i wasn't expecting this to be so upsetting ):

anonymous asked:

I'm not the anon that sent the other messages but seriously, the way you're handling this comes across as pretty insensitive. My niece is a victim of rape & incest and because of that, the whole cousin Ben trope upsets me. If it bothers me so much even when I wasn't a victim of it myself, I can't imagine how upsetting it must be for people who have gone through it themselves. I know that there are ways to avoid it but aware that it's more than a squick for some people.

There’s a difference between rape and consensual sex. Cousin Ben Week will feature consenting adults. I am sorry that happened to your niece. I was sexually assaulted in my early twenties so I have things that I avoid reading.

Here’s the thing, I avoid it. I don’t censor others because I don’t expect the world to revolve around me. It is my job to avoid my triggers, not others to avoid creating content just because it would upset me. If that were the case I wouldn’t have had Reylo tentacle rape come across my dash a few months ago now would I? And from what I recall that little story was applauded while subjects that contain consenting adults and is commonplace in many countries around the world is cried about.

For every one person who is upset about Cousin Ben Week, there’s at least ten who are looking forward to it. Many from countries where marriage between cousins is a regular thing in their culture.

This post is an apology

I’m sorry for everyone still waiting on requests. I’m sorry for those of you waiting for me to fix my list links. I’m sorry for the resources I haven’t reblogged a lot of lately. I’ve made promises for work I was going to do on this blog, and others, and I just haven’t done it. 

I really am sorry for all of those I have left waiting on me. I have had almost no energy to really work on the things I’ve wanted to (not just these blogs either), and it upsets me. I feel really disappointed in myself for letting my blogs fall to the wayside again. I know what they mean to me, and I know what they mean to others.

I wish I could give a time frame as to when these things may be expected to be done. But I can’t. I’m sorry.

My Gruvia theories: grays feelings progress
  • So when Gray was first getting to know her: he was impressed with her powers. He felt like he was the one in fairytail to know her first so he wanted to give her a kind welcome. He thought they'd become good "friend's"
  • When she showed her affections he just thought she was crazy. He didn't think those feelings were serious at first. Which they weren't so much.
  • Once they got to the island for the sclass exam: He gained high hopes for her. He wanted her to do well. She was the only one who he really cared about succeeding. He just wanted to beat everyone else. Once he learned there were enemies on the island, he became instantly concerned for her. He worried for her. He was very uncomfortable with her not being around. When he saved her life he planned to not tell her or anyone else. Very modest of him.
  • When Lyon stepped in: By then he had become colder towards Juvia...Why?? Let me tell you why. He wanted to protect his heart. He had put a huge guard up because he thought this was protecting her. He thought that if he distances himself, it'll be easier to not be tempted by her. But then Lyon stepping in made Gray angry. Gray believed that Juvia was capable of falling for Lyon. It wasn't because lyon was "taking his guild mate," because...let's face it. if lyon was walking off with cana, Gray wouldn't have given a damn.
  • The grand magic games: Gray had built a strong connection with Juvia in his heart but he didn't want to reveal it. When Juvia performed her spell for him and he flinched, it was because he's not the type to let his love be known in public. Also it actually could of subconsciously been because Gray took the precaution of protecting Juvia really seriously. I believe that Gray believes that if he reveals his feelings for Juvia or if their bond becomes known to the enemies (demons etc)that killed his family, then Juvia would be next in line. So juvia declaring her love for him could have put her life in danger. Gray could have subconsciously been thinking that.
  • Their unison raid: He knew that they had a deep connection and that their love itself could make them win. Thats why Hiro called it "sychonised love attack" All of this about their "teamwork" which was initiated by Gray who used other words disquise his love. That's why Chelia called them "beautiful" (romantic) It was actually a very bold sign that they'd turn canon.
  • Fastforward:
  • when erza confronted Gray about Juvia, it means that she doesn't believe Juvias love is one sided. How can she tell? Because Gray is really on guard around Juvia.
  • Their popular moments:
  • Dying for her: well protecting her was one of his main priorities so it's no surprise at all.
  • When Juvia confronted Gray about his father's death: the reason why he embraced Juvia in such a tender way was because he was so sorry for her pain and his father's death. But it wasn't just that. His guard fell down completely and at that moment, he wished that he had never been dishonest with Juvia. For example, imagine you had a friend who deeply cared for and loved you but you just ignored him/her even though you cared for and loved him/her too. Then you find out later that he/she did something incredible for you, then you break down into tears and you realise how bad you had been to him. I believe that's why he was saying sorry over and over again. Also he had just lost his father. To lose the love of his life right after that would've made him that much more lonely. That moment would've stayed with him forever. Linking Juvias importance to the importance of his father.
  • Fastforward to time skip:
  • when they lived together Gray would've been happy. However, as a guy who has hormones it seems a little fishy he didn't get at least tempted to sleep with her...right?? Well, Gray knew that falling asleep together, obviously that would've meant they were now in a relationship. But he doesn't want her life to be in danger. The demon that killed his family? I bet he believed that a demon would go after her if they were together. He really did. He wanted to Protect her. Just like hiro's quote for gray said..."to protect those you find important. You need a will of ice."
  • I don't believe he had really thought a relationship with Juvia could really happen for them, until they lived together. Gray just would've believed that because of his tragedies, he can't have love.
  • Living with Juvia, I think Gray realised then that he wanted it to be like that in the future. And he developed more hope for love and believed that it could happen, but first. ..he'd have to defeat END. So he took off for six months (though he though itd be quicker) because he had to train his power so that he could be strong enough to defeat END and then he'd finally be able to have a future. Which would be his future with Juvia.
  • When Natsu called Gray a jerk for abandoning Juvia for six months:
  • the reason why Gray would've stayed silent, is because he believed natsu was right. Gray must've felt really bad being away from Juvia all that time.
  • When he saw Juvia again after six months: I think he was amazed at how she wasn't upset with him. He got shivers when he heard her voice, so I think he was expecting some drama, but instead she smiled lovingly at him, threw her arms around him, and cheered about how much she missed him. Then he felt like the love he was receiving was undeserved. So he felt deeply bad and said sorry then him and Juvia fought the enemy.
  • After the time skip: If you notice closely Gray and Juvia are almost constantly together after that. I think Juvia was also a major force of determination for Gray to defeat END. So that she could be safe. Her being with him all the time was a motivation.
  • I'll give you my answer after the war" balcony scene:
  • I believe Gray had already decided his answer during the one year skip.
  • When he said "you're always by my side" he didn't just mean literally...he also meant "loyalty" She always has faith in him and never takes him for Granted. Her "always being by his side" also meant her always loving him. If he didn't love her back then he WOULDN'T have been grateful. He would've felt sorry for her instead and pity.
  • He said "for now, let me focus" because he wants to defeat END without a thought of distraction.
  • The latest chapters 499-504:
  • just before Juvia "died" Gray told her he could never hurt a "friend" and then quickly said "no! I could never hurt you!" Because she's not his friend. She's his future. He told her he just wanted to protect her and she understood what he meant. Then they both "died" but he woke up, she gave her speech, and then he burst out crying so fast it wasn't funny. This would've been such hell for him. She was one of his main motivations. She loved him unconditionally. He DID love her. He'd decided she was his future. He'd waited and not even got the chance to tell her how he felt before she died. He didn't even get to kiss her. (This is why I think the kiss really happened)
  • Then he kicked invels ass and screamed that he taking away Juvias future was unforgivable. Now let's stop for a moment. Gray Full buster is actually a very forgiving person. He can forgive very quickly. The fact that it's unforgivable proved just how he loved Juvia and how much he thought of her future. He wasn't just meaning "you took away her future" he was also meaning "you took away our future. We were both going to be happy and together!"
  • Then when Gray tries to kick Natsus ass...well let's just say he's so full of hatred for everything at this point, he really just don't give a f*ck about anything. He's just letting the darkness take over him and kill him. After all, defeating END was more essential to him than anything (except Juvia) so yeah ..that's just some of my clever input. Haha.
  • And btw:
  • I have never been wrong with any romance in anime, or with understanding characters. I just happen to always get it right! Haha. Especially shounen. Thanks and please like if you agree with my theories : )

anonymous asked:

lotor fucking KILLED narti. what the fuck. what the FUCK. HE CAN MEET ME IN THE FUCKING PIT

(SPOILERS AHEAD) OKOKOKOKokokok i’m still upset about it, but i also get it. I’ve been turning this over in my head all day. Lotor reacted impulsively. He barely thought any of it through. But i also get it. From where he’s come from, and everything we’ve seen about him so far, he’s got major trust issues ESPECIALLY when it comes to being monitored and spied on. The only time we really saw him angry (like /really/ upset) was when he found out Haggar was spying on him in season 3. I think it’s all linked back to his past in a way (linked to the abuse he went through and how it’s affecting his life now). That impulsive reaction i think came from the fear of being spied on, betrayed, and controlled; i think it was a ‘it’s happening again, i MUST get rid of this threat’. i don’t think he ever had ill feelings towards Narti or ANY of his generals for that matter. I don’t think it’s something he wanted to do, but i think it was something that -after years of whatever abuse he went through- he had to do. IDK. idk. Narti was my fave general, but it seems she’s been a spy for who knows how long. She turned on Lotor and the others long before he turned on her and i think that’s pretty sad.

“one is a royal, and the other has no clue” au [ao3]

because i’m about to reach 300 followers and i’m excited

also to dampen the angst some may be feeling after the finale

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It takes her four years, three glaring hints and a first-hand meeting until she finally pieces it together.

Looking back, the signs were there from the start – the very first moment she met him, she knew there was something different about him, the way his back was always so straight, his words ever so proper, how his manners were far too polite. But she’d never actually befriended a Brit, much less actually been there, so buying into media stereotypes, she’d guessed they just raised their kids differently over the pond.

They become fast friends, and for the first time it’s her that makes the first move, asking him if he wanted to grab some drinks after work. She finds that for such a proper man, he can surely drink a lot. And Emma’s never quite been a rum girl, but when he picks it as his poison, she can’t help but call for one for herself as well.

That night, she finds out two things: one, he curses when he’s drunk; and two, even in a drunken state, he’s a perfect gentleman.

The first clue comes a year later, when they’ve become good friends who spend much free time together (platonically, might she add). So when he says he’s got to go back home for his cousin’s wedding for the week, she can’t help but feel slightly lonely for the next seven days. And in an attempt to show that she’s not totally reliant on him and that she does have other friends, she and Ruby plan a girl’s night, which ends up being them binge watching whatever’s on Netflix.

When he comes back, he’s in a chipper mood, telling her all about his cousin that about time got married to his wife, when he’d already called from the beginning that she’d be the one for him.

“Big party?” she asks, sitting on his desk with her legs crossed as he reclines in his chair.

He grins at her, eyes crinkling, and wow, she’s never seen him so happy, so she figures it just has to do with seeing his family after over year of separation, “You have no idea.”

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anonymous asked:

I'm kind of upset that there isn't an official kataang week like this. Why don't you run that as well? A lot of people would probably join in and then all the shippers would feel happy and included.

Nah, that ship is honestly repulsive to me. 

I mean, you guys have canon. Isn’t that enough?

EDIT: apparently there is a Kataang Week! I think I read it’s happening in July.