i should have been doing other things

anonymous asked:

Fro-yo worker here. I've been reading some reviews for our store on various websites & my favorite thing is ppl complaining about our sample policy. (I have to give the samples they can't just take them) they usually bitch about how they have multiple kids who all want something at once & how we need to be less stingy about samples. But jokes on them, I hate giving samples to their shitty brats, it's company policy. I should be complaining since I have 15 other things to do besides that.

I cannot believe the bullshit I’m reading. People calling Pascal soft and a coward for not racing. Like are y'all that fucking ignorant? Should a guy risk crashing and hurting himself and maybe even others just to not give his pride a bruise? Should he cost his team not only thousands of dollars but also huge effort building and fixing a car so that you fucking morons not call him soft? Have people not been listening what drivers have been saying about have damn hard these new cars are to drive? The did the responsible thing by owning up and admitting he can’t do it! I can’t believe this!

Things I wish had been in Dragon Age Origins
  • Wardens of any origin other than Dalish being mildly uncomfortable with having to suddenly live out in the wilderness.
  • “What do you mean I should just go pee behind the bushes!”
  • “The stories I was told as a child were lies, there’s nothing nice in bathing in muddy lakes during midnight.”
  • The dwarven origins being surprised after seeing mabaris for the first time.
  • ANY reaction at all from the dwarven wardens about the sky and being above ground.
  • Dwarven wardens complaining about getting sunburnt.
  • THE WARDEN WORRYING ABOUT THEIR COMPANIONS GETTING POISONED BY DARKSPAWN BLOOD.
  • Really though, the whole Ostagar experience is like a giant warning sign about getting the Blight sickness. The wounded soldiers, the darkspawn corpses and those instructors talking about the dangers of touching darkspawn blood or of getting scratched or bitten by them.
  • The Warden, Alistair and Shale are the only ones who are resistant and can face the darkspawn with no fear. Everyone else is in major danger.
  • The Warden realising this and having mild panic attacks whenever they spot one of their companions coming to blows with a darkspawn.
  • Hurried checks after a battle, their breath catching in their throat and their heartbeat banging in their ears.
  • “Did it bite you? Do you have any scratches, anywhere?! We should burn that wound just to be sure!”
  • Having to keep from petting the mabari after it has just licked all the darkspawn gore from the Warden’s armor, not until they get to a river and wash it.
  • The Cousland Warden’s heartbreak in Ostagar after their mabari, the only surviving member of their family gets the blight illness while hunting for darkspawn blood. Being extremely angry with Duncan for not warning them and the worried race through the Arbor Wilds to find that precious flower.
  • Their fear this could happen to their companions and they know of no flowers to fix people instead of dogs.
  • MAHARIEL WORRYING ABOUT THEIR COMPANIONS AND LI GETTING INFECTED.
  • Especially after Tamlen.
  • Especially after Tamlen finding them after he has become a ghoul.
  • Their worst nightmares are no longer those of the Archdemon but of their friends’ faces, grey and without hair, looking at them with filmy eyes. They wake up sweating and yelling, clinging to their mabari for comfort.
  • Any mention about the Lords and Arls of Highever resisting Howe when he claims Highever as his own.
  • It’s known that the Cousland family and especially Bryce Cousland were highly respected by the nobles of Ferelden and the Lords and Arls of his Teyrn should have been sworn allies of his. There’s no way they would silently watch as the man who murdered almost the whole Cousland family was given the very seat Bryce used to have.
  • An actual resistance trying to drive the Howe soldiers out of Highever, the Warden hearing rumors that it is lead by Fergus Cousland himself.
  • Fergus trying to reclaim his anchestral home instead of “roaming the Arbor Wilds for a year”.
  • Tabris being able to actually say ANYTHING to Anora about how shitty her treatement of the alienage elves is.
  • If she’s the true leader of Ferelden, why the hell were elves being taken from their homes and raped in the very capital of Ferelden where she lives. When she says she cares about Ferelden, she’s only really talking about Ferelden’s humans and I wish a Tabris could have been able to call her out for that.
How to Break up Like a Philosopher

Teleologist: We aren’t meant for each other.
Deontologist: We aren’t right for each other.
Solipsist: It’s not you, it’s me.
Empiricist: I think we should see other people.
Rationalist: I’ve been doing some thinking…
Continentalist: You’ve lost that love and feeling.
Egalitarian: This is the best thing for both of us.
Functionalist: I don’t care about accommodating your feelings.
Quinean: I’m sorry, but you don’t mean anything to me anymore.
Foundationalist: We have nothing left to build upon.
Relativist: It’s no one’s fault.
Atheist: These things just happen.
Kantian: You lied to me!
Consequentialist: You should have lied to my mother about her pot roast!
Anti-Fictionalist: I’m sick of faking it.
Cartesian: I don’t clearly and distinctly perceive a future together.
Hegelian: Do we have to go through this again?
Lockean: Our primary qualities simply aren’t compatible.
Behaviorist: I just can’t keep going through the motions anymore.
Presentist: There just isn’t any future for us.
Eternalist: At least we’ll always have that weekend in Paris.

this Charlamagne thing isn’t even surprising tho. black men just LOVE telling black women (or as some of them like to call us, “females”) how we should be living our lives. First of all, the only thing we “have to do” is stay black and die, and second of all, 95% of the shit they say we should be doing is shit we’re already doing, as can be seen with the Charlamagne backlash. And the other 5% is either unrealistic or misogynistic as fuck.

I hear this shit at Howard all the damn time. I’ve heard guys say women should have been “more involved” in the civil rights movement, as if a) the sexism of black men didn’t prevent more involvement, b) black women weren’t the backbone of the damn movement, feeding them and supporting them while also working to support their families (protesting doesn’t come with a paycheck) and c) there weren’t thousands of women involved, and dozens of high profile ones. I once rattled off a list of black women who helped lead the movement and this guy was like “well I’ve only heard of Rosa Parks.” That sounds like a you problem, my guy. Then he tried to blame the white education system for why he didn’t know more women were in the movement as if he didn’t go to an HBCU where that could be easily rectified, and as if all the women in the room didn’t also have white educations and somehow magically had some collective knowledge that he didn’t have (hint: picking up a book every now and then won’t kill you).

I recently heard another say “black women need to be more involved in politics.” As if it’s our fault it’s near impossible to get a black woman elected to public office in large swaths of the country. As if Black Lives Matter wasn’t founded by three women. As if the only two current Howard students who are in school *and* have been elected to public office aren’t women (they are, and one of them is *also* our student body president). Pull your head out of your ass and look around before you make ignorant comments on what black women are and aren’t doing.

Hayden Christensen’s performance as Anakin Skywalker is underrated

This post is something that I’ve been thinking about for a long time, and something that I finally need to get around to sharing with other people. I should have done this immediately after re-watching the first three episodes with Nannette while things were still fresh, but instead, I’m doing it almost a year later. I don’t remember exactly all the details or specific examples, but I’ll try my best. Maybe I’ll come back and edit this after I watch them again. Anyway…

Hayden Christensen did an incredible job with Anakin Skywalker. Before you stop reading because there’s no possible way I could be right, hear me out; maybe I’ll change the way you see his acting performance in Star Wars: Episodes II and III.

The biggest complaint I hear about Christensen’s performance as Anakin Skywalker is that he is stiff, delivering his lines awkwardly and playing his role mostly devoid of emotion. It just doesn’t seem good enough or realistic. I think that this could have been a deliberate choice by Christensen because of who Anakin is and because of what life and circumstance has shaped Anakin into being.

Anakin is an incredibly emotional character. He thinks with his heart instead of logic, often following through on impulsive actions brought on by those emotions. Anakin’s intense feelings are prevalent in many scenes: he is worried about and seeks power to protect his mom and Padme, he murders an entire Tusken village after learning about the death of Shmi, he is angered and upset that the council won’t make him a Jedi master, and pretty much any other scene involving Padme, like when Padme falls out of the gunship in Episode II and Anakin almost risks expulsion from the Jedi Council by going after her instead of working to end the war. This emotion is heavily contrasted by Obi-wan’s desire to adhere to their duty and think logically.

In fact, it’s this emotional driving force Anakin possesses that makes most of the Jedi Council worried about him. Anakin is out of place among the Jedi. The literal first line of the Jedi code is: “There is no emotion, there is peace.” This is where Christensen’s acting comes into play. Anakin is uncomfortable under this restriction, and that’s why he seems so robotic at times. Anakin is an incredibly emotional person under serious pressure by everyone in his life (except Padme) to stop being emotional. His humor even evolves into the monotone, deadpan sarcasm that is seen with Obi-wan. He’s working so hard at suppressing his emotions that he’s forcibly correcting his speech tones and gestures. This is incredibly in character and a wonderful performance given by Christensen.

The stiffness and awkwardness with which Christensen delivers some lines and acts some scenes is no mistake. It’s deliberate, and it’s incredibly well done. This is obvious when contrasted with Anakin’s emotional scenes where Christensen acts with passion. It’s even further evidenced as Anakin stops his efforts to smother his emotions and becomes Darth Vader. From his appointment to Lord Vader until his famous duel with Obi-wan he is free from the constraints on his emotions. We see a harrowed man who hasn’t quite realized the extent of his actions wipe out the younglings. We see a caring, concerned and loving man check on Padme to make sure she’s safe and that she isn’t aware of what he has done to protect her. We see an angry man confront his brother and teacher in a blinding rage. We see the emotion that he’s been hiding the rest of the time.

Christensen’s performance is resonating and undeniably impactful during the final moments leading up to the conclusion of Episode III. It doesn’t make any sense that that same conviction and heart wouldn’t appear throughout all of Episode II and III unless there was a reason that Anakin would be forcing himself to hide it. The Jedi Order itself was that reason, and the stiffness and awkwardness that is Anakin (barring the emotional scenes where his feelings come out) has some deep meaning to it. Next time you want to drag Christensen for his performance, take a moment to think why the character would be portrayed that way. Christensen did a wonderful, incredibly underrated job with his role as Anakin Skywalker.

TL;DR: Anakin is an incredibly emotional character forced into hiding and suppressing those emotions by the Jedi Order and Code. This is why Hayden Christensen’s performance may seem stiff and awkward at times. The awkwardness is purposeful and his performance is incredibly underrated.

Disclaimer: Anakin is my favorite character in the Star Wars universe, so this may just be me grasping at straws trying to justify what people say is a subpar performance from Hayden Christensen. However, I feel like I’ve given this analysis objective treatment and truly believe that he deserves more praise for what I consider to be an incredible job portraying such an interesting and deep character.

The Not-So-Glamorous Side of Being an Angel

-eating way to much or not enough because you really can’t tell how much this body needs
-a l w a y s t h i r s t y
-“what do you mean I have to wash the vessel AGAIN I just did that 36 hours ago”
-never really adjusting to having to use the bathroom regularly
-saying something that only divines/angels would understand around your human friends and they don’t get it and it makes things awkward
-“should I tell this friend who I really am I mean we’ve been friends for like 10 years and we trust each other with our lives but STILL”
-seeing fictional angels being depicted or described completely inaccurately and getting unreasonably frustrated
-being super clumsy because you can’t quite get the hang of piloting this dumb human body
-lying awake at 3am because you just feel so lonely and empty inside
-“what if my brain is just making all this up and fabricating memories because I subconsciously want to be Different and Special”
-being afraid to have children because you’ve heard nephilim described as “abominations” and you fear you won’t be able to protect them
-running into someone irl and just KNOWING they’re Angelic too and “omg do they realize I am too do they even realize /they/ are wHAT IF THEY KNOW ME”
-being Fallen and wondering if you actually are the bad guy of your story
-having a disability or chronic illness and wondering if it’s because your vessel can’t handle your powerful soul

Just…being an angel isn’t all fun and games.

[11/01/17] Another picture of my Muji 2017 diary ✨comment whether you think I should use a bullet journal alongside this 💫 been thinking of using this simply for tasks as on the left I can write down what work I have been given from school and then I can plan to do lists for the day on the right☺️but I feel like I also want to track some other things like sleep, habits, mood etc so I may get a muji notebook to do that and be a bit more creative🙌🏼 what do you guys think❓

I think uncle Monty is the perfect example of a Slytherin who is also a decent and caring human being. Here's why (this is more specific to the show because I haven't read the book in a while):

-Ambitious: He is a world renowned herpetologist/recognised scientist. He worked hard for that, and he wanted that title.

-Cunning: That ingenious door that looks like you have to do a million things to open, but really you just need to turn the doorknob. He named the incredibly deadly viper because he wanted to play a trick on the other scientists who were rude to him.

-Protective: Though he may have been a little too self involved to understand that Olaf was after the children and not his studies, he did recognise that he was a threat, and tried to protect the Baudelaires (and his reptiles) from him.


He did of course have some negative traits as well, but everyone does. Overall though I think he should be recognised as a positive Slytherin character.

I’m nervous that my partner has an STD. How do I bring it up?

Someone asked us:

im scared my significant other might have an std and i dont know how to bring it up or if i even should cos it wont really change anything now ????

Anytime you think you or your partner has an STD, it’s a good idea to talk about it. Different STDs mean different things for your life and there are different ways to proceed, depending on what you’ve been diagnosed with. A few go away on their own, but most require some kind of treatment — like antibiotics to cure it, or ongoing medicine to treat symptoms.

Talking about STDs can feel scary, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal. The best way to bring this stuff up is to just be direct and honest. Ask if they have whatever STD you think they may have, and explain your feelings and needs around that. Are you asking because you want to have the info you need to stay healthy yourself? Are you asking because you want to talk about using condoms or getting tested together? Try not to be accusatory or judgmental — STDs happen to the best of us, just like any other kind of infection.

If you’re worried you might have this STD you think your significant other has, it’s important to get tested. It’s also important for your partner to get tested, and then you’ll both know what’s up.

-Julia at Planned Parenthood

theater-chicky  asked:

OKAY I JUST HAD THE SADDEST IDEA , SO ANIXETY DEALS WITG WELL THOMAS'S ANXIETY RIGHT OKAY WELL WHAT IF HE LOOKED SO UPSET AT THE FACT THAT THEY SAID THISE THINGS IS BECAUSE HE WILL LITERALLY TAKE MOST OF THE OTHERS ANIXETY TOO, SO WHEN ROMAN WAS FREAKING OUT ANXIETY WAS THERE ACTUALLY TAKING THE BRUNT AND MOAT IF THE ANXIETY ROMAN SHOULD HAVE BEEN FEELING!!!!

Anxiety one day unable to control it all anymore, and the others suddenly feel everything he was trying to make sure they didn’t have to deal with and he others realizing what he’s been doing for them all along and realizing how terrublet they’ve truly been to him

Shut up and kiss me - Auston Matthews

A/N: HIIII! This one is a request by my bb @itsall-aboutthat. I’ve enjoyed writing this waaaay too much and I hope you like it. I might start taking requests, who knows…

Word Count: 1130

Warnings: Mild swearing.

Originally posted by calgaryinferno

“What do you want to do today?” Auston asks from behind me, wrapping his arms around my waist on a tight embrace.

“I’ve never been in Toronto before, we should go and explore the city” I answer while pouring more pancake batter on the pan. I’ve probably made a hundred pancakes by now, but the pile wasn’t growing since Auston kept stealing them from the plate and eating them with his fingers.

We have been dating for two years now, but you won’t deny that living so far from each other makes things quite hard sometimes. You trust him and he trusts you, but it is hard not to get jealous when models threw themselves at him all the time and you are an average girl from Michigan. It is the first time that I have gone to Toronto to visit him and I am beyond excited about it.

“Do you really want to go out?” He pouts and I can tell that all he wants is to stay at home and just cuddle and watch movies and be couch potatoes. Not happening “it is cold out and it might rain and…”

“Stop whining, Papi” I scowl him and he frowns; only his mom can call him Papi. “I really want to see the city. Your apartment is nice, but I want to see what Canada has to offer”

He rolls his eyes and I know I have won; we are going out. We get ready, Auston still whining while we walk to his car.

“We can go back, it isn’t too late” he says before getting in the driver’s seat.

“Auston, drive and don’t stop until we are Downtown” I glare at him and he stares at my face, trying to figure out if I’m kidding or not. I am not. He sighs and starts driving.

As soon as we are on the highway he links his hand with mine and rests them on my thigh, eyes on the road. I take my time to study his face while he is focus on the icy road; he is still the same Auston, but I can tell he is more of a man than he was six months ago when he left to Toronto. His jaw is slightly more squared, his hair is longer but better styled, his cheekbones more prominent… and yet again he is still Auston.

“Why do you keep staring at me?” he asks, squishing my hand lightly and I blush. Ugh, busted.

“You are just too handsome” I answer sincerely and he turns his face, gifting me with a smile that makes my knees weak.

“I needed to keep up with my girlfriend or some bastard may try to take her away from me” and I frown.

“Never going to happen”

“I hope so” he looks at my eyes for a second and brings my hand to his lips and kisses my knuckles. Ugh, he knows how to make me go insane “we are here”

He parks the car on a private parking lot and we walk out, hand on hand. Toronto is prettier than I expected. It has a New York vibe but much more chilled and I enjoy walking around surrounded by tall buildings.

“Ugh, I think I’m in love” I declare as we sit in a restaurant after walking and shopping for a couple hours. What can I say? I couldn’t hold myself and Auston was there to hold my bags for once.

“I thought you had fell for me long time ago” he raises an eyebrow and I laugh at him.

“With the city, dum-dum” and now he gives me a major side eye “I’ve been in love with you for two years” as I run a finger all over his hand and arm.

“Good to know” he smiles and I do the same. Ugh, we are so cheesy.

We get our food and we eat as we talk, or I talk and he listens, or more like I talk and he is completely zoned out. He has always been on the quiet side of the spectrum, but normally he is a good listener. I frown, but he doesn’t notice it and I decide to just let it go. He pays the tab and I whisper a thank you. Everything was going so well and now we are on an uncomfortable silence, walking around the city.

“Want to go up there?” he asks and I snap out of my thoughts, following his gaze to the CN tower.

I nod, but I don’t say anything as we walk to base of the needle looking building and get inside. It is warm and I let out a content sigh when the warmth hits my face. Auston buys a couple tickets and I give him a dirty look, it is my time to pay, but he just waves it off and puts his hand on the small of my back and pushes me to the elevators. The ride up is suffocating, neither of us talks and the tension between us is palpable, you literally run off as the elevator doors open. And then you see it, the whole city at your feet. The sight is breathtaking and you can’t help it to turn around, looking for Auston so you can share the experience, but he is on front of the elevator, looking at his feet.

“Ok, I’m done with this” You whisper and walk towards him “what the hell is wrong with you? Why are you acting up so weird? What the fuck happ…”

“Move here with me” he blurts out and I stop talking.

“What?”

“Move here with me. Come live with me. You love the city, you like my friends, you love me…”

“Yes” I say, biting my lower lip.

“You can find a job, or not, I make enough money for bo…Wait, what?”

“I said yes, Auston. I’d love to live with you. I’d love to wake to you each morning. I’d love to make you pancakes every morning” I smile as he wraps his arms around my waist and spins me around.

When he puts me down I grab his hand and walk with him to the glass. The Sun is going down and the sky is tinted with reds, pinks and oranges.

“This is so beautiful” I whisper, leaning against him.

“Not as beautiful as you” he puts his arm around my shoulders and squishes my frame against his much bigger body “hey, I’m so sorry. I was an asshole and…”

“Shh, shut up and kiss me”

And he does, and my knees go weak, and my heart flutters, and I can’t believe I’m lucky enough to get to call him mine.

If you have trouble reading small fonts on Tumblr, listen up!

Hello friends! I thought I could contribute with a feature I didn’t know existed until recently and might help for those who have trouble reading small text (as a glasses wearer, I empathise) 

In Google Chrome, you can set a minimum font and the browser will encode your web pages to fit this. I’ve been doing this for custom fonts, but just noticed the size feature. 

  • Go to chrome://settings/
  • Scroll to the bottom 
  • Click on Show advanced settings
  • Scroll to the heading Web content
  • Click customize fonts
  • Find the minimum font size section and adjust! Default is 6px

In the image, I have set mine to 11px. This affects my Tumblr dashboard as well as other websites. Once I got to 14px, it made ‘small’ dashboard text the same size as normal text. 

Please note that making your font bigger might affect some formatting things as @hailthehelpful​‘s post talks about. 

So while everyone should be making their themes accessible, this is a nice remedy until the 6px nonsense stops :-) Reblog if you found this useful! I’m not sure how many people know about this

EDIT: Making complete sense, this will also work with chromium-based browsers (e.g. Opera) - kudos to @the-fires-dead 

EDIT: If you have Firefox browser, you can do the same thing - kudos to @ordoachao

i truly do not understand people who get annoyed when you make a legitimate criticism towards a perceivably “decent” politician. it’s so strange when people say things like “oh no matter what this politician does you’ll always find something to complain about” or “well he’s done 100 other good things, so let’s celebrate that first” or “you have to give him a chance!! he’s only been in office for 400 days!!” 

like. your one duty as a constituent should be to criticize–continuously criticize–the people that want your vote. this is a good thing. this is not out of personal spite, this is literally just politics. as a citizen you should want to raise concerns and seek immediate, meaningful answers. your political leaders should want to hear your complaints and attend to them in their severity. even in an ideal world where municipal/state/national leaders are totally conscientious and able to fix everything, there should be room for criticism because that is the only way to approach complete success. it doesn’t matter if your fave politician is otherwise 99% perfect–that 1% should still be discussed and fixed. 

anonymous asked:

Hey Chris, hopefully this isn't too personal, but would you be willing to do a more detailed post about your diet change? I know that you've answered tons of questions on it, and you're probably tired of getting them, so maybe you could clear everything up in one post? How has it helped your running – faster/slower/energy during workouts? Body wise – weight gain/loss, bloating/digestion, your skin/hair/energy levels/mental clarity? Judgements from others/dealing with the ethical side? etc.

Hi beautiful. I will honestly just answer it here and keep it tagged in my personal posts :) I have been meaning to make this post for a while so here we go:

Throughout the last 2 years I experienced a lot, as we all do…with life and changes. I guess to put it simply– I have been GROWING and changing and figuring things out on my own as we all should!! Change is good! Change is necessary! When I was injured I discovered veganism and I think in many ways it was a manifestation of restricting food groups from my diet while I was injured…I had lost my identity as a “runner” when I was injured…lots of things. I think veganism and seeing the movement gave me a purpose, something else to focus on, something else to identify with. I don’t feel like getting into a huge explanation because, well, there isn’t one. It was what it is. I am a human being. I don’t realize things until looking back on them you know? I fully stand by the ethical side of veganism but I don’t think veganism is the “perfect diet,” nor do I think ANY diet is the perfect diet. I think the “perfect diet” is what makes an individual feel best. I think eating a wide range of whole foods and nutrient-dense foods and doing what makes you feel good is the most important thing at the end of the day, bottom line.

How many people swear by veganism? Or the paleo diet? Or the keto diet? Or a diet that’s entirely organic? And so on and so forth…there are so many “diets.” It leaves my head spinning. People swear by the diet they feel best on but that doesn’t mean it is the diet that everyone feels best on. I know veganism is not a “diet,” it is a lifestyle– with ethics. And I support it and respect it and stand by it…but as always, I am about doing the best we can…not being perfect. We can still do the best we can in terms of being ethical without giving up animal products entirely. We can still do our best to shop ethically, buy ethically, you get the point. I am entirely aware I may get more hate for this.

I was tired of blacking out on every run I was going on a few months ago. My runs kept getting shorter because I literally COULD NOT see without seeing black everywhere. My blood work came back fine– it wasn’t iron, it wasn’t a thyroid issue, etc. Things weren’t adding up. I listened to my gut. Added in everything in terms of food gradually. Is it coincidental that the day I made a change, I have not experienced any brain fog, dizziness, blacking out, bloating, extreme fatigue, dead legs, feeling paralyzed when running, and so on? Maybe, but I haven’t felt any of those symptoms since.

I didn’t feel these symptoms when I was injured because I wasn’t running when I first gave up eating animal products. But the more I ran, the worse it got. The body is more complicated than we can explain. No one has all the answers…not even the most prestigious doctors. In my opinion, the human body is a huge mystery…and there is not a “one size fits all” diet or approach. People respond differently to different things.

And who knows?!?! Maybe a year from now I will be THRIVING on an entirely plant-based diet while running?! WHO KNOWS???? No one knows! We just need to take it day by day. Our bodies change too! Daily! What works for us at one point in our lives may not be the best way for us forever!

No one needs to know your business about your diet except YOU. It is your body, your life, your health, YOUR CHOICES. That is what matters :) You do not need to justify your decisions or choices to anyone!

I am prepared to get some hate for this, that’s ok. I am happy to share this with others if it helps. Hope this answers you anon :)

Ace and aro people are valid

With the sudden resurgence of ace and aro related discourse (i.e. People being absolute jackasses about others) I feel the need to clarify a few things, at least from my perspective.

Asexual people are valid, and are people who should be a part of the queer community. Full stop.

Aromantic people are valid, and people who should be a part of the queer community. Full stop.

I have no idea why I see so many people, people who you would think would know better than to be going around saying things like “ace people are just faking it for attention” or “being ace is homophobic!” And other variations of exclusion.

Do people not remember some of the shit that the queer community has been though in the past? I’ve seen the same questions repeated to both people who are ace and people who are gay or lesbian so many times.

“What if you want children?”
“You’ll get over it”
“You just haven’t met the right person yet”
“How are you not attracted to (x)?”

There are more. But the end result.
Why would you exclude people who have so many similar experiences?
What do you even gain from it?

Are you so desperate to cement your recent inclusion into mainstream support that you’ve lost where you came from?

I don’t know.

But I do know this.

Ace people are valid.

Aro people are valid.

And you are not going to convince me otherwise.

I was reading a fic last night while trying to fall asleep and failing, called “Damn, I’m good”. It’s Sherlock and John’s story told in 8k from Mike Stamford’s POV. And I guess that didn’t help to make things better because that’s the story that should have been told. No merciful treatment of an abusive partner with a terrible past and a shady present who was prepared to kill again, no bullshit sister. Just Sherlock and John going through their complicated lives but finding each other because it’s the most natural thing to do, because everything points to that ending. They are the ones deserving of a merciful treatment. Some kindness that was not given to them by the writers or the writer of the movie they claim to have based their version on. Because that was killing them all over again. I know, we see them in the end smiling and laughing. I love parentlock, if you follow me you know this, and I won’t ever say that scene didn’t make me happy - it is in fact probably the only scene i can rescue from this nonsense - but at what cost? Sherlock keeps hating himself and every chance he has, his solution is to die. John is some stranger that has lost so much of his shine. I just can’t wrap my brains around this. I wish I could. I wish I could read some meta that made sense but I know it doesn’t exist. 

*sighs* I suppose i just wanted to recommend that fic. It’s lovely, it has a happy, well deserved ending. 

Times I should have realized that I´m ace, Part 1

When one of my classmates talked about her new boyfriend before class, saying that they hadn´t slept at all last night and I ACTUALLY ASKED HER WHAT THEY HAD BEEN DOING ALL NIGHT LONG BECAUSE I COULDN´T IMAGINE AN ACTIVITY WHICH LASTED AN ENTIRE NIGHT.
You can probably imagine the faces of the other students.

I was 21.