hello! sorry to bother you, and its fine if you dont want to answer, but after seeing what you said about pre transition pictures i have a question: if i (as a cis person) have pictures of my trans friend before they were out, should i delete them? i know it would probably vary from person to person, but do you have a general opinion? thanks for your time!
Hello, anon! I think a good rule of thumb is to ask your trans friend how they want you to treat any old photos of them that are in public or could be seen by other people. That could mean deleting photos, or simply untagging them from social media. Yep, it will differ from person to person.
As for private photos that you have no intention of showing anyone else, that could be a little tricky. Things we think are private or secret often have a bad habit of becoming public.
It would be a nice gesture to ask your friend how they feel about old photographs. For some trans people, life in the closet is especially traumatic, and any reminder of that time can be very triggering. For others, it’s more of call back to an especially weird time in their lives, and might even be a source of humor.
For Trans people themselves, I do recommend that you keep at least one old photo of yourself prior to transition. There will be times when you feel really down on yourself, and it’s nice to see photographic evidence of how far you’ve come. Not just in terms of a physical transition, but also all of the little indicators that point to how much you’ve grown and gotten comfortable and happy with yourself as a person.
Hi! Could you recommend some good manga to read? Something similiar to Vampire Knight perhaps?
Oh gosh, it’s been a while since I read manga so my list might be a bit outdated for you. If any of my fellow VK fans would like to reblog this with some of their own suggestions, please feel free!
I do remember one series that was very short but reminded me a bit of VK, which was Bara to Juudan. It’s another vampire and vampire hunter story, but only one volume long. I actually liked Psychic Detective Yakumotoo, from what I read of it. I also feel like anyone who likes Zeki would love Chihaya and Taichi from Chihayafuru, although some chapters for that series were never scanlated so most people had to watch the anime first unless they actually bought the manga. (Bonus points for the anime version of Chihayafuru having the same VA as Zero for Taichi! His character is so great.)
I actually kept track of all my manga herebut take the ratings with a grain of salt - it’s been a few years and my taste has changed quite a bit :P Some manga I liked then I would find gross now rofl.
Sorry I couldn’t be of more help! I’ve been meaning to get back into reading manga, I kind of stopped for a while when I started working because I got back into reading regular books more - comes with working in a library lol especially one that doesn’t have many people reading manga. Other series that I just liked in general were Lovely Complex (always a classic), Horimiya (I just remember finding it really cute? I never finished it though), Hibi Chouchou (also never finished, but it was so cute), Pandora Hearts, Dengeki Daisy… but I mean all of these are several years old, so. You’ve probably read them. D;
Anyone else from the fandom got some suggestions for my anon friend here?
I mean, like… Yeah… But I was going more for lyrics over genre.
Like, for example, Dark Paradise has a bunch of what could be angsty post-kak-dying lyrics.
Donut hole is great, because a) THAT NAME. and b) the lyrics…… are literally just Jotaro trying to remember Kakyoin after him being dead for so long. The whole song is good, but I’ll narrow it down to what I feel is the best descriptor for them (it also works with old joseph and caesar because holy shit, but…)
*these are my translation, so bear with me*
If I know nothing at all,
I can’t hurt you now, can I?
If there were thoughts that never died,
Would that be a relief?
I can’t hope on things passed
So just give me something to bury
Goodbye, we’ll never meet again
I guess that’s why I feel like this
The tears come pouring out, and there’s nothing I can do
There’s now a gaping hole in my heart
It’s the only proof you were here
And yet I’m still so empty
My heart is torn in pieces, and there’s nothing I can do
Okay, last thing well not really but for now it is. I’ve
seen many posts, well quite a few, about what the sequel needs. We’ve got a
year left and honestly there’s so much that could possibly happen (plus if I
remember correctly, the next book is coming out too). And while I agree that
Disney should try and actually have a canon
queer couple and not pull any tricks or other small random things like the
need for Cameron and Booboo to actually
sing or to bring in the other children from the Isle. Or most importantly,
just more character development for practically everyone because all of these children need it. I feel like the
most important thing that needs to happen, whether in the next book, in the
Wicked World shorts (though I highly doubt it) or even in the sequel, are
apologies. Because everyone has been wronged in some shape way or form, and no one should be getting away with it.
The obvious first one is King Adam/Beast
apologizing to Mal, Jay, Evie and Carlos or just other future children of the
Isle that come to Auradon. I talked about this before (though untagged to avoid
any drama really), and I agree with the fandom, to a degree. What Adam did was
wrong, no doubt about it. He’s made a pretty shitty decision and even if he had
some good intentions (I really wished he talked this out more with someone), he
just…messed up. But it wasn’t like he could just, take the children of the
villains away from their parents. Whatever legal system this world has, I highly
doubt they’d do that. But subjecting not only the parents but the children into
unhealthy living conditions, all because you wanted to keep your enemies in one
place. He’s partially responsible for how ‘corrupt’ (and I use this term
loosely) the children are. The parents are still mostly the blame because,
well, they’re villains, and they go on and on about how a villain should act.
Though Ben is crowned king, I’m not even sure when he’s actually going to take the throne officially. So until
then, Beast has got a lot of making
up to do.
Piggbacking off of that about Ben, let’s talk
about the second apology that needs to happen; Mal and Ben need to apologize to
Audrey for publicly humiliating her in front of the ENTIRE school (and another
school too considering it was a tourney game) because of Ben serenading Mal.
And yes, I know this was under the effect of the love-spell, but there still
should’ve been a lick of common sense to not sing to another girl when you’re
dating someone else. And even after the spell was worn off of him, he still
could’ve apologized to Audrey, even privately. And Mal in general, because
those two have a deep history, and
honestly it’s just like being slapped in the face when you’re being wronged by
the child of the woman that wronged your entire family. And that little bow
near the end of the movie does not
cut it. There’s another issue I have about that mistreatment to Audrey but I’ll
leave that for another time. And yeah, Ben didn’t really seem interested in
being with Audrey, but it’s still a douche move to kind of do that (and Ben is
a sweet child, but my son no).
I want Audrey and Mal to apologize for Ben to
using him to his advantage. If you watched Auradon Secrets (and if I remember
correctly), Audrey dated Ben mostly because of appearance sake. She was mostly
concerned about her little popular world. I think that at some point, she
probably did fall for Ben (and honestly she probably was heartbroken about what
happened, in regards to the previous point. But I will also defend my pretty
pink princess). And we all know the reason for Mal. I don’t really remember if
she really apologized, but I feel like an apology should happen and it shouldn’t
be swept under the rug because ‘he makes you happy’. Ben deserves better than
Jay, Evie, and Carlos also need to apologize to
Audrey for following along with Mal. Yes, they were going along with the plan,
yes it’s what they know, but they need to apologize.
I would really love for Jane to apologize to the
rotten/core four for basically just, being a bit of a hypocrite. Though I see
her as following the crowd, because it’s high school so follow the cliché social
pyramid, and she’s impressionable/low self-esteem, she was wrong too. She
shouldn’t have been all ‘buddy buddy’ with Mal because she changed her style
(even though Mal was using her too at one point) and then just turn on her the
next. I think the popularity did get to her head, and she was slightly punished
for it by Mal. I still feel like somewhere she’s guilty because she did a dumb,
and she just needs to apologize, to at least start to make things right.
I want Lonnie and Doug to apologize for kinda
just, bailing out on the rotten/core four after the events of the parents’ day
scene. These were the two kids that seemed to have more faith in the children
of the villains than everyone else (besides Ben but he’s obvious). And yeah
Doug kinda did attempt, but he got called back by Chad. I mean, it was kind of
an ‘us vs. them’ thing, but again, you can’t just sweep this under the rug by
dancing with Evie in the last song.
I want Chad and Audrey to apologize for not
having enough faith in Ben about trusting the four. Now Audrey, I understand
why she wouldn’t really trust them (or at least Mal mostly), but not much for
Chad. Then again, there is still the whole ‘they’re bad news, can’t trust them’,
and whatever else they were told about the children of the villains. But
honestly, if they were Ben’s friends (and I use that lightly too), they should’ve
had just a bit more faith in him.
I want Chad to apologize for all four in
general, but mostly to Evie. He used her and that was wrong, and to call her a ‘gold
digger’, like no that’s messed up. Again, I still want Chad to apologize to all
four (though he hasn’t been super rude to Carlos, so praise for that), but it
runs deeper with Evie in my opinion.
And finally, and this is also for the sake of @geniiied, I would like Jay to apologize to Jordan and Mal about the lamp
thing. Though it may have been because of his kleptomania (something that I see
him struggling to work on), I feel like an apology is in order for 1) framing
your best friend in a theft you did and 2) stealing someone’s home.
I know that even with these apologies, there’ll be people in
this fandom that won’t change their opinions about characters (like Jane and
Chad for example), and I get that. All of these kids did something wrong,
whether it was big or small, and it shouldn’t be swept under the rug or just
played off as a ‘oh that was because you were evil but now you’re good so it’s
all good’. Taking responsibility is just the first step of growing up, and it’s
just really important for everyone.
And even if all of these apologies aren’t met (which will be
a bummer) as long as some of them are
handled, I would appreciate that more than anything else in the world.
in a domestic life with a dog and being happy.
Bucky x Reader
of fluffy. Flashback in italic
Bucky never thought that one day he would have what he has now. Wasn’t just the feeling of
happiness was to know that he was safe from all the chaos and despair of the
Your head is resting
in his lap and you are sound sleep holding his metal hand close to your chest.
In his right side he watched as the golden retriever is playing by herself with
some stuffed animal. “Sky what you say we go for a walk after i put mommy on
bed?“ The dog shakes her tail at the sound of his voice.
Gently he picks you
up and take you to the bedroom and before he leaves he kiss your forehead and
write a little note about where he is in case you wake up before he comes back. As he is walking on the street he saw the park where
the two of you meet was the day he start to have faith in life again.
The day was cloudy and cold wasn’t the best day to be outside.
But in that small park was when he almost could feel ordinary. People usually
don’t pay attention to him sitting in a bench reading a book, kids do but they usually
look at him with curious eyes a few of them even wave at him but nothing much.
He can be in peace there without judgments.
Suddenly he felt something wet in his hand looking
down he see a puppy with a big pink bow in the head "Hello princess where
is your owner?” the puppy just put her head in his hand asking for affection
and start to shake her tail for him. He couldn’t resist.
He started to caress the head of the puppy when he sees
a girl coming to his direction. “Sky here, you shouldn’t run away from me
are you trying to kill me?” Bucky is surprised when you pick up the dog
and sit by his side on the bench. No one ever tries to talk to him anymore.
“i am so sorry about that, she just have so much
energy i barely can keep up with her ."Bucky smiles at you and continue to
pet Sky. “It’s no problem she is a sweetheart. “You start to play with the ears
of the dog and introduce yourself to him.
"She usually doesn’t like strangers but she came
running from in your direction. You must be something special Bucky.” He
watches as you blush saying the words and he can denies that his cheeks have
some color too. “I doubt.” you smile affectionately at him “No,
animals know when people are good or not. She runs into you because she trusts
You two stay talking all afternoon about normal things
like coffee and movies, he never felt so alive and himself like in that
afternoon. You were nice and kind to him always smiling at his jokes and never
letting him feel uncomfortable. He felt closer to you in that one day that
anyone that he met in this new life.
He insist in walk the two of you at home and gave his
jacket when he notice that you were cold “Thank you so much for escort me
home and for lend me your jacket.” you saying kiss his cheek. He felt
himself blushing again “I have to thank you was a fun an afternoon. The
most fun I had in a long time”
He smiled fondly at
the memories and after a half hour walking he comes back home. He finds you in
bed reading a book. "How was the walk?” you ask putting the book
down. Before he answer he jumps in the bed with Sky coping his moves “Was
nice, we saw the park that we met and chase a few squirrels.”
Bucky put you close
to his chest and start to play with your hair as Sky lies next you on the floor.
His almost sleeping when he hears your voice “Have i ever told about the
day i got Sky? “he whisper a no and waits for you to continue "I found her
on a cardboard box three weeks before we met , she was so thin… so lost that i
knew that i had to love her.”
“After two weeks
taking care of her, she was the most happy and health puppy i ever met but she
was so scared of everyone kids, women and especially men’s. One day she saw you
across the park and run away in your direction so fast. I was so confused at
first but after half hour talking to you i knew what she saw in you. You are
amazing person Bucky.“
He is lost at your
words. He never even thought that Sky wasn’t always that friendly puppy that he
met two years ago.” Was fate.“ he says simply, he never believed in
this kind of thing but you always bring the optimistic in him "I don’t
think was fate. She knew that you be the best daddy for her. I am only a
Bucky smiles at your
words “Baby girl you are the whole prize and you know it i would be lost
without you. We both would “You place your lips on his and trace your tongue in
his bottom lip. Bucky put his hands on the small of your back and put you in
The kiss starts
slowly and sweet but fast became more rough and passionate. Before things can
go any further he breaks the kiss and says "I am going to put Sky out of
the room stay still.” He says taking you out of his lap. After you both
are done, he watches as you sleep so peacefully in his chest until he falls asleep.
3 weeks later
Bucky wakes up with
soft licks on his cheek and your voice saying “Good morning daddy. “Bucky
opens his eyes and you see you in his t-shirt with tray in your hands. As you
sit in bed he asks "What did i do to deserve all this?” you hand him
a cup of coffee and place a kiss on his cheek.
He starts to eat but
soon realize that you barely touch your beagle and is quieter than normal.
“What is the problem doll?” he watches as you take a deep breath and
smile at him” I have something to tell you…it’s nothing bad.“ he pulls
you closer” You can tell me anything.” he places a kiss your forehead and
wait for you to say something.
“Sky is going to
get a brother or a sister. I am pregnant.” he doesn’t know what say he
just put you in to a kiss and place a kiss your stomach “Hey baby me and
your mommy love you very much.” You put him in another kiss and ask him
“Are you happy?” you wipe a few tears in his eyes as he shakes his
head a yes “ You don’t have any idea of how much i want this since the
40’s i wanted a family. Thank you so much doll.”
You two are cuddling
in the sofa with Sky receiving little pats in the head by Bucky just enjoying
the silence and the feeling of proximity. “Do you think i am going to be a good
father?“ before you can answer Sky barks you just laugh "This respond
your question baby?”
Bucky never knew that he could be so happy and all thanks to you and that
beautiful golden retriever that one day saw him for what he really was a good
man with a pure heat and not the monster that he thought he was.
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The voting is finally over and we have 9.600 MILLION votes! That’s just insane! So, here’s a quick fic to celebrate. Hope you will enjoy it!
Set in Season 5 (Sorry for any mistakes, no beta.)
“Felicity!” Oliver shouted after her, “Wait! I know you can hear me!”
Felicity cursed under her breath but stopped walking. She smoothed her red gown and slowly turned around to look at Oliver.
“I just wanted to congratulate you on the successful project,” she said, mastering a tight smile. “Children’s clinic is a wonderful cause.”
“I have to go now,” she interrupted quickly, “I’ve got a call from work, and you have guests to… entertain.”
“Felicity, that was just a sponsor. A married sponsor. She was just being friendly.”
“You don’t have to explain yourself. You’re a single man. I just, you know, the two of you…empty hallway…”
“Yeah, she cornered me after I left the restroom,” Oliver rubbed the back of his neck. “Nothing has happened,” he added quickly.
“You really don’t have to do that,” Felicity assured. “I broke up with you and gave back the ring. You’re free to move on. Preferably, with a single woman because affair with a married one would hurt your political career,” she trailed off, not really looking at him.
“Felicity, you know me, you know how I feel,” Oliver spoke softly.
“It’s been almost 8 months. It’s really fine, Oliver. It makes sense,” she nodded to herself and moved to leave.
“Wait,” Oliver said quickly, “Just-“ he made one step toward her, “You’re my always,” he almost whispered, “There’s no other always for me. I don’t have a backup plan. I don’t even want a backup plan. So, there’s no moving on for me, not really. I meant every word I said, Felicity. During our-“ he looked away for a moment, “fake wedding.”
Oliver smiled sadly and continued, “If anyone should move on, it’s you. When we started this relationship I promised to myself that I would never hurt you, and look how that turned out. I screwed up, spectacularly. I caused you one of the worst experiences of your life,” he said in a shaky voice, “I will always want you. I will always love you but that doesn’t mean there isn’t someone better, out there. Someone who can love you and make you happy. You deserve the best and I tried to give you that… I really tried but-”
“I’m sorry,” she said in a smallest voice.
He looked at her quickly, “You have nothing to apologize for, Felicity.”
“I needed time and that fake wedding just made me…” she rubbed her forehead.
“I know, it was a stupid idea,” Oliver nodded.
“At least we caught your stalker… again.”
“One silver lining, right?” He smiled uncertainly.
When one corner of Felicity’s red lips turned upright, Oliver’s heart skipped a beat and for the first time in in the last eight months, Oliver allowed himself to hope.
“You look beautiful,” he broke the momentary silence.
“I like the color.”
“I know. That was the idea.”
Oliver froze in place, not really sure what to do. Hell, he didn’t even know how to close his open mouth or calm his racing heart.
“I.. “ Felicity took a big breath and gazed at him determined, “I-I wanted to propose a dinner, tomorrow?”
“Dinner?” Oliver frowned. “Like a-“ he cleared his throat, “just the two of us? A-a date?”
“Um, I…” she hesitated.
“It doesn’t have to be a date!” he backtracked quickly, “Just dinner? I would love to eat dinner with you. Tomorrow. Just us.”
Felicity searched his eyes for a moment and nodded, “Tomorrow. There’s a new sushi restaurant in town. Apparently it’s very good. We could investigate.”
Oliver smiled brightly, “Can I pick you up?”
“7? At the loft?” Felicity suggested.
“Yes. Okay. No problem. I will be there,” Oliver babbled.
“I will see you then,” Felicity reached out on her tiptoes and kissed him on the cheek.
ONE TIME, MY FRIEND WAS IN MY APARTMENT AND HE REALLY NEEDED TO TAKE A DUMP AND HE WAS TOO EMBARRASSED TO USE MY BATHROOM AND WAS DECLARING THAT HE WAS ABOUT TO EMBARK ON ADVENTURE IN SEARCH OF COMMON BATHROOMS IN THE BUILDING
ME: DUDE JUST FUCKING TAKE A DUMP IN MY BATHROOM HIM: DUDE NO MY SHIT SMELLS REALLY BAD ME: DUDE I’D BE MORE FREAKED OUT IF YOUR SHIT SMELLED LIKE PERFUME HIM: OKAY FINE BUT I’M GONNA NEED SOME MATCHES, A CANDLE, A SCENTED AIR FRESHENER SPRAY, AND AN OPEN WINDOW ME: WHAT THE FUCK DUDE. IT’S JUST POOP. YOU DON’T NEED ALL THAT HIM: I’M AN AGGRESSIVE POOPER
SO I GAVE HIM WHAT HE NEEDED, AND THEN HE LOCKED HIMSELF IN MY BATHROOM
AND FROM THE DINING ROOM, I COULD HEAR MUSIC APPARENTLY, THE FUCKER WAS PLAYING BOB MARLEY ON HIS PHONE AS HE TOOK A DUMP SO I DON’T HEAR THE FART-TOINK-SPLASH AND OTHER AGGRESSIVE POOPING SOUNDS
AND I COULD SERIOUSLY SMELL SHIT FROM THE DINING ROOM
DUDE WASN’T KIDDING
AND THEN HE SPENT A GOOD 15 MINUTES USING UP MY AIR FRESHENER SPRAY (I know this because I could hear it)
AND MY APARTMENT LITERALLY SMELLED LIKE FLOWERS AFTER HE WAS THROUGH
ME: HOW WAS CHILLIN WITH BOB MARLEY IN THE BATHROOM? HIM: VERY COOL. WE SMOKED LAVENDERS ME: AH, POWERFUL SHIT
I DON’T KNOW WHY I’M TELLING YOU THIS. IT WAS JUST SITTING IN MY DRAFTS FOR WEEKS NOW.
Most of the whole once fandom are nice people. Who ship something because they love it. Who don’t send anon hate. Who are critical in their own space. Which i entirely understand. There’s a reason this will be untagged on my own blog.