i still make bad life choices

I wish I had the ensemble that A.Ham has behind him to yell at me when I’m about to make terrible life choices.

I, like A.Ham, wouldn’t actually listen to them, and would still end up making said terrible life choices. But it would be comforting to know they’re there.

I was always one of the lucky ones. My parents loved me more than they loved themselves. And I truly believed God thought I was special- and I still do. Throughout my whole life I’ve chosen to see the good in bad situations and grow from hardships in anyway I can. I refuse to forget about everything amazing I have in my life just because one bad thing has happened. It’s not lost on me how difficult it is to stay optimistic during tough times, but I realize that it’s a conscious choice, and there’s a clear right decision. Don’t let bad turn to worse. It’s possible for flowers to grow through sidewalks just like it’s possible to turn setbacks into new opportunities and it’s possible to turn heartbreak into art.
—  I hope this is what at least one person needed to hear
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Thought you’d be with your friend… aren’t you going to ask me how he’s doing?”

[11]

Now THIS is where it gets interesting. 

Because Syaoran threw away his chance to win Sakura’s feather. He did it for a good cause (I mean he saved someone’s life. It’s the best possible cause) but there’s still that guilt there. He would make the same choice again, for sure, but even despite that he feels that sharp pang of failure for not helping Sakura get her feather back. 

Which is an interesting avenue on its own and I would LOVE to explore more situations where Syaoran’s goals are compromised by his own actions, but for now we have THIS. 

And THIS is Fai, seeing that Syaoran made the Good™ choice and feels bad about the consequences. 

And that is Fai’s specialty. 

But his wording fascinates me here, because he assigns the choice to “staying true to yourself” rather than any other factor in the situation - and there were a lot. Instead of, say, “believing in Kurogane and Sakura”, or “choosing someone’s life”, or any of the other possibilities, Fai narrows it right down to the core of Syaoran’s personality and his inherent sense of self. When it comes down to it, Syaoran could not willingly let someone die for his cause and still remain “Syaoran”.

This is not a surprising conclusion for us. This is absolutely in line with everything we know of Syaoran so far. But the interesting part is that this is coming from Fai.  

Because Fai has ALSO made hard choices and had to live with them. 

Fai has put his goals ahead of the lives of others and knows that guilt more than Syaoran himself does - probably more than anyone else here by a log shot.

So, in Syaoran’s place, would he have done the same? Would he have sacrificed his goal to save the life of someone else - someone he technically didn’t even know - or would he have let them die and continued on?

How many times has he made that choice already? 

Did he sacrifice his ability to “stay true to himself” in the process? Has he stained himself with choices he regrets and can never escape, or does a small part of him envy that Syaoran could so easily make the right choice when Fai could not?

And, through it all, he’s trying to make Syaoran feel better. 

Regardless of what he’s done, or what he feels about Syaoran’s decision, Fai closes his eyes and paints a smile and tries to help Syaoran through his own personal crisis. 

Because Syaoran is a good person, and Fai doesn’t want him to live with the same shadows that he himself does. 

The Outsiders Girls as Quotes

Sylvia= “I don’t need someone that sees whats good in me. I need someone that sees the bad and still wants me” -Unknown

evie= “People who make you laugh;have such an invaluable price in your life” - Alfredo Cano

cherry= “No one has power over you unless you give it to them, you are in control of your life and your choices decide your own fate” -Unknown

angela= “If you’re going through hell,keep going” -Winston Chruchill

Marcia= “Smiling doesn’t necessarily mean you’re happy. Sometimes it just means you’re strong” -Unknown

sandy= “The people that are quick to walk away are the ones who never intended to stay” -Unknown

I love reading back through my old stories, because I don’t hate them. I actually think they’re good, and that I was a good writer. But the thing I love most is that I can look at them and think they’re good, and also think

I’m even better now.

no-judas-dats-gay  asked:

Not trying to fight jw, are you of the mind that abortion is bad and you wouldn't get one but everyone else should be able to decide for themselves or no abortions at all? It is a trick thing being "pro-life and feminist because obviously you can only advocate and decide what's best for you, that is one of the core principles, Women being equal and allowed to make choices for themselves. So I just wonder can you legitimately be pro life and still be a feminist? pro life= no abortion ever

I appreciate the way you asked this! Well, it’s important to recognize that being for/against abortion isn’t a mere preference. It’s not like: “I prefer hotdogs to hamburgers, so I think no one should be allowed to have hamburgers ever.” If we’re gonna go with an analogy, it’s more like: “I think rape is wrong because it harms another human being, so I think no one should be allowed to rape anyone ever.” 

Abortion is an act of violence that kills an innocent human being. Killing human beings is wrong.

Furthermore, feminism is based on the core principles of nondiscrimination and equality. Aggressive violence against another human being is inherently discriminatory and antithetical to equality.

If you have questions about specifics, I’ll be glad to answer them. You can also check out my pro-life masterpost and see if that answers anything. :)

Dear boy who I used to be,

Firstly, a tiny encouragement — you still won’t know how to start letters.

Although now you seem someone completely different, do not fear those changes. You will become a bit more wiser and less reckless, however, you will have a weakness for making bad choices nevertheless. Parents will be there for you to cover them up and save their own reputation. Life isn’t always sweet and careless but that’s something you’ve seen for yourself, haven’t you?

I remember that you weren’t so sociable before high school. In fact, you were afraid of making friends, since you thought that every single person in this world was attracted solely to the prestige your name was associated with. Your money will work like magnet on many, yet don’t distance yourself so much. Jinwoon will stay by your side no matter what and loyalty will unite you two for years. Look, there’s already a person you can’t rely on!

High school will be tough for you, I’m not going to sugarcoat. But you will go through joyous moments as well. Honestly, you will be more busy with partying than schoolwork. Thanks to that you won’t be getting enough sleep but what are classes for if not naps? At some point there will be a circle of friends you will find yourself in. The Empire. It might sound fancy to you but unfortunately it’s only the first impression. Eventually you will fall for one of the girls you’ll be hanging out with.

You and your girlfriend will look like a true idol-like couple what will overwhelm you later on. It shouldn’t be a surprise but you will break up with her. A little too late, though. Have I mentioned that you won’t be so faithful to her? And it won’t be one of her female friends to whose arms you’ll escape but a guy’s. Oh, the thought of him will haunt you until this very day.

Every empire suffers a downfall in the end and I think you can’t be fully prepared for that.

Only after graduating you and Seunghyun will be almost inseparable. It can be said that your humble dream will come true. You’ve always wanted to have a friend like him instead of those who would just care about your family background. You will regret ignoring him earlier but better late than never, right?

If your life becomes a disaster, say fuck it and go on.

Good luck, Ji.

The present you, who still has no damn clue how not to get in trouble.

Lets talk about Ezria, shall we?

I openly ship Spoby and Emison and I’m still crying inside because Toby’s getting married and Sabrina is still here, but, I have always shipped Ezria and Haleb too, (PSA: I ship every one so don’t start that ship wars shit with me) so, let me tell you why the Ezria proposal was romantic, beautiful, and the right choice.

Reason 1: They’ve literally been together since day one.

I mean, granted Ezra knew who Aria was when they met, but their chemistry in a bad bar bathroom makes up for it.

Reason 2: They fought for each other for so long.

These two sacrificed everything just to have each other. Ezra risked his career, his entire life just to stay with Aria, Aria snuck around, kept him a secret from everyone, just so she wouldn’t ever lose him.

Reason 3: Aria gave herself to him, full and completely.

Aria chose to show Ezra how much she loved him, She didn’t have to, Ezra wouldn’t have made her, but she let him, she let him take her, she gave him her innocence and virginity.

Reason 4: Their first date is everything.

Ezra took Aria out for the first time and wasn’t going to let anything ruin the magic, He did it for her, someone may have recognized him, but he risked it because he loves her.

Reason 5: He was there for her after Shauna was killed. 

He could have gone to the police about Shauna because he knows she’s dead, but he didn’t he stayed for Aria, he knew Aria needed him and he stayed. And, speaking of New York….

Reason 6: He almost died for her

He literally took a bullet for her. He lost her, but he wasn’t going to let her walk away, he followed her to NYC and chased down the creep who was hurting her and her friends. He risked his life to save hers.

Reason 7: He never expected to fall in love with her

At the time he wrote that book, he never once considered the possibility that he might actually fall for Aria, but he did and proved it by destroying the book.

Reason 8: She saved his ass. (Again)

When Aria saw that Ezra’s future was in danger, she flung herself head first into the project without thinking about the potential consequences, like losing her job or her (Gag) Boyfriend Liam. All she saw was the love her life, and that she had to help him.

Reason 9: He always knew that she was one.

I couldn’t find the exact screencap for this but that’s not the point, the point is, ever since he saw her for the first time in years in 6x11 he’s known that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her.

Reason 10: Ezra’s Proposal was so emotional.

Enough said.

I think the writers made the best choice with this one, Ezria has the most chemistry so far in the season and an Ezria wedding would never happen off screen, as Marlene said. I just want to know if she says yes though, damn.

why am i allowed to play tina…

lies self down on side. stares at life choices.

Life lesson:
You’re always going to have friends who call you bae/best friend/words to that effect but they still treat you like a back up choice; ditch them. You think it doesn’t bother you. Maybe you’re telling myself “haha whatever I have other friends so I don’t mind man”. It’s all bullshit. It’s all negative energy. It’s all back there building up in your head making you angry and sad and not helping. Get rid of that friend now. Stop making them your priority when you aren’t theirs.
Tëg

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Here’s the thing about personality disorders.

Among everyone I know with Avoidant Personality Disorder, I’m one of the happiest, most outgoing, and most emotionally secure.

I have strong, positive, intimate relationships in my life.

I feel comfortable interacting with strangers.

I even make friends easily.

(The secret they don’t tell you is that even when you’re good at it, not everyone is a good choice to try it with!)

But this week, despite all of those things,

I still turned off my phone to avoid a dreaded phonecall.

I was crushed by a moderate disappointment.

I genuinely worry that my friends have stopped liking me, and that I’m not welcome in my social groups anymore (“they’re finally onto me!”).

When someone confronted me about something, even without any overt hostility, I had an anxiety attack before I could respond. And after the conversation I cried in bed, so hard that when I got up, I had tiny fresh bruises around my eyes.

Most days, I have the impulse to take down posts that feel too personal, too confused, too me.

I doubt myself and everything I’m trying to do. Sometimes I still feel like hiding in a closet for the rest of my life would be a better idea.

And I obviously still struggle with all my usual avoidance problems – like the effort it takes to leave the house.

There are extenuating circumstances, but…

…the thing about having a personality disorder – or any mental illness! – is that it’s always there in the background.

It’s usually always under the surface. It can affect everything in your life.

And even when someone seems to be doing really, really well, this is still something they have to be aware of and careful with. Sometimes, if you’re recovering, it feels like it’s always waiting to take over again.

There are always triggers. There are always situations that will prompt a disordered response. Sometimes you’ll be able to choose away from acting on that response, and sometimes you won’t.

And there’s never a time when self-care stops being important.

So if you’re struggling?

Don’t worry. It doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you, and it doesn’t mean you’re worse than everybody else. Because everybody has times where things are hard and awful.

It’s okay to talk about how much it sucks. We all need validation and support.

It’s also okay to deliberately focus on what’s good and what successes you’re having, if that’s helpful for you.

You can even do both at the same time. In spite of all the things I listed up there:

I turned my phone back on and called them back! I used my self-talk skills to cope with the disappointment! I kept showing up to my social group! I had the confrontational talk and survived! I didn’t take down any posts! I learned some things!

Most of us tend to downplay our victories and emphasize our faults and mistakes. Consciously doing the opposite of that can help us change our thought habits.

But mostly:

There’s no wrong way to heal. There’s no wrong way to get better, or learn what you need to learn. And you can get stronger and grow as a person, even when you have lots of bad days.

What works for you is good enough, and that’s all that matters. <3

ok but it really pisses me off how people have literally been willing to overlook/make excuses/understand the princes throughout the times when they’ve been problematic/abusive/made bad life choices (particularly so and wook) since the first episode yet refuse to do the same for yeon hwa??? and say dumb crap like ‘oh people must only like her because she’s a woman’ ??? no??? i like her because she’s fucking cool??? everything that i wanted hae soo to be and better???? because her character has a lot of potential??? because she’s smart and interesting???? people are constantly criticizing dramas for not having more powerful female leads but ya’ll don’t want to appreciate them when you get them ‘lol she’s a bitch, i hate her’ meanwhile girl is literally doing what everyone else and their dog is doing. trying to freaking survive.

Life is made of choices, so pick them well. Something I’ve heard since my 14 years old. The age I started making decisions about my future. I never knew how much impact a decision could have in my life until I felt the consequences. I was too young to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. And at some point I still don’t know what to do with my life. I’m 20. So I started making bad decisions and walking into wrong paths, not intentionally. I felt lost and everything started to feel wrong all the time. I wasn’t happy and I felt that life weren’t giving me what I needed. So I stopped for a second and I listened myself up and not the others around me. Things started to make sense and everything that were wrong turned into right.
—  3-1-17 wer3w0lfxx