Day 11: Is there anything you do that helps keep you grounded?
- I like to write myself a note when I’m in a good mood to remind myself that I am capable of having good moods when I slip into a bad mood and my lack of emotional permanence kicks in.
- Writing always helps, whether I’m writing my feelings or a poem or a story or whatever it might be. Any art form can help, I just find that writing helps me the most
- I also like coloring books, although I’m a perfectionist so these can sometimes stress me out, but most of the time, coloring is very satisfying.
- D I S T R A C T I O N S are hella important. Don’t let yourself sit and dwell on parts of your brain that’ll make your mood worse. I have actually found that despite me usually hating homework and cleaning, they help distract me. When I’m angry I prefer to clean, when I feel myself getting depressed I like to do homework. Manipulate productive things into coping mechanisms. (Easier said than done, I know, but try to work at it to develops a habit of it) That way, you feel better while also completing important tasks and you feel even better bc you get things done.
- I ALWAYS have friends around. Like almost 24 hours every day. (A couple of them live with me) This has kept me from cutting and lifted my mood up quite a lot. So try to have friends around in those moments where you feel like you’re going to relapse if possible.
- Keeping a journal is a great thing to do. You should write when you are happy, depressed, angry, dissociated, whenever. This really helps your emotional permanence bc you can look back on when you were happy. It also helps you realize that problems and feelings are temporary when you go back to when you wrote when you were sad a month or so ago.
- When you feel like you are about to split or you are beginning to get angry, take a walk or a run. Even if you are arguing with someone, just get away from them. Take at least a 15 minute walk. It helps you cool down and it may even change your mind about why you are getting mad or splitting by giving you enough time to realize you are being irrational (if you are, that’s not always the case). I shit you not, this has kept me from decking tf out of so many people including teachers, assistant principals, friends, even my friend’s grandma, etc
- Have your friends write you a loving and supportive letter to you so you can read it when you are in a bad mood or when you feel like they don’t care about you
》I think I’m going to make a part 2 to this someday but reblog with anything you’d like to add that may help people manage their bpd symptoms 💕