i worry about tumblr people

casual reminder:
  • It’s okay if you don’t actually like being touched.
  • It’s okay if hugs, even with your friends/family, make you uncomfortable. It’s okay if hugs with strangers make you very uncomfortable. It’s okay if you only want to hug people for a very short amount of time. It’s okay if it’s a lot easier if you are the one in charge of how long hugs go.
  • It’s okay if spooning or snuggling with a partner is not a goal.
  • It’s okay if you need personal space. It’s okay if you are the friend who will sit on the armchair while everyone else snuggles on the couch. 
  • It’s okay if you don’t even like when people type *hugs* or *pets* or *boops* or anything like that to you because even the thought of it just makes you squirm a little. 
  • It’s okay if it takes you a very long time to want to share personal space with a friend or partner. It’s okay if you never really want to share personal space with someone.
  • It’s okay if you have to be in a very-happy, very-rare mood to crave physical contact. It’s okay if you only want physical touch in very sad times. 
  • It’s okay if you prefer high-fives and fist-bumps because that’s the right amount of contact for you.
  • It’s okay if you want to cuddle or touch your romantic partner but not anyone else. 
  • It’s okay if this is because of past trauma. It’s okay if this is because you are neurodivergent. It’s okay if you just don’t like it for no particular reason. You don’t have to explain or justify this to anyone if you don’t want to.
  • Basically, tumblr can be a very touch-positive, everyone loves snuggles!, hug all your friends! place and I want you to know that you are okay if you don’t like that. It doesn’t mean you don’t care about your friends. It doesn’t mean you aren’t capable of love. It doesn’t mean you are broken. It’s not something you have to try to “fix” or “get over.” 
  • Some people need/want/prefer personal space. That’s okay. 
  • You’re okay.

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im almost 24 but most ppl on tumblr are younger, i don’t worry much about the age of people i follow but if you are a minor and you’re worried about me following you, please don’t feel afraid to send me an ask telling me to unfollow!! i won’t be mad. i will, however, feel p sad if you just block me without explanation and i will worry endlessly that I said something to offend you so please if you want me to unfollow you just ask me!! it’s perfectly fine and I respect your boundaries, you just gotta let me know

i’m  waiting  for  when  there’s  a  massive  callout  for  the  entire  horror  community  because  apparently  now  horror  isn’t  ok  ?

anonymous asked:

What do you think Harry would be like when your get insecure and self conscious thinking about all of the other seemingly perfect girls he's been with like models and actresses?

he’d tell me i’m being dumb because no one is perfect, especially not the girls he’s been linked to before and it’s senseless to compare myself to anyone from his past. it’s in the past for a reason. 

i see this discourse on tumblr a lot. people worrying about not being harry’s “type” and wanting to know how harry would handle being with someone ~different~ than his ~usual~ and i just….

you know what my type is? tall, VERY tall, super buff-muscly dudes that can bench press me over their heads without a sweat and are clean shaven and wear dapper suits on reg and have at least 10 years on me.

know who i’m (happily) with? a tall lanky dude who only lifts his xbox controller (and me when i beg for it, but only for a few minutes) with a beard and wears jeans like it’s his religion and only 18 months separate us in age. 

my point? stop torturing yourselves on whether or not you’re harry’s type. ‘cause i can guaran-fucking-tee type doesn’t define love and it doesn’t stop relationships from forming. i highly doubt harry chooses his partners based on occupation or the length of their legs. stop believing you’d be insecure in a relationship with harry because you don’t check a few boxes that have been artificially manufactured based on the physical appearance of the women he’s been linked to. you’re fantastic the way you are, so you shouldn’t be concerned that you’d be insecure in a relationship with harry. it’s not healthy and it certainly isn’t worth your time. 

i was cleaning out some stuff in my room and found my entire stash of christmas cards from the past five years here on tumblr and i kinda miss doing cards……….

Tbh I’m worried about losing contact with people if/when Tumblr goes under

Or less urgent but equally as worrying in a way, people just slowly leaving tumblr? Which, is a decision i support if that’s what they want to do, but…. Then they’re kinda gone forever…

Well… I guess if I’m close enough friends with someone I’ll know how to get a hold of them…idk

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Decided to start a new tumblr where I didn’t have to be worried about people I know in real life following me and I’m looking for some blogs to follow. I’m a fan of music (mostly bands like A Day to Remember, Chiodos, Pierce the Veil, I See Stars, etc.), Psychology, Sociology, social justice, feminism, and cute bearish/ cubbish boys.

Nothing is original. Steal from anywhere that resonates with inspiration or fuels your imagination.
— 

“Devour old films, new films, music, books, paintings, photographs, poems, dreams, random conversations, architecture, bridges, street signs, trees, clouds, bodies of water, light and shadows. 

Select only things to steal from that speak directly to your soul.

If you do this, your work (and theft) will be authentic. 

Authenticity is invaluable; originality is non-existent. 

And don’t bother concealing your thievery - celebrate it if you feel like it. In any case, always remember what Jean-Luc Godard said:

“It’s not where you take things from - it’s where you take them to.“ “

-Jim Jarmusch

I’m not about write 35 paragraphs don’t worry.

However. I seen on tumblr people been coming for Erykah Badu alil to hard. As if everything she saying does not make any sense. I could humbly agree with this, I feel as though dressing age appropriately for the type of environment setting your In should never be a shameful, and of course all men are not predators, but since we are talking about the ones who ARE that may be irrelevant. What she said was coming off as if she was telling girls/women how to prepare for rape.

HOWEVER I’m not about to turn on this women (like all tumblr does to everyone) call her names, “disown” her like tumblr is the chairman of the black community. I remain neutral on this, I’m still watching out for Erykah, but some of y'all need to chill. Y'all flip flopped on so many entertainers on here but turn around and listen to their music, watch their movies etc

Y'all fucking weird

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February 1st marks the second anniversary of my blog ☆*・゜゚・*(^O^)/*・゜゚・*☆ !! I can’t deny that there are many unbearable things on this website, but I can’t say that my tumblr experience was a bad one. I got to know many nice people from different places in the world. The people I follow are all amazing people so I rarely see toxic posts on my dash. My followers are super nice as well that I’ve never received actual anon hate during my two years stay here. To me, this was a place where I could play the nice person without people trying to use me. I’m the devil irl, you just don’t know me. Yes, people usually really get afraid of even talking to me and those who approach me mostly want something in return. This has affected me to the extent that even all the friendships I made online were not initiated by me. However, I was so blessed that many people here has talked to me and I could make new awesome friends. Being able to be nice to people, even though deep inside I know that my tumblr personality is 100% fake, without worrying about how people will take my kindness is one of the most things I liked about this place. I originally made this blog to post graphics, because I love making them but they usually end up with nobody seeing them :c. Thanks to this place, I was able to share them and see many awesome and talented graphics makers. My graphics has improved a lot. I even started manga colouring because of the many inspirational people I follow, and now I can’t stop colouring manga. If there’s one thing I can be grateful to this place for is that it made me start manga colouring. As a person who has no hobby or talent whatsoever, I was glad to find something I can enjoy as a side hobby. Ahem, okay I know this was long but I wanted to say it all now that I might eventually leave this place once and for all because of collage xP.

Last but not least, thanks to all my followers for hitting that button on my blog, thanks to all the amazing people I follow for brightening up my dash, thanks to all the talented graphics makers who could inspire me one way or the other, thanks to every single person who sent me a nice positive message, and finally, thanks to all my tumblr friends for ever being there for me!!

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okie dokie, this has been sittin’ in my inbox for a lil while and i was going to quietly ignore it, but i just woke uop and my grasp of reality is weird so i am gonna answwer this now.

there’s this interview with the korean rapper beenzino whhere he talks about why he didn’t like legos as a kid.  basically, he threw away the instructions because he hated the idea that he was supposed to follow rules and steps to make something someone had already created– because, well, whats the point of being creative if you’re being told exactly what to create?  but he continues by stating something along the lines of, “but in reality, imitation/copying is one of the basics of art and learning how to create things.”  in order to learn how to do something for yourself, you have to see how someone else does it.  like, why would you even want to draw anything if you hadn’t seen someone else’s drawings to start?  YA WOULDNT!!

the point here is… it’s cool.  it’s all good.  if a young artist was to try on my skin for a little while, that’s ok.  i’m not bummed about it.  though, ideally, young artists should draw from all over and experiment with a wider range of influences in order to figure out what they really wanna do with their hands and lines and feelings.  if someone is only drawing from my influence, they’re fucked, because half the art i post doesn’t make sense if you look at it from, like, an academically artistic point of view, or something.  it’s not supposed to make sense.  the reason i can get away with it not making sense is because i already learned how to draw art sensically, so i know how and what to distort to express what i wanna express.  but if someone relates to how i emote through art, that’s ok.  one day hopefully they’ll find their own style through which to express feelings… but if they’re not used to doing that on their own yet, that’s cool.  when i was younger i used to trace and copy panels from Maus (i don’t actually know why i did this but i think it had something to do with how the lines of the art and the story and history made me feel, or something).  you can’t really see that in my art because once i got used to it and played with it, i moved on to trying something else to see how i felt about it (also because i was like, eleven years old and that was 11 years ago, fuck).  when an inexperienced artist get comfortable drawing one way, their art will organically grow to suit their needs.  and if somebody imitating me doesn’t let themselves grow, well i’ll always be a better artist than them so what the hell do i care.  ZING!  i’m the best.  HA HA !!!

i think part of why i responded to this is because tumblr culture is weird and i was worried about people bugging other people about this kinda thing… don’t be doin’ that.  if anything that just discourages people from trying stuff out.  there’s a period in adolescent development (meaning everybody does this, shut the fuck up you did it too, i did it and look at me now.  i’m me) where you copy those around you because that’s how you make yourself fit in… and then you copy people who are different from you because you don’t know what it is like to be someone else and you want to see if that suits you better.  you don’t know who you are as a person, and you’ll never find out without trying on different roles and experimenting and fucking up and trying something different.  the same goes for being an artist.  you gotta getcher ass out on the sand and try things out before you know what you like best for you.

i mean, ok, i’m not gonna lie, i am weirdly fascinated by this whole thing so i am loving watching this go down.  it’s so strange for me to watch!!  what the heck!!!!!!!  i love it.  i fuckin love it.

Advice for the social justice blogger (in my humble opinion)

One of the things I worry about most is while people are getting pissed and ranting on tumblr, we loose sight of what is important: making sure an unarmed black person never gets put in a situation like this again. This is a systemic problem that authority figures will racially profile and we need to change the culture of police departments. We cannot allow out emotions to cloud our judgment. By being inflammatory we are only polarizing others inducing them to ignore our arguments. If we want change it will be long, but we must do so peacefully. Emulate the civil rights methods of MLKJr. or Ghandi, prove that we are correct in our convictions.

“All this will not be finished in the first one hundred days. Nor will it be finished in the first one thousand days …nor even perhaps in our lifetime on this planet. But let us begin.”-JFK