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Hey, I might get hate for this and this message might not be for everyone, but I wanted to say -

It’s okay to be going through a kind of grief right now if you were very invested in Nick’s content. Some people might be experiencing just straightforward anger, and that’s fine, that makes sense.

But I suspect some of you, like me, are struggling with your emotions. Betrayal is complex. Maybe you wish things could go back to the way they were. Maybe you’re guilty because you didn’t realize - guilty because you did - guilty because you’re not as angry as you think you should be. You want him to get fired, but you don’t. You miss his content but don’t know if you’ll ever be able to watch it again. You wonder if this is really a big deal, wonder how much your social climate is influencing that view. You want to make jokes about it and yet you hate when other people make jokes about it. You feel bad for him and feel guilty for feeling bad for him.

Maybe you experience one or two or all of these at some point. This is NORMAL.

And I want to be clear about something here: some of these emotions can easily turn into victim blaming, but use this as a learning opportunity. Victim blaming, generally, doesn’t come from HATING WOMEN on a personal level. It comes from fear, and guilt, and betrayal. It is EASY to fall into, and it can come from a place of sincere emotions, so be careful about what you’re saying out there in the heat of the moment.

I just - not ever emotion you experience in a situation like this is going to be Morally Pure And Good. And some of them should probably be worked through privately. But I want everyone to know that feeling those emotions is FINE. It’s part of the process and resenting yourself will only make it harder. You will learn and grow from this.

If you’re struggling with your reactions to this, it’s ok to step back. It’s okay if your emotions don’t immediately fall in line with your beliefs. So long as you’re thinking critically about what you put out there, don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about your emotions.

Be kind to yourself, everyone.

In light of recent events I’d just like to remind you all the Maximoff Twins were Jewish and Romani. They were horrendously white-washed in MCU and their heritage was taken from them as a way to get round the mutant copyright problem. I love the characters but what Marvel studios did was unacceptable. They are not and will never be part of Hydra. Aaron Taylor-Johnson is Jewish which helps but it is never acknowledged as it should be. 

Furthermore Magneto being part of Hydra is absolutely disgusting. If you were to ask me to name a Jewish character he’s the first one I think of and I’m sure that’s the same for many of our followers. Whilst Cap was a hero to stand up to the Nazis, Erik Lehnsherr is a vivid reminder of our history and his pain and anguish represents what so many humans went through at the hands of the Nazis. We said no to hydra cap. Now lets say no to hydra magneto. 

I have to say it, I can’t hold it in any longer.

I think men who wear makeup are sexy.

Doesn’t matter if it’s full-makeup or just a light foundation with a touch of mascara.

I wish we didn’t shame men for wearing it.

[…] According to Carrie Bradshaw, when you live in New York, you’re always looking for a job, a significant other or an apartment — the three elusive keys to success and happiness. Now that list has grown to include tickets to “Hamilton.”

Yes, “Hamilton,” the groundbreaking musical that’s sold out months in advance. When a single ticket can cost over $1,000, revealing just how much money you spent on the show has become a status symbol in cocktail-party conversation.

I have seen “Hamilton.” I have seen it three times, in fact, thanks to my job as a journalist, which frequently involves writing about theater. And when I’m dating, somehow that one aspect of my existence is all anyone wants to talk about.

I can see why, if people read my work, they might think I somehow have easy access to the show. I’ve interviewed most of the original cast, including the women who played the Schuyler sisters and Chris Jackson, who played George Washington. I wrote about Javier Muñoz’s triumph over cancer and, in what is by far the most unexpected moment of my career, I have beat-boxed while the show’s creator, Miranda, free-styled.

When New Yorkers meet someone for the first time, they usually ask “What do you do?” or “Where do you live?” When meeting potential gentlemen callers, I’ve come to dread answering that question, because about 95 percent of the time, the conversation immediately turns to “Hamilton.” The exchange usually goes something like this:

Him: What do you do?
Me: I’m a journalist.
Him: What do you write about?
Me: Culture and politics. I focus on feminism and health care.
Him: What kind of culture?
Me: I write a lot about theater. And film and TV as well.
Him: Have you seen “Hamilton”?
Me: Yes …
Him (leaning in, speaking quietly): Can you get me tickets? Or do you know how to get them?


I would love to meet a man who enjoys seeing theater and would appreciate all of the dates we’d go on together — not just “Hamilton.” One of the musical’s most famous lyrics states: “I am not throwing away my shot.” I wish these men would realize that when they ask if I can get them tickets, they have already thrown away theirs.