i wish i knew who to credit

The look on his face gets me every time.
You have to be delusional to believe there is coming back from this.

This man had already been dead and brought back to life where he must bear the burden of all the things he never wanted. It was thrust upon him, he didn’t choose it. Now he finally gets to make a choice about the life he was given. He chooses her in more ways than one.

This is what a man looks like when he realises there still might be something left for him in this world.

If you were to lose it, would you even want to come back?

"Hotel Mario Theme" - Little Women (1933)
"Hotel Mario Theme" - Little Women (1933)

So ever listened to Hotel Mario’s theme and thought “hey this sounds kinda catchy and good”?

Well did you know the song actually dates back as far as 1933 in a film adaptation of Little Women? It’s performed at a party, and as far as I know, is never listed in the film’s soundtrack or in any credits. The audio’s taken straight from the film so pardon the dialogue included with the song, haha.

I wish I knew the tune’s origins though. I’ve made some extensive searches, but no luck. It sounds German, but that’s as far as I have guessed. I think the most accurate answer is the Phillips CDI was actually built in the 30s and Hotel Mario was just in development hell for all that time, but y’know, who knows.

If anyone’s got any clue what the song is though, please tell me! It’s been on my mind for years now!

10 Things I Wish Clients Knew Before Starting Therapy

I realized as I started to write this list that I could probably put way more than 10 things on it, so maybe there will be a part 2 eventually. Your suggestions/additions are very welcome! Of course, clients are very different from one another, but in general, here are some things I wish clients knew before they started therapy. (Credit to the anon who suggested doing this list!)

  1. Your therapist is not your friend. You and your therapist should have an important, close relationship, but it’s the not the same as a friendship. This is a good thing! (See #7). You want your therapist to be able to see you and your treatment as objectively as possible while being caring and empathetic about you as a person. This will help you two work successfully together. It’s okay if it takes time to figure out how your particular relationship will work, and if it is different from one therapeutic relationship to the next. 
  2. Start and work through treatment with the end in mind. Ideally, therapy should not last forever- you should begin with a goal or goals (see #3) and you and your therapist should figure out how to achieve those goals so that you no longer need treatment. Your therapist will probably check in about how close you are getting to these goals, and may set a timeline at the beginning of therapy or partway in. This is normal. We like our clients, we want to continue seeing them, but treatment is successful when they don’t have to see us anymore. 
  3. Goals are essential to successful treatment. Some clients would like to come in and do a “weekly review” sort of thing, or a “crisis of the week” sort of thing. The problem with this is that it doesn’t help them achieve a goal or improve their lives, it mostly just passes the time and maybe provides some social support. We’re not really doing our jobs when this is all that happens. That’s why goals- short and/or long-term- are essential. 
  4. There are infinite worthy goals. There are lots of things that are worthy of being a therapy goal. I usually group them into three categories: goals related to decreasing your distress (for example: decreasing anxiety), goals related to increasing your functioning (for example: having better social skills), and goals related to increasing meaningfulness (for example: pursuing hobbies, existential questions).  
  5. Structure is also essential. If a client has great goals, but they continue to come in with a crisis of the week, or are constantly distracted throughout session, it’s often hard to get things accomplished. Although it isn’t necessary to only discuss the therapy goal(s) 100% of the time (and sometimes it’s necessary to halt things due to crisis), it is important to have some kind of structure of make sure that treatment is progressing. Lots of different kinds of structures can be used (from almost nothing, to agendas, to manuals) depending on your needs. 
  6. Your therapist is not being mean to you when they enforce boundaries. Boundaries are necessary, to uphold professional ethics, protect the therapist and their family/loved ones, protect the mental health field, protect the agency the therapist works for, protect other clients, and most importantly, to protect you. It isn’t random, and it isn’t a punishment. We do our very best to be both professional and have a sincere relationship with you.  
  7. Your therapist is not judging you. Here’s the thing- you really are a special and unique person, with your own backstory. But as therapists, we have heard some weird and terrible things (it’s unlikely you’re going to top the list, for better or worse). It is our job to listen to those things and not judge. Since we’re not our client’s friend, we’re not thinking about judgement, we’re thinking about how to help, or how impressed we are that you trusted us enough to share, and so on. We’re in your corner. 
  8. The therapeutic relationship is important- and not off-limits to discuss. I always make such a big deal about the therapeutic relationship, and it is because it matters so much to client outcome. So pay attention to it. It’s okay to care about how things are in the interaction and relationship with your therapist. And if you are confused, or upset, or concerned, or pissed off, talk about it with your therapist. You are not doing anything wrong- this is key to the success of your treatment. 
  9. It’s okay to question and disagree with your therapist. Clients sometimes think that therapists are untouchable– sort of all knowing experts. It’s true that therapists are trained in specific things, and hopefully know how to do the things they need to do to help you accomplish what you want to in therapy. But this does not mean they know everything about you or will not mess up (we don’t and we will). So ask questions. Get more information. If you disagree, speak up. A good therapist is comfortable discussing the process and being wrong. 
  10. It’s okay to find a new therapist, but make sure you think about why you are doing it. If you do not like your therapist, it is okay to look for a new one. But- “therapist shopping” is sometimes frowned upon because we worry that you are looking for a therapist who will tell you what you want to hear about something, and a good therapist is willing to challenge their clients- which means their clients will sometimes be pissed off and uncomfortable. This means a good therapist is sometimes not the one who makes you feel warm and fuzzy all the time. So, find a new therapist if you do not like yours, but think carefully about why you are doing it. Make sure you work with someone who helps you reach your goals. (That’s why you’re there, right?) 

Dear god, THIS.

THIS IS WHY you can never ship Joker and Harley to me EVER again. When she arrived on The Animated Series, it was in a fun, gangster moll style. But we know what happened since. And I’ve had too many friends that have been through similar situations.

I wish I knew who to credit for this. In this ONE panel that DC didn’t even pen, everything that’s been shared in confidence has come back. So DON’T romanticize Joker and Harley in the future. Because that’s not love, and when you look at it honestly, it never was.

251 Years

Daveed Diggs x Reader (I was feeling inspired okay?)

Also I first saw this through another fic, so if anyone knows who it is please let me know so I can give them credit. Thanks! 


“And I would like to wish a very Happy Birthday to our lovely Y/N! Happy eighteenth birthday, and all the best wished towards you to help you find that soulmate of yours. They will certainly be a lucky person!” your cousin Matthew shouted in the ballroom.

A resounding applause came from everyone in the room and you sat there blushing. You never knew what to do in these situations.

“Thank you,” you said, nodding your head.

The music struck back up again, and you decided to get up and dance.

Tonight was the night of your eighteenth birthday in 1774 and the day that would now stop aging until you met the person that you would spend the rest of your life with.

You hoped that they would find you soon. You didn’t want to just be alone for a long time.

The party continued even as you made your way to the garden in the back of the manor. You made your way through the roses, going over to the fountain.

You sat on the edge and looked at the moon.

‘Please find me soon. I love you already.’

~~~~

“Lin, I already told you this. Please shut up,” your groaned as your friend kept rambling on about ideas for his new musical.

About Alexander Hamilton.

He had first met you when he was still in high school, you had come in to talk to his history class.

He had been fascinated by you, and ever since then you had gotten along splendidly. His family treated you like their own, and you were often asked to babysit for him.

You didn’t mind, it was nice. But sometimes he wouldn’t leave you alone. Like now.

He had just started producing his new play Hamilton, and he wanted everything to be perfect.

You didn’t blame him, but with him calling at three in the morning was getting annoying.

Right now he was asking about costumes, and he thought that you could add your expertise. But you were exhausted right now.

“Lin, i’m going to bed. I’ll be back in New York in three days and I’ll come and see you at the theater. We can talk then.”

He huffed but you knew that he would relent now.

“Alright alright. I’ll see you then. Goodnight!”

“Goodnight Lin.”

You put your phone down and got back up out of bed. You went into the bathroom and looked in the mirror.

You started at your face. A face that looked 18 years old but in fact was 251 years old.

Ha. 51.

You snorted.

Would you ever find your soulmate? It had been so long, you were just announced to be the oldest person on the plant.

‘Well, back to bed for me.’

~~~~

“Y/N! You made it!” Lin cried as he fought through the crowd of cast. He wrapped you in a big hug.

You laughed and hugged him back.

“I brought a bunch of old trunks with clothes that I still own. I thought that you might want to use them for inspiration. You can’t use the actual ones however.”

A smile crossed his face as he cheered.

“Thank you so much!”

“I’ll need some help bringing them up, but please be careful, they’re very important to me.”

He nodded and relayed that info to some others that went to get your stuff. You went down with them, watching them as they took it all up stairs.

“I think that’s all of the,” Lin said as he came up to you.

“Thanks Lin. I’m going to send a quick email and then I’ll come up and meet you.”

He nodded and left, yourself getting on your phone.

Finishing up your business you started to go up the stairs, but you found yourself tripping on the last step.

You braced for a fall, but instead of the cold ground you were met by a pair of strong arms.

Sparks exploded, and your chest started glowing, the second part of the soulmate bond. The two of you froze, not knowing what to do.

You picked yourself up and the man released you. You turned around to look at your soulmate, and there he was.

Daveed Diggs, the man playing Thomas Jefferson and the Marquis de Lafayette. Your soulmate.

How crazy was that.

“Holy shit,” he said. You giggled.

“Is that all you have to say?” you shot back. He smiled at you.

“Why do we have to say anything?” He mused, coming closer to you. His face was only an inch from yours. You felt yourself feeling hot.

He took your breath away.

You stared into each other’s eyes, before your lips met in a fiery kiss. It was wonderful. After being 18 for 243 years, this was everything you could have imagined.

As you broke apart he stared at you lovingly. He was holding you in his arms again.

“I do have a question for you,” he said. “How long have you been 18? It’s been five years for me.”

You smirked.

“I’ve totally got you beat.”

“What do you mean?”

“I’ve looked like this for 243 years.”

His mouth dropped open.

“Well fuck,” he whispered, sending you into a fit of laughter. “How old does that make you then?”

“251,” you replied as you recovered from laughing.

He smiled.

“Ha ha.”

“What?”

“51.”


EDIT: Ok so I was hoping that I guess i didn’t have to explain this but the reason they’re laughing at ‘51′ is because Hamilton wrote 51 essays. Cool? Cool.

Dear Billy, Today I Saw Kong Skull Island

I’m still a bit ill and thus couldn’t risk eating popcorn, but it was so worth it.

Some assorted, mostly spoiler-free thoughts (full review to come after I get a chance to see it again):

  • Cinemasins and Cracked.com will hate this movie, as they always do
  • Like Godzilla (2014), I absolutely loved it even though it isn’t a flawless movie
  • Like Godzilla (2014), its few flaws will be harped on by the fandom so hard that I will become irrationally defensive of it as a result
  • John C. Reilly almost steals the show from Kong in the best possible way - he is one of the best human characters in any kaiju movie
  • This feels like a King Kong story told in the mold of a Godzilla story, and I love that
    • Not just in a “we’re setting up Godzilla vs. King Kong” way or a “Hollywood always copies the formula of a successful film dozens of times over until people are sick of it” way, either.  This movie actually feels very different from Godzilla (2014) while still feeling like they belong in the same universe.  Its approach to monsters and the man vs. nature concept is what particularly feels like a Godzilla thing more than a Kong thing - it’s the first movie to defend the native people and fauna of Skull Island instead of casting them unanimously as monsters
    • I wish the Skull Islanders had gotten more to do, but after marathoning all the previous Kong movies, I’m more than content with them barely getting to do anything so long as it means they aren’t being a horrible racist caricature of various indigenous people.  Especially after the 2005 movie, which, while a wonderful movie in several respects, is definitely the worst of the bunch when it comes to presenting the Skull Islanders as people.
  • The monster designs are ingenious and creative, making Skull Island once again feel mysterious and strange despite how commonplace CGI monsters are these days
  • The monster fights were fucking marvelous and and common.  I am sure people will complain there weren’t enough of them or that some were too short.
    • one of the shorter ones also had one of my favorite “monsters as animals with needs and motivations” moments in the movie that was really funny and endearing and I’m 100% certain people will hate it because it was such a “curbstomp” battle but fuck it sometimes you want to see *SPOILERS OMITTED*
  • By far the best part of the movie for me was the fact that four little kids were sitting behind me having the time of their lives watching an awesome monster movie.  During the end credits (like me and my family, they were waiting for the stinger) they chattered about how they hoped Mothra would be showing up in the Monsterverse next, so they were clearly Godzilla fans who knew they shit rather than complete newbies to the world of kaiju.  I wish I had a movie like this when I was their age.
  • The stinger is SO worth it.

anonymous asked:

Why do you think ID and solo Harry had zero female influence/contribution the song-writing process?

What a great question.  I don’t know enough about the industry to know a specific answer.  Have we seen the credits for Harry’s album? Do we know for sure that no women were credited?

The general answer is - misogyny, discrimination and the systematic exclusion of women from well paid and prestigious jobs.

I think the question your probably asking is - what does it tell us about Harry and One Direction that there were no women involved in their songwriting process.

But to answer that question you really need to know more about industry norms.  There are some industries that are so male dominated that the fact that women aren’t involved in a particular project can just mean that no-one has actively tried to find them or noticed that they’re excluded. (On a macro level this sort of exclusion is always maintained through harassment, discrimination and active forms of exclusion - but on a micro level it can be much more ‘we hired the best people for the job’ or ‘these are the people we know are good - Mo Ryan’s work on TV directors is absolutely fascinating in that regard. I also recommend this follow-up piece with John Landgraf - it fills me with equal parts hope and rage).

I suspect pop writing is not that male-dominated.  Sia does very well for herself as does Julia Michaels and those are just people I’ve heard of because they also release their own music.

I imagine the answer is much more located in one of two things - either the work process or the work culture.

Writing for either Harry or One Direction has required giving up your life and travelling for an extended period of time.  In general, men are much able to do this than women, because women do far more caregiving work than men.  That means a work process that requires travelling a long way away from where you are and working all hours will exclude far more women than men.

The other thing is about the ideas about what is serious or more adult and the fact that music industry defines that in ways that excludes women.  Midnight Memories, the first album with a basically new writing team, took a sharp turn towards rape culture and I’ve thought that was Julian and co’s idea of what it meant to be more mature.  Likewise Harry is writing ‘serious rock music’ - and misogynistically excluding women is pretty central to rock musics identity.  And I think that would work in so many ways to ensure there was no space for women in the making of that music.

I’ve looked at the writing credits for a number of other artists’ last album: Beyonce, Rihanna, Ed Sheeran, Taylor Swift and Justin Bieber.  To me this suggested that it was normal to have men vastly outnumber women in the writing and production of pop music.  But every single one of those artists had credited women writers.  It’s not normal to have none.  That suggests that decisions made about how to make Harry’s album (and how to make One Direction albums) meant that women song writers were excluded over and above the industry norms.

i can’t with the way he looks at her

i wish i knew someone who would look at me like that hahaha

gifs are not mine - credit to the original posters @oohhshiny + @saviorswaan + @stereowave + @get-your-stupid-fcking-rope

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very-layered-onion  asked:

How does Bangtan inspire you? What do hold in your heart when it comes to each member? If you could tell them one thing, what would it be?

Bangtan inspires me because they remind me to never take things for granted. It’s a natural human tendency, isn’t it? To reach the top without recounting the steps you took. They have been through hardships that make them treasure success more. They teach me that it’s okay to have flaws and bruises because wounds heal in time and flaws will make you whole. 

Also:

I hold each member dear to my heart. I love Namjoon’s sturdy leadership, Seokjin’s big, big heart, Yoongi’s heartfelt dedication, Hoseok’s bright sunrays, Jimin’s unending determination, Taehyung’s kindheartedness and Jungkook’s tenderness. BTS isn’t BTS without the seven of them, each with different defining personalities. One’s strength will always be another flaw’s remedy. Some help to define the dance moves, some teach others how to rap better, and others show how’s it like to sing like your heart is on fire. 

They complete each other:

If I had looked at them and said: “they must be happy now, to have reaped the fruits of their sacrifices” it would be an insult to them. I could never truly understand how much they’ve been through (no matter how hard I tried) and would never know how much they sacrificed.

But I do know and do wish to say that I’m proud of them – seven people who had grown so much, from boys who knew nothing, to men with open hearts that take in everything. 

The most beautiful moment in life or 화양연화 as Namjoon had once said “starts with a flower and ends with shining” and that is what BTS means to me. ♡

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anonymous asked:

I'm not sure if you've been told yet, but a PokéTuber named Verlisify made a video promoting your art. I don't think the video is monetized (I've clicked it a few times and haven't gotten an ad yet) and your links are all down in the description and in the video. I just wanted to let you know a decently well known PokéTuber noticed your work!

Hey, thank you! Someone mentioned it on my deviantart page (which I’ve recently been trying to catch up to my tumblr) so I checked it out. It’s really fun to watch someone review my work, and very flattering to have been noticed in that way.

I wasn’t very familiar with Verlisify previously, but I enjoyed his review and appreciated that he properly credited me. Although I wish he read the FAQ on the front page of my deviantart first (he read the line above it, come on! >_<) so he knew what the concept was that he was reviewing, but he seemed to come to a similar conclusion after a bit. It was a fun video, I enjoyed it.

If you’d like to watch it, it’s here.

Edit: Thank you to the people who told me about Verlisify’s generally negative reputation. I don’t know much about the guy, and I don’t want to talk badly about someone on here, so I’m going to be putting the video behind me. Thanks again though for the heads up, I appreciate it.