i unfriended my mom on facebook

One of the most liberating feelings in the world is realizing you don’t owe anyone shit

You don’t have to be friends with someone who treats you like crap even if you’ve known them your whole life. You don’t even owe them an explanation either. You get to choose who gets to be in your life. It’s a privilege, not a birth given right. 

If someone is hurting you or just flat out annoying, you don’t have to give them the time of day. Please cut the shitty people out of your life and surround yourself with awesome ones who make you happy. You deserve nothing but happiness and anyone who brings you down doesn’t deserve to be in it. 

Check, Please! Characters as Things I've Done
  • <p> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b>Bitty:</b> Shrieking in horror because I saw my mom use apple sauce as a substitute for canola oil<p/><b>Jack:</b> Immediately launching into the inherenty gay nature of the history of the Wild West any time someone so much as mentions cowboys<p/><b>Shitty:</b> Unfriended 250+ people (including my grandma) on Facebook because they kept posting Donald Trump memes<p/><b>Lardo:</b> Accidentally ate my eraser in my figure drawing class because it was sitting too close to my bag of chips<p/><b>Ransom:</b> Downloaded the NHL app, and the first thing I did was look through the head shots to pick out the hottest players<p/><b>Holster:</b> Wore a crop top in the middle of winter for no discernible reason<p/><b>Dex:</b> Gave my brother a purple nurple that bruised his entire boob<p/><b>Nursey:</b> Sat up on the top bunk of my brother's bed and got hit in the face with the moving ceiling fan, proceeded to bleed all over his sheets<p/><b>Chowder:</b> Tweeted multiple hockey players asking them to pay my college tuition <p/><b>Kent:</b> Bought a new eyebrow kit and literally cried I was so happy<p/><b>Tater:</b> Yelling "Hi puppy!!" at literally every dog I've ever seen, regardless of context<p/></p><p/></p><p/></p><p/></p><p/></p><p/></p><p/></p>

anonymous asked:

I just unfriended my Mom on Facebook because I'm a petty ass bitch. I asked her for a favor and she said no, yet she asks me for favors constantly and I do them. If I don't she gets mad. Well suck it up mom we are no longer Facebook official friends. See you at Thanksgiving bitch!

I deactivated my fb for a month just so she couldn’t creep on mine I feel you

anonymous asked:

im gay and my mom doesn't know and i think she's suspecting something cause she's saying things about sexuality but she's not on my side i guess cause she unfriended a bisexual girl on her facebook only because she discovered and now i know that she will never support me my life is so screwed

Hey kiddo,
I know how you feel. I know it too well. You’re life is not screwed. I know it’s hard to see that. You want her to accept you. And, maybe one day she’ll change. Maybe she won’t. But you can be successful and happy and have all kinds of good things in your life, with or without her approval. Just, be careful, stay safe. You’re way stronger than you think you are. We love you. We’re here for you.

~ Kai

I've lost (?) 13 FB friends in the last month or so.

Usually I have no idea, but I went to wish my (very conservative Republican) aunt a happy birthday and noticed we were no longer “friends” even though I saw her back in April and had a lovely visit. I was nervous but it was nice and I actually enjoyed seeing her. Maybe it wasn’t mutual?

So anyway she unfriended me (which isn’t exactly earth shattering knowing the tumult she and my mom go through) and I figured if she did it, I must have others too.

Obviously FB never tells you who leaves, and I’m sure if I were closer to these people I’d be aware (i.e. my aunt), but man. 13 people is kind of a big amount. Apparently they’re not down with my mix of politics and baby photos.

Fuck ‘em? Is that the appropriate term? I mean, I go through purge phases too. Maybe that many people went through a purge phase.

Whatever. It’s a little ego blow. Didn’t need them anyway.

*cries in corner*

I got over you today, finally unfriended your mom on Facebook, no longer feeling the need to see how you were doing

You ruined love for me for so long, I’ve spend to many nights explaining to my new boyfriend why I’m so closed off, too many times I’ve wasted phone calls on telling him I’m scared of this.

Sometimes I think he hates you more than I do.

We plan on having a future and I no longer have flashbacks of us. Do you understand how long it’s been since that’s happened

It’s been over a year that you had this grasp on my life, to many nights I’ve spent wondering where I went wrong to deserve what you did to me. I was young and you took advantage of me.

I got over you today. I said I love you to another man and it didn’t burn my insides like it used to. I got over you. Fucking finally

anonymous asked:

id say get a restraining order. also sorry you have to deal with all of that bs.

honestly a restraining order is kind of excessive (i would love to keep her away from me, but)
she isn’t physically abusive but is extremely mentally abusive and has effectively disowned my immediate family and me. she’s turned multiple groups of people against us - namely my mother’s three cousins, their spouses, my mom’s aunt and uncle, and probably 15-20 people that were mutual friends between the two of them, and has lied blatantly about both me and her to them. she unfriended us both on facebook and blocked us out of contacting her, and then one year on vacation we were meeting up with my aunt and uncle and she was there and she gaslighted us into trusting her again. ofc she just turned more people against us and victim-blamed my mother for her childhood. she even went and talked to my grandpa (her ex-husband) two states away and tried to lie to him about us (he didn’t buy it bc he has a brain)
essentially she’s used me as a catalyst to get back at my mother and that’s what she’s trying to do again. if she finds me and comes in she WILL attempt to corner me and gaslight me/lie to me and will make a scene if i don’t talk to her, and then management will have to step in. and thing is she’ll literally just walk into my work and say “hey where’s ____ i’m their grandmother i want to surprise them” and anyone can view our department’s schedule and can give it to her. i literally already went in to work today and told some co-workers of mine that if anyone asks about me to tell them that i don’t work there anymore.
tl;dr she’s extremely mentally abusive, gaslights people consistently, and acts like the victim about everything. she just wants to come find me to talk to me to try to get me to turn on my mom. that’s basically all she wants me for. she doesn’t actually care about me?
so yeah uhhhh im just. telling all of my coworkers to say i dont work there anymore and hope to god i can run to the back if she’s there.

anonymous asked:

i need help, i want to break up with my bf but last time i tried (i asked for my stuff back + my mom unfriended him on facebook) he almost killed himself, he messaged my mom and told her he was standing on a bridge (the same one where a girl killed herself a month ago) and i had to call the police to stop him. idk i'm asking other people for advice too but you guys are always so kind, i'd just like to hear your thoughts.

That’s suicide baiting. You might have to get the police involved from the start of it this time. But that’s a form of emotional abuse.

“i don’t like frozen, it’s dumb and overrated" unfollowed, blocked, unfriended on facebook, uninvited from my birthday party, and my moms calling ur mom

anonymous asked:

How to deal with a really tough breakup?

Cry, a lot. Don’t be afraid to cry that ugly cry where you can’t control the noises that come out of your mouth and your eyes get swollen, its okay to cry. Open up to people, whether it be a friend, a sibling, a parent, tell them everything thats on your mind. My mom and I sat on my couch for hours during the worst breakup of my life and she just hugged me and listened to me sob and it was really nice to have someone to listen to you. These are the days that must happen to you, you can’t just skip over them. And remember, its okay to unfriend them on facebook, its okay to unfollow them on social networks, its okay to walk the other way when you see them walking down the street. Do whatever you need to do to move on from that person, no matter how immature you or other people may think it is. I know that breakups feel like the absolute worst thing in the entire world. But it takes time. When I was curled up on my moms lap sobbing on her chest I asked her, “when is it going to stop hurting?” And she just kept repeating “It takes time, just wait.” and she was so right. It hurts so bad but as time goes on, you will get better. I promise. And here I am, two years after my breakup, doing more than okay. I no longer flinch when he pops up on my facebook feed or my instagram feed, I have moved on. Yes, it takes time, but you will do it!!!! Do not beg for them back, do not think that you can change their mind. You shouldn’t have to fight for someone to love you, you’re worth more than that. Also, my mom and I are really into inspirational quotes so we would send them back and forth to each other. Here are some of my favorites to help get through a breakup-

“The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.” - Juliette Lewis (you can do it, keep going)

“How long they choose to love you will never be your decision.” -unknown (stop blaming yourself!!!!!!!!)

“I’m destroying the bridge to the person that has been destroying me.” -unknown (If you start to feel bad for deleting him out of your life)

“When he decides he doesn’t love you anymore, here is what you do: Move on quietly. Love yourself loudly.” -Karese Burrows (the best advice ever, my breakup helped me love myself unconditionally)

“Nostalgia is a dirty liar that insists things were better than they seemed.” -Michelle K (In case you’re reminiscing and you think you’ll never make happy memories with someone again. Forget them, you’ll make better memories with someone else)

“He forgot you so easily, just remember that.” -unknown (In case you’re feeling like you want him back)

this one is really long but REALLY worth reading so read it!!!!

and also feel free to read all of my #quote tags, quotes are awesome they put your feelings into words and make you feel better AND I left a lot of my other favorites out!! I hoped this helped xoxo