trying desperately to get out of this bad art block so this this didn’t come out how i really wanted it to, but i keep seeing Kim Possible aus everywhere and this video is a godsent blessing so guess what i had to do
We exist! We’re part of natural human diversity! It is estimated that
around 1% of people are autistic (and the number may be even higher).
That may not sound like a lot, but 1% of 7.5 billion people is 75
million people! Which means that there are more autistic people than
there are French people in the world. So if you want to write diverse
characters, an autistic character is something to consider seriously!
Good, accurate representation of autistic people in media helps autism
become more well-known by the general public. If people see us as humans
when they read about good autistic characters in books, they are more
likely to see us as humans when they come across one of us in the real
world, and to treat us accordingly. So by writing an autistic character,
you’re helping autistic people everywhere, in your own way.
OK, I’m convinced. But what is autism anyway?
Let’s start with what it is not! Autism is not a mental illness. This means this is not something you can somehow get later in life: you can start having depression at any stage in your life, but you are born autistic. Moreover, while depression and some other mental illness can be cured or be temporary, you are autistic for your whole life.
So what is it? It is considered a developmental disorder. This means that you born autistic, and that every stage of your development (baby-> toddler->child->teenager->adult->elderly person) is affected by autism, and will happen differently than that of a non-autistic person.
It is also considered a disability: there are things in of life that non-autistic people can do that are difficult or impossible for autistic people.
Finally, it is what we call a neurodivergence: this means that our brain is wired in a way that is different to that of most people. While it can make life harder for us in some regards, we are in no way lesser to non-autistic people, just different. We also have abilities and positive traits that others lack. And most the problems we encounter in our daily life are not because of autism per se, but because of a lack of awareness, understanding, and accommodations from others.
It is important to note here that autism is something that is still being researched, and not everyone agrees with all of the above definitions, but we’ll get into this discussion in another post!
So tell me, what are autistic people like?
First of all, there is a very important thing to keep in mind: We are all different. We are all our own person, and we are just as diverse (or maybe even more so) than non-autistic people are. We all have a mix-and-match assortment of autistic traits, traits that are not typically autistic, and personal quirks. All of these can have different expressions, different intensities and different triggers depending on the person, but also on the context and on the moment. So there is not one way to be autistic, but as many ways as there are autistic people (that is, a lot.)
With that in mind, I will list here some common autistic traits that we will be expanding on in future posts: this may serve as a table of contents of sorts.
Difficulties with everything social: understanding social rules, understanding non-verbal cues and conversational rules, and using them correctly is very difficult for most of us. We often struggle with making friends and finding romantic partners.
Difficulties with typical communication: a lot of autistic people have trouble with communicating verbally (this includes sign language), and some are sometimes or always non-verbal. A lot of us prefer alternative means of communication such as typing. Even when we do talk, we may do so oddly.
Sensory differences: We can be hyper- or hypo-sensitive to different sensory inputs. This translates to a lot of us as struggling with things like loud noises, bright lights or being touched.
Stimming: You may often find us flapping our hands, rocking back and forth, twirling our fingers, playing with our hair, pacing… or even things like hitting our heads or biting ourselves.
Meltdowns and shutdowns: When we are very overwhelmed, we can have violent meltdowns which can include shouting, crying, and self-harming stims, or shutdowns in which we completely stop reacting and responding to our environment.
Special interests: Most of us have one or several topics which we are very, very interested in. They can change with time or be lifelong. We can spend hours researching such topics and talking about them. A special interest can look obsessive to outside observers.
Need for routine: We often need to have our days planned in advance following a routine, and we can be very upset if there is a sudden change to that routine or if something unplanned happens.
Executive dysfunction: Getting started on an activity, figuring out and following all the steps which it involves, switching activities and making decisions can all be difficult things for us.
There are other common autistic traits which we’ll talk about later, but these are the main ones.
This will be all for an introductory post. If you have any question, our ask-box is open!
Hi Alice, odd question but: Do you believe asexuals belong in the LGBT community? I have a friend who identifies this way, but as a trans girl, I'm struggling to understand how she has to go through the same things as an LGBT person by being asexual. And struggle aside, I don't even see how asexuality is THAT different from heterosexuality, just with more... hesitation!? Maybe this sounds rude, but I know you've written about asexual people etc, and I wondered what you thought. No shade intended
Hi there. I’m glad you reached out to me about this because you must have really upset your friend by saying stuff like this to them.
It’s easy to see why not only cishet people, but also LGBT+ people, think that asexuality is fake. The world is awash with sex and sexual attraction. It’s everywhere. And everyone is supposed to want it and feel it. It’s so extremely normalised that the idea that someone could be literally UNABLE to feel sexual attraction is, to many people, absolutely bizarre and a joke.
Even if you acknowledge that asexuality is real, it’s also easy to see why you would be so quick to reject and get angry at asexual people who call themselves LGBT+. Because asexual people are not like you, are they. Unless they are trans, asexuals don’t have gender troubles, and unless they experience same-gender romantic attraction, asexuals don’t experience same-gender attraction! Lesbian, bi, gay etc people can all be joined together in their experience of same gender attraction, and all trans folks, binary and non binary, can be joined together in their experience of feeing a disconnect from their assigned birth gender.
The result? No one wants asexuals near them. People can’t relate. No one else feels the way asexuals do and people don’t think they should be part of the group. They’re not the same as you.
But oh god, they are not allowed in the cishet club either.
The first thing you need to try and unlearn is that asexuality is in any way similar to heterosexuality. It’s not. It’s so, so fucking not. It’s painful how different it feels to be asexual compared to being heterosexual. Telling an ace person that asexuality isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’ is about as accurate as saying being gay isn’t ‘THAT different from heterosexuality’. Being asexual means you do not experience sexual attraction, ever. EVER. And while that might seem easy to you, it’s an extremely painful and terrifying thing to learn about yourself, in a world where everyone is expected to have an array of sexual experiences, fall in love, get married, and anyone who doesn’t do that is strange and a freak.
Learning you are asexual can be terrifying. When you realise you’ve never had a crush, when all your friends have had ten each, you are terrified. When you pass the age where people have started dating and having sex and you still feel nothing - NOTHING - you are terrified. When you think about ever falling in love and the idea disgusts you, or you think about falling in love and you crave it, god you CRAVE it, but you know you can’t ever feel that, you are terrified. When you realise you will never be able to enjoy a normal romantic/sexual relationship, the ones full of passion like you see in the movies, and people will reject you because you can’t fancy them in that way, and there’s a higher chance for you than anyone else that you will simply die alone, without love, without children - you are terrified.
You think being ace is the same as heterosexuality? You think it’s an easy thing to learn about yourself? Explain the terror, then. I’m all ears.
The fact you see asexuality as 'hesitation’ is really horrifying to me. Asexuals aren’t attracted to the opposite gender but 'hesitant’ to act on it. Asexuals DO NOT feel attraction. To anyone. It’s not a choice. It’s not a way of life. It’s not the same as celibacy out of choice, or being a 'prude’, or waiting till marriage. It is ingrained in you, just like being gay is, just like being trans is. It is a part of you that no matter how hard you try to will it away, no matter how hard you try to persuade yourself otherwise, you cannot help it. You DO NOT feel attracted to ANYONE.
And in saying all this, I fully acknowledge that asexuals do not experience the extent of oppression that other LGBT+ folks do. There are no laws regarding asexuality. Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and other LGBT+ folks no doubt experience a higher level and intensity of systematic oppression to asexuals, more frequently go through hard experiences due to their orientation or gender. But since when did being LGBT+ become a competition for 'who’s the most oppressed’? Is that what LGBT+ is? You’re only allowed in the club if you’re 'oppressed enough’? If you’re 'gay enough’? If you’re 'trans enough’?
If you need persuading that asexuals do experience their own form of oppression, though, consider the number of asexuals who are coerced into sex in order to 'fix’ them. Consider the emotional pain that I have already discussed, of feeling that there is something fundamentally wrong and gross about you because you feel attracted to no one. Consider the number of asexuals who are hounded or emotionally abused by their families for failing to find partners. Consider the number of asexuals who force themselves to have sexual experiences, because it is the norm, because they don’t even know what asexuality is, because THEY think that they are just 'hesitant’, despite finding sex disgusting and feeling no desire to do it. Do you really think asexuals are just running around, free and happy and content in who they are? They aren’t. I’m not.
So go ahead. Cast aside asexuals if you want. Call them attention-seeking, call them special snowflakes. Ignore the pain they feel. Make them go through it alone, in pain, terrified of what they are. Why on earth would the LGBT+ community be a place to support people like that!?
Messages like the one you have just sent me gives me further reason to never talk about that part of myself. To just sit and cry about it at home day after day because I do not like myself. Because I feel that nobody will accept me or understand who I am. I could list the number of things people have said to me to discredit and laugh at this part of myself, but it’s people like you who make me embarrassed to talk about it, too scared to own a label and talk about it freely and openly.
I thought, going into this, that the LGBT+ community was one of total respect, understanding, and empathy. I learnt pretty quickly that it is not.
I send love to your asexual friend. I really, really do.
Disclaimer: I am very aware of the nuances of asexuality, of the differences between romantic/aesthetic/sexual attraction, but sadly it seems that many people can’t even grasp the basic concept of asexuality, so I don’t quite think they’re ready for that yet.
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”
I’ve been getting a lot of asks from people who want to know how to keep from losing it in the current chaos and darkness of American politics. I can’t tell you that. It’s hard. No one’s on the best footing these days, emotionally or mentally. These are strange days and they may get stranger yet.
But Mister Rogers was right. Look for the helpers - there are a LOT of them, everywhere. I know as well as anyone that dire news overwhelms the heart and mind, but don’t lose hope. Everywhere people are coming together and standing up in ways we haven’t really seen for a generation or more. That’s a good thing. That’s a *wonderful* thing. That’s the light in the darkness. There are helpers everywhere. Just make sure you are one of them.
“I wanna hear you! I want everyone here to yell as loud as they can, because I want fucking Donald Trump to hear everyone in Polska, everyone in Europe, everyone in Africa, everyone everywhere to tell this motherfucker to fuck off! I WILL NOT OBEY ANYTHING THAT THAT MAN SAYS! I believe in equality! I don’t believe in fucking racism, I don’t believe in fucking sexism, I DON’T BELIEVE IN FUCKING ALL THE BULLSHIT THAT HIS CAMPAIGN FUCKING REPRESENTS! FUCK THAT MOTHERFUCKER! NOT MY PRESIDENT! NOT MY PRESIDENT! NOT MY PRESIDENT!”
(21st January 2017)
(I was going to gif this but fuck that, you need the full experience, you need to hear and see him say it.)
i am so, so sick of seeing “support bi girls uwu” and “bi girls are cute and valid” plastered everywhere with ZERO (0) support for bi boys
so bi boys, if you spent your whole life thinking you were 100% straight but now want to explore being with other dudes, go for it.
if you thought you were gay and worry about being rejected by the LGBT community for trying out het relationships, there are a whole bunch of bi people like myself who will rally behind you.
if you’ve been taught by family members, conservative friends, or the media that kissing another guy, or having sex with another guy, or proposing to another guy is gross/wrong/sinful, fuck ‘em. there is nothing gross or wrong about men loving other men, period.
bi boys, whether you’ve known you’re bi all your life or are just now figuring it out – you are loved.
Fighter: “Why do you carry that bag with you everywhere? What’s in it?”
Druid: “Oh. An small earth elemental.”
Fighter: “….what. Why. How.”
Druid: “He is my companion!”
Fighter: “Why is he in a bag?!”
Druid: “Well, seeing as we are indoors, I don’t want him to track dirt into the inn.”
Druid: “It’s common courtesy.”
Druid: “And he’s napping so please don’t yell anymore.”
As weird as it was, there was nothing as funny as the surprise on our enemies’ face when she threw the bag at them, basically hit them with a ton of rocks, only to have her elemental attack them directly after.
Obviously times for many people have got harder, and people are nervous and fearful. And it’s not just in politics that things are tough. Usain Bolt has run his last Olympics, the Harry Potter films are finished, Piers Morgan's still alive. But, let’s look at the other side of the coin. Metallica’s new album is an absolute cracker. And on a deeper level, I’m optimistic. Wherever you see tragedy, you see bravery too. Wherever you see ordinary people, you see extraordinary ordinary people come to their aid. Today’s Red Nose Day and people are giving their hard-earned cash to people who they’ll never meet, but whose pain and fear they feel and want to fight. So, it’s not just romantic love which is all around. Most people still everyday, everywhere, have enough love in their heart to help human beings in trouble. Goods going to win. I’m actually sure of it.
Prime Minister Hugh Grant being extremely on point given the events of this week
i’ll pretend not to know how you are doing when my friends ask me about you
i’ll pretend not to miss you when that’s the only thing i feel
i’ll pretend that i don’t want to see you when everywhere i go yours is the only face i look for
i’ll pretend i don’t think of you when i am all alone when you are the only thing on my mind
i’ll pretend that the butterflies i feel in my stomach when you text me aren’t butterflies but leeches trying to suck my blood
i’ll pretend i never wrote a word about you when you are the only person i have ever written about
i’ll pretend i don’t feel anything for you when you are the only person that has ever made me feel
i’ll pretend that you don’t mean anything to me when you are the centre of my universe, have been for longer than you should be
i’ll pretend that i don’t even like you when i am in love with you
i’ll pretend that i have moved on from you like i never ever held onto you // JustScribbledWords
Could you do (separately if you want) a Monsta-x , Got7 and BTS reaction about you (their girlfriend) jealously asking them who's Kim Chi (Kimchi) because they love it? Thanks again! (She thinks Kimchi is a person!)
*confused af* wha? …what do you mean I can’t see kimchi anymore? It’s literally everywhere in Korea and very delicious…wait..do you…do you think that kimchi is a woman?
Never have I ever cheated on you…with anyone…or any food
OMG YOU THINK IM CHEATING ON YOU WITH KIMCHI?!?!?! LOL UR SO CUTE!
I-…..I do not know what your issue is? I am just hungry?
Why are you yelling at me?!?!?!?! DO YOU WANT ME TO SHARE?
Ok…but I’ll share! *gets smacked* WHAT IT’S JUST FOOD! WE’VE DONE IT BEFORE!?
Ok…but let’s talk about this…You’re telling me…that you are…that you are jealous of some food? Would you rather I eat you?
Baby why are you crying? Do you want some? Kimchi is super popular here so you should try it!
BRUH YOU THOUGHT IT WAS A PERSON TOO?!?! I ain’t even mad at you boo
jAGI PLS! I WONT EVER EAT KIMCHI AGAIN IM SORRY PLS
*In his mind* bitch where?
*confused and worried* Why are you looking through my messages searching for kimchi? It is in the fridge in the kitchen
…If it weren’t so cute…I would be mad….
Ok…but no? It is food…I like food… I love you but I am hungry so…
….I am so confused. Here eat some kimchi and quit calling me a stupid lying boob.
Uhm? What do you mean I am cheating on you with Korea’s delicacy?
ok but here is where you are wrong.. *tells the entire history of kimchi*
it’s tiring to be jewish right now. I know a lot of us are just feeling exhausted and quick to anger. it’s really hard to explain to others. I don’t really know what to say that will be any solace but I want us to not feel alone. I wanna invite people to reblog with things about judaism, any part of judaism, not limited to religious things if you aren’t religious, that are euphoric, connected, calm, etcetera.
mine to start off (not everyone will connect with every one of these obviously but the point is to add an outpouring of jewish beauty the way we each experience it)
kissing book spines and touching mezuzot (we greet hashem / each other / our identities everywhere)
finding mezuzot in other people’s houses
everyone’s different charoset recipes on pesach (so many sweetnesses)
when people in the same synagogue have different tunes to a song but the weird discord isn’t unpleasant
the first moments of kol nidre, seeing everyone in their best clothing, a sea of white fabric and pounding hearts and the most solemn I’ll feel all year probably
when kids don’t know quite how to blow a shofar
covering your eyes to light candles
that popular havdalah tune
eating figs or honey or pomegranates in accord with various occasions and the taste becoming more special
remembering to say a bracha / adding a new bracha to the ones that you say
the special “I have a tallit on” feeling
seeing someone with a cute kippah design
clothing that feels jewish (whether it be tzniut or tied to a jewish culture you belong to or another reason) and you walk around all day feeling floaty and connected
having a stranger unexpectedly wish you good yom tov / shabbat / chag sameach
seeing a stranger / family you don’t know being visibly jewish in public
klezmer clarinet / violin (I recognize longing and grief and ultimate joy in musical patterns that sound strange and corny to outsiders)
@yehudmood where is that post you made with the different links to videos and recordings of prayers/songs from different jewish communities? I feel like that would go with this post.
I don’t wanna be dreamy and ethereal, I don’t want to be untouchable. I wanna be as raw and real as you can get, almost as if though you can taste my essence everywhere I go, like a sangria and vanilla extract. You can smell me like a hot July night with the scent of charcoal and bubblegum. and see me like the blazing sky at sunset and the heat waves on a hot day, hear my voice echoes the way an engine roars and a firework pops. Feel me like the sun dripping on your back and that warm step in the shower when your feet are aching. I want to be utterly palpable and enveloping. I want to be felt. Unforgettable, and utterly sensational.
How I imagine Darkiplier and AntiSepticEye getting ready for Halloween
"I was thinking we could do something a bit different...You know how in Mark's old videos, and in "relax", you emerged and scared fans everywhere?"
"I was thinking that this year, you and I can do that sorta thing together. I've always wanted to know how cool it would be to drive people insane by showing my real face..."
"Oh my God, that sounds like an amazing idea, man! We're TOTALLY doing that!"
"See you on Halloween!"
(30 days later)
"Woohoo, hell yeah! Halloween time! Now I just gotta wait for Dark!"
(Several minutes pass by)
"Dark? Dark! Where the hell are you, ya douchebag?! I'm gonna scare people without you!"
"Screw it, I'm off on my own!"
"Eh, sucks to be him..."
"Aw man, October's over. Eh, I had the best time of my life! Well, back to my chamber."
"Ready to scare people this year?"
"Dafuq dude? Where were you all damn month?!"
"Ya know, wearing dresses, shaved my beard, wrote in my diary, and check it out! I even got a new dog! I called her "punk dog". Cool, huh?"
"I didn't agree to this..."
"Are you...f***in' kidding me right now, man? You're telling me that while I was hacking into Jack's Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, AND YouTube accounts, scaring the LIVING HELL out of everyone...YOU...were skipping around in a F***ING dress and pretending to be a highschool girl in your GODDAMN DIARY?! ALL F***ING OCTOBER?!"
"Wait, October passed already?!"
"Aw, goddammit! This whole time, I thought it was September!"
Exploring Ethiopia with Photographer Eyerusalem Jiregna
This post is in celebration of Women’s History Month. Throughout March, we’ll be highlighting the stories of women doing extraordinary things around the world.
Born and raised in Ethiopia’s capital city, Addis Ababa, 23-year-old Eyerusalem Jiregna (@eyerusalem_a_jiregna) knows a thing or two about fast-paced environments. But she also hopes that her photographs might inspire people to pause and look — really look — at the visual wonders that could be waiting around any corner. “I know that people have busy lives,” Eyerusalem says, “but when we’re rushing everywhere, we’re not seeing what’s around us. I want people to appreciate what’s in front of them, and I hope that my pictures can help make that happen.”
While she finds photographing people rewarding, Eyerusalem does find herself photographing women and girls more often than men. “Motherhood in Ethiopia is so significant, and the women here work so hard,” she says. “I want to try to share their stories through my photographs.”