i want my wife to look like that one day

Introducing TD and Chastity Play, What i did wrong......

To me FLR has SO many different angles and when introducing your partner its important to be careful. See where as i took my time, slowly introduced more and more bits into it before eventually plucking up the courage to put the cage on and show her, i still made some real big mistakes.

See my wife is not a Domme, i dont really want to know about her previous life before me but im kinda guessing im the first person that really wants to explore all these roads and possibility with her. I originally made this Blog to share things i found sexy in some way shape or form with her and looking back now i should have kept it more Vanilla and slowly introduced my interest in things like pegging. See you follow all these people then one day they reblog some Sissy stuff, some Anal Torture, Some Ball Busting. From my wife’s perspective she probably sees that and thinks FUCKING HELL.

The reason i am writing this is because somethings have been lost in translation, see she was under the impression that i wanted to become her bitch, a groveling sissy whore who wanted to wear her clothes and make up and suck strapons all day long. Now if that’s your thing im all for it but that wasn’t what i wanted.  

I came across chastity play and tease and denial play a while back, i have always been aware of bondage and always had a thing for tying or being tied up sexually. I saw it as a fun way for a male and female to have a laugh, be intimate and grow together as a couple. As much as i love her Locking me up, tying me up, teasing me and laughing as i quiver on the bed in a desperate need to cum only to deny me for another day i also would love to do the same for her. Its about exploring each others bodies, each others fantasies.

Its only fun for me if its fun for her, if she wants to lock me for a day, a week, a month or a year ill play the game as long as she finds it exiting and gets a kick out of it. If she doesn’t want it its just not going to work. But don’t give up that easily pick it up and put it down, its keeps it exiting. After a chat with my wife in the week she said she likes the cage but doesn’t want a bitch of a husband, so i explained the above and below to her and now i think it makes sense.

I am writing this because i get lots of messages from people asking how did i break the news? how did i get her on board? Truth is we are still working on it, still exploring it. I haven’t been in the cage for months, as real life is more important. This morning after our chats and fun this week i put it on.

I guess im very lucky to have such an amazing wife, i put it on gave her the keys and she smiled. That’s all i wanted. She is one of a kind, trusting and fucking gorgeous.

For anyone out there toying with this i hope this has helped, below are few images i have stolen from others. I hope they don’t mind. Good Luck and go have some fun.

I love making her moan, and its true i work harder when my dick is locked up and im working to earn a release, its common knowledge you put more effort into thngs if your getting something in return. (Or at least you think you are) 

Then there is this, after a night of teasing and a great time she didnt let you cum, your going to wake up in the morning and WANT to do this for her because your still super horny. You know your not going get to cum but pleasing her is at least some sexual activity.

Then on the other hand there is nothing sexier than doing the same to her, make her feel how you feel, i remember once back in the early days i edged my wife and then just turned the wand off and said nah, night night. She was mortified, grabbing my cock, trying her hardest to get me to fuck her. In the morning she woke up horny and we fucked. But it can work both ways.

This is also one that i agree with, the lust i have towards her, the want to constantly touch her, to kiss her its just amazing. Then once you cum its takes a good few days to get that back. Its the strongest drug i have ever felt and its awesome. 

I love it when she feels sexy the sexier she feels the more she glows the better the experience. 

Turn it into a game, a guessing game and have fun with it.

Tease him, if he is anything like me he will enjoy it.

But most importantly talk about it, discuss it find out what you both want from it and just have fun.

I guarantee it will bring you closer together. 

You see these two? This is my beautiful wife Gracia, i was so lucky to find her, look at her i can’t even believe she’s mine, speaking of beautiful this is my little one Elicia, she’s my daughter! She looks just like her dad isn’t she? She’s the cutest.
You see that asshole over there? That’s my best friend, i still can’t believe he cried the day of my funeral, i guess he really liked me.
I mean i’m not mad, i’m watching them from up here but i wanted to cry in my daughter’s marriage and get old my with my beautiful Gracia, I gotta admit i wanted to see Al’s body and how ugly Ed’s arm looks. 

I guess at the end of the day my sacrifice was worth it to give my wife and daughter a better place to live.


So….this is really me.

Well, who I want to be.

So I know I don’t look amazing in this photo -it’s very warm in my apartment right now, and really, I just feel like talking.

Normally I don’t want to talk about my life, But lately I’ve been coming out to people, so whatever. My closest friends know. My mom knows. My brother and his wife know. My dad does not…scared to tell him. And frankly, if you randomly are looking find this photo and want to give me a hard time, what are you looking for?

Sorry if there is too much nose. Maybe one day I’ll fix that. Also I really need to learn eye-makeup…..so terrible. Plus, I had bad acne growing up. I’m never going to look flawless….and I don’t have a brush -so my hair is a mess. (I think finding a new brush is the easiest part…I used to have long hair, threw them out though when I lost my hai….puppy…yes…puppy. Real hair.)

I’m not posting this picture for anyone other than myself.

I’ve been having a lot of dysphoria and anxiety lately. Can’t sleep. Can’t eat. On the positive side I am trying to lose some weight. I will not claim to know what every trans-girl goes through. I know what I want. This is just my experience. When I take everything off I hate myself because it’s not who I am. Maybe I’m just an mannish looking dude in panties. That’s not who I am in my mind. So, I’ll go with my opinion.  I am always looking for help. If you live in Toronto and would like to help I might be up for it. (Totally need a shopping friend)

I’ve been on a stress leave from work for a couple weeks. It’s given me lots of time to be myself. I’m so happy for that. Has my stress gone down? No.

I have two great friends who have been amazing. You know who you are.

I went to the MAC store downtown and (I thought I was brave) got a makeover in the busiest mall in Canada a few days ago. They helped, but I need so much practice. I was “brave” on a couple other things that day. I was happy that day.

(Sidenote -Absolutely NO judgement at MAC - it was fantastic. I felt really safe).

Fuck eye-makeup. I’m just buying a cool pair of sunglasses and we’ll be done with it all.

My life has been messed up trying to hide all these years. It’s going to be messed up for a while. Great job I think I won’t be able to handle much longer. Constant anxiety. Being too tall for…sigh…heels… But this is the path I want to take. It’s the road to being happy for me. Screw what other people think. I’ll make new friends. I’ll make new family. (I’ll probably be sad in two days, but my emotions are confident right now).

Thank you for reading. If this helps in anyway (I doubt it will) please let me know, and maybe we can talk.

Thanks for reading. Thanks for following.


anonymous asked:

I can't believe how many ppl can't read between the lines when you say you want to hangout. It's all they see on your blog. They just skip the part about him watching. With your looks. Your body. Your sexual desires really make me wish my wife and I were near you. Idk how much you are into couples like that. But your are by far one of the top good looking girls you have their own blog on here by far!

Thank you so much oh my gosh
You made my day. I really am not shy and don’t hide really much if anything at all.

Random Memes
  • “Have you read the newspaper stories about my wife?”
  • “Please don’t argue. You have to leave right now, you aren’t safe here.”
  • “The way you flirt is shameful.”
  • “We can’t invite her. Mother hates her.”
  • “Why did you scream like that?”
  • “She’s been missing since Friday and you’re not worried?”
  • “Perhaps you’ll take me out one day - or do I have to make an appointment?”
  • “Do you ever think we should just stop doing this?”
  • “You’re too good for this world.”
  • “It looks like you’re in trouble there. Can I help?”
  • “I just want a nice, easy life. What’s wrong with that?”
  • “Quick, hide behind the sofa!”
  • “A boy needs his father.”
  • “What do you remember about your mother?”
  • “There’s someone in the house!”
  • “You’ve only heard his point of view. You never asked mine.”
  • “What do you mean, he’s escaped?”
  • “He couldn’t have died at a worse time.”
  • “For some reason, I’m attracted to you.”
  • You think I’m being paranoid but the truth is I’m worth nothing to her alive.“
  • "Are you taking his side against me?”
  • “I don’t want to have a baby.”
  • “If you get me his phone, I might reconsider.”
  • “I’m telling you - the guy was a complete stranger, just walked up and gave me the bag.”
  • “I dread the sound of his key in the lock.”
  • “Sweetheart, what did you bury in the garden?”
  • “You don’t want to live in a society like this, yet you don’t want to do anything about it!”
  • “Don’t upset your father, not now.”
  • “No! I’m tired of doing what you say.”
  • “H-how long have you been standing there?”
  • “I think the room is bugged.”
  • “What a thing to say - and on my birthday!”
  • “Oh yeah, you really told him, didn’t you?”
  • “Is there something you want to tell me, son?”
  • “Midnight, on the bridge. Come alone.”
  • “I’m sorry if it upsets you, but I’m going to marry her.”
  • “How, exactly, did you think that having an affair would help our marriage?”
  • “If you leave now, you lose everything.”
  • “She’s old and it’s about time she died.”

You know if I get married one day I want someone to ask me and my husband what our otps are. And like him just sit there and say “ me and my wife duh ” and I just sit there and quietly mumble something like makoharu or destiel or something and my husband just there and look at me and just kind of sigh and nod like ‘of course that’s your answer’ like he would know I’d say something like that

Me at eight years old imagining my future wedding: I don’t know what I’ll look like when I’m older so I’m just going to imagine a really pretty 20 something year old that I want to look like some day, oh and I’m imagining the scene from my husbands eyes just so I can get a feel for how I’ll look walking down the aisle! Ok she doesn’t look like me much at all but she is really beautiful, and ok my husband is just a kind of faceless right now but I’m still really straight! I don’t want a wife and to walk down the aisle to each other in our dresses I just really hope one day I’ll look that pretty for my husband! Haha I’m so straight!!!


He had known for a while now that his marriage was to be arranged. He was the eldest of the Mikaelson family and set to inherit everything since his brother Finn had died. He met her though the night that they were to be wed. He was sitting next to her in the private car when she spoke. He didn’t even know her name and that was the worst part for him. That he barely knew his wife. But he did know that he didn’t want to be cruel like his father was to his mother. He would respect the woman next to him as he got to know her. And perhaps even to love her one day. He looked at her. “I’m extremely nervous. I’ve known about this marriage since my brother Finn died. But that doesn’t make this any less awkward. I don’t even know your name. And for that I am sorry.”

Her eyes met his own for a brief moment before she looked down at her hands in her lap, the ring on her finger still feeling extremely heavy and foreign to her. “Hayley.” She said gently. “And you’re Elijah. I was kind of forced to learn a few things about you before this all happened. Your name, birthday, favorite food, schedule…” If she was going to be a good wife and please him, then she needed to know the basics at least. Obeying people wasn’t really Hayley’s thing, but the marriage was going to help her family and his so she knew better than to act up. “It’s nice to finally meet you face to face.” She smirked. He didn’t look as scary as she imagined.


What a ruffian!  

It seems that John collapsed suddenly after a light breakfast of tea and kumquat marmalade toast.

But that one, she takes the biscuit.

Queenscliff used to be such a select suburb, before the day-trippers and the riff raff moved in.

Unusually devoted, isn’t she?  For an ex-wife.

Was that the baby?

…..Narrowly avoiding my Ming vase.  Most unlady-like.

I really miss Aunt P and her one liners, as well as her look of disapproval that she uses to hide the fact that she’s a big softie. And one day I want one of those one liners to be-

Are you stepping out with the Inspector?  Jack and Phryne are getting it on. It’s not exactly socially convenient but I can’t stop them phracking now.

Words Never Spoken By James Fraser

Claire: What’s the matter?

Jamie: I spend my days and nights flattering a man so I can undermine his cause. When I come home with a problem I want to be able to turn to my wife!

Slams book stomps out of room.


Yeah. Uh huh. Whatever dudes. Don’t know who that good lookin’ guy is glaring at Claire but it’s not Jamie Fraser. Looks more like the Laird of Lallybroch who unfortunately appeared last season. Reminds me of this guy:

No one needed a space alien on the Flintstones and I think there’s enough drama in Gabaldon’s books without adding petulant husband behavior.


Some men just want to watch the world burn.

  You look nervous, it’s the scars isn’t it ? Wanna know how I got them ? I had a wife, beautiful like you. Who gambles. And gets in deep with the sharks. One day they carve her face, we’ve got no money for surgeries. She can’t take it. I just want to see her smile again. I just want her to know I don’t care about the scars. So I put a razor in my mouth and do this to myself… And you know what ? She can’t stand the sight of me… She leaves ! See, now I see the funny side. Now I’m always smiling.