i worry about tumblr people

casual reminder:
  • It’s okay if you don’t actually like being touched.
  • It’s okay if hugs, even with your friends/family, make you uncomfortable. It’s okay if hugs with strangers make you very uncomfortable. It’s okay if you only want to hug people for a very short amount of time. It’s okay if it’s a lot easier if you are the one in charge of how long hugs go.
  • It’s okay if spooning or snuggling with a partner is not a goal.
  • It’s okay if you need personal space. It’s okay if you are the friend who will sit on the armchair while everyone else snuggles on the couch. 
  • It’s okay if you don’t even like when people type *hugs* or *pets* or *boops* or anything like that to you because even the thought of it just makes you squirm a little. 
  • It’s okay if it takes you a very long time to want to share personal space with a friend or partner. It’s okay if you never really want to share personal space with someone.
  • It’s okay if you have to be in a very-happy, very-rare mood to crave physical contact. It’s okay if you only want physical touch in very sad times. 
  • It’s okay if you prefer high-fives and fist-bumps because that’s the right amount of contact for you.
  • It’s okay if you want to cuddle or touch your romantic partner but not anyone else. 
  • It’s okay if this is because of past trauma. It’s okay if this is because you are neurodivergent. It’s okay if you just don’t like it for no particular reason. You don’t have to explain or justify this to anyone if you don’t want to.
  • Basically, tumblr can be a very touch-positive, everyone loves snuggles!, hug all your friends! place and I want you to know that you are okay if you don’t like that. It doesn’t mean you don’t care about your friends. It doesn’t mean you aren’t capable of love. It doesn’t mean you are broken. It’s not something you have to try to “fix” or “get over.” 
  • Some people need/want/prefer personal space. That’s okay. 
  • You’re okay.

I see some folk getting annoyed on Tumblr about everyone talking about the American Election, or getting riled about people shitting on Trump … But I really quite like it. It’s nice seeing all the Trump hate because it lets me know I chose to follow the right people and that you’re decent folk and not a loada assholes B)

so maybe I’m not a wolf girl. maybe I’m not a
goddess with destruction in her cheekbones,
but a fragile thing, a scarred thing. I can’t help
but wonder why it’s a curse to need someone
else, why I can’t be whole yet tethered to a
gravity that the earth does not provide.

perhaps I don’t have claws, but I can’t help
but think that maybe claws were never what I
needed. it seems awfully lonely, forever
prowling the forests with rage in your footsteps
and revenge in your eyes.

maybe I can grow poppies instead of poison ivy.
maybe stars are just as important as ashes.

just because I don’t love with teeth does not mean
I don’t know how to be strong. perhaps I can be
a soft and shiny thing. perhaps I can love someone
with everything I have and still love myself
with something more.

—  topaz winters // for the ones without battle cries
Nothing is original. Steal from anywhere that resonates with inspiration or fuels your imagination.
— 

“Devour old films, new films, music, books, paintings, photographs, poems, dreams, random conversations, architecture, bridges, street signs, trees, clouds, bodies of water, light and shadows. 

Select only things to steal from that speak directly to your soul.

If you do this, your work (and theft) will be authentic. 

Authenticity is invaluable; originality is non-existent. 

And don’t bother concealing your thievery - celebrate it if you feel like it. In any case, always remember what Jean-Luc Godard said:

“It’s not where you take things from - it’s where you take them to.“ “

-Jim Jarmusch

PSA: today is Matthews takeover. Now there are many posts going around about this, and tbh I’m not that worried about the people on tumblr because if by now you haven’t released that being respectful is number 1 priority then it’s a lost cause. I’m mostly worried about twitter people or people on fb in general. So my tumblr shadowhunter family, if and when you see people commenting things such as; reducing alec down to malec, or asking about clalec (seriously?) or asking inappropriate sexual questions (eg, do you love harry etc) please take the wheel and double the amount of good questions. Ask about him, about his life, his character and so on. I’m trusting the tumblr family to be respectful af*!

I’m not about write 35 paragraphs don’t worry.

However. I seen on tumblr people been coming for Erykah Badu alil to hard. As if everything she saying does not make any sense. I could humbly agree with this, I feel as though dressing age appropriately for the type of environment setting your In should never be a shameful, and of course all men are not predators, but since we are talking about the ones who ARE that may be irrelevant. What she said was coming off as if she was telling girls/women how to prepare for rape.

HOWEVER I’m not about to turn on this women (like all tumblr does to everyone) call her names, “disown” her like tumblr is the chairman of the black community. I remain neutral on this, I’m still watching out for Erykah, but some of y'all need to chill. Y'all flip flopped on so many entertainers on here but turn around and listen to their music, watch their movies etc

Y'all fucking weird