I. if you feel like you have to let go, then let go. whether it is a friendship or a relationship, something or someone, if you want to walk away, you have every right to do so. you do not owe anyone any explanations. not even to yourself.
II. you are not always going to love yourself and that is more than okay. some days you’ll feel like trash and some days you’ll be so in love with yourself; you can’t always be fine with something that is in constant change and it is okay.
III. when you are having negative thoughts (“i am useless, i will fail, i can’t do this, i am nothing”…), instead of drowning in these, try to realise how negative and damaging they are. we never stop and reflect on our own thoughts, we just let them sink in right away but just by realizing how bad some of them are, your perspective will change. instead, try to take a step back and ask yourself if that self hatred is acceptable. because we often forget that this is not how one should treat oneself and that one deserves better. you deserve better.
IV. your health comes first. both physical and mental health come first. if you have to put aside school assignments or work projects to make time for a doctor’s appointment or a therapy session, then you put school or work aside and you fucking go to the doctor’s or the therapist. during the beginning of my last year of high school, i kept delaying the help i needed from a psychologist because of college applications, homework, exams and assessments and that cost me one of the major and most severe breakdowns i’ve ever had. as my teacher once told me: “if you don’t have health, then you have nothing”. always remember that your health comes first and i don’t care if you have tons of work to do, your health always comes first.
V. if you ever need help, ask for it. asking for help is not a sign of weakness. i used to think i was able to solve all of my problems by myself but truth is, i am not. if you are doubting between asking for help and keeping it to yourself, the mere fact that you’re already doubting means that there is something there worth being taken care of.
— self care!!! i can’t stress enough about its importance.