i think some people are becoming more accepting

WHAT ALL ASTRO BLOGS NEED TO HEAR

After being in the astro community for quite a while now, I’ve noticed a number of different ways that people make mistakes and assumptions. I’m very passionate about the way that astrology is received by the world, and I want it to be a practice that is RESPECTED and possibly even accepted by everyone (eventually). Here are some ways that astro blogs tend to invalidate astrology.

*DISCLAIMER* - I am not targeting any specific people. I’m a Virgo moon, and I only want people to become better astrologers and improve the way astrology is used on this website. And I also want everyone to think more before they post! I’m a naturally critical person and want to fix things, but I don’t want anyone to take personal offense to it (my Libra mars wouldn’t like that!). 

- Using sun sign alone. People rely heavily on sun-sign ONLY astrology. Why do people insist on only talking about sun signs? This is just one slice of someone’s personality - there is a whole chart that needs to be looked at, showing that each person has many other qualities other than the ones expressed by their sun. This is not real astrology, and never has been. This is the astrology created by popular media. Most people will not relate to their sun sign in posts anyway unless the post is about their ego, central identity, and general personality. Most astro bloggers make posts that are not about those things, yet they still insist on writing using sun sign instead of another planet that would be much more accurate. Before you write, think about which planet it would REALLY apply to. Please read my post here for a more detailed explanation of this.

- Forgetting your audience. When reading posts, most people ASSUME that the sun sign is the placement the post would apply to. For example, if the post says “Aquarius in love”, 99% of people (especially newcomers to astrology) try to relate it to Aquarius sun - when in fact, this would need to relate to Aquarius venus since venus is the planet of love. Aquarius suns would not have the qualities that this post describes, unless they have an Aquarius venus as well. Even some highly respectable blogs do this - they forget their audience. They don’t realize that most people don’t understand the way the planets work. I see this most often with sun sign posts, but it could also be true for others. Like, there could be a post about the moon signs that really would actually relate more to mercury. The idea is, remember that people don’t know right off the bat which placement the post would apply to. Help them out! Less people will write off your posts as inaccurate if you do this anyway.

- Including the 13th sign Ophiuchus. Just, no. Please don’t. This was a hoax created by NASA to try to prove astrology false. Astrology isn’t based on the constellations anyway, so there is no 13th sign. It’s based on the sections of the sky - they just happen to be named after certain constellations. The signs haven’t shifted. Read my post here about this for more information.

- Generalizing the signs. “Geminis are talkative and full of gossip!!!” “Cancers are soooo emotional and cry all the time!!!” “Leos want to hog the spotlight 24/7!!!!” Honestly, generalizing only leads to people getting upset. Not to mention the fact that it’s completely inaccurate. Most Geminis are not gossipy, most Cancers are not crybabies, and most Leos are not attention hogs. This could even happen with other planet placements (like moon signs or rising signs), I just happen to see it mostly with sun signs. These kind of posts are made by the same people who tend to only write about sun sign away. Read a real description of the sun signs (I recommend cafeastrology.com), or don’t say anything at all. The signs are complex, and can’t be labeled. Also, people don’t realize that all placements and signs can be either introverted or extroverted. They assume that the air/fire signs are extroverted and the earth/water signs are introverted. Sun signs cannot be limited to one personality type - not to mention the fact that the expression of introversion vs. extroversion is actually shown by the rising sign because that is the “shell” that the world sees. See my post here about how the rising signs can be both introverted and extroverted.

- Grouping the signs into categories. I’m sure everyone reading this has seen a post where half of the signs will be in one category and half of the signs will be in another. This isn’t accurate astrology. Signs cannot be grouped or limited - they are unique, and have 12 individual forms of expression. Limiting them to two or three categories makes astrology simple and trite, when in fact it is extremely complex (but fascinating). It’d be one thing if they grouped them by element (earth, air, water, fire), modality (cardinal, mutable, fixed), but most don’t even do that. It’s literally random most of the time. If you’re going to group the signs, at least offer an explanation why you put each sign in each category.

- Dismissing signs or placements as simply compatible or incompatible. Let’s be real here - each sign has the potential to be compatible with ANY sign. Also, compatibility should focus more on moon or venus sign as opposed to sun sign. Sun sign compatibility just determines the kind of general energy that would surround the relationship. Compatibility is complex. Instead of saying whether or not two people are compatible, say WHY. Show, for example, how their moon signs are different elements, how their venus signs are sextile, and how their rising signs are sister signs. Show how one person’s moon sign is the same sign as the other person’s sun sign. Compatibility is really about connections, anyway. Read my post here for more information.

- Basing astrology just on people you know. Not all Scorpios are energetic just because your best friend is. The reality is, your friend is a Sagittarius rising with an Aries mars. This has nothing to do with her being a Scorpio. When you make posts basing the information solely on one or two people you know, this is spreading false information. This could mean that readers would then assume in the future that all Scorpios are energetic just from reading your post. I hate to break it to you, but a lot of people believe everything they read. Especially if they’re beginners to astrology. Please do your best not to influence them to make assumptions.

- Posting without knowledge. You’d be surprised how much this one comes up. If you don’t know a lot about Taurus moons, don’t make a post about them. Simple as that. Play to your strengths to avoid spreading false information. Again, people believe everything they read more often than you think.

- Giving astrology a bad name. Astrology is fun. If you’re reading this, you probably would agree with me. But, there’s a difference between “fun” astrology that is accurate and “fun” astrology that just makes astrology a complete joke. “The signs as types of peanut butter” doesn’t improve people’s knowledge at all. I mean, sure, you could say it’s funny, but it really isn’t. It’s just pointless, and only serves to make readers think that astrology is a joke. Most people who make these don’t consider that people look at them and assume that that’s all astrology is. Every post you make is influencing people’s perception of the subject. Again, at least offer an explanation for WHY an Aries would sleep with five pillows if you’re really going to make a post about the number of pillows the signs sleep with. Chances are, you don’t have one anyway. Sure, you can say all you want that I’m “taking the fun out of it!!!!” or something. But I’m really not. I just want astrology to be perceived as something that really works, not something people make fun of. I’m sick of people laughing at astrology for the wrong reasons - and joke posts are not helping. You can make astrology accurate AND funny. Here’s an example of a post I made about the venus signs that people found amusing, yet also related to at the same time.

anonymous asked:

i just wanna say i am so glad that arin no longer works with jon. i think if it was still just the two of them (with poor lil barry) on game grumps that the show would have turned to total shit. game grumps has become so amazing because of arin's vision and his ideas of expanding game grumps to a large and wonderful crew full of much more accepting people. even if they do sometimes slip up and say some not so cool things, they're doing SO much better than jontron. like wow. way to go, arin!

yeah, i think jon leaving GG was a blessing in disguise for arin

fir-trees-unite  asked:

Hey mom let's say I'm a writer and let's say I wanted to hire a freelance editor and let's say I wanted to be Mr. Fuck Your Rate I'mma Pay You Way More Because You Deserve It --- what do you consider a fair/ideal rate for editing work?

It really depends on what kind of editing work you are engaging them for. Is it a proof and grammar only? Or do you want copy edit and feedback? Or do you want to engage them for a process of all of the above?

Some editors will list their fees per how many words they edit, and some houses will even pay their editors per word, but I have found this system to be utterly, utterly shitty for everyone involved who is not at the top taking a huge cut. 

I’ve spent maybe a month working on something which was 100k words, and the author had to pay a premium rate in the thousands, but I did minimal work to it like fixing a few errors here and there.

I’ve also spent a month working on something that was less than 10k words, but only got paid the going rate for 10k, regardless of the fact that it needed so much work I couldn’t take on any other projects during that time.

This is why I now list myself as per hour, not per word, and request people send me their file/manuscript in full first so I can read through it and determine how much work it will need, rather than offering a blind estimate per word count. In my FAQ I have it listed as a $50 reading fee once the manuscript goes over 10k words ($100 if it’s a 100k+ manuscript), but I’ve been so desperate lately I’ve actually lowered it to $25.

The rates I am currently charging are $25 per hour for anything under 10k, and $50 for anything over that. That’s my rate for copy edit, and it’s half what my rate for copy edit was in house. 

If you’re only wanting proof reading for minor fixes, I’m only taking $25 per hour (provided it wasn’t a total nightmare on the read through), though I have gone lower if it’s been something really short and I know it’s not even going to take me the full hour to work on. Basically I try to make it as fair an exchange for both of us as possible. I know most of the people trying to engage me for work are broke, I know most of them are college students or in a similar situation to mine, but I am also trying to not drastically undersell my work either because I also need to eat.

So if you take the idea at the moment that a living wage, and I mean a basic “you’re able to make ends meet without killing yourself working 60 hours a week” wage, is $15 an hour, you’re probably looking at paying someone a minimum of $20+ per hour for the time as an editor at a base rate. That is, if you want to pay them fairly, and even then I have some editor friends on here who are likely hissing between their teeth at me for low balling it.

But like I said, there’s a lot of work out there being sold for significantly less than that, and it’s killing us, it really is. I had an email this week from a freelance site from a client wanting me to rewrite his entire 100k manuscript for $150 and he thought that was “more than fair”. When I told him it wasn’t and I would not take on something of that size for anything less than $500 at a minimum, he went off on one about how there are other editors out there just desperate for work. And that’s the problem. 

Also, just throwing this out there, if an editor hits you with a quote and you think “wow, I can’t afford that, guess I’ll not bother…” ask them about payment plans. If this is a project we will likely be working with you on for several months—and if it’s long we likely will be—some of us are more than happy to accept monthly installments. We’d rather have secure reliable work and take our time helping you to create the best damn thing that you can, than have no work at all. 

And we want to work, we want to help people make awesome things, we want to see you get published and become successful because then that means you’ll write more which means we’ll get more work and do you see where this happy little cycle of productivity is going? I hope so. I really do, because the way current freelancing and editing work is set up, it’s helping no one. 

Anyway, I hope that is helpful and answered some questions. If not, sorry, I’m tired and heading to bed. I hope when I read this in the morning it’s not just an incoherent ramble but who knows, maybe I made some sense.

anonymous asked:

Hey Joan, quick question. How would I go about telling my friends/family I'd rather go by a different name? I've rarely brought up my gender identity with anyone, but I would much rather not have to respond to the name I have currently. Thanks for listening, ily <3

In my experience, it’s kind of just something that you have to pull the trigger on. Some people will be stubborn about it at first, but the longer you stick with it, the more people will accept it as your name. Just say something along the lines of: “hey, I’ve been thinking about my name a lot recently, and I don’t really feel like ________ fits me. The name __________ feels better for me so I would really appreciate it if that’s how you referred to me from now on.” I know that that can be scary, but if you persist, then it will become normal for the people around you.

I often see people portray Narcissa as the naive, the weak Black sister. While Andromeda rebelled and Bellatrix followed the family ideals to the extreme, Narcissa is written by some fans as having simply complied. She accepted their ideals but wouldn’t dirty her hands and fight for them, she was content in becoming a trophy wife, who would live only to serve her rich pureblooded husband and to spoil their son. Ok, I see where this view is coming from but I’d rather see an alternative. I like to think of Narcissa as a clever and fierce woman, who managed to help create a more loving and healthy family than the one she was born in, who would do anything to protect them and who managed to remain uncompromised even though everyone else around her was a Death Eater and Voldemort himself was living in her house. The Malfoys aren’t nice and good, but I find their family dynamics really interesting and I don’t think Narcissa was merely a tool under Lucius control.

I personally don’t think cultural appropriation is such a bad thing. I mean is it really best to keep culture exclusive?? I think it would help bridge many cultural gaps and expand people’s understanding of other different cultures.

For example, as a Mexican, I’d be thrilled if my white friends could sing Mariachi songs and dance to some banda with me. I want others to see Mexican culture and love it so much that they want to become a part of it. I truly believe that if more people actively participated in other cultures there would be a more accepting and less xenophobic world. If you want peace and acceptance, maybe it would be better to accept those who try to understand you and accept you too.

Brian decided to go on a Instagram rant today…
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I am in a mood so I am going to rant at him (I will be saying “you” in reference to him, and not the submitter, because its easier for me to word it like that)
“I have dedicated my life to wildlife” 
You own a massive facility full of captive bred snakes, in tiny cages with nothing to do, breeding them in mass for money. The only ‘wildlife’ experience you have is in that venom hunters show or whatever it is called, and you show an incredible amount of ignorance and lack of respect for said venomous animals. Everything you do is for money, and not for the good of wildlife. 
“You have never seen the daily sacrifice I make for these animals and the betterment of the reptile hobby”
What sacrifice?? You make a shit ton of money by owning a giant ass snake mill. You hire people to do the work for you, all you do is go in and pull out random snakes for your shitty webshow, which you get paid for. You have not bettered the hobby, your way of keeping smears our name because it looks like, and is, animal abuse and neglect. People look at your facility and immediately think “Wow do all reptile owners do that? That is awful!” And smear the reptile community more. You have done nothing to improve it.
“I will happily keep blocking you and surround myself with people that believe in looking at the good and not searching for the negative and bad” 
So basically you are saying “I don’t care if I am taking bad care of my animals, I have some people that support my shitty practices because its an easy way to keep and no one wants to admit that its neglect, plus I’m making more money this way” This is an awful way of thinking, as it is selfish and stupid to not admit you’re at fault for something. Its basically sticking your fingers in your ears and going “Lalalala I can’t hear you!” like a child. I quote a good friend of mine @wheremyscalesslither  “Your pride is not more important than your animals”. 
Accept that you are wrong, change your ways, and become humble. THAT is what will change the reptile community for the better. Or you can actually donate money to USARK instead of hoarding all of it, ya know.

(Apologies to the OP submitter, I went on a rant there lol).

I think the other thing that kind of works good for Monster Factory is that we try to really embrace whatever character we make. So we try to, like, if we pick a character and we’re investing ourselves in them, no matter how sort of initially weird they may be, by the time we’ve lived with them a while, we can’t imagine them looking like a different way. And I think that that’s–this is reading too much into it, obviously, but there’s something that resonates in that with people, like, there’s this sense that Monster Factory is broadly about–there’s a lot of it that’s about acceptance, I think … We build this character and we live with it, but we let it evolve naturally and let it become whatever it’s going to become and we love whatever the character is. And that’s so much more interesting than trying to poke fun at ugly characters. And the thing about that that’s so fun is you find that when you love, like, really ugly characters, they become beautiful for some people. Probably our best example of this is The Final Pam … The weird thing is that we just tried to make the most uncomfortable looking person we could in Fallout 4, but because we made these choices that she’s indestructible and unkillable and a force of nature basically, that weird visage became the least interesting thing about her. And that was the jumping off point, but by the end of it it 100% did not define her. And there’s morals and lessons there, I think, if you want to think too much about it.
—  Justin McElroy (Just Talking Podcast, #372)
dating yoon jisung and park woojin

yoon jisung: 

  • you already know he’s a meme
  • he knows exactly how and when to make you laugh
  • probably sends you old memes he finds funny, like the ones with the big text in white with the black outline
  • you’d probably criticize his memes
  • “,,,,hey i’m old i don’t know all this internet stuff”
  • also imitates you for fun sometimes and it can get annoying but it’s okay because you love him
  • he’s so random with it like you two would be cuddling on the couch and he’d just out of the blue
  • “you know the other day my trainer was making me learn this dance combo and i swear i looked like a chicken doing the hands”
  • continues to imitate himself
  • but all the memeing aside 
  • he’s also really surprisingly deep into the relationship
  • it’s nice that he’s not afraid to be emotional and genuine and he’s the same around you
  • because he’s so sensitive he’s always in tune with how you’re feeling
  • “just tell me what’s going on, don’t lie to me and say it’s nothing”
  • and although he tries to hide some struggles from you not to worry you he ends up always telling you everything (after you find out of course)
  • just very honest and open it’s nice
  • he’s soooooooooooo clingy and loves skinship
  • “jagiyaaaaaaaaaa” “honeeeeyyyyyyyyyyyyy” all day every day don’t expect it to stop
  • will aegyo you to death don’t try and avoid it
  • clings on to you
  • if necessary will let you drag him to wherever you’re going as long as he’s still touching you in some way
  • sometimes the excessive sweetness is for memes but like it’s cute so you play along
  • wow just realized the amount of times i have said “memes” in this headcanon
  • oh well it’s for jisung how can you not
  • would definitely adopt a million animals (only if you were willing to)
  • always wants to take you out on fun dates (arcades, fairs, bowling, etc etc) and will probably whine when neither of you have the time
  • but tbh,,,,,,,, he’d be kinda frugal like he would beg to split the check from time to time
  • doesn’t mean he doesn’t get you gifts, he just really likes free stuff
  • “jisung this teddy bear has the logo of some sort of medical company on it”
  • “hey they were giving them out for free and it’s still cute”
  • fights would be super rare and only if something was super serious
  • and at the point where the two of you are yelling you’re both also crying so like,,,,, what’s the point
  • they end really quickly you two will probably hug it out then talk it out
  • jisung’s a huge fan of talking it out

park woojin:

  • if he’s not already completely comfortable around you before you guys date he would be kinda shy
  • if he’s uncomfortable at first he would try so so so hard to be the model gentleman but ur just like
  • “,,,,,, woojin i got into the car you can close the door now”
  • “oh aH RIGHT I’M SO SORRY WE’LL GET GOING I’M SO SORRY”
  • a cute lil blush on his face that makes it all okay
  • it’d probably take some gentle nudging from you to get him to open up more
  • on the first date looking down and constantly licking his lips
  • nonstop blushing
  • honestly though i think woojin opens up to people from sharing experiences, so as you spend more time with him he will slowly become the lil silly woojin we know and love
  • once the shy phase is out of the way whew you better prepare for the skinship
  • honey this boy is bouta cuddle you to death and you can’t do a n y t h i n g about it
  • just accept that he really likes keeping you in bed and giving back hugs even while you’re doing important things
  • he’s going to be like a puppy that follows you around it’s cute
  • but ofc he’s also that good balance of having his own social life and knowing when you two don’t need to be together
  • let’s be honest though at this point he’s introduced you to all the bnm boys and his friends back in busan and you’re part of each other’s social life
  • mutters “why are you so pretty/cute” all the time under his breath
  • on random nights probably stays awake with some trivial question
  • at 3 am: “y/n do you think fish exist on other planets”
  • “woojin you have practice tomorrow go to sleep”
  • will pick you up, throw u over his shoulder, then go on his merry way
  • or he’ll just pick you up and flip you like a fuckin
  • i don’t even know anymore have you all watched episode 10 because then you know what i’m talking about
  • “woojin please don’t pick-”
  • grabs you from behind “i want food we’re going to the kitchen” keeps walking while you’re just propped up on his shoulder like a flour sack
  • jam sessions all over the place
  • microphone hairbrush, hair whipping, loudspeakers and all
  • for dates he likes really chill ones
  • would occasionally go on busier/wilder dates farther from home but like
  • on a daily basis the most “interesting” it gets is like,,, together in the dance studio or something
  • but it’s okay stay-home/domestic dates are always cute and relaxed there’s never pressure
  • veeerryyyy good listener, he processes everything you’re telling him but sometimes doesn’t know what to say in return
  • he’s not the best with words when it comes to serious or emotional conversations 
  • sometimes that gets you frustrated but it does take a bit to get used to
  • not the most emotionally sensitive (won’t really be able to feel your emotions) but always always always wants you to tell him what’s up
  • “hey, just tell me what’s going on, even if i can’t do much to help it’s better than just letting everything build up”
  • may seem mellow but oh god don’t let him get mad nope nope nope
  • not afraid to ignore you and probably too stubborn to give in
  • but eventually he does because he loves u and it would take a couple days for things to get to normal but that’s because things are getting worked out and compromises are being made

pinkbtsme  asked:

Just a friendly reminder about the essay on: Reasons why I ship jikook. Thank you, very much appreciated ^^

Ooooh boy ok–

So to start off, as a gay fan, I find Jungkook and Jimin’s relationship (and how it evolved) to be really interesting and relatable to my own experiences as a gay person. I would honestly bet both of my hands and my future income that Jungkook and Jimin are More Than Friends (however they choose to personally define that for themselves.)

The big reason I think jikook is Real has more so to do with how their relationship has changed over time rather than any particular moment between them (although there are some defining moments for me.) That’s mainly what I wanted to explore when I wrote Riptide because so much of their relationship is dependent on their own growth, self-acceptance, and finding comfort both with themselves and each other.

Ok, so I’m going to start at the beginning now and go from there:

Pre-debut/2013

  • During this era, Jungkook and Jimin were both pretty shy. Honestly the shyness/awkwardness comes off as the type of shy you get when you have a crush on someone.
  • I don’t think this is something they realized at the time, being that they were only about 15 and 17 (I mean, I didn’t accept I was gay until I was almost 18), but there’s so many moments in old logs where they catch each others eyes and then turn away, or are just generally hesitant/awkward with each other even though they’re friends.
  • It just very much reads that there’s a romantic tension between them even at this point. I feel like when I was around this age, I only acted like that around people I had some sort of interest in.

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Okay....So here it is.

When I joined the “workforce” and then a few years later started going to college, I would assert my boundaries, but it was never followed, and most times it was rejected. As someone who is nuerodivergent I have hard time getting people to following these guidelines which lists what I am not comfortable with:

1. Eye contact

2. Touch (no hugs or handshakes)

3. Don’t break my bubble/space if not invited 

4. Don’t stand or sit behind me (lines are fine)

5. When we are having a meeting or getting coffee or hanging out don’t stare at me…incisive staring is a lot for me. It’s not that you can’t look, but intense staring is a lot. 

6. This is very very important. When we are getting seats anywhere whether it is at a restaurant or movie theatre or coffee shop or concert, I must pick the seating. You can’t just assume I’m okay sitting anywhere. I actually have seating arrangements for specific reasons. If it is not seating arrangements with my specifications then I’m going to be anxious the whole time. Which means I’m going to be uncomfortable, alert and will have a difficult time concentrating. 

7. This also very important. If we have plans, and you want to invite others you must tell me who is attending. Like for instance if we’re going to dinner and you invited five people, you must let me know in advance who those people are. If I don’t know them, and I’m particularly anxious that day. I’m gonna ask you to either not invite them or I’m gonna have to sit out. And if there is a last minute person joining you…you have to tell me. 

I actually had a group hang out with some friends once, and someone in the group invited someone and told us at the last minute. By the time we had already arrived I was forced to accept the situation. It was really uncomfortable and I was anxious. It’s really not hard to inform people of the additional people who are invited. At the very least it’s the courtesy thing to do. 

8. Specific to meet ups or hangs outs. Knowledge of the destination and how were getting there is very important otherwise I’m going to be obsessively thinking about all things that could go wrong because of a lack of details or plans. 

9. Lastly, I must be warned if we’re going to a place with a lot of people. Or if the meeting or hang out is with a lot of folks. I have a hard time in large groups, and closed spaces. Any kind of convention or conference is very difficult for me because it’s draining, it’s too stimulate, and I can’t deal with all those people. I tend to wander aimlessly or get lost in the crowd until I find something familiar or ancher. That’s why it’s so important for these places to have space for me to leave, and center myself like a meditation room. 

Most people don’t follow these boundaries or guidelines. I would ask coworkers, friends, etc, to follow them, but every time they broke them. 

What bothered me the most at the college was without my consent people I met or new acquaintances would often hug me. Hugging was a huge problem because a lot of folks felt entitled to my body, to hugging me without my consent and despite my uncomfortability. I would object and they still would do it. What’s interesting now that I think about it is I was the only one whom they would do this to. They were all non black poc women. I was the only black women. Every time I would ask them to stop they would say I was being rude or a “spoil sport”  or I’m being too sensitive because hugs are normal. Currently, I no longer flinched or get panic attacks from hugs, but I’m still anxious. After awhile I gave up on telling people to stop. They made me think I was overreacting or I was being “crazy”, and I forced myself to accept hugs/ touching as a norm for a long time. For two years people kept violating my space.  

Today, people either abide by my boundaries and follow these guidelines or I leave the space or cut those folks out of my life. Because I was insecure with making the decision to either leave or force people to abide by my guidelines, I didn’t advocate for myself hard enough.

I recently got some friends to follow these guidelines, but more than anything I’ve become more assertive in what I need and want, but if folks don’t do this then I’m done and they don’t need to be polluting my life. 

Also they’re really not your friends if they can’t accommodate your needs. 

Two Most Graceful People Ever

A/N: A request from one of my tumblr children @ssa-banshee for a Spencer x Reader where she is a dancer (think hip hop, not stripper) and he is a professor, and he sees her hurt herself while practicing, so he goes to check on her. These are the dance (s) I based this one-shot off of because I wish I was that cool tbh. @coveofmemories @sexualemobitch @jamiemelyn

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There was nothing like the complete and total freedom you felt when you were dancing. At first, it had been a way to meet people, have fun and stay in shape, but now dancing was so much more to you. It was a way to decompress during the stress of classes. It was a way for you to escape whatever feelings about whoever you happened to be dating or whether or not your best friend was going to lose her scholarship because she was partying to much and was failing her classes. Dancing was freedom. And you always danced like no one was watching.

It was amazing really. Without any music or choreography to adhere to, you had absolutely no rhythm at all, but once the music started and the choreo started playing through your mind there was nothing stopping you. You started out playing random music between classes and practicing a variety of freezes, kicks and flares.

Practicing between classes had become a thing since you broke up with your boyfriend - cheating bastard. You weren’t really on the market for anyone else, but you’d be lying to yourself if you didn’t admit that showing off for one of the young professors wasn’t on your agenda. Dr. Spencer Reid taught in a number of adjunct roles in addition to his work with the FBI, and while so many of your classmates laughed at his awkward mannerisms, here on their parents’ orders with no intention of actually doing anything with their lives, you found it endearing and always enjoyed his classes. He was very passionate about what he did. Plus, he was tall, slender but not overwhelmingly muscular, with dark, deep set hazel eyes and sandy brown hair that kind of did whatever it wanted to do on any given day. And when he smiled? Fuck, you melted. It was stupid how cute he was. So of course you wanted to impress him.

It just so happened that he’d pass you during classes (ok, you knew where he taught and decided to practice outside of where his class let out, whatever) so instead of practicing random moves, you decided to practice one of your favorite dances for WTF by Missy Elliott. 

As the music started up, people gathered, as they tended to do - anything to distract them from the monotony of classes for more than two seconds. You’d perfected this choreo before - the fluidity of your movements practiced yet deliberate. You got cheers normally; people loved the faces you’d make during this song, acting a fool but with an excuse. 

The person you noticed however was Professor Reid, leaning against the building where his class had just let out. His light brown hair caught the sheen of the afternoon sun; it was almost enough to distract you - almost. But you kept moving, stealing glances at him when the angle would allow. You didn’t imagine he had much experience with this type of dance, but you figured that’s what made it more interesting for him. He was learning about something he didn’t already have knowledge of - something you assumed he craved given his three Ph.D.’s and seemingly endless pursuit of knowledge. 

Once you finished, you took a bow and told your small audience that if they had time, you’d be doing a few more dances. Stealing a glance toward Professor Reid’s building, you realized he wasn’t there anymore and sighed, until seeing him walk toward the crowd of students and meet up with a few other professors - most much older than him. 

He was probably just interested in your dancing, but you were definitely going to use this opportunity to dazzle the sexy professor if you could. Of course, you picked a dance that was slightly sexier than the last one, but still showed off your skill. 

Each time you stole a glance at the professor, he seemed fascinated, and by the end, he was clapping alongside the rest of the students; the older professors had left not that that surprised you. Most of the students dispersed as well, needing to go to class. That left you to practice a couple random moves that you needed to nail for the upcoming competition while Professor Reid watched. He sat at a nearby table and made it look like he was doing some work, but you could tell he wasn’t. 

A lot of the more difficult moves required a crazy amount of upper body strength, which you had, but only if you were doing them in short bursts. When you needed to hold them for longer…well, let’s just say you needed to work on your arms some more. Windmills and headspins were two other moves you loved, but those wouldn’t work was well on cement (ow), so you decided to work on the deadman float - so. much. stomach. and. arm. strength. required. 

Over and over again, you managed to do a planche pose, basically what you were attempting only staying still instead of moving, but getting moving was the problem. If you were able to nail it, it was more about momentum so you were able to carry it through, but if the momentum wasn’t there then you got stuck in a planche pose and you were fucked. Thankfully, you didn’t have to nail this move for the competition coming up. 

You had no idea what you did wrong, but all of a sudden you felt a muscle pull in your hand. Pushing off the ground with the opposite one, you landed badly on your foot and fell to the ground - graceful. When you looked up again, you saw the professor still there and bumbling toward you, presumably to help, only to have him trip himself. “A-Are you okay?” he asked, picking up the books that had fallen out of his hands. “I was coming over here to check on you and I tripped myself. Graceful, huh?”

“That’s what I was just thinking of myself,” you laughed. Your foot was fine, so you stood up, gently shaking out your hand; that’s what hurt. “You’d think with all of the things I’m able to do I would be able to not trip over my own two feet.”

Professor Reid finished grabbing his things and stood up to meet your gaze; he was even more beautiful up close. Wincing, you looked down at your wrist, taken off guard when the professor flipped your wrist and asked what hurt. “I think you might have the beginnings of tendonitis,” he said, no longer flustered. He seemed to become more confident when he wasn’t speaking directly to people. “I don’t know anything about dance, but I do know that out of the muscles you’re using for whatever that was,” he said, spinning his finger around above the ground, “the wrists are the weakest for pretty much everyone, so I’d give it a day or two and then do some wrist strengthening exercises so they can accept the strain you need to put on them.” When he looked up again, he instantly became flustered. “What is that move anyway?”

“It’s called the deadman float,” you said. “I can hold the position, but moving around on my wrists is absolute murder.”

He laughed as the two of you started walking toward another building. His next class was your next as well. “I don’t d-doubt it,” he said as he opened the door. “I’m lucky the FBI accepted me into the academy. It’s purely for my brain because I have little athletic skill to speak of.”

Although you were both a bit early, you walked into the classroom up a grouping of about three or so steps. The Professor’s books went flying once again as he tripped up the stairs. “Oh my god, are you okay?” you asked, kneeling down to help grab his books. 

“I’m f-fine,” he replied. “I’m just so graceful today.”

You stood up a tripped on one of his books, flying back down into the floor. “Well, that makes two of us,” you laughed.

anonymous asked:

do you mind typing kageyama tobio from haikyuu? :") personally i think he might be intj but i've also seen some people type him as istj? what do the mods think? also thank you for speaking up about the infps and xsfj issue, as an isfj it made me happy :-) op replied "still easily among the top 3 best mbti types"? she doesn't know what she's thinking coz the whole point is that there ISNT a best mbti type

(There is never a best mbti type. The mbti community is full of toxic people just like every other fandom giving some aspects a bad name and demotivate people to learn more.
I can see the argument for INTJ, BUT real life INTJs are less rigid than Tobio normally is thanks to dominant Ni that helps them think and be more patient with other people.)

Haikyuu!! - Tobio Kageyama [ISTJ]

The Duty Fulfiller: Tobio is a highschooler and a volleyball player who is uptight and disciplined. He takes things around him internally first before projecting himself to the world logically and rationally. He is a reserved and quiet individual who desires a secure but ambitious living with his passion for volleyball.

Si (Introverted Sensing):
Introverted sensing is taking in everything on the outside and store it within oneself to observe and maul around, seeing how credible or appealing it is to the senses. 
They are most comfortable with whatever it is that they are familiar with and to others, can be seen as close-minded. They have to be secure, safe and often times, do things their own way.

Tobio has trouble with this. He has been self-preserved, quiet and a loner for so long, it takes time for him to make friends with the likes of Hinata and others.
Notice how awkward he was trying to be nicer to Tsukishima.

“Kn-Knife…Nuff…Nice.”

Originally posted by unfamiliarworld

Te (Extraverted Thinking): 
Auxiliary Te have a slightly strong desire to control the environment. They feel lost and vulnerable when they are not able to shape their own external world.

Te is to the point, direct and efficient. They say and perform all that needs to be said which can come out too harsh for a more sensitive audience. 

It is difficult for a Te to trust anyone’s opinions unless they have seen proof for themselves and their own experiences. Tobio is critical and dismissive of inputs from Hinata and his teammates initially. 
He is highly ambitious with volleyball and is always playing for the win. Tobio is most comfortable when he is barking orders at someone and does not hold back from complaining or criticizing other people’s playing.

“If Oikawa-san is the best setter in the prefecture, I’m the one who is going to surpass him.”

Originally posted by shokasonjuku

Fi (Introverted Feeling): 
Introverted feelers process their own emotions internally and have a hard time speaking up about it. It is a person’s inner morals and beliefs. Introverted feelers have a strong desire to find their self-identity and individuality.

Once prodded in some way, it is easy for an Fi user to be upset or perturbed even when they pretend not to be.

Tertiary Fi is pretty low and no doubt, dealing with emotions or anything soft is one of Tobio’s weakest points.
Tobio is defensive and his identity lay upon volleyball playing. He needs to be the winner otherwise, he feels worthless. 
It is said that he is much more sensitive and childish than he appears to be. 
He was genuinely distraught, regretful and fearful when everyone from Kitagawa Daichi abandoned him.

“The only time I will ever feel despair is when I won’t be able to play volleyball anymore.”

Originally posted by soul-angelos

Ne (Extraverted Intuition): 

Extraverted Ne sees the possibilities and get creative. They are supposedly outside the box thinkers.
They think a few steps further and they adapt.

As you can see, this is Tobio’s weakest function. Over time, he becomes more open-minded and accepts more friends and people into his life. 
He thought it would be a good idea to beg for Oikawa’s teaching at some point much to the latter’s satisfaction. 

“I want to be in it. I want to be in it. I want to be in it. I want to be in the game. I want to stay here longer. I want to stay with these guys. Give me the thrill of the court. I want to fight with these guys longer. Let me feel out of breath. Let me stand here. I want to touch the ball. I want to fight. I want to throw up a toss with my own hands over and over. Then, we’ll [Karasuno] win the match that’s right in front of us!”

~Miss ENFP

Why I Don’t Think Sam is Well-written and How the Show Sidelines Her Faults

Part 1

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There was a post before this on headcanons that would compensate for her ‘sucky’ canon and I got into a discussion with someone in the notes. I had a general dislike towards Sam Manson as a character before I replied to them but, the more I explained what I thought, the more I realized how broken Sam Manson as a character is. I used to look up to Sam when I was 12-16 or so years old but, now being 22 years old with a whole 10 to 6 years of hindsight, the influence she had on my thinking was pretty awful. This essay is to merely analyze what is wrong with Sam Manson as a character throughout the entire course of the show and go through all the details.

If you think I’m going to heavy hit Sam through the entire post, not to worry. I’m going to also tackle details in which Sam was portrayed well and will give a pat in a backs for the writing when I deem it as appropriate. I will bold the bad points, italicize the good points and strikethrough potential setups so that you can read certain parts you are after or try to see what I think of her portrayal and the circumstances around her in the show. You’d be surprised how much I actually praised her in one episode.

Bad points will mostly likely be:

  • Sam being a Karma Houdini… I think this pretty much sums up my entire problem with Sam.

Good points will most likely be:

  • Her redeeming qualities and flaws like a normal human being
  • Her role and influence in the story and Danny’s life

Extra Note: This might actually be a series of posts because I have a lot of feelings on how Sam was handled.

Keep reading

So just thought I’d share some thoughts on where I stand on this whole Dominic/Malec discourse *PLEASE READ UNTIL THE END*

I totally get why people are pissed. I am too. I think that his remarks came of as rude and hypocritical and I find it strange that he calls Clace “love at first sight” but argues that Malec doesn’t know enough about each other to really be considered a true couple. When in my eyes I would say that they know just as much about each other as Clace, if not more. I just think that it reinforced the fact that while same-sex couples are becoming more accepted, they are still held under a microscope by people who will always manage to find some sort of ‘flaw’. So yes, I did find his words to be hurtful and irritating (and I did kind of think his apology wasn’t the best)
But that does not make it okay to hate on him. I’m not telling people to let this slide or not call him out

but there is a fine line between calling someone out and fullblown hating on them

A line that many people have crossed. I myself am not Dom’s biggest fan at the moment but that doesn’t excuse the terrible messages he has been receiving

P.S this post does not mean we should excuse what he said so I don’t want to see any Dom stans using it in such a way. Like I said, I’m pretty pissed too

kocoblr  asked:

Coming off of anon because I think you need some support and I'm here for you. I grew up in a very ignorant part of the US and you have helped me become a more aware and more tolerant person through your words and your example. I hardly knew what asexuality was before stumbling across your blog. You are very inspiring and I love seeing you happy. I'm sorry that people suck, and some always will, but I want you to know that you've made at least one human on this planet more accepting of others.

That was such an enjoyable and touching ask to read this morning, you have my upmost grattitude! ♡♡♡

All the thanks to you! I am glad my words can have some positive impact ~

Reblog if you would date an individual with an Autistic spectrum disorder or some other form of neurodivergence.

I am just attempting this little social experiment to see exactly how “tolerant” and “accepting” the people of tumblr actually are. It will interesting to see what exactly will become of this post, while it won’t reveal the inner workings of everyones attitudes, I think it will more or less display what ever the prevailing social attitude towards autism is, or at least the prevailing attitude towards it on this particular website.

sebastian-the-fragment  asked:

I'm trying to prove someone wrong. A person I know (their blog is emily-roux) says they feel out of place in the community because their wings aren't the typical insect wings that most fae have. They talk about how they have wings like an owl, and antlers like a deer, and they say that they're a afraid to reach out to people because they are different. What do you think? Do you think they're justified in being scared, or does no one care? Because I think antlers and owl wings are pretty cool.

well there are many different types of fae, so it makes sense that fae kintypes have variations on their wings, antlers, etc. the otherkin community is supposed to be open and accepting to everyone, so i don’t think there’s any need to be scared! i’m sure some of our followers would love to hear more about your friend’s kintype and become buddies (*´꒳`*) -admin M

AAA members’ comments on Chiaki’s graduation (01/12/17):

[Atae Shinjiro’s ameblo & Instagram]

To Everyone who Supports AAA

It has been announced today that Chiaki will graduate from the group at the end of March.  

We’re very sorry for this sudden announcement.

All of us have talked about this over and over, and we have decided to support the path Chiaki has decided to take.  

Graduating is a very lonely thing. We’ve been together for years, we laughed a lot, had many hardships, and even had fights.  

But when I first heard the news that she’ll become a mother, I felt so happy as if it was my own matter.  

That’s why, I’ll be happy if we can all support her.

And as for AAA, we will continue to run with all our might, so please take care of us from now on too!!

And lastly!!  

ChiakiーーーーーReally, congratulations!!!!!!!  

Chiaki being a mother and such, it already makes me anxious!! Lol

I’d babysit so just tell me anytime, okay. Lol.

But if it’s Chiaki, I’m sure she’ll become a wonderful mother.

Somehow, I have a mixed feelings, feeling the loneliest emotion and the happiest emotion… It’s a first for me to feel like this…  

I have to do my best for Chiaki’s part too!!

ChiakiーI love you forever!!


[SKY-HI’s ameblo]

Please let me talk about AAA.

I am thankful for all you do for me all the time. As I said before, it’s difficult for me to talk about AAA on this blog but I’d like to write about it within this day, so please excuse me.
The group called AAA has been active for 12 years,
but at this point in time, AAA member, Ito Chiaki, has announced her marriage and pregnancy, and will be graduating from the group this March. Firstly, as for one thing, since there are others, I do think that all of us, not just limited to AAA as a performing group, are just a piece of a big society and the whole world’s puzzle; we have cogwheels, and each has its own important role. And among them, there are those who included the presence of “the 7 members of AAA including Ito Chiaki” in their life. To all the organizations, individuals, and more than anyone else, the fans, I apologize from the bottom of my heart for letting you see the figure you would not have wanted to see, for making you sad, and making you feel a sense of loss. I am sorry.
However, I think that to have a new life in such body and to give birth is a wonderful thing, and her decision to become a mother for that child is a precious and honorable thing that cannot be replaced by any award or achievement. For a member who I’ve been with for 12 years in the same group to become such an existence, I am personally happy and proud. I think I feel like this all the more because a guy like me will not be able to do this in my life.  
I sincerely pray for her future happiness and all the people around her. There might be some people who need time to accept it as it is a sudden announcement, but I hope that everyone including them could bless and congratulate her.
And as for AAA as a whole, we will continue our activities from now on too. To the people who have supported us, and everyone involved, in order for all of you to have as many moments as possible when you’ll think “I’m glad AAA was there”, I believe that there is only one answer, and that is to do our best.
I would be really happy if you could support Ito Chiaki together with AAA. This has become long, but thank you very much for reading this.
And lastly, Chiaki, congratulations! I am very proud of you as a lady who will become a mother. Please come back anytime to show your and your kid’s healthy face. Thank you.
2017.1.12.Hidaka Mitsuhiro


[Urata Naoya’s twitter

As reported on our homepage and so on, the members will support Chiaki’s decision. And as we wish her happiness from the bottom of our hearts, we AAA will also put more fighting spirit and do our best so I’m hoping for your unchanging support from now on too.


[Uno Misako’s Instagram] (translated by @misakolove)

At this point in time, AAA member Chiaki Ito will graduate at the end of March. I’m sorry for surprising you with this sudden announcement.

For me Chiaki is the only AAA female member.
12 very precious years with Chiaki that no one can understand, an irreplaceable person in my life who can never be found anywhere even if you looked.
Chiaki will become a lovely proud mother.Congratulations.
I will keep supporting Chiaki heading on this decided path.
I may be small but I’ll be watching over you all the time.
I wish Chiaki an overflowing new warm happiness.AAA will do their best from this point on.
Working with the AAA members and staff we will continue on with the music activities.
Although I’ll be the only female member, I will do the very best I can for Chiaki, to help ease all the fans fears.
We look forward to your continued support for Chiaki and AAA!


[Sueyoshi Shuta’s twitter (1)(2)]

Chiaki, once again, congratulations on your marriage and pregnancy! Being together for more than 10 years as AAA, we have overcome hardships. It’s unfortunate that she’ll be leaving the group this March but if it’s the decision she made, then I’d like to give her my full support. Just like how each person’s life and each person’s personality is different, each person’s happiness also comes in different forms.

Please, somehow or other, bless and support her from now on too. And since AAA will work harder than ever, we hope for your continued support.

Thoughts

After some serious thinking about everything, I am thinking of closing down Taras.


I don’t even know what to say. People barely come here anymore, and that is most likely my fault. I have become distant and wary of newcomers, due to all of the shitstorms in the past and I feel awful about that, that is not who I am. I am a much more caring and welcoming and accepting person than what I’ve become.


I am also the type of person that hates to upset or displease people, and when I do, I withdraw and shutdown. Which is what I have been doing. For the few precious people that do talk to Taras, I always seem to fail them and I just can’t do it anymore.


This is just not fun for me anymore. Its putting too much pressure on me and my health is already suffering…


I just don’t know what to do.
And please don’t tell me I need to do what’s right for me or do what I need for my personal health… right now that will just feel like a redundant slap in the face.