How do you think so/sp and sp/so establish a deep emotional connection with someone? It's definitely not impossible, but lacking the sx variant, how does it happen?
This topic has been touched before here and is a good starting point to get an idea: http://ichijikanme.tumblr.com/post/155772595737/what-is-it-like-establishing-emotional-contant-w
But I have still no real clue tbh. It’s just really difficult to discuss because the perspectives are so different. What may feel really deep and intense to someone sx-blind looks still shallow from a sx-viewpoint but the sx-blind hasn’t experienced anything -really- deep in their whole life so they just wouldn’t know and are convinced that this is how deep things can get? There is definitely a cognitive bias.
so/sps (sp/so not as extremely, but still to a degree) somehow have a really bad perception when it comes to emotional connections. Like just an example dialogue I had a while ago with so/sp INFP friend:
so/sp INFP: I wonder why friend A doesn’t visit me anymore when she is in town. It’s so weird because I’m her -best- friend but her text replies are so sparse and she has time for everyone else except me.
me: Have you considered that… you are not her best friend (anymore) and she doesn’t want to see you?
so/sp INFP: ??? tbh that idea didn’t even cross my mind before…
sx-blinds are either too importunate or too distanced. They are either convinced that everyone loves them or everyone hates them. And they really have trouble evaluating that gray area in between.
Also when someone sx-blind tries to mimic a sx-connection (because lots of love stories build on that idea so it comes across as very appealing) it gets obsessive and unhealthy in a second. I would even argue that most stalking cases are initiated by so/sps. Because again, sx-blind seem unable to find that sweet spot in between where you are very close with someone but not so much that it suffocates you.
Taking that into consideration I actually prefer it when relationships with sx-blind stay shallow but healthy.
And sorry @any sx-blind who reads this and thinks “whaaat? that’s not
true! i’m awesome at this!”; you are in the same category as any
sp-blind who thinks they are awesome at handling finances or any
so-blind who thinks they are socially gracious. Better recognize your
weaknesses instead of staying delusional.