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dating advice: the “captain america” rule

Context: I grew up in a family of nerds, and superheroes were always a really big part of my childhood. Captain America was a favorite, and he kind of became my family’s standard for good behavior and just generally being a Nice Person. (If one of the kids started a fight they’d get hit with, “What would Captain America think of how you’re acting?”, stuff like that.)

So when I got to high school and started dating, my mom told me something that sounds funny but in retrospect actually turned out to be really good advice:

“Date someone who treats you the way Captain America would. Never settle for less.” 

And this has actually helped me so much in my dating life, through high school and into my adult years, because even if it’s a little silly, it’s been really helpful to have that standard in the back of my mind when I’m first going into a relationship. 

Would Captain America ignore my calls? Would Captain America forget my birthday? Would Captain America get mad at me for cancelling a date because a family emergency came up? If the answer is no, then I know that the person I’m currently dating does not meet my standards, and that I need to break things off before they get too serious.

And your standard absolutely does not have to be Captain America, specifically. It can be any person, male or female, real or fictional, who is known for being respectful and considerate. It can even be an imaginary “soulmate” that you make up yourself. The point is to have a specific idea of how you expect to be treated by your romantic partners, and to refuse to compromise or settle for less. (Just make sure you’re holding yourself to the same standards – you can’t expect to date superheroes if you’re going to treat your partners the way a supervillain would.) This is a really good way to keep yourself from falling into bad relationships where you aren’t treated with the respect and care you deserve.

TL;DR: You deserve to date people who are respectful and considerate of you. You deserve a Captain America. Don’t settle for less. 

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literature moodboards Atonement by Ian McEwan

“It wasn’t only wickedness and scheming that made people unhappy, it was confusion and misunderstanding; above all, it was the failure to grasp the simple truth that other people are as real as you. And only in a story could you enter these different minds and show how they had an equal value." 

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Ikuya and this Finding Nemo cake

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“Get To Know Me” Meme

Favorite Movie [2/5] - A Walk To Remember

“Jamie has faith in me. She makes me want to be different, better”

So basically what im getting out of this whole 4chan business is that 4chan is Hydra and Tumblr is Shield and this whole raiding drama is basically the plot of Captain America 2

One minor thing that still really annoys me about Civil War: When Sam, Steve, and Sharon are watching the news broadcast about the UN attack, the anchor refers to the Winter Soldier as Sergeant James Buchanan Barnes.  So apparently it’s common knowledge that Bucky was the Winter Soldier?  So it must have been in the leaked HYDRA/SHIELD documents and either not or relatively easily encrypted?  But Steve and Sam still refer to Bucky as just their “missing person” in Age of Ultron and neither Tony nor any of the other Avengers have any questions for Steve about his friend being an infamous assassin for HYDRA?

Okay, well maybe that information wasn’t yet decrypted during Age of Ultron, and it happened at some point between films.  I still don’t understand why no one ever mentions it.  You’d think someone might have thrown it in Steve’s face after he said “The safest hands are still our own,” considering that’s a pretty big secret to have kept from the team and they had to find it out via a data dump.  Or did he tell them between films?  And nobody had any questions about what HYDRA had made Bucky do?  Tony didn’t get FRIDAY to run facial rec on security cameras all around the world to try and help Steve find his missing bestie?  Was Thor not around to offer that Heimdall take a look?  Vision didn’t have any ideas?

While we’re at it, are you telling me Tony Stark didn’t have this information decrypted before Zemo or anyone else?  It took him less than a day to hack into SHIELD and find out about their secret weapons.  It didn’t even take conscious effort of his part, so it can’t be that he was too busy.  Did he not look into it to try and show Pepper that he could give this stuff up?  Would decrypting files really bother her more than remaking all his suits?

What’s more, in Civil War, Steve has apparently been certain that Bucky personally killed the Starks for some time, and has been hiding it from Tony.  When did he figure that out?  I know Zola told him that HYDRA had Howard and Maria killed, but in the time leading up to Civil War’s release it was a minor fandom debate as to whether or not Bucky was the killer precisely because Zola’s monologue never specified how they died.  Did Steve decrypt this information on his own?  Did he find it at one of the HYDRA bases the Avengers raided and destroy the evidence?  What is going on?

It just bugs me.