i really use the word thing far too often

Turned On by the Health Issues of Gaining?

I recently received a question about whether I’m turned on by the health problems associated with extreme obesity. I thought I’d take the opportunity to answer the question more fully since it’s an issue that often gets brushed aside all too easily or uncomfortably.

When we talk about being turned on by so-called unhealthy gaining, what we really mean is getting aroused by the afflictions of obesity. I use the word affliction because the issues we’re talking about go far beyond health. Quite simply, the pain and suffering of obesity is–to some degree–erotic to all gainers and encouragers. In fact, it’s one of the things that separates us from bears, chasers, FAs, or others with normative sexualties. The only difference among us is the point at which a gainer or encourager taps out, so to speak. The point of “too much.”


Now I’m defining pain and suffering very broadly here, emotional and physical–everything along a spectrum from

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