Alright, can we take a second to talk about Mary and Joseph? (This is just about the canon game, I don’t know enough about the cult ending to speak on it so just pretend it didn’t happen.) I think Mary and Joseph’s relationship is really important to see, in that Mary is very obviously abusive to him, whereas women are never seen as such in media, or if they are, it’s just played off as the “bitch wife” trope. I know some of y'all are complaining that the female characters aren’t *represented well* (Amanda is a fucking angel godsend and so are Daisy and Carmensita and Val and the twins, but I digress), but I think you fail to realise how important it is that Mary is portrayed this way. So many times men are told that they aren’t abused, or that they need to toughen up, or that since their wife is hot, it doesn’t matter. There’s a strong belief in society that either women are just inherently bitchy and abusive marriages are normal, or a woman can’t be abusive, and if a man says she is then he’s weak. So many times it’s made into a joke in mainstream media. “She’s just a bitch that wants money”. “He’s just too much of a wimp to fight back”. But with Mary, it’s not like that. She is shown, pure and unabashedly, to be abusive and controlling over Joseph in more than one way. She takes his money, she belittles him for the people he talks to and the things he likes, she gets drunk and ignores their children, and almost every interaction between them is negative. And never does another character tell Joseph that he’s “overreacting” or he should just “be a man” or “get over it”. He does say it’s normal or he’s fine with it, yes, but that’s typical behavior of an abuse victim. To deny it or, even worse, admit that it’s happening but put up with it anyway. Not only does Joseph and Mary’s marriage show that a woman can be abusive to a man domestically without it being a joke or normalized, it also shows something else very important to recognition of abuse: It’s not always so obvious from the outside. Mary is abusive. We’ve established this. But playing two other routes before I played Joseph’s, I noticed that she’s a very good, supportive friend to both Robert and Damien (as well as being a polite acquantice to other characters, Amanda included). Sure, we see the potential cheating, drinking, and her general shitiness at the barbeque, but not much more is elaborated on in other routes, and she is mostly made out to be a good, if not flawed, character. The other dads certainly don’t think of her as a threat to Joseph’s safety, or they would try to help him. This just goes to show that domestic abuse isn’t so obvious to outsiders, and to respond “but they’re so nice to me!” when someone says they’re being abused is often misinformed and only hurts the victim more. An abuser may act completely different with their spouse and their spouse’s friends, it’s a form of gaslighting and getting more people on their side. I’m honestly just really glad that we get to see this kind of stuff, and it only adds on to the great wall of representation that we get in this game.
TLDR: Have whatever opinions you will about Mary, but please understand the importance of her abuse as a woman towards her husband, and the awareness that it raises about domestic abuse and how it works. Also PLEASE remember that she is not the only female character, and there are many wonderful, beautiful, stellar girls in the game that are portrayed in a more positive light. That’s all, thanks for hearin’ me out.
The hardest part of tinder so far (besides me not knowing how to speak in a way that sounds interesting and not matching with people who are super extra) has been trying to explain to people that no, I can’t just up and leave my kid to go hang out with you. I have that I’m a single mom on there for a reason my god.
wheres the fic where Clark Kent gets caught kissing Batman, and then gets hounded by the media every waking moment because “average civilian is dating Batman!!” and Clarks mourning the loss of his anonymity, meanwhile Bruce thinks its fucking hilarious, enjoy dealing w the press in both of your alter egos now, pretty boy, so Clark waits several months for the whole thing to die down before showing up as Superman to some party Bruce is attending and flying up to Bruce and going “paybacks a bitch” and just full on makes out with him in front of like a million reporters
i found this post in my drafts and have ZERO memory of writing it (thank u alcohol) so im gonna put it in my queue lol
ok but imagine
Bitty comes out to his parents but he doesn’t tell them about Jack, thinks it’s for the best, maybe to ease his parents into things or maybe to keep the pool of People Who Know as small as possible
and like yeah Ransom and Holster are super oblivious but Suzanne Bittle is not, not when it comes to her son, because she is a certified Nosy Southern Mother and she can see he’s been acting differently, happier but quieter, always on his phone and blushing when she asks about boys
and he talks about the team a LOT
Jack’s one of his best friends and he’s just started his NHL career, so of course Bitty’s never gonna shut up about Jack
(Same goes for Shitty and law school. And eventually Ransom and med school. Dicky is proud of his friends and wants everyone to know. He gets that trait from Suzanne, she understands)
but he keeps talking about this one Boy, how sweet he is and how his smile is like a sack of puppies and how bitty’s always making this boy do things with him like baking and getting froyo and going shopping and Suzanne is like. Yes. This must be Dicky’s secret boyfriend.
the next family weekend or whatever, Suzanne demands to meet this Chowder boy who’s stolen Bitty’s heart