i see this so often and just why

my liberal friends are obsessed w/empathy, but since they’re not actually capable of empathizing w/everyone, and their support for people’s rights is often contingent on their empathy, they end up ignoring/justifying human rights violations against people they don’t find sympathetic.

you see this w/mental illness too. a lot of MI symptoms are problems people have experienced in moderation and “gotten over,” so in their attempts to empathize w/the mentally ill, neurotypicals often become frustrated bc “i got over it, why can’t you?” but that’s the thing abt mental illness: it overwhelms you w/seemingly minor shit and erects obstacles to “just getting over it.”

so instead of fetishizing empathy, you might get more out of just…accepting that you’ll never entirely “get it” and supporting people anyway. this doesn’t require ~abandoning logic~; you can still base your decisions on data and w/e you consider reason to be. you just need to accept that there are certain problems and experiences you can only understand on an intellectual level and get the hell over it.

idc whether a stranger “empathizes” w/me as a woman, rape survivor, mentally ill person, or whatever else. all i want is for them to support my rights.

(this is disjointed af, but hey, it’s late and i’m only up bc the apartment laundry services are garbage and i have to wait out a second dryer cycle. not that you have to empathize w/my laundry plight, just pls support my right to drink sleepytime extra and blather abt w/e pops into my head. thx.)

anonymous asked:

wait if it's not too much of a pain/too personal can you explain why your fellow kiwis think you're foreign?

Not too personal at all! It’s mostly just my accent. Apparently I don’t sound ‘traditionally kiwi’ by any means, so whenever people meet me for the first time they will often ask “Oh, how long have you been in the county? Do you like it here?” and stuff like that. 

It’s not a big deal, but it’s fun because I’ve lived here 99% of my life. 

anonymous asked:

50. for everyone else?? sorry, i just really love your headcanons and such!!!

nothing to apologize for, dude!! these are so much fun to do :) and thank you so much!! I’m gonna stick Goody in here just for good measure ;)

Mag7 guilty pleasures

Sam Chisolm: I don’t know why, but I feel like Sam really likes music. However, he views paying to see a performance as an extravagance, so he only does it once in a long while. When he goes though, he often brings some friends from the War, and they always have a grand time.

Joshua Faraday: Faraday indulges in a lot of pleasures, but he doesn’t feel guilty about most of them. Once in awhile though, when he’s had a lot to drink as a result of having a lot on his mind, he vents to Vasquez, reminiscing about his past, about his mistakes, about losing his family, and about how his life could have gone differently if he were a better person. He hates burdening other people with his problems, and it’s embarrassing to him to reveal that he has feelings, and strong ones at that, but he always feels better afterward.

Vasquez: I think Vas wants to have a pet, but it’s really not practical because of his lifestyle. But if he finds a stray cat or dog, he takes it with him for as long as he can, feeding it and caring for it, even though he knows it’ll be hard to let the creature go when he eventually has to. Animals were better companions to him than people most of his life though, and he treats them lovingly.

Goodnight Robicheaux: I think given the opportunity, Goody would be a total foodie, and would probably spend a LOT of time and money on good food. I could definitely picture him being a really good (but showy) cook and trying out a lot of exotic dishes that require fancy ingredients which take most of his earnings to buy. Also I think he’d probably use Billy as a guinea pig to test all his cooking experiments on and Billy pretends to be grudging about it but it’s actually mostly really good food and he’s glad Goody found a new hobby.

Billy Rocks: FANCY HAIR PRODUCTS! jk jk. I feel like Billy can sing. He wasn’t allowed to when he was an indentured servant and he still feels guilty and nervous whenever he does it, but when he’s by himself and no one can hear, he does, usually in Korean. One day, maybe he’ll be able to do it with a clear conscience.

Red Harvest: I think there are a few kinds of white people food he likes- maybe some desserts?- and he eats them when no one is looking because he doesn’t want anyone to know he likes them. In a modern AU, he’s the guy you find with a spoon in the freezer at 2:00AM.

Jack Horne: Jack doesn’t smoke; he figures it’s not healthy even though he can’t put his finger on why. But once in awhile on a quiet summer night he smokes a pipe on the front porch of his cabin while the sun sets.


a soft and beautiful man and the sharp asshole that lives in his house

The Dark Truth About The Scooby Doo Universe

Yes this is a serious thought that I want to share.
I think I figured out something pretty cool about the scooby doo universe.

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What I’m Saying: I’m fine. 



decided to just //flips// miraculous neon genesis or something @A@ guys it’s 8.13am and i haven’t sleep yet, gotta get this out of my head after watching neon genesis evangelion and realised that adrien is like shinji (well in a way, he doesn’t see his father often) and they are wearing suits so why not pair this suit with ml suit. things that i should be doing now -sleep-rest-drawforwork-morecolouring-gdi-dearlordsavemysoul

Miraculous Ladybug x Neon Genesis Evangelion au


Further maths moodboard

I keep seeing load of really autumnal colours on my dash and they’re beautiful but where I live it pretty much just skips from summer to winter so that’s why this looks so miserable. Plus it reflects my mood while I’m doing maths so there’s that. I’m also so sorry that I haven’t posted anything original in a while. I do try to keep my blog active but it’s hard to get my own content up as often as I’d like. I do promise that I will try my best though!!

Hope you’re all well  💕

Is it just me or

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Yuuri seems really soft and squishy? I mean, maybe that’s why Victor hugs him so often: this katsudon is sOFT AND SQUISHY. 


you know that one episode where sportacus just knits a giant scarf??????? presumably without any directions???????? (this is just an assumption, but i sure as hell didn’t see anything with directions written on it)

but let me tell you a thing: knitting is mostly just muscle memory. so this leads me to believe that sportacus knew how to knit (and was good and quick at it too, meaning he must have knitted a lot) before robbie gave him the box

where did sportacus learn to knit???? did he just decide to learn one day????? or was he taught how to knit?????? who taught him how to knit????? why did he do it so often?????? i have so many questions

Karasuno vs Nekoma in skirts
Karasuno vs Nekoma in skirts

We should make the entirety of Haikyuu!! be contested in miniskirts. That would make things a lot more fun.

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someone on my snapchat posted a picture of their soaking wet rabbit and captioned it “just had a bath” and my immediate reaction was terror. I tried telling this person why it wasn’t safe and they blocked me, so yeah…

It can cause ear tilt, hypothermia, and shock. It’s bad for the rabbit skin and ears (see: fucking ear tilt) and is an extremely stressful situation for a rabbit to be in.

If your rabbit often has urine or feces on its fur you probably need to clean the cage more often. If it smells, you probably need to clean the fucking cage more often. If you’re rabbit has lost the ability to clean itself/ is bad at it, then you can do a spot clean with a damp towel. Never put a rabbit into a tub/sink full of water and definitely don’t do it regularly.

If you need sources go to this cool new thing called google and ask it “can I give my rabbit a bath” and the first god damn thing to pop up is the House Rabbit Society and they’ll fucking tell you the exact god damn thing.


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psa/rant over.

Ciao, hallo, ahoj, здра́вствуйте…that’s hello (hi) in languages that I’m learning - italian, german, slovak/czech (my first language) and russian. As you can see, I love languages. You could call me a language freak. I enjoy learning them and I would love to see other people enjoying it too. So that’s why I’m here today. Writing this post about how to learn any foreing language.


For me, vocabulary is the most important part of any language. You can know the grammar, the pronunciation and everything else, but if you don’t know words, you can’t do anything. For many years, as I was younger, I struggled to learn new words. I often just translated them and that was all. Then I finally did what was necessary. I wrote them down.
Yes, that’s the first step. Write the freakin’ words somewhere, then write the translation, if you need to, a sentence where it is used (in languages such as german, do it so the word will be in nominative, so you won’t mess up the article). Read it out loud and when revising, make flashcards.
One tip when it comes to flashcards with vocab. Don’t make a flashcard of every single word you have on your list. It will consume your time, paper and your energy. Do it only with really hard words that you can’t remember.

  • 2. GRAMMAR

This is the most annoying thing for me to this day. I don’t like grammar, I struggled with grammar even in my native language (because we have i/y and billions of rules, you would understand if you were from Slovakia). What usually works for me is a simple training. Make a chart of the words in sentence, and write how did they change, or where do they need to be and so. Then just write simple sentences and have someone to correct them (teacher or some friend who is really good in the language).

  • 3. READ

Read books and articles in the language that you are trying to learn. Underline and translate the words you don’t understand (then follow the steps in 1.) Reading help so much. My english is not a product of teachers in schools and language courses after school. It’s the product of me reading every single book in english since I was 10 (or around 10 I think). Don’t worry about you not enjoying the book or the plot. That will come later. First few books are there for you to get used to it and then you will enjoy it. I promise.

  • 4. SPEAK & WRITE

Find someone who you can speak and/or write with. Native speakers are the best and if they know your first language, that’s even better. This can help you so much, because you are actually using the language in real life situation. If you don’t know anyone in person, try the internet (if you want to speak with me, message me any time).


This one is really simple, just set the language to the one you want to learn. First you can try with only subtitles, then also the language. Maybe you won’t notice, but you will learn the correct pronunciation of words and you will learn the accent.


If you are on your computer or phone, use sites like:

  • duolingo
  • memrise
  • quizlet
  • any news site in language of your choice

There are also applications where you can create digital flashcards (Wokabulary for example).


Never forget - the biggest thing is to have motivation. Don’t learn a language without one. Find something you love about the language, have some goal or something, but don’t learn the language just because you need to. It only makes you hate the language.
For example I learn italian because I love the culture and people there and I want to be able to make friends in Italy as I go there every year. My reason to learn german is that I want to study (and late maybe live) in Austria and there is only a limited number of universities that teach in english so I need to be really good in german. Find something like this and I guarantee you that your next hobby is going to be called “foreing languages”.

I hope this will help you on your journey to become the ultimate language freak like me.

fun home lyrics that destroy me

“…i know you.” “that was our last night…” “i’m drawing, i’m just drawing, i’m remembering something, that’s all…” “dad, i had no way of knowing my beginning would be your end!” “dear al, i’m scared” “telephone wire, stop too fast. telephone wire. make this not the past. this car ride. this is where it has to happen. there must be some other chances. there’s a moment i’m forgetting. where you tell me you see me!” “why am i standing here?” “no… i like the one you did daddy” “this is what i have of you” “but i was like you dad, me too” “do you feel my heart saying hi?” “just like you. i was just like you” “caption: every so often there was a rare moment of perfect balance when i soared above him”

just friends

so i got bored on the way home from Disney World, so i wrote this lil thing. pls enjoy. 

also, y/n/n means your nickname and from now on in my writing if you see that the that’s what it means just because i like nicknames but you know what’s a nickname for y/n ya know so yeah ramble ramble 

“Okay, but like, that’s a date, right? I mean, he asked me to dinner, doesn’t that mean a date?” You ask Shawn. You never really get asked on dates that often, or really at all, so you have no idea what constitutes as being a date, which is why you decided to run the situation by your best friend. You figure that since he’s a guy, he should know what boys mean when they say ‘hey, wanna go try this new Italian restaurant in town?’

“I mean, he didn’t specifically say the word ‘date’, which most guys do, but dinner at an Italian restaurant does sound very romantic.” He tells you from the other side of the couch where the two of you are seated, your feet tucked under his legs to keep your toes warm and a single blanket covering you both.

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after seeing how jimin highkey melted after seeing jungkook’s “please buy me some meat~” aegyo i finally understand why his wallet was always so empty cause of jeon in their early days (and now. probably.)

🌸Be kind🌸

Why are the people so full of hate ? Why can’t they be kind to each other,I don’t really understand it and I don’t want to understand it! It has nothing to do with myself but I always see it on the streets or in school… Everyone is different and like/hear/wear something different. Why is it so difficult to let the people live their lives how they want to ? I sometimes see that people look at me as I were very strange just because I wear other clothes then their wear :o (it is just an example, because I have often good experience with that 😊). Or some people get bullied because their are different. Another thing is if u go outside shopping or for anything else their are often people who treat you bad without having a reason for it! So pls be kind to each other and try to treat each other well ! The other persons have also feelings and they also want to live in peace! I only want to say that pls respect and accept each other also if they are different ! If u don’t like them just ignore it! I don’t want to say that everyone is like this 😊 I see and know many people that are very kind and that makes me very glad 💕! I’m so sorry for this serious topic but I just wanted to share what I think with you🌸 🌸I wish u a lovely day/night🌸

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INTP vs. INTJ - Comparison

I have often wondered why people are so prone to misidentifying xxxJ and xxxP types at first glance (myself included). This seems to happen the most often with INFPs and INFJs, and INTPs and INTJs. We’ve all encountered that person who believes that they’re an “INFP/INFJ hybrid”. (See: this previous post explaining my pet theory about cognitive function duality.) 

So, this duality got me thinking. If:

1. Fi and Fe are opposites, just as other opposite paired functions (Te/Ti, Se/Si, Ne/Ni) are; 

2. And they exist to approach the same problem from different viewpoints;

3. Then this is why opposite types can sometimes be difficult to distinguish from one another. 

So, the logical next step in the thought process was: how do INTJs and INTPs approach information differently? So, I decided to come up with a metaphor. 

To run with my previously-established theme comparing Ni to a pyramid, INTJs are like a mountain. Over the course of time, sheets of sediment are built up, depositing over top of one another, again and again and again. It takes hundreds of thousands of years for a mountain to form; and Ni is similarly slow out of the gate. Igneous, sedimentary, metamorphic rocks pile and press over one another to create layer after layer of solid material. Weather grinds down the mountainside - wind, snow, sleet, hail, and rain all work to hone the mountain’s many layers into a peak. 

This is how INTJs work. Their opinions are formed by taking an aggregate of information they’ve perceived over time, and once they have enough pieces of the puzzle to fit together - in other words, once they have enough information - then their brain makes an intuitive leap to the conclusion, and they reach an answer: the peak of their mountain. The summit is the end of their journey, their best guess given all of the complex layers of information that they’ve stored up over time. If the INTJ is like a slowly-forming mountain, and Ni’s conclusion is the peak, then the weather is the INTJ’s internal process of trying to maximize the efficiency of their actions and thought process.

INTPs are the opposite. Where an INTJ will take all of the information already known to reach a conclusion, INTPs will freely discard information that does not balance correctly on their internal scale - this is Ti at work instead of Ni. In this way, if INTJs are builders, then INTPs are more like percolators. INTJs are building up to a conclusion using all of the information in their external world available to them, while INTPs are looking to narrow their conclusion down to one underlying rule or principal based on the evidence that best fits into their internal model. 

An INTP will accumulate information and quickly, gradually, and automatically sift and filter it through many layers of internal logic in order to reach the most likely conclusion. INTPs are the rule, and INTJs are the application.

In this way, INTJs and INTPs - who are both incredibly intellectually curious, love learning, and are absolutely devoted to the pursuit of truth, accuracy, and honesty - are remarkably adept at locating the most logical, rational, and reasonable position in a pile of useless, inefficient, and unnecessary rules. 

In other words: INTJs and INTPs are crossing the same lake, but they’re using two completely different methods to get it done.

anonymous asked:

Any tips on writing an evil protagonist? How do I make sure people won't just go "oh he's a villain who cares what happens to him"?

Writing an Evil Protagonist

Okay, so when I started working on this question, I thought the question was how to write an evil antagonist. You know why? Because we see the word evil and immediately associate it with antagonist. So right away, it’s an obstacle you have to overcome when writing this story. You’re setting yourself up for a unconventional challenge, so as long as you’re prepared for a potentially rocky road, you’ll do just fine with this.

But let’s be clear about one thing first. Even if we were talking about an evil antagonist, readers would still care what happens to the character. Because the good fortune of the hero is often tied up in the misfortune of the villain. So every reader will care what happens to them. Rooting for a character to fail equates to caring, particularly when it comes to fictional characters.

So whether your villain is the antagonist, or in this case the protagonist, readers will care (one way or the other) what happens to them. But to address the point I think the asker is wanting, how do we get readers to root for an evil protagonist?

[Note: The following three tips aren’t necessarily meant to be used all at once. You could, sure, but it’s not always appropriate.] 

The villain doesn’t realize they’re the villain.

When a villain has a motivation they’re passionate about, and they feel their actions are justified, then they likely won’t think of themselves as a villain. They might be the type to think their work is for the “greater good,” or perhaps they’ve been wronged badly in the past and think that revenge is justified given the circumstances. When a villain’s motivations are strong and full of passion, they’ll likely believe they’re doing what’s right. And if they believe it, we’ll believe it. Because as the protagonist, they’ll be showing us the “underneath it all” revelations that go along with their evil actions. Most antagonist’s evil attacks are shown from the protagonist’s point of view, and we don’t get to see what led them to take the actions they took. 

Their nemesis is obnoxious, like really obnoxious.

It’s unlikely that you’ll be able to make the evil protagonist’s nemesis more evil than them (though maybe you can!), so instead, make the “hero” or “good” character annoying as hell. Make us want to slap that goody-two-shoes in the face. Maybe this hero is arrogant, boastful, makes bad jokes, or puts on a cheesy show for anyone watching, always trying to show that they are the one with the power. This character is probably the type who does good deeds because they love the attention, and not because they enjoy saving the world or the humanity inside it. 

Their journey to goodness is chronicled. 

Perhaps your evil protagonist isn’t always going to be evil, and you’re writing their progression from someone with evil intentions to someone with good intentions. These stories can be very interesting because to do this effectively, a reader has to get to know the protagonist very, very well, in order to see their motives progress from one extreme to the other. The writer has to be dedicated to writing the character’s thought process when making decisions, so readers can see that thought process evolve. Great consideration also has to be made when it comes to devising what plot events will push a character to make these changes.

And lastly…

A book recommendation for you: Vicious by V.E. Schwab. Confession - I did start this novel several years ago, and I didn’t make it far enough to get hooked due to other things going on at the time, so it’s been in the back of my mind on my mental TBR list for ages. But this book features two characters whose once harmonious working relationship is destroyed when their academic experiments go tragically wrong. Enemies now, they are each motivated by their own personal agenda of power and revenge. (Revisiting this book reminds me that timing is everything - just because you don’t enjoy a book at one point in your life doesn’t mean you won’t later on. You have to find each other at the right moment :)

Good luck with your evil protagonist!