i think it's not even healthy

ok but side note can we not use words like “threw herself on him” or god forbid slut for dot like ??? she got a little boozed up and got carried away; magnus stopped her and she respected that. you all rly do the most when it comes to woc lmao.

i have epilepsy and one of the biggest things that upset me as a kid is not being able to go to a certain place because “oh that place has lights that they specifically said were epileptic”

it confused me to no end, if they knew it was an injuring, and in some cases, a deadly thing, why use them? why not just use normal lights?

the excuse i always got were “well the other kids love them so…” or “its okay, its not a big deal” why? why isnt it a big deal that a place is openly choosing the entertainment of these kids over my safety and my life?

but the biggest thing that fucked w me as a child is sitting there and remembering that if the lights werent there, i wouldve been completely fine, happy, not limited. that the lights didnt HAVE to be there, but people without epilepsy put them there because it didnt affect them.

that my epilepsy wasnt the thing holding me back in that moment, it was the healthy people who never thought- or in this case thought and didnt care- about the disabled children who wouldnt be okay with those lights. I didnt matter because i wasnt healthy.

and even today, when i think about things like that it fucks w me, because I see it all the time and its a constant reminder that some cute, short-lived entertainment made for abled people is, has been, and will always be far more important than the safety and life of a disabled person.

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Endless list of Felicity scenes (7/) | Ben & Felicity

The truth is… I can’t be with you like this. - 2.02

Monster High & SDCC 2017: ADDENDUM

UPDATE: This Saturday, I asked Garrett Sander (the Monster High creator) how the fandom can best express our feelings about Monster High and its presence at comic-con to inspire change. He gave a me a few pointers:

• Call the customer service number, and leave comments about how much you love Monster High and how much you miss the SDCC panel and display: 1-800-524-8697

• Write letters to Mattel, Incorporated explaining why Monster High is important to you, and why Mattel should put it in their focus. This is an especially good option, because it allows us to relay the largest amount of information.
Mattel, Inc.
333 Continental Boulevard
El Segundo, CA 90245-5012

Concentrate our social media efforts as much as possible to one place. I was told that it’s important to consolidate ourselves so Mattel can see how many of us there are! I’d like to propose that we choose the Mattel Instagram page (Instagram.com/mattel), because it serves the dual purpose of getting our point across while also keeping negativity away from Monster High’s social media pages. if you don’t have an Instagram account, don’t worry; the above two options are still really important.

Perhaps most importantly of all, though, we have to STAY POSITIVE. Be cordial, be kind, lay off the swear words, and speak from the heart. Social media reps are trained specifically to ignore negative comments (or to respond with positivity), so if you’re going to post on Instagram, make sure to say that you love and miss Monster High, and wish to see them again at SDCC next year! When you write letters, keep the suggestions and complaints to a minimum. Mention how the artistic integrity, detail, individuality, and posability of these dolls is important to you, so Mattel knows those things are worth putting money into. We can absolutely do this. I believe in us.

ORIGINAL POST:

I just spoke to Becca Shipman, the current lead designer of Monster High.

the higher-ups at Mattel decided to focus only on their licensed brands at SDCC this year. it’s supposedly a better business strategy. that is the reason for the huge focus on WWE and DCSHG, as well as the lack of a Monster High panel. the designers of Mattel’s home-grown brands, Monster High included, were crestfallen, but there’s nothing they can do about it. Monster High spent the year preparing for SDCC as usual before the corporate decision was finalized, so they slated reveals, which are now happening on social media, and Becca designed that Cleo de Nile and Ghoulia Yelps 2-pack, which was supposed to be the SDCC exclusive.

the Monster High crew cares so deeply about the brand. they care about girls, they care about misfits, they care about stories, they care about fashion and art, and more than anything, they care about their fans. I know this firsthand. I know they love each and every one of us.

there’s been a lot of transition from the Monster High fans I follow from despair into acceptance. people seem to be sure that this is the death knell for the brand. I’m telling you otherwise. please make an uproar about Monster High’s presence at SDCC. please try to make your voice heard, guys - and don’t bother Monster High’s people about it. go directly to Mattel. storm their official Instagram. write letters and e-mails. even if nothing comes of it, they should at least know how we feel about this. the brand is important to us! its presence is important to us! and the artists behind the brand who care so deeply about it are important to us. we don’t have to whine about it online (although we still can - a healthy amount of whining is important), and we don’t have to accept defeat. I think it’s time we make our feelings known in the most positive way we can. conventions aren’t just for superheroes and wrestlers! they’re for ghouls, too.

the signs as Parks and Rec quotes
  • Aries: Jogging is the worst! I know it keeps you healthy, but God, at what cost?
  • Taurus: Oh, my God. These dogs are so cute. I WANT TO THROW UP AND KILL MYSELF.
  • Gemini: I think that Comic Sans always screams 'fun'.
  • Cancer: I don't even have time to tell you how wrong you are. Actually, it's gonna bug me if I don't.
  • Leo: I have no idea what I'm doing, but I know I'm doing it really, really well.
  • Virgo: Everything in my life is going wrong right now. Whose fault is this? I demand to know.
  • Libra: I'm not interested in caring about people.
  • Scorpio: Ugh. I hate talking to people about things. This is a nightmare.
  • Sagittarius: No, no. That's too much responsibility for me. I gotta— I gotta find a way out of this.
  • Capricorn: Yes. I am a hunter, and it's 'You' season.
  • Aquarius: My anxiety has kept me up for over fifty hours.
  • Pisces: I'm hungry and my legs are tired. It feels like I just exercised!

Real quick: there is nothing wrong or gross or even unusual about having sexual urges related to sexual attraction, nothing wrong with seeing strangers as sexually attractive without knowing anything about them, nothing even wrong with having sex for its own sake and not for the purpose of connecting with a partner. I think it is easy to combat both “All non-asexuals have the same relationship to sex” and “All LGBT people are sex crazed” with a weird watering down of sexual attraction between us, and watering down of our sexual desires, or with a tendency to say we don’t all have the same relationship to sexuality but ours are somehow magical and clean. But our sexualities aren’t gross and don’t need cleaning up- even being strongly sexually attracted to strangers is fine and okay and very healthy, and not objectifying. To buy those terms of conversation is to buy homophobic goalposts, and to combat a universalizing understanding of LGBT people’s sexualities with yet another, more politically comfortable, but equally universalizing model of LGBT people sexualities.

“Objectification” is meant to be used in as literal a sense as possible, to refer not to sexual attraction to women but an inability to see them as people. I think it’s hard for a lot of women to wrap their heads around the fact that this is a common feature of men’s sexualities because it’s hard for them to understand that many men literally do not see women as more than a hole for them to fuck. But just wanting to have sex with women (and other men, in the case of gay and bi men, or generally, in the case of trans people) is not gross, even random women, even women with whom you have prior emotional connection. I know objectification- I know how men talk about women when they are trying to form masculine bonds with me, and worse I know how men talk about women when they think I am also a man and there are no women around, and it’s not JUST “She’s hot and I don’t know her name.”

We should be careful not to lapse into, “Well everyone is demisexual” as an argument because I guarantee that is not the case. I love fucking women, I love respectful and occurring hookups, I love casual sex with no romantic strings attached outside of general emotional support, I’ve had fulfilling and fun sex with friends I had no romantic feelings for. None of that is bad. But to make the claim that most people don’t enjoy sex or feel attraction to other people sexually without knowing things about them is 1) straight up false and 2) needlessly stigmatizing.

an annoyed older nico looking at his sister being all lovey dovey with thalia in the distance (to be drawn later stay tuned xoxo)

~bianca survives au~

  • Brain: hey
  • Me: what
  • Brain: d'you remember..
  • Me: please don't. Not now I need to focus
  • Brain: a lil something called Yuri on ice?????
  • Me: oh DO I?? Yuri!!! On Ice is the best thing to ever happen to me in all my years of existence. Everything about it is pure and good. All of the characters are so real, and their unique stories are all so well thought out. And HOW is Victor and Yuuri's relationship even REAL. I'm still in disbelief that they are canon it's too much for me to handled. They are for real life engaged to be married in a happy and healthy relationship that will never end. How have we been so blessed. How is it that I just so happen to be alive at the same time this miracle has come into this cold and unforgiving world. I did not know true happiness until I found this masterpiece.
  • Brain: :)
  • Me, as a tear rolls down my cheek: ..fuck u bro

anonymous asked:

I think I'm in love with Pennywise?? you know like literally feel the butterflies in my stomach, and the heartache sigh it's not even sexual, I just? love him :/ I'm so fucked 😕

Ok but honestly I feel this so much you don’t understand, last night I started MISSING HIM???, like I was genuinely upset that he wasn’t with me and holy fuck I got so sad

This can’t be fucking healthy lmao

I’m actually so glad that Youngjae is moving out of the dorms to live with his brother because I’m sure it was a hard decision and he’ll be happier and less homesick now he’s with his family. Also it’s not like he’s never going to see or speak to got7 again, they’ll want him to be comfortable and feel at home wherever he goes. I think it’s gross that some people are saying he shouldn’t move out and acting like he’s betraying the group?? Like how is spending more time with your family in any way going against the best interests of got7???

I just want the boy happy, healthy and well fed and I’d even be fine with him moving to a different country if he said it was what was best for him 💖🌼

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“We are a country of brown people, why would we want to be pale and put bleach, its not even healthy. Our country is a variety of cultures and people and colour creates an invisible wall that should not be there. I think that such ads do hurt the confidence of darker people, especially women. My sister, too is a little dark, so endorsing a fairness cream would mean I’m insulting my own sister and the rest of the community who aren’t fair.” -Kangana Ranaut on why she refuses to endorse fairness creams

yo-girl-time-to-die  asked:

I know that what you do might seem pointless or stupid or even just distasteful sometimes. That's normal. We love what you do. Don't feel pressured to be motivated all the time... it's not healthy. You are awesome no matter what you're doing, your projects have worth. I'm sorry you don't like Underverse very much. Personally, I love it and I think you're a creative, awesome, talented person. But even if you left Underverse right now, I'd still be behind you and following your work. <3

I don’t feel so happy at all since I’m in a few hours to have a special day for me because of all of these thoughts. Sometimes I still think I didn’t deserve the chance to transform a hobby to a real job.

Tthe only thing I can do for now is at least keep being kind and trying to forgive myself for all the stupid things I did and words I said to myself.  I’m not sure how long this “hate against myself” will last, but you words mean a lot, even if I’m not able to express it properly.

So, thank you. Thank you everyone.

What is Self-Care and Why is it Important?

Self-care is addressing the needs of your body, whether it be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. Because we are all built differently, self-care isn’t going to look the same for all of us. For some, self-care is gathering the strength to get out of bed and take a shower while for others it’s finding 15 minutes in their busy day to sit alone outside. There is no RIGHT way to self-care only YOUR way. So it’s essential that you listen to your body and allow it to lead you towards what you need in order to care for yourself.

As stated above, there are 4 areas of yourself that require acts of self-care to stay in balance and working properly. Though they are separated, they are also very much connected. Ignoring one area has the potential to negatively affect the others so it’s important to scan through all aspects of yourself and not disregard any. Below is a further explanation of each area and examples of how to self-care.

  • Physical - The physical refers to the physical body and out of all 4 areas it’s probably the easiest to spot when it’s out of sorts. It’s also the area society puts the most focus on. Sickness, pain, exhaustion, fatigue, soreness, and just an overall sense of feeling like crap are some indicators that you need some self-care in the physical area. Some examples of self-care are adding healthier foods into your diet or making sure you are getting enough of each of the essential vitamins and minerals, doing some kind of physical activity (even just taking a walk outside), adjusting your sleep cycle so that you are getting enough GOOD sleep, taking a warm bath to soothe tired and achy muscles, and most importantly RESTING! Your body is sacred and when you treat it as such the world becomes a lot less formidable.
  • Mental - Sadly, mental health is still struggling to get out of the shadow of physical health. Theres so much stigma on mental health that a lot of times this area goes untouched which can cause the other areas to fall apart regardless of how much self-care you throw at them. So let me stress with bold italics to make it clear: MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS PHYSICAL HEALTH!!! Okay one more time just in case anyone missed it. MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS PHYSICAL HEALTH!!! Whew, glad we got that out of the way now we can continue. Mental and physical health are equals in regards to our overall health especially because they are strongly linked. It’s been my own experience that when one is off the other is soon to follow, but thankfully it also works in the opposite direction. Improving one will also help improve the other. So a lot of the examples of self-care listed for physical can also apply to mental. Though that doesn’t work for everyone or it will only get you part of the way. It’s important to understand that we all have our own individual struggles with mental health, with some being more severe than others especially when you take into account our home lives, our environments, our experiences, and of course our access to healthcare. So this area especially is going to have many different forms of self-care and like I said before, there is no right way just your way. Some examples for mental self-care are seeing a professional, taking your medication as instructed, finding healthy coping mechanisms, being kind and patient with yourself, meditation, rewarding yourself for even the littlest of achievements, and allowing yourself to have bad days without punishing yourself.
  • Emotional - So some might think that the emotional should tie into mental and though it is true that emotional and mental have an EXTREMELY close link, emotional can operate outside of the influence of mental allowing it to be its own area. Other than mental and physical, the emotional aspect is deeply connected to our life experiences and our interactions with people. So in a lot of cases when our emotions are in a state of chaos it’s an indicator we haven’t properly dealt with a painful experience. Or we are currently experiencing a traumatic event or relationship. When your emotions are running rampant the most crucial and mandatory act of self-care is to LISTEN! It may seem like the emotional is just being a cruel bitch, but it’s actually trying to tell you something important. Its sounding an alarm, trying to bring your focus to an area that desperately needs your attention. It’s like when your body sends pain signals to your brain when you have a wound or a broken bone. It’s telling you that there’s parts of your body that needs healing. The same goes for your emotions. They are telling you that there’s issues that you haven’t yet healed from or even dealt with. So absolutely part of your emotional self-care should be allowing yourself to heal from whatever it is that’s caused you trauma, pain, and distress. Other examples of self-care for the emotional aspect are journaling, confiding in someone you trust, allowing yourself to cry, treating yourself to what comforts you, finding or creating a place you feel safe and relaxed in, movie marathons or netflix binge watching, and being very gentle and loving with yourself. Oh and it’s also important to note that for some of us it’s natural to get emotional flare ups, especially for those of us who menstruate. In those cases, it’s still imperative to listen to your emotions (and body) which are most likely telling you to rest and take it easy! Seriously, one of the best acts of self-care for any (and really all) areas is to allow yourself time to really rest.
  • Spiritual - It’s my personal opinion that this is the hardest area to gain access to yet it also has the greatest ability to positively affect not only the other areas, but your own relationship with self-care itself. I have to say feeding my spiritual area was a game changer for me. It’s the reason I made self-care a vital part of my life and it’s the reason I’m here typing up this post. Its allowed me to start healing from my abusive relationship (emotional), its helped me learn to cope with and control my anxiety and depression (mental), and its aided me with treating my body like the sacred temple it is (physical). Now i’m not saying that all your problems will be fixed by putting all your efforts and focus into the spiritual, I just think when you make taking care of yourself part of your religion or practice, you are much more likely to see it as a priority. So ways to self-care the spiritual are being outside and soaking in nature, going to a place of worship, earthing, sitting outside during the full moon, going to the beach, meditation, sit with a deity or some kind of higher power, enjoy some silence, and spend time in sacred space (create sacred space if you don’t already have one).

I also want to stress that self-care should be a part of your everyday life not just when one of the areas goes into chaos. Getting into the habit of checking in with yourself routinely and practicing self-care daily makes it much less likely that you will even reach the point of complete chaos or at the very least you will find stability a lot quicker. Though in order to truly make a habit of practicing self-care the key concept that you absolutely need to accept and embrace is that YOU ARE WORTH IT!!! Repeat it. Say it right now! Say I AM WORTH IT! You are 100% worth dedicating time and energy to yourself! You are 100% deserving of love, patience, rewards, and kindness from yourself! You are 100% entitled to all the self-care and self-love you need. You are worth it, my friends. You are so worth it. Now go give yourself some much deserved love and care!

~Jessie

anonymous asked:

hi, I'm sorry if I am bothering you but I really need advice. I have a friend who I don't wanna hang out with anymore because I don't think it's healthy friendship. She can either make me feel like the luckiest person or the worst human being on earth. i've tried breaking up our friendship but she manages to make me stay and make it seem like it's my fault. how do i manage to get out of the situation without feeling like it's my fault?

Hi cutie !! No need to be sorry, you aren’t being a bother at all. Know that what you’re going through right now is not easy, and it can definitely be a very emotional process even after that person is out of your life. It’s important to be patient with yourself.

Sometimes, it’s can be helpful to openly talk about your honest feelings with the person (consider writing a letter instead), but realistically some people won’t make an effort to change. If they don’t respect your boundaries now, it’s unlikely that they will later. It’s never your responsibility to remain in their life. If you choose to speak to them in person, I recommend doing it in a public place.

If you’re ready to cut them off for good, here’s what you should remember:

• Feeling guilty is actually totally normal. You’re a human being who doesn’t want to hurt another person- but putting your own health and happiness first is absolutely essential. We do crave and need friendships, but not all of them.

• Missing them is another normal part of moving on. Know that you can still miss all the amazing things and memories about the person while letting go of the bad things.

• Don’t feel like you owe anyone an explanation. If you want to explain, that’s more than okay. Just remember to be honest because your feelings are not up for debate. If you prefer, you can tell them simply that you drifted apart, or that you don’t want them in your life anymore.

• Block and delete them anywhere and everywhere on social media. Delete your past messages, photographs, etc. This step is usually the hardest for me personally. Remember, you don’t have to be sentimental.

• The likelihood is that the person will try to find out why you’re ignoring them. They may try manipulative tactics to get you to talk to them. You still don’t have to engage.

• Just because you aren’t talking to someone anyone, does not mean you can’t wish them love and luck.

• Make an effort to reconnect with others and make new friends who make you feel good, but most importantly take the time to concentrate on yourself.

Some other posts that may be helpful to you:

how can I focus on recovery when everyone is bringing me down
how to tell if someone is actually a toxic person

Cutting a toxic person from your life is an act of self care. You are not a bad person for putting yourself first, darling. 💖🌷

anonymous asked:

Hello Fox-blog-person! Do you think it's possible to have domesticated foxes in the future? In the same way humans and dogs live together? I was looking into "owning" a fox, but from what I read, they are still too wild to live with people- unlik cats or dogs. So I of course gave that up b/c even though it would be cool, I don't want the little fox to live an unfulfilling life. Do you think in the future this could be possible-where foxes can live a healthy life like this? Thanks fox-dude!peace!

I’m not an expert in animals but who knows. It took a while to domesticate dogs and cats so I think it would be really cool if foxes were fully domesticated as well, but if it happened it won’t be for a long, long time. Maybe some of my educated followers could correct/expand on what I wrote :)

anonymous asked:

I think it's safe to assume that monsters have longer life-spans than humans since their bodies are made mostly of magic with little physical matter. Since wizards are hybrids of humans and monsters, is their life-span extended, or is it just like the average human?

Wizards often live over a hundred years but not usually more than 120. And even then they’ve still got to stay healthy and eat their veggies and such to live that long.
-TQ

the signs IMO

aries: can’t fuckin chill for one goddamn second. everythin is a fight to u. stop yelling im 2 metres away from you. maybe i should be 200000 metres away from you BYE. u need to get ur ass kicked. egoistic bastards. they’re not even that egoistic in reality they’re just big fuckin babies but they gotta put on this dumbass mask so nobody can hurt their stupid fragile feelings. suck a fuck arians

taurus: fuckin sloths. ur not as cool as u think u are. stop acting so fuckin chill when i kno ur dyin on the inside. also fuckin leave the house once a while alright. ever heard of vitamin d? didnt think so. bitch. chocolate ice cream is their religion

gemini: DEAR FUCKIN LORD FORBID WE HAVE DIFFERENT OPINIONS. DEAR FUCKIN LORD FORBID I TALK TO U . fuckin blabbing all the fuckin time. 24/7 non stop. can’t chill for 2 secs eve n if it depended on their life. ur like an eastern european old lady at christmas dear god help me. they also leave the house only when the wifi is down. they go to the palce they kno has free wifi. leave me the hell alone two face d bitches

cancer: fuckin cry babies. always the victim and always has a reason to cry. gets offended because the leaves fall from the trees in autumn. tells at least 20 lies a day. manipulates and cries their way through life. probably through sex too. sissy ass little bitches thinkin they the shit. guess what. ur not. fuckin satan in disguise. no t the cool kind of satan tho. 

leo: do u think about anytihng else other than clothes and being in the spotlight? didnt think so . get off social media and get a grip. this isnt fuckin kim kardashian reality tv show. dumbasses. favorite hobby is throwing shade at ppl they kno through statuses on facebook. doesn’t have a life outside of social media unless they get hammered. put s on glitter to go to the store. has 20+ crushes at the same time and gets heartbroken about each and every one. my god. disgusting

virgo: MY FUCiNG GOD. grown up babies. u is not always right. there’s filth in this world too. get over it. and dont bring the vacuum cleaner to the party pls thanx. nobody is interested in shakespeares gay ass poems either. fuck off vorgis. lubes their dick and ass with hand sanitizer

libra: BITCH YOU’RE NOT EVEN REAL. HAVE U EVER HEARD OF STATING UR OPINION WITHOUT GIVING A SHIT. real life words i’ve heard come from a libra “have you tried charming them” BUH BYE. fake ass bitches

scorpio: calm down satan princess/ this isnt hell. and its also healthy to let go of grudges. please dont kill me because i dont like cats. also stop staring at people like they killed your family in front of your eyes. fuckin freaks 

sagittarius: def not as cool as you think you are. def not the party animal u say u are. stop bein a fuck up and a little bitch and settle down for ONE FUCKIN THING IN YOUR LIFE. also u not as philosophical as u think, no real facts just fancy vocabulary. likes big words cuz they think it makes them smart. it doesnt. suck my dick sag fags

capricorn: dear fucking lord. all of u stay the FUCK AWAY FROM ME. always ready to fuk u up without even listening to u first. think they kno what u saying before u even say it. they have a funny way of twisting ur words. shows the convos with u to all of their friends. pretentious little fucks. theyre gonna gauge ur eyes out for asking if they r ok when they’re sad. then they gonna flip out cuz ur “never there for them” or “don’t pay attention to them” and then they gonna go like nothing ever happened a while later. fuck u honestly. fuck u in the ass capricorns. fuckin spawns of satan

aquarius: def not emotionless. definitely too fuckin sissy to show their tru emotions. will wear a dress made out of plastic flowers and shit just to show their “UNIQUE INTELLECTUAL REBEL SIDE”. fuck off aquas . fuck off. their world crashes down when their intellectuality and opinions are being questioned . fuck off alright u and ur dumbass lana del ray aesthetics. they prolly run a hipster blog too. ew. definitely has a poster of a sexy alien in their room

pisces: D R A M A QUEENS. attention whores, m y god have you ever heard of privacy????????????????????????? THE WHOLE WORLD DOESNT HAVE TO KNO ALL OF UR PERSONAL SHIT. if they got a problem with you theyre gonna drag you to a crowd of ppl and start their shit there. god forbid they talk to you alone about it. they all just wanna be super duper artistic but all they do is fuckin zone out and day dream about some gay shit prolly. i dont know. dont wanna go into their heads. i love and respect myself too much to wanna see whats goin on in a pisces head.  they all post pics of their collar bones and their “90′s pastel grunge torn up jeans” on social media. no matter what happens they are always the victim, and everybody hurts them. fuck off and grow a pair and tell it how it is aight. sick and tired of ur bullshit

anonymous asked:

What I want to know is how you think Eggsy's and Tilde's relationship is a good one. I mean she manipulates him into proposing through guilt and even though she clearly said that she's not cool with him sleeping with people for work he still ends up fingering Clara. It's dangerous to think there's anything even remotely healthy in that relationship. Not to mention flat out lying to her in order to impress her parents. Fucking heterosexuals.

(2/2) I…wasn’t actually calling you a heterosexual. (‘fucking heterosexualS… general term). I was implying the fact that heterosexuals somehow find shit like that to be healthy and normal. Again. Not you. People who think a relationship like Tilde and Eggsy’s is healthy and acceptable. But sure, take it as you will.

I like how you ignored like, 90% of the relationship to focus on the one bad scene of their relationship. (Also spoilers this way come, I’ve tagged it as such but there’s spoilers in the ask already so :/)

I’m not going to act like Eggsy/Tilde is a 100% normal and healthy relationship.

(I also don’t consider Hartwin a normal and healthy relationship as it inherently stems from some form of hero worship, a power imbalance, and, sometimes, a savior complex (when Harry “saves” Eggsy.) I still ship it anyway.)

Tilde and Eggsy’s relationship comes from a last ditch save-the-world moment where Eggsy is saving the world (anyway) and Tilde finds herself offering an additional incentive in the form of bum sex. He saves the world, they have sex, and that’s all we know from the first movie.

There’s about a year between Secret Service and the Golden Circle. 

In that year, Eggsy and Tilde have been in a relationship where he is very aware that she is a Princess and she’s aware of the fact that he’s a spy.

She hangs out with his friends (and banters with Eggsy’s friends), she loves his dog, she loves Eggsy, she knows and respects the place Harry has/had in Eggsy’s life, and she shows that she wants Eggsy and her family to get along.

He is shown to love her in return, appreciate her, and takes comfort in her presence. And he doesn’t lie to her to impress her parents, I’m pretty sure she’s smarter than that. She knows he’s a spy for gods sake. He’s communicated with Merlin through the glasses in front of her before. 

Before he goes to Glastonbury, it’s alluded to that Eggsy doesn’t often get to spend a lot of time with Tilde due to his occupation as a spy. Makes sense. She wants to spend more time with him and she’s a little lonely and neglected.

They’ve also clearly never discussed boundaries in regards to the possibility of a honeypot mission. That’s a mistake on both their parts.

Now, Eggsy didn’t go into Glastonbury knowing it’s a honeypot. He learns that after the fact, right before he has to approach Clara, and therefore has no time to call Tilde until right before the down and dirty.

Yes, maybe it’s shitty that Tilde sprung the whole “is that a proposal?” on Eggsy. I’m not saying that was a shitty thing to do.

But as far as Tilde knows, Eggsy knew this was a honeypot all along and didn’t tell her ahead of time. So as far as she knows, he tells her he has a mission and surprise! He’s got to sleep with someone to do it, totally slipped his mind. On top of that, she hasn’t been seeing him a lot lately and she’s already upset with that.

She’s feeling betrayed, Eggsy’s feeling guilty, it’s not a good scene for either of them. But he doesn’t get “trapped” in a proposal. He doesn’t agree to it, hence her hanging up and ghosting him.

He still fingers Clara because that’s his damn mission. He was going to back out completely until he saw Clara was a part of the Golden Circle, and was he supposed to get rid of their only connection to find them? The lives of millions were prioritized over his relationship in that moment.

Tilde ghosts Eggsy, which is shitty and immature, but I’m also mostly sure that was just a writing decision on Vaughn’s part to capitalize on the whole “wow Tilde is so emotionally compromised she does drugs oh my godddd.” 

What a stupid part of the plot.

Eggsy’s love for Tilde re-emphasizing his need to save the world, classic action movie saving love interest thing here, nothing to see, carry on. It’s a standard trope.

And then the end, the wedding. Time has passed between Eggsy saving the world, again, and the wedding. Those things take time to plan, especially with royalty involved. So at the earliest they’ve had months to work things out. And clearly, after working things out, they still made the decision to get married. 

Maybe the book has more answers, I haven’t read it yet, but based on the movie, it’s not like Tilde and Eggsy have a toxic relationship. It’s a standard spy-love interest relationship with a bumpy moment in the middle.

It’s not 100% healthy or whatever, but it’s not like it’s the worst fucking thing in the world. 

And thinking so doesn’t make me a heterosexual.

anidict13  asked:

Where do you think does Mitch's insecurity stems from? Which part of his body is he conscious of and why? I keep wondering about this myself because, I think Mitch has a pretty hot bod. Very hot bod. He has a nice chest and has a flat stomach that looks like abs or at least a hard stomach underneath the shirt. Sure, he's a bit stringy/lanky, but it's obvious he's strong and lean-muscled. I find his torso attractive and if his posture's better, he'd have a pretty nice silhouette, too.

Hmm.. I mean, I don’t think I can vouch too much for what is actually canon but this is all… Opinion and headcanons SO HMM,… SCRATCHES CHIN.. 

I feel like… A lot of us see Mitch as really attractive but then again we are very thirsty fans that fell in love with these characters. Even if… A person, Mitch in this case, has a… “Nice body” doesn’t mean it’s healthy or even if it is, doesn’t mean that Mitch likes it. Insecurity y’know.

So… I’m guessing it stemmed from his dad, that’s what I think at least. This is 100% a theory bc.. We know nearly Nothing about his dad so I’m just gonna try my best.

We know that his stepdad was very abusive, and they probably never had enough money to even eat, which made him very lanky and thin… And, again this is a guess, but all of that abuse and trauma really takes a toll on a person. There can be Mitch’s own conflict of… Hating how he wasn’t strong enough to fight back or protect himself/his mom, that he was always so weak and small.

And there’s just… Insecurity man. A lot of self hate builds up for your face, your body, your personality, which leads to this idea of believing you should be punished or even, the idea of eating and treating yourself right is, kind of sickening.

I think Mitch deals with a lot of things like… Thinking himself as disgusting and “not good enough.” And Especially thinking himself to be like his stepdad, he doesn’t want to equate to that image, he wants to be better than that at least. So yeah, I believe a lot of the insecurity and hate is stemmed from his dad!