Isn’t it interesting how the guy who tells the truth, who refuses to give fans false hope, who openly and honestly interacts with the fandom gets all the hate thrown at him?
And actors who do the actual queer-baiting, actors who use popular gay ships to promote themselves get all the love and benefits and positive popularity?
World is truly upside down.
Listen, I don’t know where you have been, but Jensen has always been consistent on this topic —he never made false promises, he never told you that your ship will be canon, he never attributed romance to the bond between Dean and Cas. He has called them brothers, kindred spirits. He has called Cas family.
This isn’t the first time you have asked this question. About the “oh-so-special” bond between Dean and Cas. You have been loud, you have been persistent and you have been rude. Jensen has answered you every single time –and unlike Misha, unlike other actors who do the fan-servicing for kicks and clicks–Jensen has always been honest with you. He has never lied to you, never told you to hope for things that aren’t gonna happen. Do you know how admirable that is?
If you are not ready to accept Jensen’s answer then stop asking him these loaded questions. It’s as simple as that. But you don’t do that, do you? You ask the same damn question again and again and aren’t happy until you hear that “yes” from Jensen, until you get Jensen to declare your ship canon. And when Jensen fails to tow the line, you call him names. Ugly names. Hateful names.
Do you even see what you are doing here? This man has portrayed Dean for last twelve years, this man knows Dean inside and out, this man defined and made Dean Winchester a legend—this man is Dean. The writers may have outlined the character, but Jensen, Jensen becomes Dean, Jensen is Dean. Do you really think that Jensen is not qualified to talk about Dean? Do you think that his thoughts do not matter? Do you think that Jensen is lying and overcompensating? If yes, then I have to pity you.
Nobody is stopping you from shipping destiel. Nobody is “taking away” your freedom to ship these characters together, nobody has prohibited you from having your theories and head-canons and interpretations. You can do all that in your fan-space –just like every other fan. It might come to you as a surprise, but shipping is not a new, destiel fandom invented phenomena. There have been ships (yeah, even gay ones, crazy, right?) as long as there have been shows and fans. You and your ship is not some kind of unique, special snowflake, its just another ship in a vast sea of fandom waters.
Which leads to my next point –Live and let live. You see undying love between Dean and Cas? fine. You see romantic potential between Dean and Cas? fine. But I don’t. Jensen doesn’t. You are allowed to have your version of the story, let me have mine. Let Jensen have his version. Stop pushing your interpretations on other people. On writers, on actors, on your fellow fans. On Jensen. Your ship does not have to be canon for you to enjoy it. Understand that.
Finally, this show is what it is. This is not a romantic comedy or crime thriller –it has a distinct theme—family. The show is about family, about the platonic bonds between hunters, between men –bonds that are forged in the fire of supernatural horror against the background of violence. The show didn’t promise you canon destiel or bi!dean. So stop demanding it, stop acting like entitled kids –it’s getting embarrassing now.