i trust them trust them to not out that its me

  • Character: *has trust issues*
  • Me: oh no
  • Character: *has trust issues because of a thing in their past*
  • Me: o h n o
  • Character: *gets confused when people are genuinely nice to them and keeps looking for ulterior motives*
  • Me: O H N O
  • Character: *realises people are just being nice and doesn't know how to handle it*
  • Me: *quiet keening sounds*

mystrade in thirty different AU settings (x):

  •   [17/30] Superpowers AU

In the world where everyone has more or less useful superpower Mycroft’s ability to freeze is nothing special and the title of The Ice Man nothing more than a childish invective. The fact that he never witnessed Detective Inspector Lestrade use any powers is much more fascinating.

Especially when Mycroft realizes it has nothing to do with Gregory’s lack of ability and everything with his firm statement against using mind control.

“I just want to know, was it worth it?”
“Yeah.”

Lets…talk about the scars on our little Crewtons though.

Newt obviously, a very marked man, its canon though we didn’t see them. He works with wild animals, he takes their hits he earns their trust, he bears his trophies of a job well done like a map of his victories. 

He doesn’t show them off, that’s not his personality, but he never heals them away, he never conceals the skin of his hands and cheeks and brow with masks of spells, though you’d be hard pressed to find the dimmed silvery lines on his face under his freckles. Many wounds leave no scars from the magic used to heal them, but the ones that held poison and venom and magic saliva or were sliced open with enchanted claws and ripped into being through cursed tendrils…those ones leave their marks and those he is most proud of. Those prove he did what he set out to do and that he lived to spread his knowledge.

Though of course you’d never see Newt blink one jot of acknowledgement for all he achieved. 

Credence, his whole being is ingrained shame. He barely wants to exist as himself as he is, let alone bring more notice of the struggles he’s overcome. You won’t see more of his skin if he can ever help it. His body is just one more regret of his existence. But once you strip away the last of his fabric armor you’ll see the evidence of his bravery. He will never call it that.

Scars upon his palms for the small sins of every day, Scars upon his knuckles for the careless manner in which he treats himself. Scars upon his arms from the hard work only the eldest boy of the family could perform, scars upon his biceps from digging his nails in deep at night to stifle the effects of his nightmares. 

Scars across the tops of his thighs for when Ma was more strict.

And scars upon the backs of his thighs for long old disciplines.

But the Scars across his shoulders were for infractions most dire. And those are the ones where his skin pulls tight when he twists a certain way.

He had many years learning to behave from his Ma, but he never did seem to manage it did he. 

One day, Newt will make him understand that his skin is a triumph of his power and the strength of his life. That day is far away

whiskey with avpd

(it makes sense to me… and i relate, so!)

- its why he seems so standoff-ish to the rest of smh (apart from tango)
- he hasn’t really gelled well with them because they’re constantly loud (it can be extremely overwhelming and sets his teeth on edge) and everybody is practically in each others pockets/business 24/7 (he needs his space, he really can’t do without it, and he doesn’t really trust them personally (past the point of #gotyourback during games) but its mostly because he doesn’t trust that he won’t make a fool/annoyance out of himself? he can’t deal and he really struggles sometimes)
- he Knows that bitty means well with the mothering but he can’t help it, its low-key annoying to him (he wishes he didn’t feel that way because bitty is genuinely so nice?? and he obviously cares?? but he literally can’t help it, rip)
- right before he gets to the point of wanting to snap at other people out of irritation or if he really isn’t in the mood to socialize, he physically removes himself from the situation before he can risk them thinking he’s an asshole (like……..he’d rather be seen as a small asshole who doesn’t want to socialize with them rather than a huge one who snaps at them over little things that all build up that aren’t even really their fault, its just him and he’s v aware of that fact)
- he spends a lot of time at the lax frat because they’re…chiller than smh. yeah, they’re judgemental af but its never aimed at whiskey himself so he can mostly tune it out. he doesn’t have to live with them or make a constant good impression and there’s less pressure to uphold a certain image 24/7 (all they know about each other is their names and there’s this air of indifference when they’re hanging out, its like? downtime? there’s a sense of detachment because they’re not really friends, despite what anyone back at the haus assumes. tango is the only one who knows the true nature of it)
- speaking of tango; they’ve become very close friends during their time on the team, they manage to really balance each other out?, and whiskey trusts him a lot. whiskey is actually really suprised by this, because tango can match bitty for rambling, but its not annoying to him. there’s just something incredibly soothing about the tone of tango’s voice when he’s asking questions, it doesn’t grate on whiskey or set his teeth on edge. he doesn’t feel like he’s gonna snap and thats!! rly important!!
- but sometimes (read: a lot of the time) whiskey worries that tango is going to get tired of “his shit” and leave him alone, so he often will bottle up his issues and worries until he gets to this point that he’s about to explode and its always pretty much the same; he’ll ramble and string together the most words tango’s ever heard him say in one go but, to whiskey’s constant surprise, tango will just smile softly and kiss whiskey’s forehead with a light sigh (the first time he did this was a short while after they started dating and whiskey was just !!! oh my god) because he can almost sense when it’ll come? when whiskey will keep things to himself, but he’ll always wait for whiskey to come to him instead of pressuring him because he knows that will only make it worse and will make it less likely for whiskey to actually come forward with his problems, and whiskey always feels his throat tighten up because god, how did he ever deserve this boy? what did he do to get him?
- n yh. whiskey with avpd

8

of course i trust you.
i’m the sole person in this world who trusts you

Daddy’s Internal Strife

Nothing is more rewarding or requires hard work and dedication from a CG then earning their little’s trust.  I am talking about pure devoted they will do as we say without question trust. 

Its an awesome thing for both Daddy and LG. We have someone who loves us and has chosen us to trust us to take care of them and make the decision to guide them and help them! For an LG they can let go and take comfort that what daddy says is said in love and is in their own best interests. They don’t have to worry about the big or hard decisions anymore. Daddy has you.

With that being said let me clue you in on how things work in a daddy’s mind or at least mine.

1. Issue, Problem, or Decision Comes up

2. Daddy listens and learns as much as he can

3. Thinks over it long and hard to decide what to do.

4. Issues command, rule, order, directive, etc.

5. Internal freak out and melt down! “Holy crap is this the right thing? Will she hate me for making this choice? What if she leaves me? I just want to be the best daddy to her and make sure she is safe and loved”

6. Reassuring my LG that this is the right decision and reinforcing the ruling. Reminding her its made in love and in her best interests.

7. Internal Freak out #2 “Believe me please! Trust me! I love you listen to me let me protect and help you don’t hate me! Please don’t disregard this I truly believe i know whats best! You trust me don’t  you? Say you will trust me! Say you will be my good girl!”

8. Trying to fake cool the next morning and be confident yet nervous on whats going on behind those beautiful blue eyes!

But that’s when my Little Angel says “Yes Daddy” and “I love  you Daddy”. When i see her smile and laugh again. I know some decisions are fun and are tough. Life is full of them. Ill do my best to make the right decisions for you and us. And when you say sweet words back to me the internal freak outs die down. Self Confidence is restored.

I promise @daddys-little–pumpkin Daddy will always try to make the best decisions for you and for us. I will never leave  you to deal with them alone. Whether it be good, bad or indifferent we face them together like we always have. Thank you Little Angel for choosing me and trusting me. I will never take for granted your trust in me. 

Remember @daddys-little–pumpkin:

Who Loves you?

Who Takes Care of you?

Who do you belong to ?

oh gosh i’ve been having so many troubles with my name lately

i didn’t realize it would be a problem once i got older, but i’ve been getting the “i can’t believe i’ve known you all these years, and never found out what your real name is!” BUT like how. HOW COULD I..HOW COULD I KEEP THAT SECRET SO WELL. I FOOLED THE GOVERNMENT

people get trust issues with me when i say “i’m not kidding, it really is scout. you guys it’s–it’s on the birth certificate. i did not choose this” because they think i’m kidding and that i don’t trust to tell them my real name

BUT I JUST HAVE NO ANSWER, I HAVE NO OTHER NAME TO GIVE THEM

Spent a bit of time with my girls yesterday after cleaning their tubs.

There’s this moment whenever I take them out, after they’ve done a bit of exploring where they will come back to and settle on me, yawn, and not move for about 10 to 30 minutes.

It’s an incredible feeling to experience trust like that.  Cats and dogs and other mammals, they all communicate on a similar level as us, and we can earn their trust rather quickly and easily.  Many of them have evolved along side us, and know us as companions right down into their genetics.  But a snake, a species that is as much prey as predator, especially ones as shy in the wild as ball pythons?  Damn, what a rush, man.  What a fucking honor when they see you as the safe place where they can relax.

They might not feel love or attachment the same way other pets do, but in its own way keeping reptiles is extremely rewarding.

3.11 

#is my fave!! #Jasper is angry at mom #Octavia lost her grounder hair #I’m with Bell on this one #they could have attacked at any time #It all comes down to trust #and besides a few people #could they really trust the grounders? #They left them to die #l/xa left them to die #clarke didn’t trust her #it’s canon #look who’s talking you were hurting and you lashed out #I wonder when those consequences reach Octavia #Bellarke date under the moonlight #platonic heart eyes #her hair gradually gets better the closer she is with her friends #Oh that little head nod #Maybe it’s just me #but Clarke started showing her boobs here again #but covering them in polis #Niylahhhh!! #Save Niylah #I’ll talk to her.  #I’ll go with you. #And you wonder how Emerson knows… #lobsters #Clarke protecting Bellamy! #earth cleavage #that’s a lot of earth cleavage scenes #Doctor!Clarke is back! #Jasper, don’t talk to mom like that go take a break #So Niylah lights the candles #hubby saved Clarke from doing sth stupid(er) #You’re one of the 100 #Not anymore #HAND PORN #She already lied to you once Monty #Monty deserves more screentime #Look at you united front #a waste of breath #Ahhhhhhhhhh Clarke TOTALLY HEARD EVERY WORD #Hmmm both mom and dad say I’m sorry to someone in the same episode #Bell has good aim #so CLARKE leaves the chip with a clearly disturbed Jasper who wants to destroy it to save Raven? #shoot me but that ALIE!Raven devotion speech is valid for Clarke just as well #MORE HAND PORN!!! #Together 

I CANNOT BELIEVE THAT KIM WROTE THIS EPISODE WHO IS ADMITTEDLY THE NUMBER ONE CHEERLEADER/MOTHER/PRESIDENT OF THE L/XA SQUAD 

the end

anonymous asked:

i feel like im being made to abandon my friends and hobbies to suit my partner's needs and wants. idk how to explain it but like, its just little passive comments here and there that make me feel bad for choosing to go out or do something that my partner doesnt like? but like? even when theyre not there to say anything i feel bad for seeing people that i didnt get approval on? so if theyre not there then its not manipulation, right? its just like, sacrifices made for a relationship right?

While that may not be directly MANIPULATIVE, i.e., MANIPULATING you to do a certain thing, it’s shitty and unhealthy and controlling and a definite red flag. Your partner should, above all, recognize and respect your autonomy as a human being, and trust you enough to be able to say, go out, without cheating on them. You should without a doubt talk to your partner about this and tell them how you feel because they are more than likely dealing with some trust/insecurity issues if they are being weird about letting you go out. As far as hobbies go, if they aren’t directly bad for your health (like idk, hard drugs or something) then they shouldn’t even have a say in it, and it’s shitty of them to even try to keep you from doing something you love. A healthy relationship requires both parties to know, understand, and respect that each person is THEIR OWN PERSON, with their own friends and their own hobbies. You guys can’t just be expected to devote every aspect of yourself to one-another – then you would be sacrificing your individuality.


Depending on how actually overbearing your SO is about this stuff, it could be manipulative. My emotionally abusive ex wouldn’t let me hang out with female friends who she saw as a threat, she wouldn’t allow me to drink(KEY WORD “ALLOW”. YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT YOUR S.O. “ALLOWS” YOU TO DO SOMETHING. YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON. If you want a point of reference, my next girlfriend after this one was UNCOMFORTABLE with drinking in general, so I just hardly ever did it when I was with her, let her know when I did, and never did it around her out of respect. Believe me there is a BIG difference, but bear in mind that it’s a very fine line.), threatening to do some self-destructive shit if I did so, and she would make me put my friends and hobbies on the backburner so I could set aside time to Skype her every day. THAT was shitty. If it’s something like that, then you have a problem. Remember, there’s a fine line between “necessary sacrifices for the sake of the relationship” and you just not being allowed to do shit because your partner is controlling. You abstaining from enjoying yourself is not a “necessary sacrifice for the relationship”. How many of these “sacrifices” is your partner making? I hope this helps, send me more stuff if you feel it necessary, but bear in mind I may fall asleep any second so I may have to answer it tomorrow.