i rarely post original content on here :(

I’m sorry

i haven’t been very active lately and i doubt anyone noticed or cared, but i’m going to post this anyway. I’m going through a very dark period right now, my life is straight up going to shit. I wish i could come on here more often because this is my safe place, but i’m so busy with my life falling apart that i don’t have much free time:/. i love everyone in this fandom, regardless of ship preference or anything else, and i hope you all are doing magnificent. The rare chances i get to come on here, it will probably just be reblogs, and i appologize for that, no original content. I’m just not in a head space or situation where i can contribute often and uniquely. luv u all.


announcement! hiatus.

I figured with Tumblr’s new chat feature, I should post an update.

I’m putting this blog on indefinite hiatus. I’m very rarely on Tumblr anymore–while it was a space I very much needed a few years ago, recently I just don’t have the time to spend on here in order to keep up with the community.

So, I’ve been getting a lot of chat messages, and I apologize for the delayed response, or if I’m not able to get back to you at all. There are a decent amount of blogs dedicated to answering questions for queer/bi people, so I encourage you to ask them! They’ll get back to you so much sooner than I would.

It’s always been just me running this blog, and there’s been over 2,000 posts and I currently have over 5,000 followers! That’s pretty awesome. When I first made this blog, there weren’t a lot of bi pride blogs. That’s changed, and I rarely post original content on here. Usually I’m just reblogging the awesome things from other bi people. I originally wanted this blog to be heavily submission based, and that didn’t work out.

So, it’s been great folks. This just isn’t a part of my life anymore, and it’s become a bit of a chore. I doubt I’ll actually delete this blog, but it’s possible. There may be the errant queued post here or there. I’m not on certain social media websites very much anymore, like Tumblr, for safety reasons. In fact, I’m pretty sure one man, if not more, who sexually assaulted me follows this blog & has for years. My personal blog is also rarely used & on private.

Let me know what you all are thinking. Bi Tumblr has been a huge part of finding my identity and being proud of who I am, so thank you.


I usually try to post something around 10:00pm. Then around 9:55pm I suffer a crisis of confidence and try one epigram/collage after another on tumblr preview and they all look like crap. Either the thought is stupid, or the lettering is sloppy or there is a lot of gunk on the scan I didn’t see to retouch before. Or the epigram is offensive in one of the infinite number of ways it is possible to offend nowadays. tumblr is sort of an instant medium, but the large majority of notes on my daily posts, which could be as few as 500 or over 5,000, are of pieces I’ve posted anywhere from a year to three years ago. So I’ve become inclined to leave them up for a while, even if they don’t get much love, just in case. There are almost 2,000 posts in the archive now, counting occasional reposts. It’s surprising how often I’ll see a single note on something from the wayback — no way to know if someone went all the way back or just happened to see it somehow. I’ve rarely commented on other tumblrs, but there are a few others with original content I totally worship. Just to name a couple, David Michael Chandler’s thedailydoodles.com tumblr and the incredible k-szk.tumblr.com, both utterly original and enviably productive. Okay, I’m procrastinating, here goes something from me… — Michael Lipsey

On "Educating"

I wasn’t trying to be rude to that anon, but their message really encapsulated the problems with “anti-SJ.”

First, there’s a definition issue. So many of the so-called “SJWs” are just people blogging about their lives and/or trying to learn about other perspectives and movements. When I started out on tumblr I mostly just reblogged posts that interested me. On the rare occasion that I did post original content, it was usually about personal experience–and while I often wrote about feminism, my posts focused on the ways feminism impacted and helped me.

The teacher-student analogy is an oversimplified one, but I’m going to use it anyway: There are people here who genuinely want to educate others, and there are people who want to learn. Of course, most of us fall on a spectrum (or should). While this blog is intended to provide education and critique, I try to avoid speaking on others’ behalf, and hold open discussions when I feel unqualified to talk. But I have no problem providing lessons in How to Be a Decent Person 101; that’s the whole point of the blog.

But many people don’t distinguish between students and teachers, and demand that everyone who writes/reblogs posts about feminism, anti-racism, and other forms of social justice offer free education to every grey face who pops up in their inbox.

And when many refuse, or respond dismissively with a “sassy gif,” these people take it as evidence that the blogger can’t respond. Because in the land of anti-SJ, “won’t” is synonymous with “can’t.”

Of course, some people probably can’t respond. If they’re still learning, if they’re undecided about certain issues, if they suffer from severe anxiety and consequently avoid conflict–well, they might not have an answer to the questions, whether genuine or hostile, that people throw at them. But this doesn’t mean that they’re “sheeple” or whatever word the pretentious-ass twenty-year-old Philosophy 101 students are bandying about these days.

The point is that it’s unfair to lump individuals who are simply interested/personally invested in social justice in with those of us whose stated goal is to educate and inform. But people do it anyway, and then castigate the former for not meeting the standards of the latter.

“It’s not my job to educate you” is a cliche at this point, and the only people I see using it regularly are sarcastic anti-SJ bloggers. Which is unfortunate, because, well, it’s true.

You are not entitled to a free education from unpaid bloggers on the internet. Appreciate what’s out there, and stop criticizing those who don’t contribute. Whatever they’re doing is valuable too–if not to social justice as a whole, then at least to themselves. And that’s enough.