i really think they focus on this so much so that we won't see the real death coming

mistystarshine  asked:

I agree with your post on Akira, but since tumblr won't let me quote entire paragraphs for an ask, I'll just say, "Akira isn’t somehow immune to the world bearing down on the rest of her, she can’t abstain from the conflict to take a personal self help journey." <--- THIS. I'm hoping that Ishida knows this and, when she next appears on screen, will address it. 'Not taking a side' just isn't going to be an option for long. I love Akira's character, but she and Amon need to stop living in denial.

That’s my same stance too. I don’t really have a good word for this so I’m going to make one up, there’s this kind of assumed “human privilege” that some humans are innocent and get to choose whether to abstain from the fight or not.

It’s something we see Touka halfway acknowledge, but then not make the full connection when speaking of her and Akira’s fathers. That Mado had a choice, he could have simply chose not to fight against ghouls. She compares this to her own father, but that’s always struck me as off. Arata perhaps could have chosen not to work so hard to grow a kakuja, to defend himself so viciously against CCG officers, but even if he had chosen that he and his children still would have been hunted by the CCG and lived under that pressure their entire lives. 

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anonymous asked:

Since it seems like you've already seen the rumors and I won't be spoiling anything, what do you think about the whole breaking up over kids?

I mean, I’ve written before about the idea of Alex and Maggie as a family and why I don’t believe they would choose motherhood (even if they could be great parents): given their jobs where they’re both putting their lives on the line every single day and constantly on call for emergencies, I don’t see either of them deciding that their lives are particularly compatible with having and raising children. And yes, I’m well aware that childcare is real, if outrageously fucking expensive in this country, but I don’t see a day when Alex would willingly stop putting herself in dangerous situations because there won’t be a day when Kara stops willingly putting herself in dangerous situations. But she already lived through the experience of having a parent being reported as dead on the job, lived through life with another parent who spent so much time at the office that she served as a parental figure to her little sister as a teenager - I very much doubt that she’d choose that life for another person. 

Similarly, the show has already established a characterization of Maggie as being very invested in her work and the good she might do in the community through it. She loved seeing Alex’s bravery and her willingness to put her own life on the line to protect others, and she was right there with her (we literally see her running through a firestorm of bullets without any armor to try to keep Rhea’s army from hurting more civilians). But she also knows what it’s like to lose parents, albeit in a way that wasn’t from death, and I sincerely doubt she’d want to bring kids into such a precarious situation. 

All that is to say, I think it’s really fucking out of character to have this question of kids popping up as something that separates them, especially at this stage. And, to make matters worse, unless they’re literally trying to jump the shark, they know better than to introduce some kid as a character into a show that hasn’t had children as a focal point (e.g. Cat was a mom, but we barely saw her sons because her role as a CEO and mentor to Kara, not as a mom, was the focus). So they’re inserting that kind of life-like (I can admit that) drama into a show that was never going to introduce those elements of life in the first place. 

Now, to make a more general life point that’s not so related to Sanvers or Supergirl… I’ve seen a few people saying that one partner wanting kids (even in the future) and one partner not wanting kids ever is a “bad reason” to break up. I’m gonna have to disagree. I don’t want kids. I don’t want them now. I don’t want them ever. I’ve dated people who did want kids in the future, and we knew going into it that our relationship would never be more than a fling because we had fundamental disagreements about what we wanted our future family to look like. And that’s a good thing. To force a partner to change on something as significant as bringing a new person into your lives–whether through pregnancy, adoption, surrogacy, whatever–isn’t a good idea. Almost always, one person is going to feel like they were forced to compromise on something massively important, and that puts more strain on a relationship than you can possibly imagine. And no kid ever deserves to feel like they’re unwanted or an imposition. So just…by all means be angry at the show if this ends up coming true and is handled poorly (and especially if it goes to reinforce this notion that all women should want to choose motherhood, a point @csquirrel27 has already made in relation to the history of lesbian relationships in tv and film, which I could literally go on about [and have in my academic work] forever), but let’s not use it to dismiss the reality of deep-level disagreements in adult relationships that can and do (often amicably) break up otherwise solid couples.

thewildwoodwoman  asked:

Hello! I recently read your post on astral travel and over complicating things and I was wondering if you had any tips on starting astral travel in general. I know the whole "relaxing your body, feel tingly" thing but, I'm just afraid that I won't get "out" so to speak. Any tips? Thank you!

I feel like I get asked this all the time and usually I do the equivalent of a ‘huh’ face but god damn I will try this time!

As you saw in my post, I think it’s a real barrier to astral travel to focus on ‘getting out’ because imo there are quite a few people that will never actually achieve an 'OBE’ type sensation associated with the astral. And imo again I think that’s because it’s legitimately a risk to let your soul go wandering about without you because that’s a state we usually associate with death–and thus it follows that it would be hard to actually achieve that because our bodies probably freak out and try to do everything possible to prevent that outcome! And there are other risks with actually physically leaving too, like getting lost or other entities seeing an open body sans soul and thinking 'opportunity!’

I say this because I got caught up in trying to achieve an OBE and thus when I actually started seeing the astral and it wasn’t Dramatic and I never really lost my body connection I got in my own head about it–and thus in my own way.

I think a better goal is starting small. Identify what you’re actually having problems with. There are many working parts to astral skills–they include a lot of the same skills we develop in basic energy work, trance work, and witchcraft. So you need some level of mastery of slipping into altered states, some decency at visualization, and I would argue some skill at creation energy magic (for when you actually get over there)

If what you’re saying is you can’t relax enough to achieve an altered state (when you’re in a proper trance or deep meditative brain wave state you naturally forget you have a body trust me) then start with that! Research methods that work for you and allow you to hit that. If you prefer moving methods, try that too. I know after a solid yoga session I tend to slip right into the astral with zero effort on my part because I’ve expended so much energy that my body is happy to just let me go. When you can achieve that state of calmness it’s so much easier to focus on the astral side. And when you’re at the level where you can consistently forget you have a body, you can do quick pop ins to see what’s going on over there, then pop back here.

The major difference in this method vs the obe situation is I’m not focusing on moving my actual soul around. Instead I’m flipping the tv channel in my head to see what’s up, which is less invasive so to speak imo. It’s a subtle thing!

If you have trouble visualizing (because by far the fastest way for me to slip into an astral state when I haven’t been in a while is picturing a door or gateway as I said in my other post) find basic exercises to get you exercising that imagination muscle. And if you don’t prefer that sense, find exercises that strengthen other senses. My favorite one is the fruit test:

Locate a fruit (irl) and use every sense to really get to know this item. Get it so you could take a test on this fruit and ace it.

Close your eyes and focus really hard on recalling those facts you mentally recorded on the fruit. Get it so you could reach out and touch it, taste, smell it in your mind. Do all of those things. That’s already a really solid visualization.

Then, using what you just learned, create in your mind an alien fruit that doesn’t exist. Do the sense exercises again. If you can do this last step, you’re entirely capable of visualizing a door, or a gate, or a tunnel to get you there. And the combo of the altered state and the visualization is usually more than enough to help you forget the body.

Also be aware when you first start to astral there’s a really solid chance you’re going to be spending a lot of time in a home base area that isn’t on the astral proper. I’ve seen this enough times now to think it’s the norm for a LOT of people. If this applies to you, that’s lucky! You have the space and time to play around with wacky astral things in relative safety. If you’re stuck in one place for a while, don’t panic, and don’t get caught up in doubt this isn’t the real deal. Use the time to sharpen your skills and get really good at connecting.

On the connecting note, DO IT A LOT! There are some days where absolutely nothing is going to happen, and it happens to me too, and all I can tell you is the planets aren’t aligned that day or the server is down or something. It’s not on you. But try and connect often anyway, even if you reach out and absolutely nothing is there. I say this because it’s literally like exercising. If you do it consistently and often you are going to get better and it will become easier. If I do reiki every day for a week, for example, I’m exponentially more sensitive and in tune than if I take a week off–I firmly believe this applies to most spirit work stuff.

And this last tip is so common sense but I feel the need to state it: when you’re just learning to do this astral thing for the love of the gods don’t try it when you’re going to be interrupted! There’s nothing more jarring than almost achieving it and being wrenched back into your body by someone slamming the door or whatever. Seriously, it’s shocking and disorienting. Make sure you have a gradual come back to your body at the end!

Anyway, I feel like I ran around the globe twice on a simple ask but I hope something in there is helpful to you!