I will say that Jon and Dany’s sex scene is actually one of the most tastefully done and “equal” sex scenes of the series. Like first she’s on top and leading, and then when he moves on top, she’s actually partially guiding him because she trusts him. And there’s a lot of tender touching and gazing lovingly and kissing.
If only they weren’t related… lol. I think the majority of us are just like silently agreeing that we are shipping it but not wanting to admit it.