Questions to ask your spirit friends
post was written by Thicket, Rosemary, Tom, and Alexandria.
Questions for all spirits
How are you?
By what name may I call you, if you wish to give me one?
What offerings do you enjoy? How often do you need them? (This does not mean you must give offerings as often as a spirit requests. Do things on your own terms)
What is your true nature?
What laws do you obey?
Do you live near me?
Why did you answer my call today? (alternatively: Why are you here?)
How do you manifest to me? (Visions, sensations, light orbs, etc)
What do you like to do for fun? What are your pastimes?
What is your preferred method of communication? (Psychic, tarot, runes, other systems)
Is your spirit home comfortable?
Questions for guardians
Is there any danger to me at this time?
What is your normal method of protecting me? (Magic, brute force, cunning)
Are you able to do your job alone? (Be careful, some spirits may find this question to be insulting)
How may I assist you in keeping me safe?
Would you like a thoughtform to aid you in your task?
How are my wards and shields?
In what area are my defenses lacking?
Is there any pitfall or dangerous situation I am getting close to?
Who do I need to be careful of at this time?
Do you require any healing?
What problems can we take care of together?
Alexandria says: “What attacks are necessary at this time?”
Tom says: “Do not listen to Alexandria, be careful when engaging the enemy directly.”
Questions for guides
What form are you most comfortable in?
Tom and Alexandria say: “This is mostly for human curiosity and does not really matter.” Thicket disagrees; the form a creature can take can communicate very valuable information to the practitioner.
What do you think about the direction I am going in?
What paths are available to me right now?
Tom says: “Do not agonize over the future.” I think this is personal advice and not really a question.
What am I doing right now that could be dangeous?
What advice do you have for me? (Tom and Alexandria feel this is an excellent question)
What do you feel the outcomes are for this situation? Tom and Alexandria warn you to not be constrained by the limited futures a guide can show you.
How can I improve my life right now?
How can I aid you in your goals of guiding and directing me to a more secure life?
What is your goal for my life?
How long have you been with me? (Tom and Alexandria doubt the usefulness of this question, especially Tom. They communicate that this has no real bearing on a spirit’s ability to do it’s job – Thicket again disagrees)
What situations should I contact you about? (Serious, casual, everyday, rare)
Questions for helpers and servants
How are you able to assist me?
How am I able to assist you?
Are you able to carry out the tasks I have given you?
What is preventing you from carrying out these tasks, if anything?
What is your favorite task to complete?
What do you get out of helping me?
Do you require energy or recharging at this time?
What do you need in order to carry out your tasks?
Do you need a period of rest? Is it regularly required?
Have you discovered anything important that you need to share with me?
Questions for companions and friends
How are you feeling today?
Is everything comfortable for you?
Do you feel you are receiving enough attention from me lately?
Is there anything you would like to talk about?
Tell me about your day. (Tom especially likes this question; Alexandria is fond of it).
What can I get for you right now?
Are you pleased with your spirit home? Does it require upkeep?
What have you been up to lately?
Have any of your preferences changed? (Alexandria likes this question a lot)
What can I bring you as a special gift some time soon?
Is there any place you would like to travel to soon?
Am I doing anything lately that is bothering you?
How are you getting along with my spirit family?
Do you still enjoy the offerings you are receiving?
Some spirits appreciate being chattered to all day long, just like a close friend. Other spirits prefer to be contacted only when a serious matter arises, or even not at all. When greeting a new spirit, ask them how much they would like to communicate in general.
Do not directly ask for names. Names are serious business in the spirit world! Instead ask, “by what name may I call you,” indicating you are not searching for a true name. Tom feels that even these given names should be kept somewhat secret, and another nickname used to communicate about this spirit to humans. Alexandria somewhat agrees. Do not be offended or worried if a spirit refuses to give you any sort of name at all.
Do not confuse offerings with worship. Offerings are more like gifts – literally, you are just “offering” something to a spirit. A cup of coffee, a shot of liquor, some food, or even a nice glass of water makes a good gift. Just as you would offer snacks and beverages to any guest in your home, politely offer spirits something just to be a gracious host.
Avoid asking questions that give spirits leverage over you. “How do you feel about me?” is a question asked primarily by insecure people. Tom thinks this is harsh. Alexandria thinks this is correct. Some of these questions you may feel are somewhat unavoidable in companionship relationships. Let me encourage you to just be careful.
Tom wishes to leave a final note: “Always be careful. Spirits are not always what they seem.”