I Have Crossed the Stars to Find You: a HeadCanon
I’m running on coffee and finals-induced craziness so bear with me y’all
[Disclaimer: I hope this isn’t stealing I’ve honestly never seen anyone talk about this and I pROMISE you I’m not jacking other people’s work. er, theories]
Evidence 1: We know from the TFA novelization that Rey hears and sees visions of someone (a man’s voice) saying “I’ll come back for you sweetheart. I promise” NOW this has been debunked as being from her past so many people have assumed that it’s Kylo Ren who says this, in the future. I think so too, for a lot of reasons. I won’t go over it because it’s been explained far better by other people, so I’ll leave it to them. What this indicates is that she’s maybe… seen visions of him before this? We don’t see the Knights of Ren scene happen in the canon future, so we can assume that it was a thing happening in the present. So Rey, either now or since she was younger, has seen visions of Kylo.
Evidence 2: In the same book, Rey says something along the lines of “She had seen this man before. in a dream, in a nightmare.” and we know from the movie that she saw him and the Knights of Ren in pseudo-futuristic visions, but I think it goes it bit farther than that. Maz Kanata also says that she’s “where she needs to be” when she runs into Kylo Ren. I’m not saying the Force is trying to tell her something but
the Force is trying to tell her something. This also adds to the previous evidence. She’s seen him before. This is incredibly important. And, other characters seem to sense the connection between them (Maz Kanata). I’m getting to my point I promise.
Evidence 3: Kylo Ren has an immediate, uncharacteristic fixation with Rey from the beginning. He knows that the defector and the droid have escaped with a girl, but why should he care especially about this girl? There are hundreds (?) of Resistance members, all working against him and the First Order. They’re all targets, but he has this sort of… fascination with her. It’s very strange. “what girl?!” he angrily asks his subordinate. He immediately fixates on this girl on Takodana when he hears of her whereabouts. Why isn’t he just as concerned about Finn? Especially when he knows that the storm trooper has valuable information about the First Order and is a (to him at this point) more dangerous individual. It’s weird.
–> One could argue that he was so interested because he sensed her awakening with the Force, but he could have just killed her off for being a threat early on, which leads me to my next point…
Evidence 4: Kylo Ren is a general, or the equivalent of. He’s above the storm troopers, he’s above most fieldwork unless it’s something he considers personal to him. (see: the battle with Luke, Lor San Tekka, Han). So why does he chase after her in the forests of Takodana? He has no inclination (that I know of) that she’s extremely powerful. Mind you, the interrogation scene hasn’t happened yet. So why would he think that she needs to be dealt with personally, if not for some unexplained reason? Hmm.
Evidence 5: Snoke says he has compassion for her. Enough said. Why though? He’s just met her, he doesn’t know her personally. Yes, he’s seen into her mind and cared enough about it for Snoke to sense it, but I would be incredibly surprised if Kylo has never felt remorse or come across sad images when mind-probing in the past. Why does it matter this time? Why does it leave such a dent? Maybe it was there before.
Evidence 6: They have a Force Bond. It’s been suggested that they’ve been connected by the Force itself, and not just Snoke. When was this connection created? What else has it been capable of?
Evidence 7: No matter what your opinions are, you have to admit that he’s shown an uncanny gentleness toward her. From the kidnapping, to the interrogation scene, to the fight, to all of their Force connection scenes. He’s kind to her, he listens to her, and she always shot first. He doesn’t want to hurt her, and he even makes some sort of personal connection with her “so lonely…” upon their first meeting. Weird, considering she’s just another piece of rebel scum (to which he usually, to our knowledge, shows no mercy).
Which leads us to my theory tying all of this together…
Maybe it’s the hopeless romantic in me, but I’m led to believe that their connection goes deeper and farther back than what we see on the contemporary screen. I think that Kylo has seen her, in dreams and visions, for a long time. He’s been open to the Force for way longer than Rey, so it would make sense that he would be aware of their bond (or a shadow of it) for longer than she has. He’s seen glimpses of this girl, working so hard to survive on her own, still keeping good inside herself despite the odds, and he comes to wait for these visions. He sees her rummaging through the graveyard, scaling dunes, and… surviving. He gets to know her. He starts to love her. They’re shreds of happiness throughout his life, when he’s felt alone. She’s outside all these politics, she doesn’t know his name, or Darth Vader, and she’s an escape. And he wants to meet her, desperately, so when he senses that she’s joined the Resistance and sees visions of her traveling off-world, he immediately fixates on her. He is so desperate to meet this girl who’s kept him alive all these years, so when he finally gets to hold onto her, he is gentle and kind. He takes off his mask for her. And it hurts, for her to call him a murderous snake. For her to misinterpret him. It hurts to see a future with her but be rejected twice. And he will do whatever he can to find that escape again, to feel those small moments of happiness. And he’ll tear apart worlds to get it back.
Rey has experienced somewhat of the same thing. She’s felt whispers of him, heard things he’ll say or do, or seen them in a dream. She’s seen little inklings of him throughout her life, but not enough to form something tangible.
tldr; Kylo has “known” Rey for longer than we think, he’s loved her for a long time, seen visions and whispers of her through the Force, and has now fixated on trying to get her to love him back. And, oh, she does.