I think I ID as bi but I'm not sure. there's a girl in one of my classes who I think I might have a crush on but I've hardly talked to her. I'm not sure if I'm just convincing myself I like girls so that I can be "gay enough" or if I'm just really bored/lonely? idk. but she also dresses very masculine so I'm not sure if I'm also 'tricking' myself that way. I just really don't want to come out as bi and then later receive hate if I realize I was straight all along. thanks for doing this!
You can definitely have a crush on someone you’ve hardly ever talked to! I know I had a major crush on a girl in a Poli Sci class in college way before I ever talked to her. It happens. I don’t think you should worry that you might be tricking yourself that you’re attracted to girls, because I’ve never heard of a straight person tricking themselves into believing they’re not straight. What’s much more common is bi people internalizing the messages that we are “just looking for attention” or “just experimenting” or “just a phase.” And straight people don’t suddenly start having crushes on people of the same gender out of boredom or loneliness. They can’t! It’s not in their orientation. And just because she’s masculine (or butch) doesn’t make her not a girl, and doesn’t invalidate you for liking her. Tons of bi, pan, lesbian, and queer gals love butch women! It’s not a straight thing, trust me.