i shouldn't be so attracted to you

anonymous asked:

People say aces shouldn't be in the LGBT because they don't experience homophobia but??? LGBT isnt just homosexuals? Like you don't need to separate all groups by their sexuality

i was threatened with being put through medical conversion when i was like 14 because i stated i was ace and my family felt like they should “fix” me. even though i wasn’t upset with having no attraction to others.

same family, including members who are vocal about their support for lgbt+ persons, would also say that when i got older i would meet someone who would “fix” me into liking sex.

it was so goddamn disturbing and it still is! and people do get murdered for not wanting to do sexual things! people get it bad from partners who believe the other should “want” it and when they don’t at best the asexual person gets dumped and at worst their partner will assault or mutilate them! and the saddest thing is, with how sexuality is treated, asexual people are led to believe they do deserve it! that they should have somehow wanted to be sexually active for the sake of their partner, and that it’s their fault if they get hurt for not going through with it!

this whole “who is oppressed the most” competition is so goddamn awful and i hate it, it reminds me so much of the language used when referring to mental illness. Like, a kid refusing to get their depression handled because they “don’t have it as bad as someone else”. Bad stuff still happens, and whether or not it’s the WORST thing shouldn’t mean we ignore handling these bad things, or even acknowledging that they happen in the first place.


“Use your head and challenge yourselves. That’s where the dream lies. ” –Ouya Metropolitan High School Coach Araki Ichirou 

HOT COACH GIFSET For Maya ♡ ~(‘▽^人)

anonymous asked:

Okay so question: What age is okay to come out as ace, like you aren't a late bloomer? I'm 14 and I'm like pretty sure I'm asexual but my friend said that I'm just a late bloomer and I shouldn't tell my mom. And I trust them because they said they are gay and genderfluid. When is it okay for me to say I'm Asexual?

Any time is okay for you to say you’re asexual. Your friend’s being a jerk. Sex and attraction is seen as such an integral part of growing up not experiencing such means you’re “late”, that you truly aren’t someone of the same age and maturity in their eyes. They’re totally buying into the straight narrative.

Anyway. Anything can be a phase, at any age. I don’t think a person is more likely to be wrong about being gay or transfemme or aromantic or asexual at 14 than they are at 41. And there’s nothing wrong with something being a phase, if that’s what it turns out to be. That doesn’t stop you from very much being asexual at 14 years old. That’s who you are right now. You don’t have to tell your mother, but if you want to, then go ahead. Good luck!

- Ino

anonymous asked:

that picture of phil when he went jogging? sweaty? fringe pushed back? he looks so mature, but so good I just??? save me emily he literally looks like a friends dad that you shouldn't be attracted to

he’s gotta get PHIT 🏃🏻 to look good in that SUIT 💍🌹

anonymous asked:

Hey as a chubby dude I want to thank you for your body positivity post! I've been dealing with the ideal male body image pretty negatively and it's nice to hear someone acknowledge it sometimes. And see, even though I know objectively that I shouldn't buy into it as wholesale as I do, I'm still determined to start getting to the gym regularly, which you've also helped inspire me to do. I want to feel good about myself, even though I know I shouldn't feel bad anyway? Either way, thanks jams.

It makes me very happy to hear that! It’s hard not to buy into it. I think every one of us buys into it because it’s so forced on us as a society that “(x) body type is healthy” and so on. But dude, being a chubby guy is super attractive and I’m sorry the opposite ideas have been forced onto you.

anonymous asked:

So I recently started buying mens clothes bc i want to dress more butch sometimes and got into an argument with my dad bc he said i shouldn't wear mens clothes bc im a girl. Basically, it devolved and he told me "no man would touch you dressed like that". idk really what to say or how to repair this, bc im out to him as bi but he still prioritizes my being attracted to men over my attraction to women. I could really use some advice. thanks!

He seems to measure your worth based on how sexually attractive and available you are to men which is the most fucked up, heteronormative and misogynistic kind of patriarchy that I can think of right now.

I am terribly sorry that your father is like that. Of course you can wear whatever you like and express yourself as femme or butch as you want. Fuck him and if you like, next time he says something like “no man would want to touch you” maybe say something like “why do you care how fuckable I am?”

because honestly… fathers who objectify their daughters like that are imo very very disgusting people.


anonymous asked:

You reblogged post about romanticizing abusive relationships but you ship best enemies and basically everybody with Missy... Like you don't think it is a bit hypocritical? I understand having NOTP but you shouldn't throwing shade if you ship something equally bad or even more unhealthy

lmao are we really doing this?? ok so. the post in question says

oh no, i don’t condone abusive relationships! i just write, reblog, and create art, fanfic, meta, gifsets, and other content that portrays an abusive relationship as sexy, attractive, ideal, and the only true choice for each character. most of the time i put them in happy aus or situations despite claiming that i only ship them because of the angst! that’s not condoning abuse, you silly antis!

now, where to start with this

firstly, I have never ever said that any relationship involving Missy is healthy because obviously that isn’t the case because she’s evil af and no one should ever, ever actually want to date anyone like her

I might want her to rail me until I can’t move, but in real life I wouldn’t let her near me with a ten foot pole, I’m not an idiot

“portrays an abusive relationship as ideal” - Best Enemies is not an ideal relationship. It’s a doomed, tragic, unhealthy mess between two supremely fucked up individuals, and while they might share beautiful moments that give me nice soft feelings, nothing will change that fact. Any abusive tendencies that might surface in their relationship probably shift on a huge level depending on which one of them has the upper hand at the time. 

Any other ship involving Missy isn’t supported by canon enough to be anything more than the what the shippers/content creators make it out to be, but again, while there is obviously huge capacity for relationships involving Missy to be abusive, there is a difference between abusive and unhealthy, and there’s nothing wrong with unhealthy ships so long as you acknowledge them as such. 

“the only true choice for each character” I’m all about people shipping what they like, there’s no true choice for a character like Missy, her and the Doctor might have some big epic fucked up romance going on, but people shipping her elsewhere is fine

the post is about overly romanticising abusive ships, and I take my unhealthy ships (some of which, like Best Enemies, are rather romantic in nature in their whole Thing anyway) at face value

I might enjoy shipping a fucked up but emotionally complex psychopath with various different people, while being very aware of the fact that it’s not something anyone should ever want for themselves, because I possess the emotional maturity to enjoy complex relationship dynamics without idealising them like so many do

but please don’t try and lump me in with like, fucking R*ylo shippers or K*ramel shippers or whoever the hell that post was aimed at, thanks

anonymous asked:

I'm so fed up. I was just told me I shouldn't call myself aroace because my sexual orientation covers my romantic one so I'm just ace and saying aroace is using SAM. But the thing is, for me being both aro and ace is equally important part of my unsplit attraction (it's the different prefix that does the splitting) when it comes to sexual and romantic ones and being aro isn't an offshoot of ace. It's its own form of attraction like aesthetic, sensual and platonic. Which people keep forgetting...

Aromanticism gets devalued and thrown under the bus altogether too often, even within a-spec communities. I’m so sorry that happened to you. They are wrong, and we would all be better off if we stopped policing each others’ language.


The Last Five Years - Sentence Starters
  • [name] is over and [name] is gone.
  • I'm still hurting.
  • What about things that you swore to be true?
  • Go and hide and run away!
  • Run away, run and find something better.
  • Maybe there's somewhere a lesson to learn.
  • I've been waiting for someone like you.
  • I've been standing for days with the phone in my hand like an idiot, scared to death.
  • My people have suffered for thousands of years and I don't give a shit!
  • I guess I can't believe you really came.
  • See, I'm smiling--That means I'm happy that you're here.
  • I think we're gonna be okay.
  • With all we've had to go through, we'll end up twice as strong.
  • I didn't know you had to go so soon.
  • We'll have tonight.
  • You know what makes me crazy?
  • I'm sorry, can I say this?
  • You could be here with me or be there with them - as usual, guess which you pick.
  • You can't spend a single day that's not about you and you and nothing but you!
  • I swear to God I'll never understand how you can stand there straight and tall and see I'm crying, and not do anything at all.
  • Things are moving too fast.
  • I won't do anything just half-assed.
  • I met my personal Aphrodite.
  • I'm feeling panicked and rushed and hurried.
  • I'm so happy I can't get worried.
  • Next day it's just like it never happened.
  • And then he smiles - his eyes light up and how can I complain?
  • Yes, he's insane, but look what he can do.
  • I tend to follow in his stride instead of side by side.
  • I said I'd stick it out and follow through.
  • I'm a part of that...aren't I?
  • Maybe your heart's completely swayed, but your head can't follow through.
  • Don't you think that now's a good time to be the ambitious freak you are?
  • You get to be happy!
  • Take a breath, take a step, take a chance - take your time.
  • Have I mentioned today how lucky I am to be in love with you?
  • I'm sharing a room with a "former" stripper and her snake: Wayne.
  • I could shove an ice pick in my eye, I could eat some fish from last July, but it wouldn't be as awful as [fill in what you wish].
  • He wants me, he wants me, but he ain't gonna get me.
  • Son of a bitch, I guess I'm doing something right!
  • 'Cause the torture is just exquisite while I'm waiting for you to visit.
  • We should go meet the dinosaurs.
  • Will you share your life with me for the next ten minutes?
  • There are so many lives I want to share with you.
  • But if you can just wait I will make it eventually.
  • Not like I'm proud of the fact.
  • I want to be your wife, I want to bear your child, I want to die knowing I had a long, full life in your arms.
  • Will you share your life with me for the next ten lifetimes?
  • There are so many dreams I need to see with you.
  • There are so many years I need to be with you.
  • Everyone tells you that the minute you get married every other woman in the world suddenly finds you attractive.
  • And all of a sudden, this pair of breasts walks by and smiles at you and you're like - "That's not fair!"
  • In a perfect world a miracle would happen.
  • I shouldn't care what she thinks since I can't fuck her anyway!
  • Don't despair, I'll be there.
  • I am a good person!
  • Stop looking at that, look at me.
  • Jesus Christ, I suck, I suck, I suck, I suck.
  • I will not be the girl who requires a man to get by.
  • Can we please for a minute stop blaming and say what you feel?
  • Did you think this would all be much easier than it's turned out to be?
  • If I didn't believe in you, we'd never have gotten this far.
  • Don't we get to be happy at some point down the line?
  • If I'm cheering on your side, why can't you support mine?
  • No one can give you courage.
  • I will not lose because you can't win.
  • He wouldn't leave me alone 'less I went with him to dinner.
  • I guess he was good in bed.
  • He blew me off with a heartfelt letter.
  • I can do better than that.
  • You don't have to change a thing, just stay with me.
  • I want you and you and nothing but you.
  • I don't want to throw up your walls and defenses.
  • It feels like my life led right to your side and will keep me there from now on.
  • Think of what's past, because we can do better.
  • Hey, kid - good morning. You look like an angel.
  • I don't remember when we fell asleep.
  • Nobody needs to know.
  • Come back to bed, kid.
  • Hold on, don't cry yet.
  • I won't let you go.
  • Maybe I could be in love with someone like you.
  • Goodbye until tomorrow.
  • I have been waiting for you.
  • I'm not the only one who's hurting here.
  • I don't know what the hell is left to do.
  • I could never rescue you.
  • All I could do was love you hard and let you go.
  • So we could fight, or we could wait, or I could go...
  • I didn't see a way we both could win.
  • Goodbye.

anonymous asked:

Am I a lesbian if I'm only attracted to butch women? I think I might be a lesbian but my dad says I'm not really gay because I'm feminine and all my girlfriends were butch. He said I'm being a fake lesbian and that I shouldn't call myself a lesbian.

?? I don’t understand his reasoning? Butch women are still women, not a watered down substitute of men. To imply otherwise is lesbophobic and I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. You aren’t a fake lesbian. It’s normal to have preferences. And dating butch women… is gay.

- Mod C

anonymous asked:

Hi, I wanted to say one thing. I'm aroace myself, and while I appreciate your efforts for the ace community, I must agree with the others. I don't think you were being homophobic, but you need to understand that certain problematics are not to be overlapped. Dorian is very important for the representation of gay asian poc, and he's canonically /very/ sexually active and sexually attracted by men, so I think we aces shouldn't remove that representation to add ours, that's not good for anyone.

I mean, you’re entitled to your opinion, but you can work within the narrative without changing anything to come to the conclusion that Dorian could be ace-spec. It doesn’t change or ruin his character in any way. He can still be attracted to men, want sex, and enjoy sex just as any gay ace man can.

I’m not saying everyone has to change their headcanon of him so that he’s ace now. Hell, most of what I’ve written for him I haven’t envisioned him as ace. And I get why not everyone likes this headcanon and I get why it could make people uncomfortable, especially when they are worried i could go in with the intent of changing who Dorian is. I definitely understand the importance of letting queer people be attracted to who they’re attracted to. But it isn’t fair to say it’s inherently harmful to headcanon gay characters as ace when there are real people who are both gay and ace. If a gay ace man identifies with Dorian, he shouldn’t be attacked the way I have been for exploring his experiences through this character.

As soon as someone finds out a gay person is also ace, it’s like they’re fake gay, gay with an asterisk by the label warning everyone that they’re also ace and therefore lesser, not the same, and any relationship with them would reflect that. And I am offended by the implication that my friends aren’t gay enough, that I’m not gay enough, simply because we also identify as ace. It’s sad the number of gay men and women I’ve talked to who think they might be ace but are too afraid to talk about it because they’re afraid of people acting this way towards them as well, making them feel ashamed because their very existence is apparently offensive and homophobic, given how many times I’ve been called that. So yeah.That’s why I wrote ace Dorian.

anonymous asked:

Maybe I'm cynical but people choose a favorite character based on a gut reaction, and consciously or not race does play a part in how easily they can identify with a character. It shouldn’t but it does. That doesn’t mean there shouldn't be representation. It does mean for a fandom to be sustainable, the original material has to either get viewers to identify with a character despite their predisposition or attract fans that identify with them b/c of it. TW obviously hasn't so a question is why.


Let me try to rephrase this so I am sure what you are saying here.  

1.  People choose a favorite character based on a gut reaction.

2.  Race plays a role in that gut reaction.

3.  Representation is a cultural good, but not as important as sustainable fandom.

4.  It is the production’s responsibility to create a character that overcomes people’s race-influenced gut reaction.

I stared at this for a long time as I tried to figure out how to answer this without using a stream of unintelligible words and random gifs.   Below is my attempt.

  1. I agree.  Gut reaction – instinct – plays a huge role in who we identify with.  However, we are not animals.   We are capable of analyzing our own reactions and saying “Why do I feel this way?”  
  2. I am unqualified to talk about any hard-wired biological component to how we handle race between ourselves.  I do know about the cultural mores and how those mores enforce behaviors about race.   We live in a society (I am restricting myself to the culture of the United States, which I know best) that has developed over the course of its existence certain behaviors that prioritize one race over another.  Race influences our gut reaction because we’ve been taught to let it.  Nearly every show we’ve watched, nearly every story we’ve read, has taught us to prioritize white characters.
  3. Representation as a cultural good did not emerge, unbidden, from the void.  It is a conscious attempt to change the cultural mores that influence your gut reaction.  The fact that fandom seems only able to be sustainable if it is focused on white characters is the actual point.   
  4. The production’s responsibility is to tell a good story, to reach an audience, and to make money for its investors.  (As much as some may despise the last motivation, it is what allows these shows to be made.)  The production has to balance its social responsibility with its sustainability.   Viewers are not passive participants in this; there’s a reason shows like the Get Down were not renewed.

 You know, I want to thank you personally for this anonymous question, because, at the base, every word you typed is true.   Fandom doesn’t care that its being influence by socially-constructed concepts that evaluate a person’s value and proper behavior based on race.   They don’t want to hear opinions that tell them that they’re part of the problem.

The idea that advocates of representation and fairness should be quiet and let fandom respect, for example, witty middle-aged white serial killers over the eponymous star of the show is, indeed, cynical.  Dangerously so.

anonymous asked:

listen i kno you're trying to make a funny post but you've been stating you're pan for as long as i've been following you and now this bullshit? how does that work exactly lmfao. like i get it ppl shouldn't imply you're always hitting on them but still what is it owen are you gay or are you pan

Lmao okay firstly you’re being really rude. Secondly, I don’t have to explain myself to anyone. Thirdly, I don’t talk about my sexuality because it’s neither interesting to talk about, or any of your business- worry ‘bout yourself. 

 But seeing as you clearly care so much as to send this ‘bullshit’ to me, I shall explain.

 I am pansexual, meaning I’m not limited in sexual attraction when it comes to sex or gender identity. However, I only have romantic feelings for men. Can I be sexually attracted to women? Yes. Do I want to date one? Nah. 

In conclusion, eat my entire ass

Originally posted by thepinkpackage

anonymous asked:

I look a lot younger than I am, so I have always attracted younger guys. Now that I'm 30 I have guys in their early 20s coming after me and even though I rarely give in because I'm too lazy, the rare times I have it turned out to be super fun because they tend to be a lot more submissive when they're younger than you. When it comes to relationships it's different because other factors come into play (job, marriage etc), but trust me, you girls shouldn't have a prejudice towards younger guys :)


anonymous asked:

Speaking as a girl, I think you're attractive :^)

Well, thank you ^///^

I’m just sad, because I get so many feels for a girlfriend, but I don’t attract girls to me for dating. :c

At this point I dunno if it will ever happen, and that really bums me out.

anonymous asked:

Thank you for speaking up about how harmful alignment language can be. I'm unaligned genderfluid (I'm occasionally binary male/female, but I still reject any alignment) and all this pressure here on tumblr to be binary aligned and sapphic/achillean or mlm/wlm has been so harmful for me. I sometimes feel like I'm not "queer enough" cause I'm not a mlm or wlw, and I'm mostly feminine presenting but more attracted to guys, when I shouldn't even have to worry about it cause I'm fricking genderqueer!

Omg SAME and I feel your pain! I KNOW my attractions are perfectly queer / not straight withOUT needing to be “same gender” since I’m NB, but there’s this pressure to align otherwise you’re “automatically straight” and like…not only does that make 0 sense but is really harmful to force non-binary people to align themselves if they don’t want to? 

Like that’s exactly like forcing nbs back into the binary. I’m glad some nbs find those labels useful and they’re 100% non-binary still, but I’ve spoken to people who’ve had that experience of being pressured which confirm my suspicions, with people saying if there wasn’t a pressure to identify that way they wouldn’t, and how that made them feel dysphoric and caused internalised transphobia. It should never be something you have to worry about, you’re genderqueer so no matter who you date it isn’t straight. It’s awful we even have to make that clear to people. 

anonymous asked:

I'm bi, but I have a boyfriend, my friend said that there's no way that I'm bi then, and it's all a joke, and when I said I like girls too, (like I have many times before) they said it's disgusting and started calling me the f slur, and they also said that I don't deserve my boyfriend and that he shouldn't love me.

i’m sorry your friends are so hateful and close minded. There’s nothing wrong with you being attracted to girls too and you deserve love. Don’t allow people to treat you in ways you don’t deserve. I’d recommend talking to them about it and how they’re making you feel or considering distancing yourself all together. They don’t sound like very good friends.

anonymous asked:

I saw you posted a couple other of these so I figured I'd ask. But if you don't wanna do it I totally understand. What would dating Dandy be like? (I shouldn't like him because he's a psycho murderer but I can't help it)

Don’t feel sorry! We all have had our fair share of being attracted to psycho murderer’s… I’m looking at you, Jerome

Him being incredibly over protective, and “get’s rid” of the competition

Him basically treating you like you’re a Queen

Being the only one he never hurts/would intentionally hurt

Lots of random “I love you”s

Giving excuses to stay in bed longer, when he really just wants to hold you longer

Having kids (only if you felt up to it, he wouldn’t pressure you)

Let’s just say, he can either be extremely gentle or extremely rough… (like I said, he wouldn’t pressure you)

Him ALWAYS complimenting you

Always receiving little gifts

Always having a shoulder to lean on


The signs as love songs when I put my playlist on shuffle
  • Aries: Katy, don't cry, I know you're trying your hardest, and the hardest part is letting go of the nights we shared. (Miserable At Best / Mayday Parade)
  • Taurus: Jesus Christ, that's a pretty face, the kind you'd find on someone I could save. (Jesus Christ / Brand New)
  • Gemini: Tough girl in the fast lane, no time for love, no time for hate, no drama, no time for games, tough girl who's soul aches. (Big Girls Cry / Sia)
  • Cancer: You don't want me, no. You don't need me. Like I want you, oh. Like I need you. (You / The Pretty Reckless)
  • Leo: He could swear he never meant it, act like you're overreacting, but he's the tool who shouldn't have been acting, how're they the ones attracting us? (Here's To The Heartbreakers / Katy McAllister)
  • Virgo: So take a bow, cause you've taken everything else. You played the part, and like a star you played it so well. (Take A Bow / Leona Lewis)
  • Libra: You're a part time lover and a full time friend, the monkey on your back is the latest trend, I don't see what anyone can see in anyone else but you. (Anyone Else But You / The Moldy Peaches)
  • Scorpio: Does he watch your favorite movies, does he hold you when you cry, does he let you tell him all your favorite parts when you've seen it a million times? Does he sing to all your music while you dance to purple rain, does he do all these things like I used to? (Like We Used To / A Rocket To The Moon)
  • Sagittarius: I've been upside down, I don't wanna be the right way round. Can't find paradise on the ground. (All We Do / Oh Wonder)
  • Capricorn: I've tried to go on like k never knew you, I'm awake but my world is half asleep. I pray for this heart to be unbroken, but without you all in going to be is incomplete. (Incomplete / Backstreet Boys)
  • Aquarius: We can't make up for the lost times that we both apologized for, and I can't stand the fact that this extremity is the center of my day. (Dare4distance / Never Shout Never)
  • Pisces: I need you in my life, or I'm not alright. So don't walk away, I won't be okay if you do, I just don't wanna lose you. (I Don't Wanna Lose You / Jamestown Story)