Is it "problematic" if I don't want to date a lesbian and just someone else who is bi? I've never dated anyone before and I've just heard so many stories about biphobia that I just don't want to deal with it. I also don't want to be a jerk but at the end of the day I should feel comfortable in the relationship.
Nope, not problematic. It’s perfectly normal to want to date someone who shares your orientation and who you could trust to understand that part of you. That being said, my experience has been that there are way more biphobic lesbians on tumblr than in real life, and the best way to sift through people is to be really upfront about your orientation. Before dating my current boyfriend, while I was still questioning, I went on some dates with a gorgeous and kind lesbian. Although things didn’t end up working out between us she was actually really patient and helpful in my questioning process and wasn’t biphobic at all. Historically, the bi community has been intimately intertwined with the gay and lesbian community. There are definite problems within the community today, but we also have a lot in common, and my experience is that for the most part we are in it together.