Ok so I’m kind of getting sick of the trope where the woman/smaller man is delicate and needs constant protection/comfort from the man/bigger man. Not only is it a bit sexist but it’s also rather boring. I propose we instead replace it with partners who are hella in love with each other and worry as people do but also very confident in the other’s ability to take care of themselves.
“Please take the gun away from my love’s head! They’re knowledgeable in 23 forms of martial arts and it’s easier to take you away in handcuffs than an ambulance.”
“You’re going out into this incredibly dangerous situation? Oh man, I’m so scared and I’m going to be thinking of you the whole time but I know this is something you need to do. Kick ass and please come home to me.”
“You’re upset with me for being over-protective? I’m sorry if I came on too strong. You mean the world to me and I’d do anything to keep you safe but damn if I know you don’t need me to keep you safe. I’ll try and be less of an ass if you stop jumping out of airplanes without a parachute.”
Seeing all these people marching and fighting for my rights as a woman, as a bisexual, as a girl with a mental illness, as a girl with autistic family and friends with various disabilities…. I can’t tell you how much it means to me and the extent of love and hope I feel right now.
So, seeing all these things about Princess Leia iconography, here’s a video on what the inspirational style really means. It’s a Hopi style, and this woman lectures about who is entitled to wear the style as she demonstrates it on her daughter. It’s a beautiful video, and has a lot of commentary on the tradition of who does whose hair when in their life.
I had thought to do a style like this on myself, but of course, having learned what it means, I can’t. But maybe I’ll keep looking for a style to adapt, so I can wear Princess Leia buns.
Knowing what the inspirational style was has added a great deal of meaning to it, I think, don’t you?
It makes me wonder, though, whether Leia’s hair could be retconned to have a similar kind of meaning. A Hopi woman must be unmarried, but have gone through the ceremony that marks her passage through puberty into womanhood, in order to wear this hairstyle.
This style uses wooden forms to create the loops. A similar Navajo style (tsiiyéé) is done using strands of yarn wrapped around and around to hold the loops in place, and I’ve actually done similar styles myself just in experimenting.
Leia’s actual hair from the movies was absolutely done with false hairpieces, and you can see them kind of falling apart a little in some shots. But I know it would be possible to get hair with texture like mine to hold in a style similar to that. I just have to think on it. I haven’t seen any good tutorials yet; I might just use my standard sewn-braids style to be ‘close enough’.
But the information in this video about the length of black cordage the woman is using to tie her daughter’s hair is so lovely– the men make these hair ties, spun from the women’s hair and other fibers to blend in with the color of their hair, and the ties are treasured possessions a woman would keep with her always. What a beautiful detail!
All these strong independent women out there today makes me so happy to be a girl and know that we made and will continue to make history. This is a story that I’d love to tell the next generation about.