story, so even if he was made aware of one side, what about the other side? We are adults. Our problems are our own. Not his. He has enough problems.

Again, you ask how can I still be a fan of Sam after everything that was done in his name. I don’t buy it. I refuse to hold Sam liable for other people’s actions. They are responsible for those actions. I am a Christian. I do not condone the thousands of years of atrocities that have been and continue to be committed in Jesus Christ’s name. I’m pretty sure He doesn’t either. I’m pretty sure Mohammed and Allah and myriad other well known figures don’t condone what was/is done in their names. I also believe that you are making assumptions about what Sam has condoned and what he hasn’t, what he knows and what he doesn’t and what his responsibilities are. Some people see malice where others see sarcasm. Some see apathy where other’s see focus directed somewhere else. We simply don’t know what has gone on behind the scenes, or what people really felt, thought or did. If someone was a horrible bully or troll (and there were several someones) that is on them. They made bad decisions. Really bad decisions. I do know that no one was required to engage with anyone else on Twitter or any other platform. Lucky for me, it isn’t my job in life to judge other people. My job is to do my best to be a good person and be good to other people. I believe we should try to lead by example. I am a fan of Sam because I don’t believe he did anything or allowed anything to be done to fans.

Do you really want to know why I am still a fan of Sam? You think you’ve been hurt by him, or someone associated with him? You think this has caused great distress in your life? Maybe it has. Here is something I know about Sam. His dad left him when he was three. Three years old. I have four kids. I know intimately what it’s like to have a three year old. I know how much they need. I know what it takes to raise a boy to manhood. It’s not easy. Sam had no contact with his dad. None. No advise, no outings, no support, no role model. He had no father. I’m sure this hurt him deeply and continues to hurt him. After years of absolutely no contact with his father, they were reconnected. His dad was dying of cancer. He did not push him away, tell him to die alone, tell him that he left so there could be no relationship, or any of a million other things he could have done. He chose the higher path. He traveled to see his father. He truly connected with him. He learned about him. He go to know him. He offered him love and support as this flawed man was dying. In short, he offered at least some form of forgiveness. I’m sure it was hard for him. I’m sure there were many horrible things he wanted to say. Maybe he did say them. But we know from his own words that it didn’t end on a horrible note. It ended on a positive, healing, healthy note. That’s pretty remarkable and admirable. That’s just one example out of many that illustrate why I think Sam is worthy of my attention. He is a good man. He is generous with his time, talent and wealth. He cares about people and he isn’t afraid to get his hands dirty in the process of helping others.

You are absolutely not required to be a fan of Sam. It’s a supremely optional activity. But my question for you is why would I NOT be a fan of Sam? I have yet to hear a single person give me even one legitimate reason why I shouldn’t be a fan, considering that I should probably hold him to the same standard to which I hold myself. We’re both pretty flawed, messy humans. Isn’t life grand?

Maybe I’ll have a new request ask event period.
(I’ll probably do that after I finished drawing UC4 1st anniversary art. (っ˘ω˘ς )
But  I have no idea to next theme.
Does anyone have a good idea? lol

anonymous asked:

Any tips on how to tell my friends and family I'm bi, and subsequently handle the inevitable "you're just gay and afraid to admit it" blowback?

As someone who has ID’d as bisexual in the past, I remember that that was annoying to deal with. You just have to ignore that bullshit and continue to be yourself. Eventually the people that matter will begin to see that you’re not just going through a phase– this is legitimately who you are.

And who knows, your friends and family could accept it from the get-go.

As far as coming out goes, I’ve always been a fan of the classic “come out to your most progressive friends one at a time until you’re so comfortable telling people that you no longer even care who knows” method.

anonymous asked:

You know, being a fan of this band, and particularly a Larrie, is so mind bending. To simultaneously be so, so, so proud and happy for one person. And pissed and frustrated for another. To be so fucking livid that Sony will let one artist have the freedom to be loving and supportive and inclusive, while painting another of its artists (and the first artist’s band mate and partner no less) as a volatile homophobe and isolate them from their community, is just a fucking trip. You know? Wild.

Comparing their closets isn’t something that I’m going to do. Gay men are not a monolith and do not have the same experience. Signaling doesn’t always look the same. And I’m not going to pretend it does.

I will say that Harry’s ability to dance with rainbow flags has always stemmed from how deeply he’s been marketed as a womanizing sex symbol since he was SIXTEEN YEARS OLD. Watch the response to the Harry with flags across the fandom, it varies from He’s Signaling (from LGBTQ+ fans) to look he’s an ally (straight fans who also hope secretly he’s not gay). This range exists because they did their job so significantly that even rainbow flags don’t make the GP think he’s gay.

Louis, on the other hand, presents in a way that without a beard and a baby people think he’s gay. But because of that beard and baby combined with being less recognizable, he can go to gay clubs and people don’t think anything of it. He’s also out there modeling Polari clothing being subtly subversive as always.

It’s deeply frustrating as a fan of both of them to watch but their teams, Jeff, Sony, etc are all just scapegoats so that people don’t have to interrogate larger scale homophobia. The industry is upholding a something much larger. The difference between Harry and Louis’s closet is a structural problem and focusing on how unfair it is on a micro level is ignoring that bigger picture.

anonymous asked:

So I'm White but I've got a tan and my co worker is Mexican but she has light skin and we're kind of a duo and let me tell you I'm learning Spanish from the people that ignore my co worker with a "Yo hablo Español" pin and go straight to me the whitest dude here. Sometimes I get people yelling at me and I just can't understand? We have the pin thing for a reason I can speak French but not Spanish go look for an associate with the fan pin don't just go assuming!

  • MysMe fandom: We love Jaehee!
  • MysMe fandom: *leaves Jaehee out of group fan art*
  • MysMe fandom: *rarely ever writes fic about her*
  • MysMe fandom: *almost no memes or meta posts about her*
  • MysMe fandom: *generally ignores her*
  • MysMe fandom: We :) love :) Jaehee :)))

The part that pisses me off the most about the gofundme being taken down (aside from the fact that the money was for fans who couldn’t afford the song but still wanted to support their fave) is that the people who reported it suddenly cared for homeless people and hurricane victims and just assumed that by donating to this cause, we were snatching food and money from them and different causes. So many more Ztans than people realize are adults who do multiple things day in and day out to help their community and other marginalized people, myself included. People don’t have to brag about their charity or volunteer work for it to count. So many of the people who donated do help communities in different ways and just felt like spending the money they worked damn hard for, on something fun and helpful for a person they care about. The fact that people think they have any right to tell fans working on a small fandom project that they need to use their money for homeless people and other causes (while they expose themselves for not even donating to the causes they’re so passionate about ) is fucking irritating because it ignores the fact that many Zayn fans dedicate both money and time every other damn day of the year to these causes that these same people only care about when they need attention. Stay the fuck out of other people’s pockets like that. Especially if you won’t open yours. Just fucking say you hate Zayn and go, don’t use people who are suffering as a cover for doing something really fucked up.

anonymous asked:

please excuse me for any ignorance I just wanted to see your opinion on it, but I think some people are forgetting harry still has a team behind him controlling the things he can and can't talk about? maybe this is having too much faith in him, but maybe his team won't let him acknowledge blm? but as far as those fans go, they don't have a team telling them what to do and they could have raised their posters, I'm very disappointed in them

Hi. No, that’s definitely a thing that crossed my mind. Like I said earlier, I can think of a million reasons /why/ Harry didn’t/wouldn’t pick up and acknowledge the flag like he does with the LGBTQ+ flags. It’s only been in recent history that 1D has publicly/semi-publicly announced political issues (since 2015ish I guess). I’ve always thought there was some sort of caveat within an image clause or something that says they can’t address blatantly polarizing topics (ie: racism). So, again, like I said, I personally am not too concerned with Harry’s actions/lack of action. I’ve never really expected 1D to take public political stands on anything and am always surprised when they do so – my main disappointment lies within the reaction of the fandom. 

anonymous asked:

Starz doesn't deserve a gem like Caitriona. She needs to look at roles she's been offered & continues to receive & get the heck away from a show that doesn't support/promote her the way it does Sam. Cait's phenomenal in everything she does & has a personality that brings people to her. She's versatile & the more I see of her the more I'm sure she'll have a long, successful career. Hope she kills it in 305 & critics will rave about how amazing she is & how much she was missed.

Originally posted by yourreactiongifs

(Although I think both Sam and Cait are underrated. Sam has had lots of AMAZING scenes deleted and Cait has been ignored by lots of fans and journalists. So I think they both deserved better.) Lots of hugs, anon.

Listen, I know in my heart that Sally Grissom is a hardcore Killers fan. I’ve talked about her love of Mr Brightside, but consider:

The Point-of-Exile team is very, very drunk after a celebratory breakthrough party. Sally, one beer in each hand, poses the question: Are we human, or are we dancer? A spirited (read: angry and loud) debate ensues.

Anthony: It doesn’t make sense!??? Dancers are people. People are human. It just makes sense!!? What’s the question. Whaaaaaat’s the question

Esther: Noooooonononono you’re missing the point! What’s the difference between them. The question is in another question and we have to solve that one before we solve any question, and that’s how we solve the question.

Jack, facedown on the floor: Hell yeah dancer!!!!

RWBY RP Prompts
  • "Why can't you just swoon over your own weapon? Aren't you happy with it?"
  • "Are you.... robbing me?"
  • "Oh my god, you really exploded."
  • "I'm queen of the castle!"
  • "I still don't think that's what a sloth sounds like."
  • "For it is in passing that we achieve immortality."
  • "But why would I need friends if I have you?"
  • "There's no such thing as negative friends."
  • "Aren't you the guy who threw up?"
  • "Nailed it!"
  • "You came back!"
  • "Boop~!"
  • "I don't think sloths make a lot of noise."
  • "Do not hesitate to destroy everything in your path..."
  • "You're about to see a whole different side of me today."
  • "It's also a gun."
  • "Why hide who you are?"
  • "Can you imitate a sloth?"
  • "Off with their heads!"
  • "You're going on world-saving missions without us?!"
  • "You monsters!"
  • "Oh god, it's happening again!"
  • "I could've taken him."
  • "I'm hurt! Sad! Maybe a little hungry. That last one's not your fault..."
  • "I'm not trying to show off. I want you to know I can do this!"
  • "You called me friend! Am I really your friend?"
  • "I'm combat ready!"
  • "I don't have a lot of friends; but if I did, I'd want them to talk to me about things."
  • "That's why we're here! To make it better!"
  • "Great, the gang's all here. Now we can all die together!"
  • "Well that was a thing."
  • "Most people are born, but I was made."
  • "I don't need people to help me grow up. I drink milk."
  • "Banzai!"
  • "I think we can all say it's been an eventful evening."
  • "I wouldn't exactly call it a 'little' operation."
  • "You are not the brightest banana in the bunch, are ya kid?"
  • "Or we could ditch the beds... and replace them with bunk beds!"
  • "She's a hazard to my health!"
  • "You know, we really gotta stop meeting like this. People are gonna talk..."
  • "It's just that, you seem a little... NOT okay."
  • "YES! I love it when you're feisty!"
  • "Whoa, you can control poles..."
  • "I'm not the biggest fan of local law enforcement."
  • "I am not a crook."
  • "You just destroyed my favorite clothing store. Prepare to die."
  • "It is precisely this kind of ignorance that breeds violence!"
  • "Hey, we've got a plan! That's... moderately serious."
  • "Guess who's back?"
  • "Who's ready to fight for their lives?"
  • "Well the name's _______ Short, sweet, rolls off the tongue, ladies love it."
  • "Why must your answer to everything involve a triumphant display of military bravado!?"
  • "What a freak!"
  • "Learning is SO MUCH fun."
  • "I can't dance, man!"
  • "This is the part where you lose."
  • "Spare us the thought of you procreating."
  • "Justice will be swift! Justice will be painful! It will be DELICIOUS!"
  • "Oooh, look at me! My name's ______! I know facts! I'm rich!"
  • "You can't even stop me!"
  • "Let me try! You can trust me!"
  • "You think just because you've got nuts and bolts instead of squishy guts makes you any less real than me?"
  • "Okay, yeah, when you say it out loud, it sounds worse."
  • "Get back in the bag."
  • "Don't worry. Things will be better tomorrow."
  • "What are you doing?! Do you have any idea of the damage you could have caused?!"
  • "You were worth every cent, truly you were."
  • "We'll break his legs!"
  • "Weren't you in a cult or something?"
  • "You really want to start making things up to me?"
  • "By no means does this make us friends."
  • "I can always be a farmer or something."
  • "You hardly look the part."
  • "Do you always break the law without giving a second thought?"
  • "I will seriously pay you to shut up."
  • "This is turning out just like the divorce!"
  • "I can see why your father would want to protect such a delicate flower!"
  • "Always sunshine and rainbows with you."
  • "Now, I'll be the first to admit, humans... are the worst."
  • "You can't sleep, you hardly eat, and to be honest, your grades have been suffering."
  • "If you don't get a date to the dance, I'll wear a dress."
  • "If I don't get doilies, you don't get fog machines."
  • "I see you're hiding at the punch bowl as well."
  • "Hey man, do you have a wireless password?"
  • "You may be fast, but you still excel at wasting time!"
  • "All you've been so far is a nuisance!"
  • "It's a combat skirt!"
  • "The innocent never run."
  • "I hate this game of emotions we play."
  • "I have a legacy of honor to uphold."

I don’t think people always realize why or how some people like Severus Snape. Multiple times tonight I’ve been reminded just how much like Snape I can be. I’ve had to stop myself from saying things because “well others” or “can’t be that bitchy” and in the process get reminded that SNAPE helped me see that.

Snape went off on so many people, never once questioning his thought process and yet still likely holding back so much. Not because he questioned but just because …. then you have things saved for later or it’s not the right time. I’m Snape, with a bit of support and help. And that means so much to me because despite everything …. i didn’t join the KKK or some other bigoted group … I joined the military.

I still joined a group. I still joined a social organization that while presented for one thing was really more another, and while I still, to this day, love my military service and would do it again to this day …. i acknowledge its for what it was presented about (diplomatic relations, exploratory understanding of things, etc) and not the other aspect (inserting the American way onto others, war, violence, patriotic duty, etc).

Snape is similar. He joined a group thinking it was about a certain thing only to find out it wasn’t (admitedly for him it took attack on someone he knew personally, for me …. well it was less personal and more “it can’t really be that bad?” as I looked at multiple tumblr posts over the years). Snape just … never got help.

I honestly don’t think people identify with Snape or like him so much because he’s just as complicated as they are. Like, here is this man with this past of abuse and neglect and bullying that for some reason thought this bigotted, dark group was right for him only to turn and go “shit no” yet STILL never once get help for his stuff. He went it alone. All his mental helath problems nad physical health problems he was always ALONE. Even when friends with Lily, from everything we get of their interactions … he never let her know how bad. He was always, admittedly by choice more often than not, alone. But no one bothered to understand.

Dumbledore himself said that he sees what he wants to see, while not admitting he sees in Harry what HE wants to see. He sees the bits of Lily and James he can use, just as Snape sees all the same arrogance and disregard for rules James had (which is, despite Snape’s association of the traits, rather accurate for a lot of HArry’s behavior).

Tonight, I walked away from a potentially violent fight because of Snape. Because of Snape I was able, repeatedly, to remind myself I could make it through tonight. Because of Snape I held on. I’m not sure some people who go at Snape and his fans, realize just how much this man helps us just go “Okay, well, if I made it through today without strangling someone or getting in a fight, I can get to tomorrow”. Because if they did, maybe I could get on tumblr and look up SNape without immediately seeing hate.

Snape helps me. He reminds me I’ve seen my flaws, that I’m not always right, that I’m not perfect but i cant keep moving forward. He’s showed me that the past does matter, that no matter how much people want to discount your past does impact your present, especially if its traumatic. Even today, I have to step back from my irrational addict mindset and go “No, you aren’t insane, your memories and childhood are different and they don’t understand that. Doesn’t make you wrong, just on a different track they can’t seem to cross with”

So, for all you who want to shit on Snape daily and go after his fans (even telling us to kill ourselves or call us things like rapists and terrorists and bigots), I”m not any of the things you think. I’m merely a girl who has struggled with life so much and has seen a kindred spirit in Snape that is a wonderful example of how bad someone can get. A wonderful show of, no matter how far you fall you can still crawl back up because as long as YOU acknowledge your own past and work to change (like refusing to let someone use a racial slur) than you have improved.

Some sort of band shirt rambling..

Okay but the reason people get so pissed when others wear shirts of bands that they don’t like (particularly in the rock/metal genres) is because to the fans, that shirt is not a fashion trend. It’s not just a piece of clothing.
It’s a representation of a band that they truly love. It’s a symbol of something much greater than a design; a band whose musical career has given them purpose and something to love and feel loved by.
When a fan sees someone who is wearing a band shirt but doesn’t like the band on it, it’s like seeing everything they love and treasure be thrown around like it doesn’t matter.
And as much as it is someone’s right to wear any piece of clothing they want (and no one should be shaming another person for ‘carelessly’ wearing a band shirt anyway), it still sucks.
For the people who do wear band shirts like that, real fans should not be mad at you because you’re wearing a shirt like that.
They are simply hurt because you’re wearing something they love and not even realizing how much it means to someone else.


  • Anti: I'm helping people understand that what your reading is problematic by giving information as to why it's harmful to others.
  • Same anti: *threatens death on other KS fans* *approves violent threats* *literally ignores other gay/bisexual fans who have openly said they enjoy the comic* *also ignores people with mental illness who have said they like the comic* *doesn't care about others but only themselves*
  • Me: *sniff* I smell bullshit