why I ship (real) Graves/Credence:
How comfortable Credence was with Graves being so affectionate - in the early 1900s, let alone now, intimate contact like that between men is uncommon. If that didn’t happen before, Credence wouldn’t be so open to it. AKA, they wouldn’t be so gay if they weren’t already.
Credence is, canonically, described as an adult. Mid-20s. Still an age gap, but not unheard of. (See: Aaron Taylor-Johnson.)
The way Credence looked at him? The way he was shaken when (fake) Graves struck him? Was the look of a person who saw someone they love turn against them, into the very thing they were running from.
I didn’t think Graves was an asshole until I saw “him” with Credence. I thought he was doing his job. He’s described as sometimes single-minded, but for the most part a good man. I saw an American government official being an American government official. It makes sense that (real) Graves would have connections with Credence because of the Second Salem. It was his job to defend Magical Security.
Why I get that y'all are angry:
What we see onscreen is abusive. That’s because it’s not Graves. It’s Grindlewald. Grindlewald, a Dark wizard, a terrorist, who will do anything it takes to get to what can help him achieve his means: wizardkind dominance over Muggles. Grindlewald is an abuser. He most likely did the exact same thing to Dumbledore (except probably more explicit, volatile, and sexual).
Anyone who (rightly) ships Graves and Credence is not shipping Credence and Grindlewald. If they do, they are seduced by Grindlewald’s charisma (but that doesn’t make it okay). Anyone who does should be imagining the relationship the real Graves and Credence had previous to Grindlewald, aka previous to what we see onscreen.
They’re all queer. And I love it. But they’re not all the same, and they’re not all good.