Question: Isn't choosing to not think about certain things like pushing it away? How do you choose not to think about certain things without emotionally running away from it, which causes stuff to pile up
It’s not about erasing thoughts. I don’t think thats possible. I think the trick is acknowledging thoughts as what they are.. just.. thoughts, things that our brains churn out. You have to acknowledge them, but you don’t have to get swept away by them, you dont have to get drawn into every little story your mind creates.
And, with practice and time, once you stop identifying with thoughts so much, they become less urgent, less serious, less overwhelming. You catch yourself in the middle of an unnecessary thought and just.. step back. Negative thoughts soften, become less imposing. But this is a process that happens by itself by working through the stuff I mentioned before, you can’t make it happen overnight.
I only fully understood this after reading ‘The Power of Now’ by Eckhart Tolle. Also, meditation has been super useful, in particular an app called Headspace.
Hope that helps!