I saw something the other day and I have opinions on it
So I’ve been sitting on this for a few days now, and everytime I think about it I get insanely pissed off.
Look, I understand cishets going to pride in certain situations, I really do. If you’re there with your friend, family, or partner who didn’t want to go alone, good for you for supporting that person who wanted/ needed you there. Or if you work for a company that’s sponsoring or has a booth or something like that, I get it. You’re there doing your job.
But if you show up at pride wearing a shirt that says “I may be straight, but I don’t hate” fuck you. Especially if you are four grown ass women dressed up in ridiculous skirts that you obviously made yourself from shitty material you got at Michael’s and the shirts have obviously been made for this occasion because someone with no experience in design chose the childish font those terrible words are printed in because this is just a fucking party to you. Fuck you and everything you represent.
But wait, good for you for not hating people who are different than you for simply existing. You deserve a medal for reaching the incredibly low bar.
Which is obviously what this is to you, a chance to show off what an ally and good person you are. You didn’t show up to support us, you showed up for a party, and wild stories to tell, and likes on your social media accounts.
Here’s the point: if you have to show off and brag about how you’re an ally and a good person, you obviously aren’t as good as you think. If you were really that good, people would already know, you wouldn’t have to prove it. You do not get points for doing the bare minimum and not hating us. (Now, if this were 30 years ago, yeah, different story, but today? Nope.)
If you want to support us, you can do something to stop the protesters we had to walk through to get to the festival. You can help LGBT people who are in shitty situations, like getting kicked out of home or losing their jobs or getting killed. There’s tons you can do, not hating us doesn’t help as much as you think. Actions help us, not words.
Also, people who aren’t straight aren’t the only people in the LGBT community you need to be supporting. Why not make a shirt that says “I may be cis and straight, but I don’t hate” and include trans and non binary people?
Basically, I hate everything about the existence and context and meaning of those shirts.