Even tho Bryke tried to alter The Southern Raiders episode to make Zutara look toxic they did a really bad job, even after their altercations it clearly shows that Katara trusts Zuko and opens up to Zuko and tells him stuff she never told Aang,Aang in this episode is the one that looks toxic by not understanding Katara and what she needs to fix her pain and saying that she's the same as Jet,Bryke can alter away all they want this episode was still a very powerful episode between Zuko and Katara
What do you think of Aang and Katara’s interaction in the southern raiders episode? Do you think Aang understood Katara or was he just trying to get her to do what he wanted?
Yeah, Aang wound up looking really bad in this episode. I think in their attempt to make Aang into the “moral” one, they made him seem like a jerk. He didn’t even try to emotionally engage her. He just ordered her to forgive and wanted to just change the subject. And he compared her to Jet. The guy who tried to wipe out a town of innocent villagers, including kids. But I think the worst part was how dismissive he seemed. He didn’t act at all sympathetic or interested in trying to understand her. It did sound judgmental.
Aang: So you were just gonna take Appa anyway?
Aang: It’s okay, because I forgive you. That give you any ideas?
His happy go lucky attitude is really demeaning. He acts like he doesn’t even take her feelings seriously. Katara was more sympathetic when he lost Appa. I know it’s not a shipping episode; it is about Katara and how she chooses to deal with her dark side. But Bryke thought this was an episode that was flattering to Kataang. It shows how they view the romance. It is merely about Aang being “better” than Zuko. Even when it concerns her dead mother, it always is about Aang. His feelings, his morality, and of course, they see Katara sparing Yon Rha because of what Aang said.
He just looks like he is irritated with Katara and not the slightest bit interested in trying to understand why she is so upset. Like he is just above it all, and looks down on her for feeling the way she does. He never asked what actually happened to her mother. He probably doesn’t know that she was killed right in front of her eyes. I have heard Kataang fans say that Aang letting her go means that he is a good partner because he knows that she’ll do the right thing. It is condescending to Katara since he never really bothered to have a real intimate conversation about her mother at any point. He doesn’t know how she felt, clearly. He thought she was going to forgive him.
She really didn’t look to pleased with him at the end, either. He just assumed that she would forgive, but she didn’t. Of course, Zuko has to tell Aang (and the audience) that he was right about what Katara needed. Violence wasn’t the answer. Implying that Zuko was pushing for Katara to take revenge. Zuko is made out to be a violent jerk. And of course, Aang says it never is. He is portrayed as being oh so wise and moral. He never does have to deal with his dilemma about Ozai, either. This is why I disliked Aang by the end of the show. Didn’t even feel like the same character from Books 1 and 2.