“Don’t fall in love with the moment and think you’re in love with the girl”
Whilst being a pretty powerful quote, it also serves as an example of a psychological phenomenon known as Misattribution Of Arousal. In this case, we wrongly interpret our feelings of fear and anxiety as romantic/sexual attraction.It might sound a bit far-fetched at first but when you look into the physiology of both fear and attraction it becomes clearer how the two can be confused.
The word ‘arousal’ in everyday speak usually has sexual connotations, but in psychology just describes a state of increased blood pressure, sweaty palms, shortness of breath etc. When we experience this state of arousal, we then try to label it. Anxiety? Fear? Love? It’s this labelling process that causes the problem. When we experience an anxiety-inducing situation with someone else, we may misinterpret the (fear) arousal as attraction to them. One famous example of this is the Shaky Bridge Experiment.
An attractive female was situated at the end of a bridge that was either a shaky suspension brige (which would induce fear) or a sturdy bridge. A male volunteer walked across the bridge to the woman on the other side who gave him survey to fill out. Once he had finished with the survey, the woman ripped out a piece of paper from her clipboard and gave him her number, telling him to call her if he had any further questions. The results found more men from the group that walked across the suspension bridge later called the woman than those who had walked down the sturdy bridge. They had missatributed their feeling of anxiety from crossing the bridge to attraction towards the woman.
Sometimes you’re in love with the moment, sometimes you fear the moment but that does not mean you’re in love with the girl.
Black Panther comes to your rescue when you’re hijacked by brainwashed Winter Solider. Despite he has never told,
he is head over heels with you. Ironically, the only one you love is Bucky. During their battle, you stand up against the fatal attack from
and die for your love