Hey guys💛 so I just want to apologize for the first version of this. Her skin came out a lot paler than it looked when I was coloring it on photoshop and I don’t know why. I had no intention of white washing her.
so my mom works at pre-school style program run by an occupational therapy clinic for young kids with ADHD and/or Autism who are either unable to attend or have gotten kicked out of “normal” pre-school. the aim of the program is to teach them simple self-regulation behaviors so that they can return to a school environment, be it special-ed or with all the other students. having both of those disorders, i sometimes am able to help them tweak the program to be more affective and yesterday I had a little idea thats honestly going to change everything, even for me.
when children get upset, they learn to excuse themselves to go to the calm down corner until they can regulate themselves better. i came up with the idea that before they are allowed to go back to class they have to ask themselves three things:
Am I hungry?
Am I sick?/Does it hurt?
Do I need to use the bathroom?
because honestly??? as a person with both ADHD and Autism, my body doesnt tell me that stuff. I have to actively think, “do I need this or am i that” because my body isn’t processing the internal sensory input of my stomach and bladder. it gets to a point where i get very angry and very upset and stand up to go storm off and then suddenly realize, im not upset, i just really need to pee. or even, im not angry at all, im just kinda hungry. I even mentioned this idea to my therapist today, who’s son has ADHD, and she’s going to implement it for him too, since he often wont notice until it’s too late.
anyway, if you or a child you’re looking after or whoever are upset and cant figure out why, try doing a tummy check, because sometimes the fix can be that simple and our bodies just don’t tell us that information until we ask <3
me at first: well that reunion with Shiro was… underwhelming and underemotional… what the actual fuck?????
me after realizing he’s probably a clone: well thank god they didn’t waste an overwhelming and emotional reunion on a fake clone lmao but the real thing beTTER BE SO OVERWHELMING AND EMOTIONAL IT MAKES ME CRY FOR A YEAR
Controversial opinion, but I think Joseph’s ‘good’ and ‘bad’ endings are actually in reverse.
In his ‘bad’ ending, he professes that he still loves Mary and that he can’t do this to her and his family. He has to make things work, he has to save his marriage. Yes, he dumps the MC, but over all it shows Joseph more in character and portrays him with a more realistic reaction to the whole thing.
But, in his ‘good’ ending, he doesn’t even mention his love for Mary. He only says that he’s keeping up his marriage…For appearances, and for his kids. It feels like everything you learned about him got tossed out the window just so the writers could find a way to get Joseph and MC together. Everyone agrees that being someone’s ‘side piece’ is a horrific ending, both Joseph lovers and haters. Joseph and MC’s relationship goes from ‘I was divorcing my wife and chose this relationship’ to ‘hey wanna have a long lasting affair’, and it’s…Kinda upsetting, honestly.
Joseph’s good ending has always felt really rushed to me, like the writers didn’t actually know what they wanted to do so they threw a quick sex scene in there (one of the only ones in the game you don’t get a prompt to accept/deny) and then had you both have an affair because…I don’t know, they didn’t want to write in a divorce? Because they felt it was a ‘better ending’ over all? The devs said they wanted to put a ‘twist’ on the Dating Sim industry, but if they had given Joseph an ending like Robert’s, one where he breaks up with the MC to work on his divorce/marital problems with the implication that they will get back together once they are both ready for the relationship again, then that would have been not only a big twist but it would have been a satisfying ending for all parties.
We wouldn’t have so much discourse over Joseph if it weren’t revealed that he’s okay with cheating on his wife. We wouldn’t have every Joseph fan crying while listening to Margaritaville if that hadn’t happened. We wouldn’t have Mary fans upset that she is stuck in a marriage she isn’t happy in for the rest of all canon time.
Best of all, that ending would have still been a big twist. Robert’s ending was already a big surprise to me. Dating Sims end with undeniably happy endings where everything is happy and they lived happily ever after…But Robert’s ending felt so realistic, so bitter sweet. So…Good. Yes, Robert’s getting better, but you can’t be together. Not yet. Not until he heals. People have tried to say I like to demonize this man based on my other posts, but I think Robert’s writing is some of the best writing in the game. It’s so heartwarming to have such realism in a game that is portrayed well enough that it doesn’t feel like it’s tripping over it’s own feet!
But then you have Joseph, where the devs felt so desperate to try and switch things up that they changed gears halfway through and went “yeah no he gets no happiness at all, and neither do the players who like him.” and I still for the life of me don’t understand why.
Both of them said their favorite character was Mary, both of them have talked about how they wanted to break away from the Dating Sim cliche and make something new, both of them spoke endlessly about creating this game to be a positive and wholesome game focusing around MLM issues and representation. But then they go and say that the happy ending for the queer Christian character, an archetype that is riddled with real life scenarios that force queer Christian men and women into unhappy marriages, is the ending where he is forced to stay with his wife for ‘’appearances’’ but is totally okay with maintaining an affair and hurting the wife he proclaims to still love in other parts of the game/during his bad ending? Where’s the positive representation in that? Where’s the wholesome game we were promised in that?
They say they were trying to send a message about ‘not homewrecking’…By portraying a marriage between an alcoholic and clinically depressed wife and a queer Christian man trying desperately to hold himself together for the four kids who appear also have behavioral issues? Of course your fan base wanted those two to break up! No matter what side of the fence you’re on regarding Mary or Joseph, you fucking want them to get a divorce because that’s one of the most toxic and unhappy marriages you have ever seen.
I didn’t mean for this to get so long, but I guess that’s just my lot in life; writing long ass posts. In short, I think Joseph REAL good ending is the one he leaves you in so he can try and recover what he has with Mary, and the real bad ending is the one where he continues the affair just so he can ‘keep up appearances’. The devs really fucked up in letting this game send a positive message, especially when they already showed with Robert that they weren’t afraid to give the players an ending that is only bittersweet.
Joseph deserved better. Mary deserved better. This game deserved better.