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Grounding is a set of simple strategies to  detach from emotional pain for example (cravings, self harm urges, emotional eating behaviour etc.) Grounding can also be a way of returning your attention to the outside world and away from yourself. In the case of dissociation.


When you are overwhelmed with emotional pain, you need a way to detach so that you can gain control over your feelings and stay safe. As long as you are grounding, you are more likely to be able to overcome urges. Grounding ‘anchors’ you to reality.

Many people with PTSD and dissociative disorders struggle with either feeling too much (overwhelming emotions and memories) or too little (numbing and dissociation). In grounding, you attain balance between the two—conscious of reality and ability to tolerate it.


§ Grounding can be done any time, anywhere and no one has to know.

·       §  Use grounding when you are: faced with a trigger, having a flashback or dissociating.

·       §  Keep your eyes open, look around the room, and make sure the light is good to stay in touch with the present.

·       §  Rate your mood before and after to test whether it worked. Before grounding, rate your level of

·       §  emotional pain, or your level of dissociation. Then re-rate it afterwards. Has it gone down?

·       Try not to make judgements or think negatively. The idea is to distract from the negatives.

·       §  Stay neutral—no judgments of good or bad.

·       §  Focus on the present, not the past or future.

·       §  Grounding is much more active than relaxation exercises and focuses your attention.

Grounding is deemed to be a better way of coping with PTSD and dissociative disorders than relaxation practice. As during relaxation the focus is too much within the body, which at the worst may bring on flashbacks.



o    Describe to yourself in detail your surroundings: For example “The walls are white, there are three pink chairs and a blue sofa. There is a picture of a brown border collie on the wall with a gold frame around it.” You can do this out loud if appropriate, or in your head if you are in public.

o    Play a game like “Scattergories” in your head or with a friend or family member. Choose a letter of the alphabet and try and come up with as many examples of a category you choose as you can. For example C … Boys names: Christopher, Curtis, Carl, Charles etc.

o    Do an age progression. IThis can be particularly useful if you have dissociated or regressed to a younger alter or state. For example in my experiences I have an alter who is three. So I might say… Now I am four, I am at home with Mummy and Daddy and I can do (an example of an age appropriate activity) alone. Work your way up until you are back to your current age. This may not always work for little alters, but can help.

o    Describe an everyday activity in great detail. For example if you like gardening “I open the shed door and pull out the lawn mower, I connect it to a power supply and climb on. I turn the key and put it into drive….”

o    Imagine. For example make up a nice little story in your head, or out loud. “I am putting some roller skates on, and I am slowly gliding away from all my emotional suffering down a beautiful smooth lane, having fun listening to my favourite music LOUD!”

o    Say a safety statement. ‘My name is _________; I am safe right now. I am in the present, not the past. I am in _____________ the date is _____________.

·        Read something, saying each word to yourself. Or read each letter backwards so that you focus or the letters and not on the meaning of words.

·        Use humour: For example have a “Funny Memory Bank” where you store up your favourite witty moments for those detached, rainy days.  

·        Count to 100 or say the alphabet very slowly or very fast.

·        Repeat something meaningful to yourself, such as a prayer or quote. For example you could use the Serenity Prayer.


û Run cool or warm water over your hands.

û  Grab tightly onto your chair as hard as you can.

·       û  Touch various objects around you: a pen. keys, your clothing, the table, the walls. Pay close attention to colours, weights, textures etc.

·       û  Firmly stamp your feet on the floor, literally grounding yourself. Feel the tension of your feet against the pressure of the floor.

·       û  Carry a ground object in your pocket—a small object such as a rock, stone, crystal, bead, piece of string or cloth, or a stress ball that you can touch whenever you feel triggered.

·       û  Jump up and down.

·       û  Stretch reach upwards and pull yourself tall. Extend your arms, legs, fingers and toes.

·       û  Walk slowly, noticing each footstep.

·       û  Eat something yummy. Notice the flavours, textures and feelings that come up for you.


·        Use Cheerleading statements, as if you were talking to a small child. For example “You are having a difficult time adjusting to these chanes, but you are doing so well. You should be proud of yourself.”

·        Think of favorites. Think of your favorite color, animal, season, food, time of day, TV show.

·        Picture people you care about. Even get a photobook made of positive pictures or pictures of people you love! Such a simple nice way to ground, and you can get A4 photo books at the moment from GroupOn for under £7!! (I in no way endorse them I just thought it was a good offer!)

·        Remember the words to an inspiring song, quotation or poem that you like or feel positively about. Maybe write out the words and decorate it for your wall.

·        Remember a safe place. Describe a place that you find very soothing it could be when you went on holiday to the beach, or walking in the woods. Or just a time you felt safe and peaceful at home in your living room or in bed.

·        Plan out a safe treat for yourself, such as a trip to a coffee shop with a friend, making a nice dinner or a bath with some nice toiletries or candles if you feel safe to use them

·        Think of things you are looking forward to in the next week. Perhaps schedule your time so you build some structure for chores and pleasurable activities. It can help to know what you are doing and also not just sit at home with nothing to do. This can cause difficulties.


Practice as often as possible. Even when you don’t feel overwhelmed or dissociative. This way it will come more naturally to you when you are struggling.

Practice faster. Speeding up the pace gets you focused on the outside world quickly.
Try grounding for a Ioooong time 20 mins at least, and then repeat !!
Try to notice whether you do better with physical or mental or soothing grounding.

Create your own methods of grounding. Any method you make up may be worth much more than those you read here because it is yours.

Start grounding early in a negative mood cycle. Start when you begin to feel the early warning signs of dissociation or when you have just started having a flashback.



Q. What’s your favourite number?

V: 85. Last September, it was announced for the first time that DNA ranked #85 in Billboard’s HOT100. Since then, 85 became my favourite number.  

Q. What’s your favourite drink?

V: Lime/lemon flavoured carbonated drinks. It’s an essential when I’m eating meals or when I’m resting. I don’t really like coffee or wine.

Q. What’s your favourite movie genre? 

V: Everything but Horror! The one I find interesting recently is ‘the movie ‘Youth Police (Midnight Runners)’

Q. What’s happening these days?

V: Actually right now, I’m planning to give a car to my parents as a surprise. Just thinking about it is making me excited!

Q. What is the saddest BTS song?

V: From our latest album LOVE YOURSELF承 ‘Her’, It’s the hidden track ‘Ocean (Sea)’. The lyrics shows the road we’ve been walking and when I listen to it, my chest tightens.

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Hotarubi no Mori e, Kamishikimi Kumanoimasu Shrine, 2011;  Aso-Takamori, Kumamoto prefecture, 18 April 2016

While Natsume Yuujinchou has been my favourite work from Yuki Midorikawa for many years now, I consider Hotarubi no Mori e the chrysalis that started it all.  And far as exploring Japan’s power spots go, Kamishikimi Kumanoimasu Shrine  (上色見熊野座神社)  has fascinated me enough to give Mount Aso a miss and divert my travel plans down a less beaten path.

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Originally posted by sugutie

Genre: Smut, fluff, angst (it will contain smut in the next parts)

a/n: The story will have another part. So dont worry, im not cutting you off

Description:Jungkook is a  photography major in collaage. Every girl likes him yet he only has eyes for his camera, until he -even tho he hasnt realized it yet-  finds his muse.

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For my first assignment in class, we were to buy a shoe and customise it to our inspiration. I decided to bade mine on bakery/sweets/desserts. Because in the past I use to do decoden, I decided to incorporate it into my shoe as I thought it went well with inspiration. The fruits are made from Polymer clay and painted with acrylics, glazed with sparkly nail polish as I left my glaze at home. The Swiss roll heel is made from Air drying clay and painted with acrylics. Both the filling and piped cream is white silicone.

I added more piping but don’t have a nice enough photo so this is the near finished design! Pretty please how it turned out!

Harry Styles is a model and the currently most in-demand face in the fashion industry who might be just a little bit too full of himself and Janey Darling is the photographer that knocks him off his high horse… and subsequently off his feet.

this is the rewrite of my 2016 autumn exchange fic with added scenes. about 8.5k words. slightly nsfw towards the end and if you read this far you might as well…

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10 Ways to say I love you - Peter Parker imagine ( part 2)

Summary: This is the second part to 10 ways to say I love you, you don’t have to read the first to understand this part as there is no connection to the first part but I suggest you do. (Part 1)

a/n: I meant for these to be up way sooner than today I’m just terrible at keeping myself on check. Link to Masterlist Here. I’m sorry the last one is so long i got carried away!

Not even two seconds after stepping out from the tiny corner restaurant you and Peter had ate at, the rain started pouring. You hadn’t gone out of your way to impress, but you had put effort into your look today and weren’t about to let the rain ruin that.

You grabbed Peter’s hand and pulled him under the closet cover for the rain. Neither of you had thought to bring an umbrella, so here you were stranded under a random cover for protection in the rain.

“Isn’t this the part where you grab my face and kiss me in the rain Peter?” you teased, nudging his shoulder with yours. “Do you want me too?” Peter shoots back smiling at you.

“I just think it would be ideal, you know, considering the setting and all” you reply stepping into the rain and facing upwards. “Hey, come here” Peter brings you back under the cover embracing you. Only letting go to remove his jacket and hand it to you. “Here, Put this on so you don’t get cold” he says.

“But you will be soaking by the time we get home” you counter, taking the jacket into your hands. “Don’t worry about me” He says looking away for a second, then facing you again. “So that kiss in the rain?”

You had come over to Peter’s for a movie and food, although you and Peter were together, you denied being so. However from the looks May was giving you from the kitchen when she thought you two weren’t looking, it seemed like she had put two and two together.

You were snuggled into Peter’s side with this arm wrapped around you comfortably. You had let Peter choose the movie, while you chose the snacks. 30 minutes into the movie the snacks had been long forgotten and You had unknowingly drifting off on Peter’s shoulder.

You had woken up around 10 minutes before the movies end but tried your best to steady your breathing to make it seem as if you were asleep. For a few minutes you had thought you had pulled it off until the entirely of the credits had rolled and he spoke up. “I know you aren’t actually sleeping” You tensed being caught.

Shhh I like being in your arms” you whisper, shifting but your eyes still closed.

“See! Plus your lips slightly part when you really are asleep” he states as if were nothing.

“You creep! you like watching me sleep?” you ask stretching your arms in front of you, only to wrap them back around his torso.

You loved ice cream it was no secret and Peter knew this, he would always let you finish it. Today was no different you sat in a booth enjoying a sundae at a place Ned had told you guys was the best in town.

You both talk about how your days were going and you being thankful he finally took a day for from his ‘Stark internship’ to spend with you. Throughout the conversation you grab three more spoons of ice cream while Peter grabs half a scoop. If only could even call that half a spoon.

“Do you always hate the flavors I choose or do you just hate ice cream?” you question him sadly.

“I don’t hate either” He laughs off your question.

“Then why don’t you ever enjoy the ice cream we get together?” you ask picking at it with your spoon.

I love ice cream, almost as much as you do, but I love giving you the last scoop more.” he answers as if it had been obvious this entire time. You lean over and kiss his cheek lightly. However that doesn’t stop the blush that creeps up on Peter’s neck.

“I love you too Parker” you say, interlocking your free hands together.

Sitting across from May on the table you were looking through some of her old photos she had decided to share with you. You picked one up of her and uncle Ben posing with a red backdrop in a studio.

“This one is really nice” you said facing the picture towards her and smiling.

“I remember when that one was taken, it is isn’t it?” you replied with a hint of sadness in her voice.

The sound of the door unlocking made you redirect your eyes to the door and in waltz Peter. “Hey, didn’t know you were coming over” he said throwing his backpack down and coming to sit next to you.

“Thought I’d surprise you, how was decathlon practice?” you asked, sorting through the photos again.

“Good, what’s all this?” Peter motioned towards the table.

“Just a few pictures, look at this one” you said handing him the one you had showed May early. You didn’t let him speak before you begin again, “We should go and take pictures like that” you offered, preparing for him to decline.

Instead Peter agreed, “Wait seriously?” you asked in shock.

Yes, I’ll do whatever keeps you happy” He said with a genuine look of adoration on his face.

“You’re the best” you said wrapping your arms around his torso and putting him in for a hug. Even just a hug in front of May made Peter blush and May smiled knowingly.

You walked up the tiresome seven flights of stairs to reach Peter’s door. Aunt May opened it and let you in with no hesitation. “How was school?” she asked returning to the kitchen to tend to the stove.

“It was good, eventful as always you” you replied, making your way to Peter’s room. “Peter’s not home but you’re welcome to wait for him” May stated and nodded towards Peter’s room. You open the door slowly with one hand while the other dug through your backpack until you looked up.

“What the F-” you begin and Peter instantly turn around and slammed the door shut with a kick and clasped his hand over your mouth. You quickly pry off his hand and whisper yell, “Peter what the hell is this? what the hell is that? what the hell are you doing?” you question him, motioning all over his suit. Peter immediately slams his hand over his chest, deactivating his spiderman suit.

“I can explain everything” he stutters out. You just stare at him eyes wild and making an attempt to steady yourself using the side of his bed.

Aunt may opens the door and peter swiftly kicks his suit under his bed, “I think I may have overcooked the food and hey what did say about keeping the door open? and- Peter oh my god put some clothes on” she says ushering him into his closet. “He will right out after he is decent, in the mean while we are going out for thai soon, care to join?” May asks with a smile on her face.

“I-uh I can’t, parents want me home soon, very soon. thank you though” You tried to say as normally as possible with everyday that has just occurred in the span of two minutes.

“Well alright I’m going to open some windows in here before the fire alarm goes off” She begins to exit the room, and you let out a heavy breath.

Peter stumbles out of the closet, pulling his shirt over his head. “Look I can explain, it’s just-” he begins before you cut him off “Does May know? Does anyone else?” you ask. “No” he says. and you wrap your arms around yourself. “Well crap now i know and I wasn’t suppose to know, I’m-” you start pacing around his room.  

It’s- It’s okay, I feel safe sharing my secret with you” He says caressing your cheek.

You lean into his hand closing your eyes for a second but then open them again remembering he’s spiderman “Wait you’re out there every night and you are putting yourself in harm’s way?!”


Lee Seunghoon’s Confidence

Armed with confidence strengthened from experience, WINNER Lee Seunghoon’s existence appears even in swaying shadows. Discontinuous accidents, shattered time, and mad cheers made people forget his real self. 

“After drinking all the coke / clink, only ice cubes are left / clink, the sound they make bumping around / it is clear // Words that couldn’t be delivered / rustle, in a pocket / a letter rustles / it is faint // But // in the place where someone leaves / behind, go / with time, leave / so that there is nothing left / not even a droplet of lingering / attachment” – Lee Seunghoon “Things Left Behind”

WINNER Lee Seunghoon shared his most recent poem that he wrote for his fans, which gained much attention, with SINGLES. He had written it carefully by hand and had a photo of it saved on his phone. The name of the poem is “Things Left Behind”. “I’ve been writing poems constantly. It’s not a big deal though. There are many similarities between raps and poems. I gathered up all the lyrics that didn’t fit into songs and all the memos I took after a good inspiration and there were quite a number.” He writes his worries, thoughts, emotions, and things he talks about with his friends. “I want to publish a collection of my poems with illustrations or photos that go with them. It would be nice if Mino drew them for me.” He quietly and carefully explained what kind of collection of poems he wants to publish. And then he added, “I don’t write poems to gain attention for revealing a hidden literary value. All of them are light enough to be easily seen on SNS. How wonderful is it that I can share what I have with others!?” This twenty-six-year-old man, who is humble but knows how to clearly state what he wants, enjoys new challenges. He wishes to make a surprise appearance on “Surprise” or any programs similar to it and become a moodmaker on “Yoo Heeyeol’s Sketchbook”. These wishes are not impossible as he made a surprise guest appearance on “Boni Hani” with Song Mino before. “I like fun things. When we prepare for a comeback and when we work on music, I always think about how to make things more enjoyable and how to make people laugh. I love to think up of something creative and original and use it onstage or during WINNER promotions. If I hadn’t become a member of WINNER, I think I would’ve worked at an advertising company.” His answer fit his nickname “Deputy Lee of YG Entertainment”.

It was possible to prove Lee Seunghoon’s passion during this promotion period. “We’re the first group in YG to promote for 8 weeks. Thanks to that, many windows have opened for us to communicate with our fans. It is physically tiring because of the many schedules but I’m not stressed. Every moment is enjoyable. Although he is smiling brightly right now, they had many worries while preparing for this comeback. “We were so burdened when we were filming our music videos in LA. We worried about whether we were walking on the right path.” However, after the release of “REALLY REALLY”, he was able to relieve some of those worries. It was thanks to the explosively positive response. “I think, in the end, our fans tell us whether we are doing well or not. A good response means it’s the right path.” As he is famous for his exceptional love for fans, he never stopped talking about them during the whole interview. It shouldn’t be a surprise since he has WINNER and their fanclub “INNERCIRCLE” tattooed on the back of his neck.

Lee Seunghoon stated that he worked on making music with Kang Seungyoon yesterday. Are you already preparing for the next comeback even though current promotions haven’t ended? “Whenever we end up having time off, the members gather in the recording studio without being asked. Truthfully, because ‘REALLY REALLY’ did so much better than we expected, we are feeling some burden. Yesterday, we talked about having fun working on the next songs without thinking about the results. It’s natural for the results to be good if the process of making the songs is fun.” There is nothing confirmed after promotions end. But it looks like there are many fun projects in his head. “I have thought about releasing a solo album. I will be able to show a completely different side of WINNER Lee Seunghoon. Right now, I have more fun being creative while doing WINNER activities. I’m really interested in fun ideas that can be empathized with others.” There is experience behind his flashes of thoughts. “Even with ordinary talent, once it gains strength from experience, it becomes eye-catching. That’s what happened to me. The obvious action of turning the mat received praises like ‘his adapting to the unexpected is brilliant’. Thanks to that, I gained confidence.” He is currently focusing on honestly sharing his thoughts. This applies to writing poems. “If I have something I want to do and if I can do it, I don’t hesitate. The other day, some of the staff members told me that they were in Jeju so I got on the plane as soon as my schedule ended. Experiences like that inspires many more good ideas. And I like doing things like that too.” There is a reason to look forward to WINNER’s next promotions- No, there are now many reasons to look forward to WINNER’s next promotions.

translated by @chrissy96_

scans by @goduandme5


How would the Wanna One members react if their crush was their fan:

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Yoon Jisung - 10/10 would fangirl with you over himself and also his members. “OH MY GOD YOU ARE SO HANDSOME HERE!” “I KNOW, RIGHT? LOOK HOW GOOD WE LOOK IN THIS PHOTO” “WOAAH SO FREAKING BEAUTIFUL”. He would always joke around with you and even though he doesn’t say it he is very thankful that you like him and his voice as an artist. 

Ha Sungwoon - he would be so adorable and when you first tell him that you are his fan he thought you were actually joking. “Ayy… why are you messing with me like that? It’s not nice” “But I really mean it, I have your picture on my phone”. And when he sees it he would blush and feel a bit awkward, but it would boost his ego quite a bit and would feel more confident in himself.

Hwang Minhyun - he won’t show much of a reaction when you ask him if you can get a picture together. Would probably smile and ask you what for; when you say you really like his voice and you became his fan after listening to it, he would be surprised and really enjoy it, but won’t let it show. Deep inside he is fangirling over you liking him too. 

Ong Seongwoo - this guy would enjoy it so much when he hears you gush over him to your friends; most likely to tease you about it and would have the biggest ego-boost out of all the guys. He would probably always show you his pictorials or music videos just to hear you complimenting him: “You’re so cute Y/N, I know I look really good here. But have you this picture?” 

Kim Jaehwan - he would be so humble and thank you so many times. When you say his voice is the most beautiful and you want to listen to it a lot, he will probably record a few songs and send them to you with a note: “Hey Y/N thank you so much for liking me, I really appreciate your support. Here is my special gift for my favorite fan.” 

Kang Daniel - he would turn a bit shy and won’t be able to stop smiling. He would always laugh at you when you tell him how amazing he looks in music videos and how much you like his dancing. He would probably make comments about how cute you are as well

Park Jihoon - just like Daniel, he won’t be able to stop smiling when you tell him that you are his fan and start squealing over how cute he is when he does “Nae Maeum Seoge Jeojang” especially for you. “How can you be so freaking cute, Jihoon? I will definitely be your fan for a long time!” “Thank you, then I can show you my special aegyo a lot more often”

Park Woojin - would blush and thank you. It would make him extremely happy hearing that from his crush, especially when you tell him how talented you think he is and how he is basically born to become an entertainer. After that he would often ask you to check out his dance or new choreographies. 

Bae Jinyoung - this cutie would be as red as a tomato when he finds out that you are his fan. Before he was too shy to speak to you, but since he knows you like him he would probably find more opportunities to talk to you about his music or ask your opinion about how he looked in a certain performance. 

Lee Daehwi - he would feel proud of himself, but also extremely shy when you start complimenting his talent. He would thank you over and over again and prays in his head that you don’t notice his rosy cheeks as you two talk about the filming of his new variety show.

Lai Guan Lin - would have a smug smile when he hears you talking about how good he looks in the new video to your friend. It would boost his ego to the max and later when you hang out he would ask you what you think about his music video. When you start fangirling he can’t help but break into a smile and laugh at how cute you are.

Ari Crushes It at Her Golf Outing

Three posts in one night? Whaaaaaat?? 

Yep! These images are all from yesterday - Wednesday (8/9/2017). It was the day of my annual company golf outing. I believe I did a post last year describing how I skipped the golfing (was out of the loop a bit from the office as a full time work from home employee, so I did not join a golf team) but went to the dinner celebration afterwards. This year, I participated in the whole sha-bang!

First, I needed to figure out a sporty golf outfit. I do not own a golf skirt and came up empty at my local Goodwill and Ross stores (still trying to watch my spending). So.. I went with my lucky pink top and yoga pants since it was supposed to be a fairly cool and beautiful day (80 degrees, mostly sunny and a light breeze). 

^ I wore some white and pink socks, because it was going to be a sweaty day! ^

^ Let’s load up Ari’s clubs and head to the course! ^

^ A quick adjustment to get my hair out of the way in the clubhouse locker room^

^ Half-way through the course, my team took a bathroom break. (Sweaty Ari) ^

I was having a great time. I was playing with two of the guys from my team, one of them is an old friend of mine from college who is now our Director. There was a member of IT support who rounded out our team. It was a best ball tourney and we ended up using 6 of my drives out of 18 holes! Also, I finished up one hole with a great chip shot and put-in all on my own. I have not golfed that well in .. well maybe ever. I think it has something to do with being less stressed and more confident. Golf is such a mind game more than a skill game ;)

While we were golfing, I did use the women’s tees. However, for my drives, I was using a 3-iron the whole night. I figured if anyone made a stink about me (a transgender woman) using the women’s tees then I would both say to them, “you know we lose a ton of muscle mass on HRT, right? - And besides, I used an iron for all of my drives!” (I was being ridiculous though to worry about it because it never came up). Now, had I won a contest, such as closest to the pin, longest put, or longest drive.. then there might have been someone saying something. They had categories for men and women for those, but alas I did not beat out anyone for those. Again, lesson learned that I make more out of “what could happen” in my mind then what ever “actually does happen.” Prior to signing up for the golf outing I thought about all of this stuff and kept thinking about it, even though I was able to convince myself to signup anyway.

Another nice thing that happened was a photographer came by while we were golfing and took our team photo. He was an older gentlemen from our company that I have actually known for years, but he “introduced himself” to me and boy was he taking me all in with his eyes. A little off-putting but still it boosts my confidence a bit when things like that happen. I did not explain to him that we used to know each other, I just shook his hand and said “It is nice to meet you.” He actually stayed at our hole to watch us complete our hits. I was last to hit and my Director was away with the golf cart looking for his ball. After I hit, the photographer offered to drive me back to the rest of the group with his cart. He asked my last name and we talked about how we are both of polish descent. ;)

My team came together very well and we performed respectably. We were not going to win this thing, we knew that.. but we had a blast. My Director actually bought me a Black Cherry Mike’s Hard Lemonade, after I had already had one of my own. Those things are strong so I was feeling pretty good by the time we were done ;) ;)

With the course completed.. it was time for a wardrobe change… That’s right! I came prepared!

Not too bad for cleaning up with baby wipes and a little re-application of makeup!

While at the after-party, I again experienced more ‘introductions’..  “I don’t think we’ve met.. “ - became the theme of the night when I knew pretty much everyone there already. Honestly, I felt so validated and happy (maybe that was partly the hard lemonade). I had several other people offer to get me a drink, but I had to drive so I politely declined.

It was a wonderful, wonderful day!

I just want to encourage my followers that are transitioning to keep fighting back against that voice in your head that tries to talk you out of doing things and experiencing life the way you should.. it will almost never be even close to as bad as you imagine and it may be way.. waaaay better than you imagine!



Criminal Minds Preference- When They First Say “I Love You”

Spencer Reid’s A/N
y/h/c: your hair colour
y/e/c: your eye colour
y/b/t: your body type

David Rossi A/N
David is 61 so the reader would be 36

Penelopes first time saying ‘I love you’ was when she came home and you had set up a romantic dinner for her because you know she’s been stressed lately. She just can’t believe how lucky she is to have you.
“Hey, baby.” You say sweetly as she walks in from work.
“Whats all this?” She asks with a surprised smile.
“Well I know how hard work has been for you lately and you’ve been stressing about not spending time together, so I thought I’d set up a nice little dinner right here.” You tell her with a sweet smile, as she looks at you with complete admiration. 
“I love you so much.” She says after a while, walking up to you and giving you a sweet kiss. 

Spencer first says he loves you when he gets worried about you on a case. You’re in a totally different state to where the killer is but the victims look exactly like you and it makes him realise how much he really does care about you and love you. 
As all the photos of the victims were pinned onto the board it makes him think of you, they all have the same y/h/c, y/e/c and y/b/t and all of a sudden worry starts to settle in. As soon as he gets this feeling he excuses himself from the room and calls you to see if you’re okay.
“Hey, sweetie it’s good to hear from you.” You say answering his call.
“Hey, y/n.” He answers with a slightly shaky breath.
“Is something wrong, Spence?” 
“I just want to say I love you and that you mean so much to me that you wouldn’t believe. I never want anything to happen to you, I just… love you so much.” He tells you as his eyes begin to water.

Derek says he loves you by accident as he hangs up the phone, and of course he’s in from of the whole team plus some police officers.
“Alright, see you then, love you.” He tells you as he hangs up the phone.
As he looks up from the phone he looks around the room and sees the team giving him smirks.
“What?” He asks them confused.
“You just told y/n you love them.” Emily tells him.
“Yeah I did.” He answers back with a big cheeky smile. 

David tells you he loves you when you start to doubt their relationship. You guys are 25 years apart and other people seem to find it kind of weird and like you’re using him.
“Whats wrong, honey?” David asks as he walks into your bedroom and sees you crying.
“Nothing.” You say drying your eyes.
“You’re worried about our age gap.” He says to you sweetly.
“How did you know?” You ask turning to him.
“Y/N, I’ve been a profiler for a while now, I know these things.” He tells you.
“But guess what? See this?” He asks as you turn to him.
“This is my ‘I don’t care’ face. People can say what they like but I love you.” He says to you with a serious voice as he kisses you sweetly. 

Model Predator

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“Good evening Princess!“  Chat Noir’s voice announced his arrival just before he landed on her railing.  Quickly taking note of Marinette’s scowl, he stepped down and looked at the sketch pad.  "Oh dear.  Designing evening not going so well?”

She dragged her pencil tip heavily through all the brainstormed designs in rejection.  "Ugh.  No. These are all awful.“

He caught her hand before she could turn the page.  "What’s wrong with this one?”  He tapped on a doodle in the upper right corner of the page.

She screwed up her face a little and sighed.  "Technically nothing.“  Her fingertip outlined the sketch as she explained it.  "It’s a simple suit, designed to appeal to young men for nice events that aren’t quite formal.”

“Date suit,” he said.  "I like it.  I’d wear it.“

She snorted.  "The biggest problem with that one is that I have no one to model it.  At least not until summer’s over.  And I don’t want to wait that long.  I have so much work to do to get my portfolio diversified.”

“All your friends go backpacking across Spain or something?” he asked, leaning his hip against the table and crossing his arms comfortably.

“Some of them have.”  A number of her classmates, Nino included, were starting their gap year with that very hike.  "And the ones who haven’t wouldn’t really bring it to life in photo format.  They’re too shy, or too obnoxious…"

“I thought you were friends with that Agreste guy,” Chat interrupted.  "Can’t you ask him?“

"Adrien?”  She shook her head quickly.

“Not that good a friend?” he asked, sounding a little sad.

“Oh, no.  I could totally ask him, and I’m sure he’d be super nice about it,” she explained.  "But I couldn’t do that to him.“  She sighed.  "I don’t think he really enjoys modeling that much, for all that he’s incredibly good at it.  He’s so busy this summer, and he’s probably under some sort of exclusive contract that would make it… hard.”  She shook her head again.  "I know he’d want to help me, but I’d hate to make things more difficult for him.“

Chat stared at her for a moment, his expression thoughtful.  "Can I volunteer?”

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I’ve arrived back home last night after a terrific week in London. From all the times I’ve been there this has definitely been one of the most amazing trips so far! But it was 90% fandom related this time, so that made it quite special of course. :)

Before we went to see the film on Wednesday, we spent the day visiting filming locations and continued that on Thursday. We went to Savile Row again and actually went into the Huntsman shop this time, which had put up a big poster of Eggsy in the orange suit in the shop window. We didn’t want to disturb anyone and were very quiet, but someone told us that it’s ok to go into the fitting room, so we did that and took photos of absolutely everything in there and of ourselves in the mirror. 

We also went to St James’s Street again to taste some Kingsman Gin and Statesman Whisky and  we visited the Alexandra Road Estates.

On Thursday evening I joined Elle and Krissie when they went to the Black Prince, we had dinner and I had all the time to finish that lovely pint of Guinness in peace. OK, until we thought that it might be a nice idea to watch TGC once again, and we decided on a late screening at the Vue in Islington, where we had the pleasure to listen to Mark Strong in his role as Merlin telling us to switch our phones off. 

I enjoyed the trip so much, it had so many special moments (that photo with Colin definitely being the highlight) and I met the most wonderful people! Thanks for the great time together, @letmecomealong @blacksheepsadventure@paxdracona (plus sis) @glorioussandwichwhispers @travelledspace  and special thanks to @elletromil and @krissielee for the company, the laughter, the singing and all the adventures! :-*

Hope to see you all again in the near future - write faster, Vaughn!! 

(There’s so much I have to catch up on, tumblr posts, fanfic, comments… I apologise if someone is waiting for a reply, but with the elections tomorrow and work again on Monday I’m not sure when I’ll find the time for all this…)

anonymous asked:

Hi! I saw you said in a tag earlier that D&P dressed up for their date? Where did you see their outfit? Can you share a photo?

hahahaha i think i’ve rebranded into a meetingphan spon blog lol. if i ever reference fan photos then you can pretty much assume i’m talking about @meetingphan on twitter! they’re a side account of @updatedphan and they collect all fan photos in one place. 

this is probs the best pic tho bc it’s full body and … ugh… . … just look at them. they both put on nice shirts and phil’s in his black shoes and i feel like they def put in effort to look slightly fancier esp compared to the day before when they were both in tshirts and shorts and im emotional about it :( art museum date complete w dressing up and matching starry aesthetic instas :(  


I still remember the look on your face
Lit through the darkness at 1:58.
The words that you whispered,
For just us to know.
You told me you loved me,
So why’d you go away?

For as long as you had known him, you’d been in love with Klaus Mikaelson. To you he wasn’t the original hybrid or the monster that your friends saw him as. He was kind, and charming and could make you laugh even on the worst days of your life.

One of your fondest memories of Klaus was the night you woke from a nightmare. Sweat drenched your shaking body as Klaus brought you to his chest. His face was a mixture of concern and pure love. The clock beside you blinked 1:58 but still he whispered sweet nothings in your ear, assuring you he’d never leave you and that he’d always be there to protect you and that he loved you.

But he lied. And he left.

I do recall now,
the smell of the rain fresh on the pavement.
You ran off the plane.
That July ninth, the beat of my heart it jumped through my shirt.
Hope you still feel my arms.

In New Orleans, Klaus leaned against a window over looking his city, a glass of bourbon in his hands. Light rain patterned against his window, blurring the lights that stood along the street. The smell of the rain reminded him of one of the last times he saw you. You had been away visiting family across the country for the Fourth of July..

Klaus remembered the smell of the rain fresh on the pavement and the look of joy that spread across your face when you saw him waiting for you, flowers in hand. In that moment Klaus was glad you weren’t a supernatural creature, as he knew if you could hear how his heart beat, he knew he’d never live it down. You dropped your bags and jumped into his awaiting arms and Klaus found himself hoping that you could still feel his arms wrapped around you.

Now I’ll go sit on the floor,
wearing your clothes.
All that I know is I don’t know how to be something you miss.

If somebody were to walk into your room, they’d see you, curled in a ball wearing a shirt that was far too big. The shirt you wore was not yours, of course, but one of Klaus’ that you had stolen early in your relationship before the two of you had moved in together. You swam in Klaus’ scent that had stained his, now your, shirt. Your eyes shut tight, a single thought ran through your head. You didn’t know how to be something he’d miss. Klaus had been a player before you and had met, what you thought, were more beautiful, smart and talented women. And you were sure that in a few years from now Klaus wouldn’t be able to even remember your name.

With that thought, you let the tears fall.

I do remember the swing in your step.
The life of the party, you’re showing off again.
And I’d roll my eyes and then you’d pull me in.
I’m not much for dancing, but for you I did.

Klaus remembered how happy you always seemed to be around him. No matter what troubles you had in your life, you’d constantly smile through it. His thoughts drifted to a particular day the two of you shared. The warm summer rays shone down on the both of you, surrounded in an array of colour the two of you walked through a park and with child-like fascination, you skipped after a butterfly that flutter only a few steps before you. Klaus would laugh and roll his eyes at your behaviour.

Later that night who had returned to your home to eat dinner, music softly playing in the background. A half eaten piece of chicken remained on your plate but you got up and took Klaus’ hands claiming you liked the song that was playing. The song was not something Klaus would usually dance to, it was not a centuries old waltz but an upbeat song with a jazzy beat. Klaus was going to tell you he didn’t want to dance but the look on your face silenced him in a second. He took your hand and spun you in a circle, your laughter ringing through his ears.

Because I love your hand shake, meeting my father.
I love how you walk with your hands in your pocket.
How you kissed me when I was in the middle of saying something,
There’s not a day I don’t miss those rude interruptions.

Memories flashed through your mind like lightning. The first time the two of you had met. You had been walking around, exploring the town, when Klaus walked up to you and introduced yourself. After telling him your name, you extended your hand but instead of shaking it like you had though, he took your small hand and raised it to his lips. Even while you were dating he would repeat this gesture and it always made you turn scarlet, just like the first day you met him.

So I’ll watch your life in pictures like I used to watch you sleep,
and I’ll feel you forget me like I used to feel you breathe.
And I’ll keep up with our old friends just to ask them how you are.

Klaus had never stopped thinking about you but eventually you did move on. It took time but soon smiling didn’t seem so hard anymore. After a year, you met a nice guy and fell in love again and before two years had passed you had a diamond ring on your left hand. Klaus would never go up to you, he couldn’t bring himself to do so. Instead, he compelled the people around you to send him photos and letters to tell him how you were. He sat, hunched over with tears in his eyes the day he got a letter informing him of your engagement. He always knew you’d move on and live a normal life and that’s what he thought he wanted for you, but he knew in that moment, he would never stop loving you.

Hope it’s nice where you are.
And I hope the sun shines and it’s a beautiful day,
and something reminds you, you wish you had stayed.

The big day finally came, the day you’d get married. The sun shone through the church’s windows, painting your white dress with an array of colours. Looking out the window you couldn’t help the thoughts of Klaus creep into your mind. Did Klaus wish he stayed? Would he come charging into the church, yelling “I object”?

The door slammed against the wall. Dropping your flowers you turned around to see the man plaguing your thoughts.

Never imagined we’d have a last kiss.
Never imagined we’d end like this.
Your name, forever the name on my lips.

“Don’t say anything, just let me talk.” Klaus stepped towards you, holding you in his arms.

“I never thought we’d have a last kiss, I never imagined we’d end like this.” His hands moved to cup your cheeks, your watering eyes meeting his.

“And before you get married you have to know your name, will forever be the name on my lips. I love you, forever and always. ”

You pushed him away from you. “I can’t do this again Klaus. I loved you so much and you broke my heart, I’m sorry.”

You walked towards Klaus, leaning up to brush your lips with his. It was short and bittersweet. It was barely a kiss. But it was your last kiss before you walked to the alter and kissed another man. You and Klaus would never share another kiss, it was your last kiss.

anonymous asked:

Hiii~ love your blog! Can I request RFA + v and saeran reacting to MC having 3 pet rats? My friend has pet rats so I'm curious

Only short cause there are only so many reactions to pet rats


  • when MC said they had pets he was not expecting rats
  • a bit grossed out when they said rats
  • but MC’s like chill brunch it’s the super fancy kind
  • loves them when he meets them 
  • they’re like big mice so what’s not to love
  • him and MC are deadass broke cause they spent all their money on rat food
  • they’re legit having ramen for breakfast, lunch and dinner 


  • he’s just glad it’s not a cat
  • didn’t even know you could keep rats as pets
  • teases MC about her rats sometimes 
  • albino rats aye I didn’t know you had a type’
  • jealous when MC gives them too much attention 
  • MC’s like 
  • ‘omg Zen stop, you’re so thirsty’
  • posts pictures of the rats 
  • starts a rat aesthetic trend


  • lol poor Jaehee 
  • she’s not a fan of pets
  • really discouraged when she found out
  • eventually she warms up to them cause they’re pretty low maintenance 
  • they mostly stay in their cage so she doesn’t have to worry about mess
  • and they have such cute faces
  • MC find her one night petting them
  • MC legit had a mini seizure 
  • Jaehee sometimes finds herself talking to them
  • will drop kick anyone who finds out tho


  • was cool with it till Elizabeth tried to eat one
  • now won’t let them within a 50 mile radius of her
  • MC’s like i’m the one that almost got their pet eaten 
  • they bicker about it for about a week 
  • Mc tries to take their pets to some animal whisperer to build their relationship 
  • Jumin thought it was bullshit (you know how sceptical he is)
  • It actually worked tho

Seven (Saeyoung)

  • thought it was so cool 
  • tries to make them lab rats and does one of those weird maze experiments on them
  • rip he slept on the couch for a week after that
  • legit thinks they’re his minions tho
  • tries to bribe them with Honey Buddha Chips 
  • MC let’s him get away with most of it tho cause he pays for their food and shit
  • he also tries to hook them up to get rat babies 
  • MC didn’t want to break the news to him that they’d been neutered 
  • he loves the rats tho
  • he put them in his will

EDIT: I forgot V and Saeran (see this is what happens when you get 3 hours of sleep kids)


  • lol V probably thought they were hamsters at first
  • surprised when you told them they were rats
  • he’s never had a pet before so he’s intrigued
  •  loves them
  • they’re really nice to feel so V spends his days cuddling them
  • MC feels slightly neglected by both V and the rats
  • the rats are in the family photo i kid you not
  • when V was first introduced to them he wanted to impress MC so he researched about the care of rats
  • he’s a expert now
  • MC’s slightly salty tho as he keeps lecturing them about their feeding habits
  • MC’s like ‘y u no let me feed them chocolate’


  • lol and he thought he was the weird one in the relationship
  • another one who thought they hated pets
  • lowkey thinks the rats add to his badass aesthetic
  • gets them studded collars
  • secretly puts bow ties on them when MC’s not looking 
  • complains about them scuttling around in the middle of the night
  • accidently let them loose one time when MC asked him to babysit them
  • legit had a mini breakdown
  • found them high on mouthwash in the bathroom
  • conveniently left that part out when MC asked how his day was

~Admin Petty 

danny with a chance

member: kang daniel
genre: fluff, sonny with a chance!au
summary: daniel got casted in a comedy show that films on the same lot as your popular drama.
warning: alcohol
a/n: this was supposed to be for day two of @deepdickdaniel birthday week, but i had to rewrite it because it got deleted… i also wasn’t feeling too good the last few days so… :( now im writing this as im rewatching sonny with a chance

part one / two

  • once daniel got casted, he couldn’t wait to leave busan for this comedy show, so random.
  • he’s been watching this show since forever and when they started taking auditions, he just had to try.
  • now, he’s in seoul living his dream, taking in the air of ‘fame’. 
  • meanwhile, you were an actor/actress of a really popular drama airing. 
  • and how you guys met…. well….

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Breathe into my hands, I’ll cup them like a glass to drink from 1/15

Eddie Kaspbrak is not gay. He doesn’t care what his mother, his girlfriend, or those assholes at school say. Just because he has Elton John posters doesn’t mean he wants to hold hands with boys. And just because he doesn’t like to kiss his girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s gay. He just doesn’t like germs.

He couldn’t believe his mother was sending him to True Directions. He doesn’t need to learn how to be straight. He just wants to have a fun summer before going off to college.

He definitely isn’t prepared for Richie Tozier to come into his life like a whirlwind and blow all of these pre conceived notions out of his mind and turn his whole life upside down.

But I’m a Cheerleader AU <3 Title is from the most iconic scene in lesbian cinematic history imo

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A/N: hey friends! I’m just backlogging chapters that have already been published on Ao3 to tumblr! Hoping to get Chapter 5 published soon! In the meantime, requests for headcanons/oneshots are open!

Chapter 1: Finding Your True Direction

June, 1993  

Eddie Kaspbrak might be small , and he might be delicate - at least that’s what people liked to tell him. But he liked to think he was a pretty normal seventeen year old boy. His mother had never let him play any sports ( “Your asthma just wouldn’t allow it, Eddie! You simply can’t keep up - you’d hurt yourself! You’re sick!” ), but he had found a best friend in middle school that had stuck with him into high school. Ben had moved to Derry in the 7th grade, and he and Eddie were fast friends, bonding over being victims of the school menace, Henry Bowers. Ben had even joined the chess club with him - the only afterschool activity his mother allowed him to join. He had even gotten a girlfriend back in the fall.

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Harry Potter and the Cursed Child Fic: Expectations

5k words, R rated

It’s the first time Scorpius and Albus have been to the Manor together since they started dating. They can’t help but think about how far they’ve come since they first met, and they also can’t help but take the new-found opportunities that being properly alone together as a couple can offer. 

This was written as a birthday present for the wonderful @abradystrix. Thanks for being an awesome beta, advice-giver, and friend. I hope your day is full of cake and happiness, and that you feel better soon! <3 

My logistical advice-giver and brilliant beta for this one was @bounding-heart.

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