I’d like to personally respond to the allegations made against me
First of all I would like to emphasis that I have always been a strong supporter of the belief to trust the abused before the abuser. So this has been a particularly hard pill to swallow. I understand why one would quickly jump to conclusions on who to blame here. And yet, I am saddened and terrified by the amount of hate and death threats I have been receiving.
I have not at any given moment, ever, actively sided with anyone who to me appeared to be an abuser. In any form. Never would I stay silent in a situation where I were to witness any kind of harassment or wrongdoing. NO matter what relationship I’d have with that person. I am a very honest person who puts kindness first. I have met many of my mutuals on here in real life and hope they can testify. But, in the end we can all just trust our own judgement.
What I can say about these accusations is that they are NOT TRUE:
The person who is accusing me (and a handful of others) of these things has never been open about their real age towards me (or any other of said group). The whole time I communicated with that person I was of the belief that they were in their early twenties. At no point did I know or think I was interacting with a MINOR. I have only learned of their real age months after I have already stopped talking to them all together. So to accuse me of actively looking the other way when a minor was being harassed is neither true nor fair to claim in any way.
There has not been any form of harassment in the group chats I have been part of.
Never have I witnessed Addy harassing anyone, not said accuser and not anyone else. However, said person on the other side has later admitted to be a pathological liar in various situations to many different people.
By now there are posts going around that can verify these points with screenshots. (I also have proof of this. If you are interested and want to see them, contact me off anon)
I know I cannot change anyone’s opinions on these matters, but since I’ve not just witnessed but now been falsely accused of such serious accusations ALL I CAN DO is to ask you to think critically about everything you read. Actively consider what you see on Tumblr, what you like, reblog and share with others, who you are actually following and who you blindly believe. Such accusations can have a life changing impact on everyone involved.
I know this is a lot to ask for and yet of such vital importance.
To me, this is an attack on all the progress we as a society seem to have made in the past months. This is an insult to those who truly struggle in life because of past abuse.
So before you blindly repost things: Think of those affected and hurt by harassment and abuse. Think of those struggling with self hatred and suicidal thoughts. But also think of those whose life have been turned into hell by being wrongfully accused.
But please, whatever you decide to do: treat PEOPLE with kindness.
If someone who you don’t recognise as an established creator in your fandom posts
basically any kind of fanwork
and their original post
is not clearly marked as the OP’s creation (tagged as #mine or #my gifs or something similar)
has a ton of tags on it that are completely unrelated to what’s in the actual fanwork (mentioning other characters in a show/film or a bunch of other roles the depicted actor has played) OR no tags at all
stylistically reminds you of some other blog’s work
contains multiple gifs/edits that vary in size and don’t go together well
then chances are it’s a repost.
Do not reblog it.
Reblogging reposted fanwork is basically a big fuck you to any creator in your fandom. It tells them that you don’t value the time and energy they put into making things. That you think it’s okay for someone else to profit from their work. Don’t be that person
running a studyblr as an adult is so strange. i see kids as young as 13 having breakdowns about grades, isolating themselves from everyone because they don’t quite fit in, not knowing how to deal with very real mental health problems… it’s not my place as someone significantly older than you to try and intervene in your personal life, but i hope you all know that if you ever want advice - about studying, dealing with life, or just which colour to change your blog to - or need someone to listen to you when you’ve had an awful day, my inbox is always open. things will get better for you, and you will be okay, i promise.