I’ve been listening to a lot of big band/swing/jazz music recently and thought perhaps one or both of the boys were into the classics. I mean, Josh Keaton has an amazing voice, and Jeremy Shada too sings and performs in a band, so I thought it’d be really sweet if Shiro and Lance spent time alone, enjoying each other’s company and serenading one another. (Imagine lots of slow-dancing in the observatory ✌️)
• The Very Thought of You - Ella Fitzgerald
• (I Love You) For Sentimental Reasons - Ella Fitzgerald
• It’s Only A Paper Moon - Ella Fitzgerald
• Sway - Dean Martin or Michael Buble
• That’s Amore - Dean Martin
• Fly Me To the Moon - Frank Sinatra
• Strangers In the Night - Frank Sinatra
• Blue Moon - Frank Sinatra
• Can’t Help Falling In Love - Andrea Bocelli
• Solamente Una Vez - Andrea Bocelli
• Cuando Me Enamoro - Andrea Bocelli
• L'appuntamento - Andrea Bocelli
• I Wanna Be Loved By You - Marilyn Monroe
• I’m Your Man - Michael Buble (thanks @teapartytapioca > Shiro to Lance)
• Lost - Michael Buble
• Always On My Mind - Michael Buble
• Home - Michael Buble
• Moondance - Michael Buble
• A Song For You - Michael Buble
• Everything - Michael Buble
• Save the Last Dance For Me - Michael Buble
• Unforgettable - Nat King Cole
• L-O-V-E - Nat King Cole
• Orange Colored Sky - Nat King Cole
• Dream A Little Dream of Me - Cass Elliot
• Crazy He Calls Me - Billie Holiday
• Easy Living - Billie Holiday
• Beyond the Sea - Bobby Darrin
• At Last - Etta James
• I Don’t Want To Set the World On Fire - The Ink Spots
• Into Each Life Some Rain Must Fall - The Ink Spots & Ella Fitzgerald
• Fever - Patsy Cline or Michael Buble (both are really good)
• Johnny Guitar - Peggy Lee
150 steps to get over a breakup by @cheollies ; um… literally the best concept in the world?? creativity is so good with this one,,, it inspired me to be a better writer like ahajnabsbs im not joking that’s how much i love this one
troublesome by @koreankollection ; um… did you say adorable mark lee painting your nails?? bc you’ve come to the right place!! this story is so soft and cute wOW
camp counselor!jun by @skooluvsaffair ; I requested this one!! and marissa pulled through!! I read this in the car and squealed out loud when I read it,,, so so cute
Cullen is triggering for me personally because he reminds me of this guy who stalked me and then convinced a portion of my friend group that he was actually a shy, good person when he still had some major issues. It's probably nonsensical but I can't help but think of him when I see Cullen; I played a female mage Warden and they both have curly, blonde hair. So I would really rather not have him in DA4. But death threats?? Death threats over a fictional character?? That's...oh man. Not good!
I’m sorry that happened to you. That person is/was utter garbage, and you didn’t deserve any of that happening to you. But, if you’ll allow me to expand on this a little bit, now that you’ve reminded me…
My homeroom teacher in primary school had a mantra that she said every time she was criticizing or scolding us for something, as a group, and it went like (in rough translation) “Whose shirt it is not, needs not put it on”. Meaning that if it doesn’t apply to you, if you aren’t the one responsible, the following is not directed at you, and you shouldn’t feel bad or like you’re targeted as well. She said that every single time, and to this day, even 15+ years later, it’s so ingrained in my head that it is my automatic response to messages such as yours.
You needn’t explain yourself. It’s perfectly okay. You can dislike something or be triggered by something, and you don’t owe me or anyone else a reason why. You don’t have to have an explanation ready, and I -and I’m pretty sure most other, decent people- never intend for you to have to unfold your whole life story and show us all your scars, just for us to believe you when you say that something is not for you. :)
(EDIT: of course, some contextual cues are to be taken into account, like if the reasons for one’s dislike are homophobic, sexist or racist [coughLIAMcough] then they should be examined, but those people are generally very defensive over it and raise points and flaws they themselves usually excuse on straight, white male characters… but that’s beside the point. Consider this a “some restrictions apply” asterisk.)
…. but yeah, I was talking mostly about how odd I found that more than a thousand people at this point would get so upset that they would scream bloody murder in the tags and immediately jump to conclusions and blame the developers, but still not upset enough to even try to check if their outrage is justified. That, that is the kind of person that I think only WANTS to be mad. And that coupled with a loose treatment of violent threats (and frankly very much entitled and biased expectations)… that’s the kind of person that makes my eyes roll so far back into my skull that I can pretty much see the wall behind me.
… And now that I’m at it, even without fact-checking it’s pretty much obvious that Cullen’s chances of returning as anything more than a character barely mentioned in conversation are very slim. (Please allow me this, I KNOW I have said this before but as long as these attitudes continue to prevail I’ll continue to repeat myself even if it makes me want to tear my hair out.)
I don’t remember the quote exactly, but I bring this up often: I THINK it was Laidlaw who once said that with returning characters, they try their best to eliminate uncertainties. Like, he said that if you didn’t complete Cole’s personal quest in Inquisition, then he won’t show up in Trespasser, because they would rather reward the players for the things they HAVE done, than to waste their time on content they don’t care about, and if a character has a chance to be dead, they would rather focus their efforts and resources on making content the majority of their players are likely to see. There are exceptions of course, such as Leliana, but most of the time, when a character has a chance to be dead, they are assumed dead in the main plot.
Since Leliana has a chance to be dead only if she was in the Warden’s party while they defiled the Urn of Sacred Ashes (and lbr the kind of person who would roll with Leliana is, imo, usually not ALSO the kind of person who would defile the Urn for personal gain), she had a good chance to return. But in Inquisition, Cullen’s main personal story arc revolved around the Big Choice that eventually decided whether he lived or died. And, fandom-wide consensus aside, if a choice HAS to be made knowingly, by every player, it’s only reasonable to assume a bigger division. Maybe not 50-50%, but I’m SURE that the number of those who kept Cullen on lyrium is greater than that of those who ended up having to kill Leliana in Origins, and didn’t roll back to a previous save to avoid it.
This is why I’m almost 100% certain that Dorian is going to return (there is no opportunity for him to die in the main narrative, and regardless of player choices, whether he was romanced or not even recruited, he IS invariably in Tevinter by the end). Same reason why I would be surprised if any of the DA2 characters or Zevran showed up, like people seem to want.
I mean. I’d like to see him return as much as the next person, but Zevran has the chance to die(?) both in his personal quest in Origins (depending on his approval which is more difficult to correct than just rolling back and choosing a different party member to come with you) and in a war table mission, and there is not even a tile in the Keep to confirm whether he survived Inquisition. Depending on whether people have even read all the mission statements AND made the correct choices, his chances of being alive or dead(?) are now close to 50-50%. I think it’s pretty safe to assume that the writers don’t really have anything else planned for him at this point.
And largely the same goes for everyone in DA2. Popular choices seem to be Fenris and Anders- there is a touch more uncertainty with Fenris since he has the chance to be in Tevinter as a slave, hiding, or killed by Hawke’s hand, but Anders (and Bull)… his death was based on ONE dialogue choice (that is deemed canon in the default worldstate), and Bull’s is decided by a choice that wasn’t prompted AS a life or death decision, but rather as a choice that’s as close to being gray as they get.
(Not to mention I have seen people wanting Alistair back, and to be frank I just do not know how many skins they still want to pull off that poor boy. He has had his fair share of near-death experiences, not to mention that 1.) in the default worldstate he’s king and even in Inquisition they seemed to be just about done with king!Alistair, and 2.) if he’s a warden his chances of being dead are about as close to 50-50% as one can get. He can be 1.) a despondent king, 2.) ten years dead, 3.) a living Warden that’s either a senior warden in Weisshaupt or exiled from Orlais and Maker knows where, 4.) two years dead, or 5.) a civilian who could have died in the Kirkwall uprising. If a character has a chance to be five different things, three of which involve them being dead, I don’t think they’re likely to be a major character.)
tl;dr, I wouldn’t worry about Cullen being back. I like the guy just fine, got no real problems with him, but his story has been rounded off pretty nicely, pretty cleanly, and there is logically little to no reason for him to return in DA4. Which is all the more reason why those people crying bloody murder over an obviously phony rumor putting him IN THE SPOTLIGHT of a game about which we can only reliably know that it’s going to exist sometime in the future… I feel like they’re little more than a stampede with Blinkers of Hate on, neighing their unfounded displeasure at the moon for no reason whatsoever.
Now, Scout Harding, I want back. She has enormous potential, as does Charter and Maevaris, both of whom would make EXCELLENT additions to the squad (a sapphic elven rogue and a transgender woman of immense magical AND political power, sign me tf UP). Sutherland is almost certain to make a cameo if he survived, too. But Cullen, Zevran, and Fenris, I feel like their chapters in the story are finished already.
now if there was a chance for Solas not to be back, that would be ideal. would save everyone a helluva lot of headaches.
Yeah, because straight people feel they’re broken or there’s something wrong with them because they don’t feel the same as other people
Because straight people don’t know about their sexuality until they’re old (unless they are lucky) because straightness* is barely visible
Because straightness* is seen as symptom of a mentally illness and/or as the result of a mentally illness
[tw sexual abuse] Because straight people are told they’re that way because of (usually sexual) trauma
[tw sexual abuse] Because sexually abused straight people have their straightness* invalidated because of the trauma-> “you have been sexually abused? Oh that explains why you say/think you are straight”
Because straight people lose friendships because friends can’t accept their straightness*
Because straight people only know one or two straight people irl, if they know any
[tw sexual abuse]
Because straight people are afraid of coming out, not only due to fear of rejection but also of being sexually abused because of people who think their straightness* can be fixed with sex
Because straight people are told that “straightness*” isn’t a thing"
Because straight people are told ^^^ and mocked even in supposed safe-spaces for them (ltgb+ community)
Because being straight makes you unhappy because of all the romantic and sexual ideals society tells you you must pursue
Because straight people are invisible
Because straight people are told they haven’t found the right person
Yeah, you have convinced me, aro-ace and straight people are obviously the same
tl;dr:saying that aro-ace people are straight people is bs since the experiences of aro-ace people and straight people are vastly different.
Post data: most of the examples have been experienced by me, an ace gray-aro person,but ace-spec or aro-spec people can also experience these things, regardless of their other orientation, so hetero-romantic aces and hetero-sexual aros are also affected by these things.
straightness*: word used to meant heterosexuality+heteroromanticity, since I also use straight only to refer to heterosexual+heteroromantic people.
*suddenly next to them; exasperated* Sorry I'm late...may I join you?
*frowns* Excuse me?
*rolls her eyes* Edward, this is Sherlock Holmes, Sherlock, Edward Castle *mutters* Sherlock is my soon-to-be-ex husband.
*raises an eyebrow* You never told me you were married.
*pulls up a chair; smug* Ah, first date. Remember ours, dear?
*narrows her eyes* Where are the kids?
*splutters his drink* Wait, you have kids? Plural? As in...more than one?
*still looking at Sherlock* Yes. Where are they?
*thinking* Hmm...one is out solving a crime probably, teenagers, I'm sure I left the twins downstairs with Mrs. Hudson, John and Mary wanted the toddler practice and Mycroft is babysitting the, erm, baby.
*alarmed* Jesus, how many have you got?
Sherlock & Molly:
*glance at each other* Five.
*confused* Well, then...why are you splitting up?
*smiles* The sex was crap.
*chuckles; takes her wine glass* Now, Molly, give him an excuse he'll believe *raises the glass to the light*
*looking between them* What's going on?
*sighs* Does the name Julia Smith mean anything to you?
*shakes his head*
Nooo *sniffs the glass* You never get to know their names first, do you? Did you know she was fifteen years old?
Her mother hired me to investigate her attack. Dinner at a restaurant with someone she met in a chatroom... *dips his finger in the wine glass* I don't think I need to tell you the rest *tentatively tastes the liquid*
*calm* You see, while you're sat here with me, the police are raiding your flat and, well...I don't think you're getting away this time.
*fuming* You have no right-
*fuming* Our eldest is the same age. It is taking all my willpower not to force you to drink this and leave you at the mercy of my girls. Far worse than anything I could do to you.
*enters Angelo's; approaching their table* Come on, Castle. You have the right to remain silent... *leads the suspect away*
Christy’s little guide to gain more confidence in the every day life
Music. Most people who are not that comfortable being out in public, tend to feel better when listening to music. It creates this kind of protective bobble around you. Plus if you listen to positive music it can maybe help on the stress when being out among strangers and not feeling good about yourself. -Also, if you are going into a store and have to buy something keep one of the earplugs in your ear. This helps you to still be a bit in that bobble even though you have to face a stranger. And trust me, if you just know what to do and have money to buy your shit most cashiers doesn’t care that you are half listening to music.
Go and eat in public. This is a thing that is hard for a lot of people who don’t have that much confidence, especially if it is like a big sandwich or a burger from McDonald. However it is really important that you eat when you are hungry and don’t wait to you are home if you are out, if you are about to die. You just need to start out slow. If you are one of those people who won’t eat anything, then try your best and start out with some fruit or something, and then later try and work your way up from there. One the other hand, if you are one of those who are limited because they can only eat really healthy when being among others, then you need to try and step out from your zone sometimes. It’ll help in the long run. Take baby-steps and maybe try and eat some pasta you bought or a little candy bar. But remember, if you are really not comfortable then don’t, okay.
You walk outside and suddenly someone bumps into you. You apologize, but the idiot still starts to yell at you. This is where most people with low confidence would bow their head and take it in. Don’t. If you said sorry and that person isn’t satisfied with that, they do not deserve that you listen to them yell. If you can, then politely tell them to stop. If you can’t do that, then when you walk away, look back and give them a death glare. It doesn’t matter if they see it or not, but most the times it can give kind of a little satisfaction to know that you didn’t completely let them win. (Of course, if the person looks like someone who can kick you into the next dimension, then it’s probably best to just let it slip..Safety first!)
You have heard this before, and now you’ll hear it again. Try and stand in front of your mirror and say something nice about yourself. If it is hard, and make some kind of a joke like “holy hell I look fab today” and then make a silly face. As long as you can make yourself laugh, you are in the right direction. Practice this, even though it might seem stupid. At some point it will be more and more easy to make those little comments to yourself “ey there sexy, you should really get some pants on now” or something like that. Make yourself laugh, and remember that you are a first class star, even when you stand in you pajamas with morning hair.
Remember what your friends have told you. It can be hard to see what is good about yourself, but I’m 1078% sure that you - at some point - have had at least one friend who said something nice about you. Remember this. And if you have a bad memory and then write it down. There is nothing wrong with this, trust me. It doesn’t matter if you believe what they said or not, the important part is that you have a piece of paper (or maybe a mobile note) where you can see what the people you love things about you. You can even bring it with you, if you are going somewhere and you are afraid that your confidence will break. It is for your own good, and I’m sure your friends would appreciate it a lot.