people acting like smart & pretty are mutually exclusive things messed with me a lot in middle school/early high school. i felt like i couldn't be smart if i looked pretty or cared about my appearance and it caused me to be very judgmental against other girls. I finally in my junior got over myself and since then have been embracing my femininity more and more, while still be very focused on my studies (currently pursuing a STEM degree!) but I still struggle with these two things and I hate it
It really can mess you up. I remember that commercial a little while back where the little girl was saying “this is your brain on glitter” and acting like enjoying glitter and girly things was making you stupid. Nothing short of brainwashing that makes girls feel shitty for the things that they enjoy. Doesn’t sound very feminist to me.