This isn’t relevant to this blog, but I think it’s important. I wish someone had told me these things.
If your parents are getting a divorce, it is never your fault. Never. It is not your fault they are fighting. It is not your fault they are drifting apart. It is not your fault they are cheating. It is not your fault they are mentally ill. I don’t care what they tell you: It is not your fault.
If you are old enough to have a say in who you stay with, you are not responsible towards one parent over the other. You do not owe them. Your security and well-being come first.
If you old enough to live alone, but you still visit your parents, you are no obligated to make sure you are visiting them both equally. I know it is hard, and if you want to then of course do. But you are not obligated to exhaust all your energy that way. They may tell you “you can spend the weekend/holiday with either of us.” You are not obligated to visit one parent over the other to make them feel better.
If one of your parents is abusive, you are not obligated to still see them. If your parent’s new partner is abusive, you are not obligated to spend time with them.
If you aren’t old enough to have a say in who you stay with, I hope you end up in the situation that is best for your own well-being. If you are restricted from seeing your other parent (despite wanting to) then I’m sorry. That’s not your fault either. That is your parents’ feelings towards each other being inflicted on you.
It is not your responsibility to be the peacekeeper, especially if you are a child. Their feelings towards each other do not have to be your feelings towards them. You have a right to secure your own happiness.
Their divorce is not your fault. Please remember that.
not to be dramatic but if the halcyon doesn’t get another series i’m gonna jump on a plane down to itv’s headquarters and kick someone’s ass. i have already suffered through the extremely unjust cancellation of home fires. at the time, i swore i’d never watch another itv drama again but when i heard about this show i decided to get invested. against my better judgement, i gave itv another chance not to let me down again and if they behave like money-grabbing assholes who value shitty reality shows and fucking piers morgan’s fucking stupid interview series over good dramas centring on women, queer people and people of colour i will be down at itv studios fucking committing murder
Today I went to the supermarket. I went with my eight year old sister.
As we walked down the fruit & veg aisle she stopped suddenly. I looked around and saw that she had shoved something in her mouth.
Instead of immediately becoming angry, I asked her what it was. She said it was the ice from under the celery, and I was inclined to believe her.
I then explained to her, still without getting angry, that she shouldn’t eat that ice because it was unhygienic. I told her that she could get sick off it, and that it would be better if she didn’t.
Do you know what she did? She spat the ice into her hand, and led me out of the supermarket so she could put it in the bin.
She listened to me, not because there would be consequences caused by me, not because I was angry, but because I explained to her why it would be a bad idea.
I was yelled at as a small child for a similar action. Not once did my parents stop to explain to me why I shouldn’t do that kind of thing. They went straight to anger.
And did I listen? No, of course not. I was a small child to whom reasons for not doing this sort of thing were never explained. It was years later, when I had grown out of doing that sort of thing, that I figured out why.
This same thing, to some level, came up in class today. My class, going off on a tangent, were having a discussion with the teacher about school uniform. Tell me, has anyone ever explained directly the reasons of wearing a uniform to a student such as yourself? Have those same people never ignored certain rules like that because they never understood why those rules were in place?
Parents reading this, please take note. Kids will continue to break the rules if they don’t understand why those rules exist.
I was just answering a question that I intended to publish and I wasn’t even finished answering so I probably sound harsher than I meant to cause I wasn’t finished my sentence, my own fingers fooled me, they let me down today by betraying me and pressing answer privately when I didn’t want to. And I can’t even remember the name of the blog so I can’t continue…
It was a question about someone copying my art, and what I meant to say was, it’s okay to copy my drawings if it helps you, I don’t mind at all. I said that kissing is really hard to draw (it was a copy of the Kaz and Inej piece) and that I have learned to draw kissing from copying and studying how other artists do it, like @burdge, she was the biggest one. What I was saying was, it’d be nice to be tagged/credited as part of the inspiration but this person did make my original drawing entirely their own, as if my drawing was simply used as a reference, and refs are so important in improving work.
Now my finally point, if you make the drawing your own, like this person did (by drawing different characters, using different colours- literally the only thing the same was the faces and poses tbh) I’m not pushed about credit, it’s become your piece, that being said, still, always nice to be credited as inspiration.
But, in future I would suggest definitely asking the artist’s permission before posting the drawing, a lot of artists don’t like it! And if you do a carbon copy of the drawing, YOU HAVE TO CREDIT THE ORIGINAL ARTIST, that is still their work if you are just trying to draw the same thing!
namjoon threw away a secure future (with his iq, universities would have been eating out of the palm of his hand to enroll him).
don’t ever tell me bts is just idol rappers. when i see people in the khiphop scene especially refuse to acknowledge them, rage boils inside of me. because they give a shit. about the culture. about the actual art. and it fucking hurts from them. (since they’re hyungs and they respect them and struggled with what they’d become (awakening - rm) until they finally reached acceptance of their path out of love for their other members.) they’re not where they are just because they wanted fame and couldn’t sing. they live and breathe rap, and wanted to do it ever since they left high-school.
they’ve struggled. and were so fucking brave. don’t ever have the audacity to disrespect that.
Tbh I don’t feel beautiful throughout the day lately. I look at myself and I don’t recognize me. I don’t feel as if my body belongs to itself. In some cases I do, but then it shifts and I feel like a stranger. I don’t know what to do about it. I just hope it passes soon because I’d like to feel like I belong somewhere at least.
I’ve more than perfected the art of looking okay on the outside but inside? I’m not fucking okay. Not at all.
I’m fucking tired guys. Fucking tired of feeling worthless. Fucking tired of feeling helpless or like I don’t matter. Like no matter how hard I try at something, it’s never good enough. The feelings of inadequacy has slowly been creeping up on me the last few weeks and started to hit me fucking hard yesterday.
I feel like I’m trying to call out; trying to scream and no one hears me. No one ever hears me.
I believe I have some anons out there who are probably happy with themselves…to see me feeling like this. I’ve ignored them for the last few days and now they can’t be ignored now. Congratulations. You did it. You’ve succeeded into making me feel like the biggest piece of shit in the world.
But there is one anon that I do appreciate for actually stating their feelings like an adult. Thank you for not attacking me. Thank you for being a grown up and even though you were upset, not telling me to kill myself or anything like that. You were the only one I replied to for that reason. Thank you.
To the rude anons: fuck all of you. I don’t know if it’s more than one of your or one sick person that continued, but fuck you. I hope you feel happy right now for bringing me down…for nearly pushing me to relapse with your words. But I’m not gonna kill myself. I’m gonna feel what I’m feeling but I won’t do that. Despite what even sometimes I may think, I have a lot to live for and your dumbasses aren’t even worth it. It’s just fan fiction.