my liberal friends are obsessed w/empathy, but since they’re not actually capable of empathizing w/everyone, and their support for people’s rights is often contingent on their empathy, they end up ignoring/justifying human rights violations against people they don’t find sympathetic.
you see this w/mental illness too. a lot of MI symptoms are problems people have experienced in moderation and “gotten over,” so in their attempts to empathize w/the mentally ill, neurotypicals often become frustrated bc “i got over it, why can’t you?” but that’s the thing abt mental illness: it overwhelms you w/seemingly minor shit and erects obstacles to “just getting over it.”
so instead of fetishizing empathy, you might get more out of just…accepting that you’ll never entirely “get it” and supporting people anyway. this doesn’t require ~abandoning logic~; you can still base your decisions on data and w/e you consider reason to be. you just need to accept that there are certain problems and experiences you can only understand on an intellectual level and get the hell over it.
idc whether a stranger “empathizes” w/me as a woman, rape survivor, mentally ill person, or whatever else. all i want is for them to support my rights.
(this is disjointed af, but hey, it’s late and i’m only up bc the apartment laundry services are garbage and i have to wait out a second dryer cycle. not that you have to empathize w/my laundry plight, just pls support my right to drink sleepytime extra and blather abt w/e pops into my head. thx.)