i'm in love with that woman

Ok so I’m kind of getting sick of the trope where the woman/smaller man is delicate and needs constant protection/comfort from the man/bigger man. Not only is it a bit sexist but it’s also rather boring. I propose we instead replace it with partners who are hella in love with each other and worry as people do but also very confident in the other’s ability to take care of themselves.

“Please take the gun away from my love’s head! They’re knowledgeable in 23 forms of martial arts and it’s easier to take you away in handcuffs than an ambulance.”

“You’re going out into this incredibly dangerous situation? Oh man, I’m so scared and I’m going to be thinking of you the whole time but I know this is something you need to do. Kick ass and please come home to me.”

“You’re upset with me for being over-protective? I’m sorry if I came on too strong. You mean the world to me and I’d do anything to keep you safe but damn if I know you don’t need me to keep you safe. I’ll try and be less of an ass if you stop jumping out of airplanes without a parachute.”


So, seeing all these things about Princess Leia iconography, here’s a video on what the inspirational style really means. It’s a Hopi style, and this woman lectures about who is entitled to wear the style as she demonstrates it on her daughter. It’s a beautiful video, and has a lot of commentary on the tradition of who does whose hair when in their life. 

I had thought to do a style like this on myself, but of course, having learned what it means, I can’t. But maybe I’ll keep looking for a style to adapt, so I can wear Princess Leia buns. 

Knowing what the inspirational style was has added a great deal of meaning to it, I think, don’t you? 

It makes me wonder, though, whether Leia’s hair could be retconned to have a similar kind of meaning. A Hopi woman must be unmarried, but have gone through the ceremony that marks her passage through puberty into womanhood, in order to wear this hairstyle. 

This style uses wooden forms to create the loops. A similar Navajo style (tsiiyéé) is done using strands of yarn wrapped around and around to hold the loops in place, and I’ve actually done similar styles myself just in experimenting.

Leia’s actual hair from the movies was absolutely done with false hairpieces, and you can see them kind of falling apart a little in some shots. But I know it would be possible to get hair with texture like mine to hold in a style similar to that. I just have to think on it. I haven’t seen any good tutorials yet; I might just use my standard sewn-braids style to be ‘close enough’. 

But the information in this video about the length of black cordage the woman is using to tie her daughter’s hair is so lovely– the men make these hair ties, spun from the women’s hair and other fibers to blend in with the color of their hair, and the ties are treasured possessions a woman would keep with her always. What a beautiful detail!

Kubo's recent interview
  • Kubo: "Their relationship is built on them mutually inspiring one another"
  • Me: T h I s I'M-
  • Kubo: "Viktor decided to stay as Yuuri's coach while also returning as a competitor knowing fully well how difficult it would be even with the two of them supporting each other"
  • Me: WHOA- S l O w DoW N-
  • Kubo: "Viktor and Yuuri can't live without each other and can't think about separation"
  • Me: *launches self into the fucking sun*
Last time I read Howl's Moving Castle I made a list of all of the things Howl calls Sophie and here they are

Outspoken old woman

Nosy old woman

Dreadfully nosy, horribly bossy, appallingly clean old woman

A terror

You overactive old thing

That one-woman force of chaos

Dear Sophie

My good Sophie

Rude as well as a bully

Sophie dear

Dear Sophie

Mrs Nose

Sophie dear

Busy old fool, unruly Sophie

Mrs Nose

Mrs Moralizer

Mrs Longnose

Mrs Snoop

That fool Sophie