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LOVE WINS, NOT IN ORPHAN BLACK

I wanted to talk about the low treatment and importance that love has in Orphan Black in regards of queer couple. Specifically Cophine. We have plenty of respected and loyal hetero couples in Orphan Black where feelings matter, like Donnie and Alison, Sarah and Cal, Mark and Gracie that even with all the problems they are still together, fighting together and always end up back together without one of the couple sleeping with the first person they meet at the first difficulty at best there was a stolen kiss and nothing more. They don’t need drama because they are hetero, drama is only for lesbians.

More and more times the writers said that they wanted to add drama to Cophine just for the sake of drama and not for development or with deeper meaning, in fact you can hear that they use the term “lesbian drama” on the show in a couple occasions and they only created drama and in the most insulting way.

Cophine was a complex beautiful love story between 2 complex and different women. Delphine a bisexual scientist that never experieced sexual attraction for a woman, she falls in love with Cosima, a lesbian woman that is already comfortable with her identity. Delphine didn’t hesitate a moment to start a relationship with this woman, she didn’t think it’s wrong because she is a woman, she accepted her feeling for this woman and followed her heart without thinking about society prejudice and she helped alot of people, especially young lesbian, bisexual and queer women. There are people that discovered to be bisexual thanks to Delphine because they didn’t even know about bisexuality, there are lesbians that accepted and understood their sexuality thanks to Cophine. Some people learnt what love really is thanks to Cophine. Other were finally happy that a queer relationship wasn’t doomed to be tragic like EVERY OTHER QUEER RELATIONSHIPS ON TV. Someone thought, finally we have a real rapresentation where love is valid. We couldn’t be more wrong. The Cophine relationship and Delphine had been very important for LGBT community for 2 years, because this relationship was treated like a real relationship, with many difficulty and differences, but at the end of the day love was the things that mattered. Sadly the wonderful relationship developed by this 2 woman, full of love and reality disappeared in season 3 for the sake of drama. The love that guided this relationship disappeared and was replaced by a meaningless sex relationship. 

After 3 seasons of writers, actors, production, everybody saying that Cophine were in love, not only a simple love but actually soulmates, the kind of love that makes you come back from the death totally erased and replaced in 5 minutes by a meaningless sex relationship.

Delphine broke up with Cosima because she wanted to keep the promise that she made to Cosima (as Cosima requested) to love all of her sisters, doing so she sacrificed her own happiness to honor her promise to Cosima and how is she repaid? After 1 week Cosima subscribe to Tinder app and sleep literally with the first woman she met online after less than 2 hours that they know each other, add to that the next day she already moved in to the house of the Tinder date and did nothing else that fuck around days and night, forgetting about work, about curing herself and her sisters from a mortal illness, the only thing that she cared about was Tinder date, she completely forgot her love for Delphine with her, she actually replaced it. Also Cosima just few days before almost died, she needed oxygen and she couldn’t even walk by herself but what miracles can sex do. She is totally healthy now and has all the energy of the world to fuck every day, day and night. Didn’t you know that hemorrhage can be stopped with a towel on your shoulders? And some juice can make a terminal illness disappear? You can in Orphan Black.

If it was only a sex relationship, it’s still ok (no it isn’t but it’s more acceptable), it was gross that the writers thinks that it’s enough to find a sexbuddy to forget the hearbreak and the love of your life, invalidating love in a queer relationship. The problem is that they made it look like Cosima actually fell for Shay even if just few days ago she professed her love to Delphine. They thought that was enough to put another queer character and relplace an epic love story with another queer relationship because you know queer characters are interchangeable. There is not such a thing as love or respect in a queer relationship, you can forget of the love of your like in 1 week with the first lesbian you meet. This relationship is so nonsensical and meaningless that they had to use Delphine to push this crap saying shit like “you two fit” (what?) and “she cares for you” (double what?) basically humiliating once again Delphine’s character. This relationship has no meaning, no chemistry, no reason to exist for the exception that “it’s new and fun” John Fawcett words, they really went deep here. But let’s be real we all know why JF and GM made this “relationship”/love triangle happen and it’s as we all know very well QUEERBAITING. Yes they even used an actress that already had a queer fandom because she was in another queer show and they wanted to appeal and please another fandom giving shits to their own fandom that follows them from 2 years and more because we are all blind and the only thing that metters is watching 2 women half naked making out, this is the thinking of hetero men. Also it’s so disrespectful and insulting for all queer ladies to think that we are so shallow to fall for something like this.

Seeing how Graeme answered some fans really makes me understand even better that he has no idea what he is doing, he has no idea of the importance that Cophine and Delphine has on the LGBT community and can’t care less about the fans of the show but only mocks them like if they are stupid. He calls shippers shallow and frivolous, he gives the relationship that he creater for 2 years zero importance in fact he said more times that he only wanted to add drama. Now why add drama to the queer ship? Why not to the hetero ship? Why the queer ship is always the one that needs drama? Because lesbians are dramatic or what? Because lesbian don’t deserve to be happy and have a complex relationship? 

How is possible that Graeme don’t see how childish and selfish is Cosima? Because she is his favorite and she can’t do any wrong? Cosima preferred to fake her urine because Delphine asked her about it and she was worried about her health, Cosima preferred to lie about her health instead to find a cure, she took Tinder date to DYAD to piss Delphine off, she didn’t call Delphine that has the means to help when Sarah was kidnapped because she didn’t care, she was too busy fucking and because she was pissed with Delphine. Sarah and Helena could have both died because Cosima was to childish to ask for Delphine help and so so many things that you all noticed anyway except Graeme because Cosima is perfect in his opinion, like his writing is perfect.

Some people blame Evelyne Brochu schedule, the writers in primis, but why all this crap didn’t happen with Michiel Huisam? He was busy with GoT and only shoot one episode and i didn’t see Sarah go with Art or the first guy she met. I didn’t see fuck up his story, kill him off or whatever like they did with Delphine.

Now let’s talk about Delphine. From season 1 Delphine has always been treated like a shady untrustworthy character by everyone even if she always had clones best interest, even in season 1 Leekie manipulates her saying that the clones are in danger, even before falling for Cosima she wanted to protect the clones and Leekie promised that he would protect them from whoever was trying to kill them. She betrayed Cosima and the clones but always with their best interest in mind, also she never said anything about Kira, she was an anomaly and they would have probably tested her and she was only a child, so she decided to not say anything about her, by the end of season 1 Delphine understood that she has been manipulated by Leekie and says to Cosima that she is on her side now. In season 2 once again Delphine did everything possible to save Cosima and help the clones she did also mistakes but they were never meant to hurt Cosima but to save her, and all of the clones. Now we all saw in s3 Delphine sacrificed everything and i don’t mean only her life, but every part of her, she sacrificed for Cosima and her sisters, she sacrificed more than her life, she sacrificed her happiness, her dreams, her ambitions, her job, the person she was, even her morals, she sacrificed it all and what she get in return? She has always been treated like a shit, an outsider, she lived alone, she had no friends, the woman she loves after 5 minutes that they breake up has already replaced her, she has enemies everywhere, she is always questioned and considerated untruworthy from the woman she loves and from her sisters even after she saved all of their ungreatful asses. Now let’s see the differences, Donnie lied to Alison for years about being a monitor and it’s soon forgotten, Paul betrayed Beth, basically pushed her to suicide, he is a monitor, a military that killed his own companions and they trust him right away, he kidnapped Helena (pregnant) hurt her and he is an hero while Delphine for 3 seasons proved that she loved Cosima and did everything for her and has always been considerated shady and untrustworty. What is the difference between Delphine, Donnie and Paul? Let’s see Delphine is a woman, but she not only is a woman, she is a bisexual, so she can’t be trusted, she must be confused? What is it? What is this double standard? 

Even in her possible death she has been disrepspected once again, first with all that talk to Tinder date, then Cosima seeing her crying and giving a shit about it, and last from the writers that just after the episode started to talk about how excited they are for shaycrap.

I will leave with some amazing posts i found around on tumblr and fanforum that explain much better than me what i think