I just finished watching the first two seasons of UnREAL. At the end of season two, one of the characters – a very non-maternal woman – finds out that she can’t have children. She goes on a rampage, yelling at everyone to leave the room and then destroying I can’t even imagine how much money in pricey equipment.
One person braves her wrath, and when the character spits out that she can’t have children, the friend-person (it’s a complicated relationship) says, “You wanted kids?”
The angry, horrible, wonderful, heartbroken, disaster of a woman says, her voice cracking, “I wanted the choice.”
And that’s it. That’s it, exactly.
UnREAL got it right. How I Met Your Mother got it right.
Choosing not to have kids is one thing. Having everyone else tell you that you can’t – no matter what avenue you attempt – is cruel.
I have no idea if I want to be a mom. I really, truly don’t. I just wanted the goddamn choice.