i think it's acceptable to put this on in there

I think I mentioned how hard it is finding good fresh not over ripe avocados lately before.

My trip to the store recently was no different. I must have gently held 20-30 to find 4 that were acceptable. 2 have been perfect, one was already too far gone inside and the 4th, well I’m going to put it in my belly today if its not too far gone. I might even do avocado toast with some pimento cheese spread as a snack since I had a light dinner. Which was a small salad with grapes, chicken, feta cheese and a sweet vinegrrette on some kind of lettuce.

I wish I had some wheat or similar crackers, maybe some fancy ones, that pimento cheese and avocado would be excellent smeared on those.

6

“I think that… I think that until you’ve fought those battles yourself, until you’ve had the guts to stand up for who you are, you should be really fucking careful talking about and putting yourself above Gay Pride.”

Libra & Emotion ♎️🎭

(I’m not a professional but I’m a Libra Sun, Libra Moon, with Libra Dominance, and a 7th house stellium so I think this comes from a place of first hand experience)

Libra suns, like other air signs, do tend to detach from their emotions but not in the same way. Libra hates conflict. They hate tension and uneasiness. They need stability and reliability. Because emotions can be unpredictable, Libras feel the need to water their feelings down. Think of it as a filter. They try to rationalize and sort each emotion, find out the source, and put it into its proper place. So say if someone was rude to Libra, instead of reacting like their sister sign Aries would, Libra would accept the rudeness and then continue about their day thinking how and why that happened.

Libra also tends to put their feelings on a larger context. They ask themselves, I feel this way because this happened to me, but doesn’t everyone feel this exact way when this happens? So by concluding that everyone experiences a certain feeling, Libra decides they don’t need that feeling. If emotions don’t help a Libra, they get rid of them. And by get rid of them, I mean they either try to rationalize them so they don’t exist or they just try to ignore it.

Libra will ‘reject’ feelings if they do not believe they have the right to feel that way. For example, if a single Libra sees a cute couple they might have a pang of envy and feel resentment towards the couple in love. But then Libra will go “oh this is just my own bitterness, they haven’t done anything wrong, I’m just being unreasonable” and they’ll tell themselves to stop feeling like that.

Libra will also pick and choose what emotions to experience based on their environment. This sounds really weird I know. But if they’re in a group and everyone is wild and goofy and impulsive, Libra will match their behavior and try to match their emotions. For example, I won’t be excited about a something until someone else is and I feed off their energy.

Libra moons are a little more difficult to understand. They filter their feelings based on what’s “just and proper,” what benefits those around them, and what benefits themselves. Libra moon will choose to delete emotions they don’t know how to deal with. They also tend to never talk about their feelings. Or, and I’m guilty of doing this, will complain about small things so that their friends won’t ask what’s REALLY wrong on a deeper level (because if I never complained about anything, they would be concerned). Libra moons will avoid talking about their feelings. They like to help others though and by helping others, they learn about themselves. They can sometimes act as therapists, asking others how they feel about a certain situation and then those Libra moons will apply what they learned to their own lives.

After talking to other Libra moons on here, I’ve learned that I’m not alone in that Libra moons often feel hollow. Like there’s a cavern in our hearts. Most days it feels unfillable. Our emotions can overwhelm us and so we feel numb. Happiness is dulled, sadness is dulled until everything feels “meh.” There are many days when by all accounts we should be happy or excited but aren’t. It’s like eating bittersweet candy. You don’t really understand the flavor. It has both the sweetest and the sour mixed up together. Our emotions get all jumbled up together, we have trouble trying to separate them because we see how things can have both pros and cons.

Many Libra moons (and suns and 7th house stelliums) feel a continual longing. Specifically, longing for a relationship. There’s an incessant need for partnership, for a companion, to be understood. When that isn’t being fulfilled, it makes our lives imbalanced, throwing our emotions even farther off balance. At the end of the day, despite deflecting attention onto others, we secretly need love and a lot of it. The angsty phrase “I build walls just to see who cares enough to climb over” really applies here. Yes, we give other people a lot of attention. Part of that is to weed out who just likes us to listen and who actually wants to listen to us. We sort out the people who use us for validation from the people who actually care about us. When we find that there’s way more people who only use us, we can become depressed. There’s nothing quite as disheartening to a Libra moon than realizing that all your friends and family don’t ever stop to genuinely wonder how you’re doing. Despite Libra being called the fakest sign, we put that front up on purpose just to see who’s brave enough to look underneath. And unfortunately, very few people are willing to do so. Libra is a people pleaser and will seek companionship even if it is only superficial, but we will never be satisfied until we get that soulmate level connection we are looking for.

EDIT: thanks to @airmom I was reminded of a couple more key features When we do accept our emotions for what they are, it can be extremely hard to let go of them. It becomes like a grudge. Years can go by but when reminded of a situation, our feelings are just as strong as the day it originally happened. Libras tend not to hold grudges, but when they do, they hold them forever. Betrayal really hits home with this sign. If you betray a Libra’s trust, they may act like everything’s fine, they might still be friends with you, you might never even know your actions upset them, but Libras will never truly forgive you for it. This type of resentment just builds up over time. And Libras know logically that they should just get over it, but won’t. (Never tell a Libra “That was years ago, just get over it.” We can’t. We won’t. We’ll hate you for saying this because it implies we haven’t tried. We’ve tried moving on, and we already water down so many of our other emotions, just let us have this, ok?) Libras also will push to the side stuff they don’t want to deal with. They shove it into their closet so to speak. They won’t speak about it or acknowledge that it’s even there. But eventually the closet gets full and it all comes bursting out. Libras can be volcanoes. One little thing can set them off. If a Libra ever snaps seemingly out of nowhere, it’s because they’ve put off dealing with their emotions. Likely, they’re not mad at one little thing, but rather a whole month or year’s worth of frustrations. So if a Libra yells at you, it’s best just to shut up and listen. If they’re in this frame of mind and you start arguing back, they will never ever ever open up to you again. If a Libra actually trusts you enough to tell you what they’re feeling and you try to argue with them or put the blame on them, know that you’ll never earn their trust back. Ever. The next day they might act completely normal, but know this is a front and that they are mentally stabbing you. Again I just want to reiterate here that Libras do not often publicly express their anger (for fear of how others will react) so if they cry or scream in front of you, they’re at their most vulnerable and need your support. Most of the time, support in that situation is just shutting up and listening. Don’t give advice unless they ask. Just nod. Just care. And if they’re up for it, give them a hug. Not a wimpy one. A real hug. Squeeze them and tell them you love them. Libras just want to be understood.

Libras (especially moons) are daydreamers. This is a way out of dealing with reality. Libras escape in their fantasies. They write novels, direct movies, become superheroes, act out music, etc all in their heads. They’ll imagine real life situations over and over. This is why when things don’t go according to plan, they’ll become frustrated. Sometimes they just wish people could read their thoughts because it’s just hard to communicate them. The on,y time you’ll ever find a Libra unfiltered is in their fantasies. It’s the one place they let themselves be free and selfish. The world demands so much of them, their daydreams are their only escape. Libra has a strong martyr complex too. If they can’t find their inner peace, they’ll help you find yours. If they can’t be happy, they’ll try to cheer you up. If they haven’t laughed in ages, they’ll tell jokes until your eyes water and stomach hurts from giggling. They know what hollowness is like, what chaos and imbalance and self hatred is like. They help you be strong so they can tell themselves they will be strong one day too.

Because Saturn exalts in Libra, many Libras feel extreme self-hatred, unworthiness, guilt for no reason, and fear they will be dependent forever. This complex relationship between Saturn and Venus (which is Libra’s main ruler) creates tension. There’s a pull between wanting the beautiful things out of life like clothes, romance, confidence with feeling like they are undeserving of it. — Please be gentle with Libras.

anonymous asked:

How are Ravenclaw's relationships with other houses?

Ravenclaws have a weird relationship with gryffindor. Though we often adore them individually, as a house it represents everything we loathe. To ravenclaws, gryffindor symbolises conformity, arrogance, and unoriginality. It’s bs of course but ravenclaws strain to go against the current, to stand out from the crowd, and the idea of being in gryffindor and just being so normal is incredibly unappealing to a ravenclaw. Also we joke about gryffindors being big headed but know that it’s not intended maliciously, after all many ravenclaws are exactly the same whether we admit it to ourselves or not

Slytherin is quite the opposite. As a house we can get behind its beliefs. Slytherins value wit, cunning, and ambition. It’s like ravenclaws look at slytherins and think ‘huh… that could be me if I actually put my mind to something’. However, though slytherin is by no means an evil house, it is one focused heavily on putting yourself first. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing but ravenclaws often take issue with ‘the ends justify the means’ mentality that a lot of slytherins hold, particularly when it concerns prejudice. Ravenclaw values itself on acceptance and so the exclusive nature of slytherin doesn’t sit that well

Hufflepuffs are the people there to keep ravenclaws on track. They’re the friends ravenclaws want to be like. They show ravenclaws the value of hard work, share the same passion for equality, and show a loyalty that ravenclaws often struggle to maintain. Hufflepuff also joins ravenclaw in the under appreciated houses club, and there’s a certain comradely from being constantly under represented. However the relationship can be fairly one sided with ravenclaws often taking more than they give back, and we need to learn to take notes from the hufflepuffs rather than simply admiring them

anonymous asked:

I really want Damian to one day find out the lengths Tim was willing to go to avoid being adopted by Bruce and him just looking at Bruce with pity and then in some weird twisted logic try to incorporate Tim even further into the family

“Father wanted to adopt you, Drake,” Damian shouted incredulously during one of their many fights, “he was allowing you to enter into his family and you turned him down! Modified your father’s will and made up an imaginary uncle! How can you be so ungrateful!”

“Maybe I just didn’t want to be brought into a family out of misplaced obligation,” Tim hissed, angry and tired and hurting, always hurting. “Maybe, just maybe, I didn’t want to give myself the delusion that, hey, Bruce might like me beyond my abilities to punch people in the face.” He put a pale finger into Damian’s face. “Because I knew, even then, that some other kid was going to come along, some new Robin who was smarter, better and actually belonged in this crazy world.”

Tim drew back, turning away from Damian because things were pouring out of his mouth and he couldn’t stop. His vision was starting to water and he had to close his eyes to preserve that small bit of dignity he had left.

“Jason calls me the Replacement and, I get it, I’m fine with that. But after all I’d sacrificed for this town, for this team, I just didn’t want to put myself in a position where I’d be accepted only to lose it all when someone new came along. And look, barely 3 months after I finally gave into Bruce and let him legally adopt me, you…” He trails off and pointedly does not look at Damian’s Robin costume. It's hanging prominently next to Bruce’s suit where, once upon a time, Tim had hung his costume. He wipes at his nose as it started dribbling. “Whatever, you’re right. I’m terrible and everyone would be better off without me. I don’t even care what you think anymore, just leave me alone.” He said, stalking off. He walked away so fast and closed his ears to any snide comments Damian might have made. Because of this, he doesn’t hear Damian’s quiet, sincere little whisper.

“No, it’s not like that.” But of course Tim was already gone and Damian, well, he had a few things to think about before he confronted the older teen again. Maybe after he had a long discussion with his father regarding Tim’s placement within this family.

4

A Whirlwind Tour Of Lea DeLaria’s Long, Badass Career

“It’s pretty much about the entirety of my career: Don’t judge a butch by its cover. I wear the butch thing very proudly, obviously, I’ve got the tattoo. I live in a society that’s your basic heterosexist society, but also in the queer world where being butch is looked down upon. So refusing to be invisible — and I think you can apply that to almost anything — is important to effect change. It’s about accepting who you are, being who you are, and just putting yourself out there. It’s important. People loved it — that particular scene, with Boo and her father… I get hundreds of DMs every day on Instagram. I don’t think people realize that I look at those, but I do. I get tweets are about it, pictures, a meme started. I adopted the hashtag and I can’t believe how often it’s been used.”

Amends (part one)

Carter Baizen x reader

Notes: fluff, smut, angst, mentions of past alcohol and drug abuse, swearing. 

A/N: I started writing this about a year ago and left it alone after that. I was incredibly bored at work and managed to throw a little bit of it in there. For your information: the reader works as an optician (like myself!) but it’s not mentioned all that much. (I was actually looking for one of the most mundane-sounding job some one could do after modelling, and I found it XD) It’s been tweaked and improved (if I say so myself) and I hope you enjoy it! 

Originally posted by super-slick-imagines-chick

“Aren’t you a sight for sore eyes”

You looked up from your work to stare straight into the eyes of none other than Carter Baizen; fucking. Carter. Baizen.

Completely baffled you stared for a few seconds, but quickly turned back to what you were doing. The man had hurt you more than you could bare. The filthy rich guy who came to you, a former working class girl, every once in a while to have a little fun for some time; only to up and leave without a word when he found something better. Until you were done that is; done with the modelling lifestyle, done with the too bright spotlights and especially done with Carter Baizen. You decided that there was nothing more left for you in New York city, and packed your bags and high tailed it out of there to Europe, back to your home country.

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Critical Role is full of fully formed and unabashed female, male, gay, bi, straight and nonbinary characters. This series has always been for the outcasts and the disenfranchised. Matt and the rest of the cast have gone to the ends of the earth to be inclusive and relevent.

Was tarryons coming out problematic? Sure

Misinformed? Maybe

Homophobic? I’m not convinced

Let’s be clear about the facts of the character.

An anxiety ridden rich boy with an overbearing and scary father was caught in a relationship with a tutor when he was twenty. Father makes that man disappear and disowned said son until he can prove he is a man.

To reiterate it was consensual adult sex and he was shamed for the act. A real life thing that happens and doesn’t get talked about enough.

So the son embarks on a romantic inspired adventure to prove himself worthy and meets up with the most legendary of all adventurers vox machina. In his travels with them he shows a particular interest in the druid who is tall, fair and strong. All aspects of his former lover that he believes to be dead.

Now the scene in question, for all its warts, does one thing. It shows that no one person’s journey is ever the same as the next. Tary as a character is not confident in himself. He puts on an act because that is what he thinks the world wants from him and is only now coming to terms with himself because he is in an environment that accepts him as he his; broken, unsure and gay as shit.

Anytime a straight actor plays a gay character its going to be problematic. It’s just a different world perspective. You can’t understand the triggering nature of the scene if you haven’t lived it.

The scene is cringe worthy yes and I wasn’t sure about it while watching myself, more over I didn’t like the ‘well you’ve never tried with a woman so how do you know’ vibe. But what saved it for me was Laura checking to see if he was ok and Sam saying he was 'scared but excited’.

This was something that Tary wanted. Again it was consensual sex between adults.

And let’s talk about this. We are still very early in tarys development as a character. With the time skip maybe we will see him grow into a strong accomplished merchant warrior who just so happens to fancy hunky pale dudes. Who knows maybe in the span of the game we will never see Tary fall into a relationship but in the end we see him as an independent self starter who accomplishes his list for himself and not anyone else.

3

‘I don’t want to go’

‘Draco he’s your father’

‘And? I am his son and he didn’t seem to care much’

‘He did this his own way. I’m not saying a good way’ you added quickly when Draco rolled his eyes ‘But his way’ 

‘He hates me Y/N’ Draco said tying his shoes. He stopped his movements when you crouched to be eye level with him.

You know very well he doesn’t’  your thumb made small circles on his cheek ‘I don’t expect you to love him Draco’ you said gently ‘I know very well what happened. But he and your mother wanted to meet you. I think they’re more confused and want some answers. You haven’t spoken with them in years’ 

It was true, since the Battle of Hogwarts Draco hasn’t spoken to his father. Lucius tried to contact him several times but Draco never responded. After your engagement the older Malfoy completely ceased any ways of contacting. It was different with Draco’s mother. Narcissa met with her son a few times but their meetings were rather official and short. They haven’t seen each other in person since Draco’s 21st birthday.

Now when he turned 23 he got a letter from his parents where they were asking him to meet. He could choose the date, the venue and the answer. You encouraged him to say yes. 

‘Talking will do all of you some good’ the ring on your finger glistened in the sun when you pulled Draco’s face to give him a sweet kiss. ‘Promise’

‘Can’t you go with me?’ Draco whispered with his eyes closed. 

You know it is better if I won’t’ you moved so you were sitting next to him on your couch. Your fingers fixed the lapels of his jacket then smoothed down his sleeves. ‘They’re not my biggest fans’ 

‘And that’s why I don’t want to go’ Draco sighed putting his forehead on your shoulder.

You moved your fingers into his blond locks lightly scrapping his head. ‘You’re going to be my wife next month’ you felt the corners of his lips going up ‘Mrs. Malfoy’ he giggled kissing your arm ‘They better accept it’ his voice lost its happy tune. 

I think that’s why they wrote’ you said. Draco raised his head ‘That’s why they want to talk’ 

Your fiance took a deep breath before standing up ‘Alright. Let’s get it over with’

‘Don’t stress out and try to actually talk with them’ you said.

Not promising’ 

‘Draco’ you stood up so you could be face in face ‘You don’t have to love it but just listen to them okay?’ 

He responded with a kiss to your forehead. ‘I will. I’ll try anyway’ 

You guided his lips to yours ‘And that’s all you need to do’

Draco smiled thankfully and moved his wand around. Next second he was gone. 

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I think I might write more to this. I’m slowly getting back to writing and taking care of the requests and drafts but I saw those gifs and it just wrote itself. We’ll see. 

anonymous asked:

I have been hearing a lot about how Rick will react to the potential michonne "death", but how do you think Carl will react? (if he even sees it) I mean, for him it would be like losing a mother again. How do you think he would behave?

Why you do this to me?

Seriously, my Special Little Guy™ has been through so much in his short life. He has found something wonderful in Michonne and to see him think that she is lost to them would be so heartbreaking. He and Michonne were best friends before she became his mother figure (as Chandler so beautifully stated). Carl was the one who said Michonne was one of them; he accepted her first, which led to Rick letting her stay. He was angry at his father for even contemplating handing Michonne over to the Guv’nah. He loves Michonne and she loves him and I am going on and on about it so I don’t have to answer your question lol

*sighs* I know it would really hurt him. Michonne is so much to Carl on top of being a parent and friend; she is someone he looks up to; someone whose judgement he respects and whose abilities he admires. Of everyone who leaves the safety of their walls at ASZ, Carl knows she is the most likely to come back unscathed because of how smart and strong she is. That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t worry about her safety:

Originally posted by rick-rhymes

Or realise that she is not invincible:

Originally posted by debraaamorgan

We have seen him be angry lately because they have lost so much. I think if we are given a scene where the group thinks that Michonne has ‘died’ (ugh, I can’t stand writing it in the same sentence lol), Carl will have a different reaction to Rick. I think Rick’s will be very visceral whereas Carl’s will have him revert back to being a kid again, in some ways.

Michonne is one of the only characters who I feel let Carl be a kid (bringing him candy and comic books; being silly with him) when the world around him needed him to grow up fast. This is not to say she wanted to put him at a disadvantage, because he is quite capable; it’s because she accepts him for ALL that he is. The badass that will take you out no questions asked; the grouchy teenager; the child that needs nurturing; ‘just another monster’.  He can literally be everything that he is around Michonne. She has been so important to him, so for him to think she is gone will be devastating because she is his family within Team Family (Richonne Grimes Family is its own thing). It is going to hurt him tremendously, and I think it’s going to be anyone’s guess how he responds because he can be so unpredictable. Either way, I’m calling the police on Gimple for hurting me!

Originally posted by fangirl-utopia

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Bughead in this episode

- Their sweet smiles on the red couch, Betty beaming at him happily when Ronnie calls him her boyfriend. Juggie trying to act cool, but internally proud to be called her boyfriend. Both comfortable with their new found relationship status and not at all awkward at it being discussed publicly.

- Adorable banter at Pop’s, Juggie’s sass shows up again “His name is Moose”, Betty literally snuggling up to him. Betty being very cool when asking him why he didn’t tell her the Serpents beat up Moose - no judgment, no anger, just plain curiosity - you go, girlfriend!

- Juggie playing supportive boyfriend to the hilt at the shower even though its not his “scene” and Betty acknowledging that! This is so so important to a relationship, they don’t take each other for granted, they’re willing to compromise to make the other happy - Juggie is there for her even though he could’ve easily begged off, it wouldn’t have mattered, but he wanted to be there for Betty. He was there because this was important to her. And she noticed that and commented on it! I loved their banter in this scene and Juggie’s sarcasm again when he talks about this being on his bucket list - that was so Juggie! Its great that they can be themselves around each other and not feel the need to change themselves to please the other!

- His worst fears being realized when Archie tells her about his dad being a Serpent. That looks she gives him, he feels pretty sure he’s lost respect in her eyes, that it could be all over for him with her, he’s afraid of what she thinks of his family and him now. That look of shock and complete fear says it all - he’s terrified of losing her!

- He waits. He waits until they’ve all gone and Betty’s sorted things over with her family and made sure Polly has calmed down and gone to bed. He must’ve waited a long time! And to face what? For all he knew, Betty could have come at him angry at the secret he had kept, could have accused him of lying to her, could’ve even broken it all off. But yet he waited. Because he wanted to tell her why. And that is why Bughead wins because of this complete honesty and trust they have between them. They are willing to bare their hearts out to the other, willing to put themselves completely in the others’ power, knowing the risks of doing that could cause them to get hurt, but still trusting the other above anyone else.  

- He opens himself up. He tells her he was ashamed. He immediately accepts he should’ve told her when he had the chance. He thinks it could be over. But he still wants to come clean now. And she deals with it so maturely! No anger, no admonishing, no judgment - just simply - Why didn’t you? And he comes back with a  simple - I was ashamed. See, its so simple when you tell the truth. These kids can teach us more about relationships than experienced adults can! And this is the first serious relationship for both of them! WOW! Its like they wrote the Handbook on successful relationships!

- She wants to know all about him if they’re going to be together. *SCREAMS*. The way she takes his hand and that gesture is meant to be reassuring to him - to trust her, to tell her, to trust that she wouldn’t break at his darkness and that she would stay by his side no matter what. To trust in her strength and the strength of them together. That simple gesture of her taking his hand and saying those words? That sealed something so important between these two. And the relief in Jughead’s “Okay” and the affirmation is Betty’s echo. They are exemplary!!  It may seem like she was asking for too much, and that they’ve been together for only a couple of episodes, but they’ve been friends longer than that! That’s what makes navigating their new status so easy for them!

- That hand on her back, when she suggests talking to his dad, him agreeing immediately, ready to expose all his skeletons to her, lay them bare, because he’s now confident enough in her love for him. They are truly an inspiring couple.

- The meeting with his dad and then her asking him if he believed him. Jughead immediately looking for her opinion after speaking his mind. And this is again so important! He wants to know what she thinks because he respects her and values her thoughts as a rational, intelligent, analytical person. And when she says, “I believe YOU, Jughead”-  My God, I’ve already written paeans about this moment (X), but I don’t think we’re meant to think that she thought FP was shady and she didn’t totally trust him. I think she meant what she said. It didn’t matter what she thought. Jughead believed his dad and that was enough for her. She believed what Jughead believed. And she would support him in that belief. What a defining moment this was for Bughead! 

- The kiss that followed. He is so overwhelmed by her complete trust, her complete faith in him even after he’s exposed all of skeletons to her, she doesn’t judge him, just takes his word for it and completely and totally surrenders to her immense faith in him. What else could he do but kiss her? Words would be inadequate to express how he feels! 

The kiss itself was the most open and passionate we’ve had with them so far. And I could feel the love that was brimming between them, it was spilling over them in that kiss and they were bathed in light, it was almost like they were blessed with a divine love, and in all the shit around them, they are each other’s hope, sanity, anchor, light, reason. 

You know, when Archie said later “Pray for a miracle”, I wanted to say, “We already have one, Archie- in Bughead”

Originally posted by i-am-a-princess-taco

unactive-at-this-time  asked:

what do ya'll think about changing LGBT to SAGA (sexuality and gender acceptance)? i honestly dont know how to feel abt it bc lgbt is a part of our history but saga is much more inclusive

imo its real disrespectful to lgbt elders who fought for the community in the first place.

and it’s not about sexuality and gender acceptance, it’s about rights for lesbians, gay men, bi people, and trans people. SAGA shifts the focus from that to something much more general, taking focus from actual lgbt people and putting it on cishets and allies in the name of inclusivity. sexuality and gender acceptance could include anti heterophobia movements, women’s rights in general, and anything else that falls under the umbrella of “sexuality and gender.”

SAGA is a great name for like, a high school gsa. not for our whole community.

anonymous asked:

Why care about the whole Jimin hates white people thing. I'm white and I don't mind at all, I actually find it funny. It's obvious it's a joke and people fucking around, it's nbd? Besides these types of jokes run around the internet and if anyone thinks it's serious all they need to do is ask and people will answer. Whoever doesn't like the joke can just not interact w it and that's it.

I keep asking this but no one can give me an answer. Why use Jimin? How about let’s use your own face and put the same caption?

What you all aren’t saying is that you all use Jimin to make the joke more acceptable to more people. It’s normalizing hate because you use a familiar face to convey it and because Jimin is someone that’s like a separate person from yourself, you somehow don’t make yourself accountable for the hatred. But use Jimin as a vessel to normalize it and make it ok. I don’t care what you hate. I’m saying that it’s really shitty to use Jimin as a face for it so that you can pass it off as a joke and let people in and think it’s ok to do it.

It’s very very very heartbreaking it comes from our own fandom. Please don’t use jimin for your hate. I don’t care if you just think it’s just a joke. Don’t drag jimin into this.

Saw a post about people putting their cards in their mouth. I one time had a guy who wanted to buy a newspaper and a candy bar. I guess he thought he couldn’t carry that much stuff. He placed it down and I scanned them. He had a hand go to his pocket for what I assumed for change, so I put my hand out so that it wouldn’t end up on the counter.

He spat coins from his mouth into my hand.

He immediately left without his receipt. (It was the exact change to be fair). However, I just froze. My brain stopped processing thoughts as I held slimy, saliva covered coins in my hand. He did not hold them between his lips. He had them full on in his mouth. First, why would you think that its acceptable to spit into a strangers hand?? And second, money is gross!! Its been everywhere with who knows who, don’t put it in your mouth!!
I stood there not believing this happened and I tried my hardest to convince myself that it didn’t until I had a huge glob of sanitizer in that hand. Sanitized the fuck out of every coin and then sanitized my hands until they were red. I haven’t ever seen him again.

Hello....Got some SU theories

Hello, I realize I do not talk much, in fact rarely, but I wanted to get out 2 theories I have regarding the latest SU bomb to add to the mix. I apologize if some of what I have to say might have already been speculated or if this ends up being a spoiler of sorts. This is just my opinions.

The first thing I would like to talk about is Padparadscha, who I will refer to as Paddy for the rest of this post as Padparadscha is a bit of a mouth full. Paddy was certainly an interesting character who was hilarious to watch. I do think she is going to end up being an important gem to the series because of her power which is the subject of my first theory. At first glance it looks like she has exactly what the show describes; a slightly lagged behind future vision. However, I am purposing that she actually just has an extremely rare “past vision;” which is to say that instead of seeing the future, she can see into the past.

Now I think the reason why I think Paddy can see to the past is demonstrated throughout the episode. the slight “lag” time is just enough so the situation can be labeled as what has happened vs what is happening. That’s why she isn’t exactly saying what is happening while it is going on, which I feel would more accurately show the claim of a bad future vision better than the significant time they gave her to “see”. Now why is Paddy only doing the immediate past instead of, say, looking farther back?

I believe that is because of gem society and while none of the imperfect gems claim to be perfect, no matter what, people (and gems) like to keep up with social expectations. Without going into true psychology which is too heavy for this post, most people (I think) will agree that even outcasts would like to be part of a community which is why the imperfect gems were so eager to go with Steven. They could go to another community that would embrace their uniqueness, so they could belong. It feels good to be part of a larger group (not to say that differences aren’t important! but being different in a group that still accepts you is better then being different and alone).

SO, here is why I think Paddy simply hasn’t explored her ability to its fullest. I think from the moment she emerged, she was told that sapphires see the future and only the future. And she was told that she just has a bad future vision and nothing else. If you were told from birth that that you were supposed to and expected to play the piano, wouldn’t you put everything into playing the piano, even if you weren’t good at it? That’s what I think Paddy is doing, she actively trying to do something she isn’t supposed to do. That’s why she is only “predicting” the most current past event because that is the closest she can do to future vision. Because that is what she knows is expected of her, even imperfect gems re-literate that to her when they describe her ability.

Now, my predication is that someone within the SU will finally recognize Paddy for what she can do and will encourage her to look farther back. Far enough that she might be able to finally say what happened to Pink Diamond? Because unlike the future, the past is can’t change. Which is why she might be the biggest threat to the Diamond society. My guess is that any other sapphire having this ability is immediately shattered, because aside from the vision, she is a perfect gem. This is why her ability, and gem, are so rare, just like her name sake. This leads me to believe Paddy might became the most important new character to the series. 

And this leads me to my biggest theory. WHAT HAPPENED TO PINK DIAMOND AND WHO SHATTERED HER? There have been tons of theories and none of them are hitting all of the marks that I believe happened. Before I begin my rant, here are a couple of things to that make the Rose Quartz did it false. Please note that there are tons of theories by many people smarter then me who pointed these things out that I physically can’t give credit to everyone. The only thing in this post I claim to be my thoughts is what actually happened because that is what I haven’t quite agreed with any one particular theory.Here we go!

The Sword, the Place, and the Method of Attack

From what we can gather, this is what we know to be true. Pink diamond stepped out of her carriage-thing apparently in Japan (where her carriage thing is) and was immediately “shattered” with a sword by Rose Quartz. This has been backed by Eyeball, Jasper, and Blue Diamond. I point out these characters because they do not have a reason to hid the facts (I will get to that later). So I believe that this event did happen the way is described. There are a lot of problems with this though. Most were pointed out by Blue Zicron and one from the SU fan base. The general guise I will describe in case anyone has been under a rock:

1) The sword that Rose Quarts owned and ever held did not destroy gems, it only poofed them (their physical form). This is confirmed by Bismuth who created the sword. Needless to say she wouldn’t have lied about this given everything that happened.

2) As Blue Zicorn pointed out, how did Rose Quartz even get in in the first place? Apparently by this time, Rose was already a wanted criminal and every rose quartz had at least been dismissed (but I don’t think bubbled) from being in Pink Diamond’s immediate guard. So how did an obvious rose quartz get that close to begin with?

3) What happened to Pink Diamond’s Pearl? From everything Blue Zicorn said, it seems implied that Pink Diamond’s pearl is MIA. Not even from the story it’s self, but is all but missing from homeworld too, as she should have been the one to tell the Diamonds what happened in detail.

So given everything that happened and what the show has given us the viewers I humbly present what I think actually happened. Again please note that this is just my guess.

First of, I think our Pearl was Pink Diamond’s pearl. The reason, she bares all the colors of the other diamonds which leads be to believe she was most likely a gift to her. Pink Diamond is the newest Diamond born from Earth, given the mural on the wall. I think when she was born, the Diamonds gave her a pearl as a present. Now Pink Diamond, I think, was actually a kinder Diamond, with her gem being on her belly and very naive. I think she did like earth and loved the life on it, but listened to her “sisters” on what to do with it (cluster). I do think she created the rose quartz(es) has helpers for the humans back on the zoo.

One Rose Quartz, our Rose, however, realized what would happen to the Earth when the cluster emerged. That’s when she started her rebellion. Before this though, I think she might have been in Pink Diamond’s immediate guard and got close to Pearl, so when Rose left, Pearl bounced too. I believe Pink kept this a secret though so the other diamonds wouldn’t get mad at her for losing her pearl. Now give it a few hundred years. Pink Diamond matures a little and starts to realize what Rose already figured out. I think she reached out to Rose to come out with a plan to potential save earth.

The plan was simple, stage a kidnapping/destruction of Pink, Rose would present the alive Pink to the Diamonds and the Diamonds would be so grateful that they would spared the Earth. This is what I believe the original plan was and the first part worked perfectly. Pink Diamond would stop her carriage thing, to greet her pearl who came back to her. I think that is how “Rose/Pearl” was able to get so close without anyone noticing. A Quartz might get attention, but a weak pearl? Not even a glance. I think Pearl got close to Pink then transformed into Rose Quartz and stabbed her with the sword. Pink merely poofed and Pearl picked her up and and left before anyone could do anything. It would look like Pink had been shattered, and Rose Quartz did it.

Now here is where things fell apart. I think White Diamond came to Earth first to see what had happened.She heard everything from the eye witness accounts and got furious with Rose Quartz. I think she must have called Rose out. Rose went ahead and went to the stand off with Pink (in gem form) in hand, White didn’t know this. Rose went to present Pink to White diamond, but upon White seeing Rose she attacked. Going to her defense, Rose lifted up her hand that had Pink in it and Pink got the full force of White’s attack. And Shattered. Because the only thing that can kill a diamond is another diamond.

Rose quickly feel apart and White realized what had happened. Rose leaves the scene (most likely in tears) and White calls in Yellow Diamond. Yellow sees what happens and hatches a plan with the grief/guilty White. She tells White to wipe-out everyone who potentially saw what really happened. They then retreat to homeworld saying that Rose killed Pink in the original kidnapping as it had more witnesses, but they destroyed Earth (with only top military knowing the cluster would take care of it). They decide not to tell Blue as she was particularly close to Pink. and the rest is history.

Now you might be asking yourself, how did I come to this conclusion? And my answer is the wall mural in the Centipeetle space ship. To me it shows the exchange. It shows Rose holding up a diamond and White Diamond attacking. I think the Centipeetles were able to write it down before White destroyed/corrupted them.

To me, my theory, explains a lot. Why Pearl doesn’t use transformation power as she was traumatized from the whole ordeal. Rose feeling guilty as she was the one to present Pink and therefore feels like she shattered Pink in a way. Why White diamond was absent during the trail? How could she face Rose Quartz (and Blue) knowing she did it and the potential of Rose exposing her as the real shatterer. And why Yellow was so mad at Blue Zicron for pointing out the holes in the kidnapping/shattering event and why Yellow was acting so guilty? Again this could be just a rambling of a SU fan, but I thought it was worth putting out there. Sorry for the long post! Here are some Gem Potatoes!

anonymous asked:

hey i'm new to this whole yoonmin thing but i ship them so hard and i just wanna know if you think they're really dating or if they're still in the will they won't they phase. because watching their old interactions things feel a lot different now, like something changed between them?? i don't wanna get too hopeful. so if you think they're together when do you think they started dating? cause it feels like a recent development

I think during the I need u era (april - june 2015) was when they both realized they had feelings for each other. like when they were on the kota kinabalu trip it just seemed like a lot of things happened between them. and then from june until early october of that year they were still trying to figure things out between them and wondering how they could make things work. 

why do I think it took them 5 months to figure things out? that summer they went on the bts live trilogy tour and they were literally always busy (plus when they got back they filmed the prologue video and were preparing for hyyh pt. 2) so i think they spent a lot of that time trying to spend as much time as they could with each other but also really focusing on their jobs. 

I think they officially started dating around jimins birthday (october 13th) in 2015 and have been ever since ! 

recently though it’s felt like the feelings between them have gotten a lot more calm, soft, and real. and we found out in mid-october that yoongi and jimin went to yoongis parents house in daegu for chuseok and ever since then yoongi has seemed so much more happy, relaxed, calm, and really confident almost

so I think the idea of his parents meeting jimin as his bf for the first time and then accepting the relationship was a really impactful thing for yoongi and he felt like he didn’t have anything to worry about anymore. my close best friend jan'e wrote this really nice thing that put his change into words perfectly

sorry this isn’t more detailed and its kind of a rough interpretation but i feel like based on all the things i’ve seen, this is the ‘most accurate’ timeline

anyways welcome to ym :’)

I never got into Naruto, but looking in from the outside, I’ve been feeling pretty sorry for Mr. Kishimoto recently.

After Naruto ended he explicitly said he wanted to do something completely different from it, and was thinking of doing a sci-fi work. And yet he is currently drawing Boruto, a Naruto sequel.

Part of being a commercial artist is accepting compromises where the market demands, and drawing manga is a job with adult responsibilities. And sure, he’s lucky to have a major serialization at all. But it still seems a bit sad. I can’t help but imagine the editors putting up a “don’t forget, you’re drawing ninjas forever” sign at his house.

The post no-one was waiting for (but that I’m doing anyway).

Men’s Short Program Review – 30.03.2017 – Helsinki


I admit I was very tempted to start my recap from pairs or ladies (no dance, since I didn’t watch ice dance at all), but I guess I did postpone enough, didn’t I?
I admit I was very tempted to just make it short and post this as my comment to Men & Women tech and judge panels:

Short and on point and probably much better than anything I’m going to write lol

Sadly for you, I finally found enough strenght to actually write something so let’s start my recap from Men’s Short Program Event.


As you (might?) know, I was in Helsinki and I did watch all event live. I’ve to say that – rewatching it now – camera work was really bad on ISU feed. I wish there were more fancams around, but I haven’t found any for all top-6 skaters, so official ISU feed will do for now.
Fair warning, this post may become quite long. If you feel offended by anything I write, asks box is there for you.

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Beginning to Understand Karma

by Lama Thubten Yeshe

BEGINNING TO UNDERSTAND KARMA

There’s not just one, fixed, mathematical way of explaining karma; there are many different ways, including the subheading and numbered list approach. Sometimes it seems that people new to Buddhism find karma hard to understand, but actually, it’s easy to get a rough, initial understanding of it.

Of course, once you get into the details, karma can be extraordinarily complex, too, but when I introduce it to beginners, I try to keep it simple so that they can get at least a basic, intellectual understanding. In reality, the only way you can get a total understanding of karma is through your own experience, and that experience is beyond words.

Trying to get a total understanding of karma through the intellect alone is like trying to count every atom of earth, water, fire and air in the universe, which is impossible,

Fundamentally, what is karma? Karma is your body, speech and mind. That’s it. It’s very simple. If I were to try to compare the subject of karma to the kinds of thing you study in the West, I’d say that it parallels in some ways the theory of the evolution of everything that exists. Karma encompasses everything on Earth and beyond, every existent phenomenon in the universe, throughout infinite space — in Buddhist terms, every phenomenon in samsara and nirvana. Karma is the energy of all phenomena and has nothing to do with what your mind believes.

If karma encompasses all relative phenomena, are these phenomena interconnected? Well, even modern science understands that all the energy in the universe is interdependently related; it’s not just Buddhist dogma.

For example, where does all the green vegetation we see around us come from? It doesn’t arise without cause. First there has to be a cause; then, the effect — the relative appearance of the green — arises. Similarly, each of us also has a cause; we, too, are interdependent phenomena. We depend on other energies for our existence. Those energies, in turn, depend on yet other energies. In this way, all energy is linked.

You probably think your body comes from the supermarket: as long as the supermarket’s there, you can eat; as long as you can eat, you exist. Obviously, it goes much deeper than that. Therefore, your conception of what you are — “I am. I’m this; I’m that; I’m this — is like a dream. Intuitively, your ego has this notion that you’re independent, that you’re not a dependent phenomenon. That’s complete rubbish.

If you look, you can easily see how you’re interdependent. It looks complicated; it’s not complicated. It only becomes complicated if your mind thinks it’s complicated. Your mind makes things up; that’s karma, too — an interdependent phenomenon; it exists in relation to other energy. If you understand the basic simplicity of this, you’ll be more careful in the way you act because you’ll realise that every single action of your body, speech and mind produces a reaction.

We describe samsara as cyclic: it’s like a wheel, it goes round; one thing produces another, that produces another, and so it goes on, one thing pushing the other. And each karmic action is like the seed that produces a flower that in turn produces hundreds of seeds, which then result in hundreds more flowers that produce hundreds more seeds each. In this way, in a relatively short time, one seed produces thousands and thousands of results.

The actions of your body, speech and mind are the same. Each action, positive or negative, good or bad, produces an appropriate result.

Also, karma doesn’t depend on your believing in it or not. The mere fact of your existence proves the existence of karma. Irrespective of whether you want to know about karma or not, whether you believe in it or not, it doesn’t matter: you are karma. Whether you accept karma or reject it, you can’t separate yourself from karma any more than you can separate yourself from energy. You are energy; you are karma. If you’re a human being, it doesn’t matter whether others think you’re a human being or not — you’re a human being. It doesn’t depend on what you think, either. The truth of all existence doesn’t depend on what people believe.

Sometimes you might think, “OK, Buddhists accept karma. They try to do good, avoid evil and perhaps enjoy positive results, but what about people who don’t believe in karma?”

But whether you believe or not, your suffering and problems have a cause. They don’t depend on what you believe. Do you think you suffer only because you think you suffer? No. Even if you say, “I’m not suffering,” you’re suffering. Suffering comes along with your very life.

Therefore, I often say that the Buddhist connotation of religion is a little different from the Western one. But when I say that, I’m not saying Buddhism is better; it’s just different. Its analytical approach is different.

UNDERSTANDING KARMA

When we teach karma, we often refer to its four characteristics, the first of which is that karma is definite.

Karma means action, your energy, and karma’s being definite means that once you have set in motion a powerful train of energy, it will continue running until it either is interrupted or reaches its conclusion. Karma’s being definite does not mean that once you have created a specific karma there’s nothing you can do to stop it. That’s a wrong view of karma.

Take, for example, the attitude of certain followers of the Hindu religion. You’ll find many people like this in India and Nepal: they believe in karma, but they believe it’s completely fixed. “I was born a carpenter. God gave me this life. I’ll always be a carpenter.” “My karma made me a cobbler; I’ll always be a cobbler.” They are very sincere in their belief, but very wrong in thinking that karma can’t be changed. When Westerners come across such people they can’t believe that they can think this way. Westerners know immediately from their own experience that if you really want to change your status in life you can do so.

But because these people’s misconceptions are so strong, they can’t change. It’s silly, isn’t it? That kind of super-belief is religious fanaticism. It’s ignorant; it closes your mind and prevents you from expanding and developing it.

I also sometimes see great misconceptions about karma in new Dharma students. They read and think about karma, accept its existence, but then become too sensitive about it. If they make a mistake in their actions, they get emotionally terrified and guilty. That’s wrong, too.

The karmic energy of your body, speech and mind comes from your consciousness. Some scientists say that there’s a totality of energy from which all other energy manifests. Be that as it may, in the same way, all of the energy of your body, speech and mind comes from your consciousness, your mind — from your mind; your consciousness.

If you put your energy into a certain environment and a certain channel, a different form of energy will manifest. It changes. If you direct your conscious energy one way, one kind of result will come; if you direct it another way, a different kind of result arises. It’s very simple. But what you have to know is from what source your actions come. Once you do, you’ll see that you are responsible for what you do; you can determine what you do and what happens to you. It’s more up to you than to your circumstances, friends, society or anything else outside you.

If, however, you don’t know that it’s possible to direct the energy of your body, speech and mind or how to do it, if you have no idea of how cause and effect operates in everyday life, then of course, you have no chance of putting your energy into positive channels instead of negative ones. It’s impossible because you don’t know.

Positive actions are those that bring positive reactions; negative actions are those that bring negative reactions, restlessness and confusion. Actions are termed positive or negative according to the nature of their effects.

In general, it’s our motivation that determines whether our actions are positive or negative; our mental attitude. Some actions start out negative but can become positive due to the arising of an opposing kind of energy. The Abhidharma philosophical teachings talk about absolute positives, such as the true cessation of suffering, but for us, it’s more important to understand positive and negative on the relative level. That’s what we’re dealing with in our everyday lives: relative positives and relative negatives.

However, we’re usually unconscious whenever we act. For example, when we hurt our loved ones, it’s mostly not deliberate but because we’re unconscious in our actions. If we were aware that every action of our body, speech and mind constantly reacts internally within us and externally with others, we’d be more sensitive and gentle in what we did, said and thought.

Sometimes our actions are not at all gentle but like those of a wild animal. Next time you’re acting like a wild animal, check up which channel your energy’s in at that time and understand that you can change it — you have the power, the wisdom and the potential to do so. You can redirect your energy from the negative into the positive channel.

Also, you have to accept that you’re going to make mistakes. Mistakes are possible. You’re not Buddha. When you do make an error, instead of freaking out, acknowledge it. Be happy: “Oh, I made a mistake. It’s good that I noticed.” Once you’ve recognised a mistake, you can investigate it intensively: what’s its background? What caused it? Mistakes don’t just pop up without reason. Check in which channel your mind was running when that mistake happened. When you discover this, you can change your attitude.

In particular, you have to understand that negative actions come from you, so it’s up to you to do something to prevent their negative reactions from manifesting. It’s your responsibility to act and not sit back, waiting for the inevitable suffering result to arise.

Therefore, instead of simply accepting what happens to you, believing “This is my karma” and never trying to work with and change your energy for the better, understand that you can control what happens to you and be as aware of your actions as you possibly can.

KARMA, INNER STRENGTH AND LIFE ITSELF

To over-simplify, according to even normal society’s way of thinking, anything you do dedicated to the benefit of others is automatically positive, whereas anything you do just for your own benefit automatically brings a negative reaction. Whenever you act selfishly, your heart feels tight, but when you try to really help others, psychologically you experience openness and a release that brings calm and understanding into your mind. That is positive; that is good karma.

However, if you don’t actively check your motivation, you might think or say the words, “I’m working for the benefit of others,” but actually be doing the opposite. For example, some rich people give money with the idea that they’re helping others but what they really want to do is to enhance their own reputation. Such giving is not sincere and has nothing whatsoever to do with positive action or morality.

Giving with the expectation that others will admire you is giving for your own pleasure. The end result is that it makes you berserk, restless and confused. Check up. Look at the way normal people act; it’s so simple. Even if you give away huge amounts of money, if you do it with selfish motivation, expecting tremendous results for yourself, you end up with nothingness. It’s a psychological thing; there’s more to giving than just the physical action.

Take me, for example. I can sit cross-legged in the meditation posture and you’re going to think, “Oh, Lama’s meditating.” But if my mind is off on some incredible trip, although it looks as if I’m doing something positive, in fact I’m doing something completely neurotic and confused. You can never judge an action from its external appearance; its psychological component is much more important.

Therefore, be careful. In particular, acting out of loving kindness doesn’t always mean smiling, hugging and telling people, “Oh, I love you so much.” Of course, if that’s what somebody needs, then go ahead and stroke or hug that person; I’m not saying that you have to give up all physical contact. You just have to know what’s appropriate at any given time.

I have seen many students come to a meditation course, learn about love, compassion and bodhicitta for the first time, and at the end of the course be all fired up, wanting to help others: “Lama, I want to go to Calcutta and serve the sentient beings suffering there.”

I say, “You want to go? OK, go and try to help as best you can.” So they go, full of emotion, and, of course, see terrible suffering; poverty, starvation, disease and so forth. After a month, they have to leave, exhausted, because they find that simply going there, trying to help, isn’t really the solution.

A couple of my students, beautiful young women, went to Pakistan and Calcutta, hoping to express their loving kindness through serving where suffering was greatest. I told them to go, and return when the time was right. When they got there they discovered that what they were doing wasn’t really helping, and it wasn’t long before they were back.

Actually, expressing loving kindness through action is quite difficult. You have to be very skillful. It takes great wisdom. If you set out on a mission with no understanding, just a tight, emotional feeling of wanting to help, you’re in danger of losing yourself. For example, if you see somebody drowning and emotionally jump in without being able to swim, all that happens is that you both lose your lives.

Our physical energy is limited. Therefore, we’re limited in helping others in this way — we try to help others physically but come up empty; it’s beyond us. If you do want to help others out of loving kindness, act according to your ability and know your limits. Don’t overburden yourself because of emotion and incomplete understanding.

Mental energy, however, is practically unlimited. If we realise loving kindness, we’re like a ship. No matter how heavy the load, a ship can bear it. Similarly, with true loving kindness we can handle any situation that arises without freaking out. Furthermore, a ship does not discriminate; it carries whatever it’s given. Similarly, with loving kindness, we won’t favour one person over another: “You — come in; you — go away.”

When we practice Dharma and meditation, we build the inner strength necessary to be of greatest benefit to others and are able to face any difficulty that arises. Practitioners who are afraid to hear about suffering aren’t facing reality. The maha in Mahayana Buddhism means “great.” A Mahayana practitioner is supposed to be capacious and, like a ship, be able to take whatever comes along.

If we’re small-minded and hypersensitive, even tiny atoms can cause us to recoil: “I don’t want that atom.” That’s not the way of the Dharma practitioner.

Even the average, simple person who wants his or her life to be successful should be able to face whatever situation arises. If you freak out at the smallest thing, you’ll never make even this life successful. Everyday life is completely unpredictable; you can’t fix things to work out in a certain way. As things change, you have to change with them. You have to be flexible enough to deal with whatever happens.

If this is true for the ordinary person, how much more true must it be for the Dharma practitioner? You have to have the courage to face any difficulty that you encounter: “I can overcome any obstacle and reach perfect liberation.” Crossing the ocean of samsara is not easy, but it’s not samsara that’s difficult — it’s your own mind. What you actually have to cross is the ocean of your schizophrenic mind and you need to be confident that you can deal with that.

First you have to be able to think, “I can face whatever comes without running from it.” Life is not easy; forget about meditation — life itself is hard. Things change; the mind changes. You have to face each change as it comes.

Going into retreat doesn’t mean that you’re running away from society and life because you’re afraid of them. However, you need to develop confidence that you’ll be able to handle anything that life throws at you. What you really need to judge, though, is what the most advantageous thing to do at any particular time is: to stay in society or go into retreat. Whatever you undertake is in your own hands; what you need to know is why you are doing it.

KARMA, REALITY AND BELIEF

We often talk about how we waste our lives following the eight worldly dharmas — attachment to temporal happiness, receiving material things, being praised and having a good reputation and aversion to their opposites: discomfort, not getting things, being criticised and notoriety. Each time we get involved with those, we create negative karma.

For example, when somebody praises you, you feel happy and puff up with pride, and when somebody criticises you, you feel unhappy and depressed. Each time you go up and down like this, you create karma.

Why do you feel elated when praised and dejected when criticised? It’s because you don’t accept the way things truly are. You’re controlled by your hallucinating mind, which is totally divorced from reality. Whether you’re good or bad isn’t determined by what other people think but by your own actions. These are your own responsibility. If all your actions are positive, even if I say “You’re bad, you’re bad, you’re bad…” all day, it won’t affect your qualities. Therefore, you should understand what really makes an action positive or negative. It’s not defined by what other people think.

This is scientific fact, not religious dogma. If you go up and down because of what other people say, you’re hallucinating; you’re not seeing reality. You should have strong confidence in your own actions and take full responsibility for them. Then, even if all sentient beings turn against you, you’ll still be laughing. When you know what you are, you never get upset. If, on the other hand, your body and mind are weak, if you have no self-confidence and feel insecure, then of course you’re going to experience problems.

All your feelings, perceptions, discriminations and the rest, especially those mental factors that bring negative reactions, arise from the hallucinating mind. Therefore, quite early in their training, I teach my students to meditate on the nature of feeling.

We always think that whatever we feel — physically or mentally — must be right. Similarly, we think that whatever we see is real; we really do believe in what we see. I’m not talking about spiritual belief in the supernatural; I’m saying that we believe in the concrete reality of what we see around us every day. Do you think that’s right or wrong? It’s wrong.

For example, say that you’re tremendously attracted to a particular object. At that time you have a certain fixed idea of what that object is. But you’re fantasising; it’s a hallucinated fantasy. If you check your mind of attraction closely, you’ll see that its view is totally polluted and that what you perceive is a fantasy — neither the reality of the object nor that of the subject. A kind of cloud has appeared between your mind and the object and that’s what you see. All delusions arise in that way.

So, in the end, who has more beliefs — a religious person or an atheist? It’s the atheist. Atheists are prone to say, “I don’t believe anything,” but that’s just their ego speaking. They believe what they see; they believe what they feel; they believe what they think. For example, atheists consider certain things beautiful — that’s belief. This is the scientific truth of the situation. It doesn’t matter whether or not they use the word “belief” — they believe; they’re completely captivated by belief.

I can make the definitive statement that if your mind is clouded by the dark shadow of ignorance, if attachment rather than free communication is driving your personal involvements, you’re a believer. This is simple and logical. That’s why I always say that Dharma is very simple. It reveals the reality of yourself, your life and the things around you… the reality of everything. That’s the meaning of Dharma.

When some people go into a supermarket, they see the incredible display of goods as a reflection in a mirror. It’s like when you look into a mirror, you see your reflection but at the same time you know it’s not really you. That’s how those whose view of the nature of the supermarket is closer to reality see it — like a reflection. Therefore, they can control any attachment that’s likely to arise. Those whose view of the world is that of a more concrete reality see the goods in a supermarket as fantastic and can’t stop their senses from vibrating.

That’s the nature of ordinary attraction. Objects to which you’re attached make you tremble with desire and things that you hate make you shake with anger. Either way, it’s because you don’t understand reality.

Actually, those who really understand the absolute nature of the supermarket don’t see anything at all. The whole thing disappears. That might be too much for you to comprehend, but there’s truth in what I’m saying.

In conclusion, then, no matter how negative the things you’ve done, if you have powerful understanding, you can purify them completely. There’s no such concrete negative action that can never be purified; there’s a solution for everything.

Some Christians speak of certain concrete sins that send you to a permanent, everlasting hell. I’m not criticising; it’s a philosophical point of view. It’s good; it has a purpose. Any philosophy with a purpose is always good. But you should never think, “I have created such horrible negative actions that I’ll never be able to overcome them.” That’s an incredible devaluation of your human nature. Any kind of negativity, no matter how great, can be purified. That’s the power of the human mind.

That’s why the lam-rim starts out by teaching how great our human potential is. We have to understand the true value of our life. We always seek value externally. People even lose their lives in pursuit of material things or recreational pleasure. What a ridiculous waste of life!

Check within yourself very skillfully to see if you value material things more than your internal potential. That will show you how much you understand.