My URL is a term I first saw on /r/gendercritical, that I felt really encapsulated how I felt about the concept of gender. On my last session with my therapist, whom I’d originally started going to to get a top surgery letter, I told her about the term. She said she loved it, but through our conversation I realized we had wildly different interpretations of what it meant. It was really frustrating because I felt like she was so close to seeing what I was seeing, but couldn’t get past the idea that gender is somehow still important, even though we both agreed that it’s a social construct that doesn’t “really” exist. I feel like that therapy session was my peak pomo identity politics moment. Since then, over and over I’ve seen and heard libfems express ideas that are so close to getting the point, but they keep getting hung up on the idea of gender still being A Thing, even if they literally just said it isn’t.