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anonymous asked:

Hey Vesper! I have a question. I've noticed that within the nonbinary and larger trans and queer and so forth communities, some nonbinary genders seem to get more recognition than others. Some- especially maverique as I've noticed- are hardly known of by many other nonbinary and/or trans people, while others such are gaining recognition in trans, nb, and other circles much more quickly in comparison. Why do you think some nb genders are becoming more well known than other nb genders?

hi anon,

this is a really tough question. not just because of how subjective it is (i mean, what even counts as ‘recognition’, let alone what counts as ‘more’ or ‘more quickly’), but also because there are an infinite number of factors involved in why any non-binary gender gets any amount of recognition at all.

imho, some non-binary genders are more commonly recognized at least in part because of the comparatively long history of people identifying or describing themselves as such. correct me if i’m wrong, but i think the most notable example of this is genderqueer, but even agender and genderfluid (or rather, the concept of gender fluidity) have arguably stood the test of time longer than most other non-binary identities in English.* honestly, i feel like it’s unfair to compare general recognition of a gender like maverique to genderqueer, for example, for that reason.

but perhaps that’s not even what you’re referring to.

if you’re comparing the recognition of equally (comparatively) newly coined words / identities, i still hesitate to compare their recognition at all because honestly, all recognition of non-binary genders in general is abysmal imho… also i’d hate for it to seem like i’m pitching one gender against another when all of us are struggling so much for recognition.

having said that….

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You always have neat things to say, so I have a question for you. In the upcoming crossover trailer, Mick mentions to Kara that he burned his family alive. This sort of surprised me, because I don’t think that is necessarily information Mick would casually share–especially to someone he just met. I don’t even think the original Legends team knew (besides Len and maybe Rip) before the Pilgrim, so why the sudden sharing of backstory?

My personal opinion is that Mick’s trying to put her off. Kara comes across as someone who blatantly likes to help and bond with anyone she comes across, and because Mick is not sure he deserves that help he tries to push her away with the ugliest bits about him. He needs to be undesirable, unforgiven. He’s still grieving; he doesn’t want anyone having touchy-feely moments with him or getting too close, so he adds familicide to his “animal/IQ of meat” front so people will leave him the fuck alone.

What do you think?

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I mostly agree with you, though I don’t think it’s coming purely from a place of self-loathing because he needs to remain unforgiven (in his own mind). I think it’s more that he keeps others away, at arm’s length, for fear that they will confirm all of his most negative thoughts and feelings about himself if he lets them in. By keeping the angry front, the ‘deliberately being an ass’ behavior I’ve talked about, at the forefront, it means that if people don’t like him or don’t respect him and his intellect, it’s because of that, and not because of the parts of himself he actually feels vulnerable about. For instance, it’s one thing to have your intellect insulted when you’re playing dumb, and totally another to have it insulted when you’re trying your hardest to be smart, or thought you had done something clever.

So him telling Kara about his past seems to me to come from that place: having to keep her away because like you said, she’s warm and sweet and wants to see the best in people and reach out to them, and that would make Mick feel quite vulnerable (especially because he might unconsciously think: what if she sees the best in everyone else but still hates me? what would that say about me?). Finding bigger tools with which to push her away (e.g., mentioning the familicide) makes sense in that lens then. “She’ll hate me for that” and he’s safe again, from letting people in, and the vulnerability that comes along with it.

Beyond that, a slightly less in-depth reading is just that, like you said, no one knew before (except Len), but now everyone he works with does, thanks to The Pilgrim. The secret’s out. And he might want to be the person to tell his own secrets before anyone else can tell it behind his back. Putting it front and center because he knows he can’t hide from it anymore, so it adds it to his arsenal and armor instead.

And finally, I think we also need to consider the impact that seeing his younger self had on him. Technically, a stay at that house with Rip’s foster mom has been added to his past now, right? Even if he was returned to the same moment in time from which he left so his absence wasn’t noticed, he should still have gained that memory at some point (same with teen!Sara actually). Hearing from his older self might have impacted how he ultimately coped with it. 

Alternately, if that’s not the case (because Legends and continuity are not friends so maybe we shouldn’t assume he’d remember his stay at that place), he still talked to his younger self. Mick’s had that event as a memory, something he did. Now he got to see it as something this young teenager did. Still him, but the contrast between him now and him at that age is stark. He can see that he was just a scared boy who didn’t mean to do it, who has all these walls up. He’s been confronted with that reality, and now that he has, it might mean that he’s being more open about what happened. It was a mistake, and though I’m sure he’ll always blame himself for it, he can recognize that it was an accident, in a way he might not have let himself before seeing that young scared kid.

anonymous asked:

Hello there! First of all, I'd like to say that I like your blog and I adore your Maria Posada cosplay! :D Umm, I'm sorry if I'm bothering you at all, but I'm going to cosplay as Maria myself, but I need some help. Could you please explain how you made her necklace, and maybe some recommendations on a wig or ponytail extension? Thank you for your time!

thank you so so much! it’s no problem at all, i love helping people with their cosplays so it would be a pleasure (:

Necklace // maria’s circular necklace is made of metal, with a hammered gold finish, and is attached like a pendant onto a simple black satin/rubber cord. since buying a hammered gold necklace is either expensive, hard to find, or you’re just lazy (like me), you can opt for buying a $3 pendant/charm at michael’s with a spanish-style design engraving. since i can’t find it on the michael’s website, here’s a link to the exact same pendant on etsy for 4x the price haha what a joke. i unfortunately didn’t bring my cosplay here to college, so it’s stuck at home where i can’t take a better close up photo for you );

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kinkyolivegarden-deactivated201  asked:

Do you have rec list for ten/rose babyfics? I don't know why, I just got super obessed with them.

Hello :) I haven’t read a ton of baby fic and most of what I have read are series that start as reunions and eventually lead to pregnancy/babies/children, but hopefully there will be a few on this list that you didn’t know about yet.

I’m dividing this by pre (or averted) Doomsday and post Doomsday and working on the assumption that by baby fic, you mean pregnancy fic, because that’s what I’ve learned most people mean when they say baby fic in the fandom. I still included a few of my favorite kid fics at the end though just in case (and of course some of these fall under both categories anyway) ;).  Also, just doing Ten/Rose since that’s what you requested. (if you want Nine or TenToo, there are quite a few more out there). 

Pre Doomsday or Doomsday Averted 

Ariellus Must Wait, by jabberwockyxpeace  

Breeding, rosa acicularis

Distance, lauraxxtennant (Wip)

Falling Slowly Verse, by WhoMe, rated adult

Postcards to Gallifrey, tsukara

Rapture series, lostwolf, rated adult

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