i normally don't do these kinds of posts

I feel like I should make a post about this because it’s really bothering me to see all that ‘Tom Holland has a frog in his mouth stuff’ on my dash.
Yes, the first post may have been funny, I laughed about it too. But this is getting out of hand. My dash is full of this meme and I just find it to be immature and really not funny anymore.
This is bullying. And I don’t care what you say and if you didn’t mean it that way because you can’t control how another person feels about this. Tom said that he got bullied in school so do you really think that making a meme about how he looks is really the right way to show him your love?
I’ve experienced something like this myself. People mocking you about stuff “just for fun” and “they don’t mean it” or they mean it in an affectionate way. But it still hurts and it still damages your self-esteem even if it’s just meant in a funny way.
So to sum this up. This whole “Dave the frog” meme is in my eyes just immature and straight up bullying and I feel like some people should overthink the stuff they’re posting right now because I really don’t want to know what happens when Tom sees this.

The Addams Family Musical Songs [Broadway Version]
  • When You're an Addams: screw societal norms this is Halloween motherfuckers
  • Pulled: What's demiromantic?
  • Where Did We Go Wrong: Wednesday? Something's not right. The corners of your mouth are pointing up. Maybe you're running a fever.
  • One Normal Night: Just for the love of everything holy PLEASE don't show off the pet lion and man-eating plants
  • Morticia: I haven't talked about how much I love my wife in the last five minutes, anyway she's beautiful and amazing and I'd literally rather die than see her unhappy
  • What If: Friendly Sibling Rivalry taken to the upmost extreme
  • Full Disclosure: Wednesday remember what you said about pretending to be normal well fuck that
  • Waiting: posts a bunch of personal shit then deletes it next morning
  • Full Disclosure - Part 2: doo doo do-do-do
  • Just Around the Corner: Morticia don't joke about that kind of stuff
  • The Moon and Me: that's rough buddy
  • Happy/Sad: Wait this is Addams Family I'm not supposed to be crying
  • Crazier Than You: I have worse self-preservation instincts than you I'll prove it
  • Let's Not Talk about Anything Else but Love: Avoiding the Question? Son you're in the Addams House we talk about our problems here
  • In the Arms: I'm like 90% sure someone was high when they wrote this but idk they did a good job
  • Live Before We Die: Nice but we deserve like 800x more Morticia/Gomez songs get to it
  • Move Toward the Darkness: So I guess all's well that ends well. Also Fester's on the moon now.

[cw for biphobia]

Because I spend a lot of time in places where there is a general acceptance of LGBTQ+ individuals and also a large number of those individuals, I sometimes get… a little too casual about it? I mean, I never forget there are people in the world at large who are homophobic/biphobic/transphobic, because I see it a lot in general out in the world, but I occasionally forget that some of them can be sitting right in front of me. So it’s often pretty painful punch in the gut to encounter it to my face.

A couple weeks ago I told a story about making out with a girl. It’s a funny story, and it honestly didn’t occur to me to think twice about telling it. I was with people that I knew - not all of them were close friends but all of them were people I’d been working with for a few weeks and felt relatively comfortable socializing with. I finished, and one of them deadass looked me in the eye and said, “Well, you know, when a woman is bisexual, it’s okay, because that’s attractive. With men, you’ve got to be careful, you can’t trust them.”

Needless to say my stomach dropped like a stone. The guy sitting next to me was also bi, though I was the only one who knew that. Our eyes met for a split second of frozen indecision and then he turned to the person who said that and laughed uncomfortably. Then both of us stood and got the hell out without saying a word.

I don’t have a point, really, except maybe this: if ever I get too comfortable in my own skin I am reminded in the cruelest and most uncomfortable way possible how many people in the world consider me an object, a punchline, something less than a human being. If you ever wonder why I talk so much about the fact that I love being bi, it’s because I need to drown out the voices of everyone saying shit like this.


Mary Warren, a straight C+ student voted most likely to become famous. Mary could get you to do things you wouldn’t normally do. One time, the PTA tried to implement this dress code, like no ripped jeans, no bare midriffs, stuff like that. So Mary organised a school-wide streak across the baseball field in protest, and safe to say, the dress code never passed. She just had this charisma… but it was the kind that could turn dangerous

Admin Note

Dear L.O.V.Es,

Hello, this is Admin A speaking. I’ve seen a couple of things written on Korea portals and also the international fans’ side on Twitter, and I would just like to take a moment to share my thoughts briefly about it. Naturally, this might seem like a little downer considering how NU’EST W just ended their fanmeeting (which is a great and proud achievement for us, with 10,000 audience and more activities to come!). This isn’t just a one-two time thing, which is why I thought I’d share an opinion, albeit a little untimely.

First and foremost, I think it’s perfectly fine to rejoice over Minhyun’s surprise message on NU’EST’s fanmeeting. Given that it’s recorded recently, permission had to be granted by YMC so there is absolutely no legal concerns as well. 

However, please refrain from dragging other fandoms in your joy. We can be happy without having to step on someone else’s feelings as well. By saying things like ‘they’re just temporary’ or ‘can’t wait till 2019′ and mentioning their limited time (among other things) can be actually rude - take a step back and step in their shoes, I’m sure we wouldn’t like it if people say the same about our boys. 

Being part of a fandom is about making memories whenever we can. Yes, it’s a shame that Minhyun is unable to join the boys for their 2000-day anniversary - but there’s 3000-day, 4000-day, 5000-day. There’s 7 years, 8 years, 9 years, 10. There’s so much hopeful future for us that we can look forward to, as well as see the growth of NU’EST W in their new challenges, and Minhyun in his, along the way.

Likewise, the same goes to Wanna One and Wannables. They too, are trying to make full use of every experience, events and opportunities, and make memories of their own to cherish for a long time to come, without regrets. When you cross the line with rude comments, you’re trampling on someone’s fond memories.

Minhyun is a Pledis artiste and he will return; there is no need to reassert to make things difficult for them. Let them enjoy their group in peace, and let us enjoy our boys’ performance in peace. There is no need to make everything about Minhyun in Wanna One to be about NU’EST, unless someone wants to know about NU’EST, then we should take the chance to talk to them and guide them through. 

I know we’ve faced a lot of negative comments online as well, but hating back is not the way to go. Ultimately, the ones we hurt will be the boys in the end. Don’t lower your level to trolls and antis looking to spur a fight - if they start a rumor, address them with facts and tact. If they harass you, screencap (in the case it gets serious, as proof when seeking legal help) and then block and report them. If you see hate comments on any members’ SNS posts, report them and drop a message to fellow L.O.V.Es so we can fill it with positive words instead.

L.O.V.Es, please remember to respect one another. I know a good majority of us are supportive of all, that includes the individual members, NU’EST, NU’EST W and even Wanna One. It’s also okay if you don’t (because everyone’s definition of a fan is different, and you can enjoy music without the label of a fandom name), but always be kind. And perhaps that way, we will receive less hate too. We cannot change antis’ remarks, but we can start with ourselves to lower the chances of spurring hate.

We’re L.O.V.Es, so let’s do our best to make the boys and fellow L.O.V.Es proud, and live up to our name.^^

Much ♥,
Admin A

Happy Friday the 13th!!
//Sorry for a low quality doodle, it’s currently 3 am for me. However I needed to have a casual reminder for you to be kind to black cats today, they are innocent victims to superstitions. They’re usually in a lot of danger on normal Friday the 13th’s already, but with this one being in October I fear that rate of danger will rise immensely. Ill try to get asks done and posted today, but my priority is to keep my own cat safe, she’s getting older and I worry for her. But have a good Friday the 13th everybody, and stay safe 💕

For one reason or another I categorize possible endings Arc-V could’ve had in my head like this:

  • Good End: All the yuufour and bracelet girls get to return to their own bodies, Reira is turned back to their normal state, very idealistic
  • True End: The end we got
  • Bad End: The yuufour and bracelet girls combine into Zarc and Ray

anonymous asked:

BPD doesn't mean you're abusive and if you relate to any of the BPD Tumblr memes it doesn't mean you're an abusive person. A lot of the time the memes there are simply describing the impulses someone with that has and it's a struggle to function when your brain is constantly wanting to break into pieces for the simplest things. We may feel a certain way but we don't act on it.

no shit but like… do you all seriously not see the issue with making memes about the impulses like “haha that bpd feel when you want to make your FP cry for not responding to you for an hour!!” like you are Normalizing a reaction to behaviors that are harmful. like theres a difference between just joking about it and the kinds of posts we’re talking about.

i have bpd so obviously  i fucking know we have these impulses and it doesnt make you abusive. but you actually Can control your behaviors and its fuckin stupid that so much of bpd tumblr discourages self criticism or taking goddamn responsibility for your behavior

sonicsuga  asked:

Took me over an hour to finish the last half of the episode... my heart couldn't take it and I had to keep pausing and then jumping on my bed and laughing like an idiot... I'm normally really calm and quiet (kinda like Yoongi) but Taegi's date really did something to me, lol... BTW, don't you think Taegi have gotten closer since their Hawaii date? Remember Tae tweeting those 2 vids of himself and Yoongi? Did any other member post a vid with Yoongi this year? Not even Hobi, I think... 👀

same! I’m normally really calm and quiet too but when it comes to taegi, I kind of… lose it. And yes! TAEGI definitely got closer! We can see in the summer package that they were already close enough to lay down next to each other on a bed doing their usual stuff ; w ; ) and Tae’s usually the one who posts videos of him WITH THE MIN YOONGI! A LEGEND ( TT U TT )

Compliments I’ve Gotten That Are Very INTP-Esque
  • “Your handwriting looks like a scientist’s writing.”
  • “I feel like I’m sitting in a lecture hall listening to the ‘really cool professor’ get off topic.” (Just after I told someone to wait while I collected my thoughts, to then continue explaining something.)
  • “How are you not a famous scientist yet.”
  • (I get a lot of scientist-related compliments)
  • “I can tell when you start thinking seriously about something; it’s like I can literally see the gears turning in your head!”
  • “I like hearing your stream of thought.”
Quick Personal Post

Hi, I just wanted to make a quick, non-detailed post about something. Life’s been kind of difficult for me and my family recently, and has the potential to get worse. If things do get worse, it would be… extremely emotionally stressful. If that happens, there’s a chance I might avoid posting or responding to things on tumblr, (more than my normal, nervous self already does sometimes). I’m not saying I’d want to leave tumblr, and I might even end up trying to post more, as it could provide a nice distraction from real life. I don’t want people getting worried about me, I’ll find a way to get through this, but I kind of felt like letting people know that something’s happening and that it could affect my activity on here.

Anyways, I want to thank all the nice people who follow me and enjoy the things I post, even though I’ve never yet been able to finish and post as much stuff as I’d like to. And again, I’m really sorry for how long it’s taking me to get the next chapter of O.W.E. finished. I’ve been slowly working on it, but I think I’ve been stressing myself about getting it done so much that it’s made it hard to work on (and I’m also a bit scared to start working on it again, since something in the chapter kind of relates in some way to what I’m dealing with right now). But I really do want to get it done and posted sometime so I can move on in the story.

Once again, thanks to all the nice people who follow me, and also to those who don’t. I hope you’re all doing well and staying strong, even when life is being stupid and cruel.

Climb Inside His Skin

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Ariadne blinked for a moment at that, glad to feel that she wasn’t about to be killed. The request was also a bit surprising. Not many people in the south went looking for a Circle. Normally they ran from it as fast as they could, in her experience.

“Well, I used to be one of those. But not quite the kind you’re thinking of,” she replied, her Tevinter accent audible. “You doing okay?”

     Now that the woman appears to understand Saarebas means her no
     harm her accent becomes clearer. Saarebas knows that accent. Tevinter.
     But a Templar? Surprising. She didn’t realize the Tevene had Templars.
     Still, it was good fortune to run into one on the road.

     “Have been better, she admits, tugging absently on her sleeves to
     make sure her wrists are covered, Looking for safe space…

ooc ;; i just want to say thank you to anyone who’s sent a kind word to me this week. my mental health (and honestly, probably physical too) are really taking a plummet so im currently weighing up what would be best for me to do to help myself get better. hopefully this is just some kind of slump and things’ll start to go back to normal

im sorry for all the negative posting as well. i’ll do my best to put a stop to that, i don’t want to force my problems onto you all and make you all feel bad as well.

again. thank you all.

So a friend of mine recently joked to me that they wished they were asexual because always pining after people and falling in love and shit like that was painful and they wished that they just didn’t have to deal with it or whatever, I don’t know. To be fair, I’m sure those things are very much not fun. but let me tell you a thing about being asexual in a society that is driven by sex.

Picture for a moment that you hate the taste of chocolate cake. Or maybe you don’t even hate it, but you don’t particularly get the appeal. You know chocolate cake exists and that pretty much everyone seems to love it, maybe you’ve even tried it but it’s not your thing so life without chocolate cake isn’t so bad and you go on your merry way in a chocolate free life, maybe enjoying some other kind of dessert, maybe just some pie or some ice cream makes you happy. then one day you look around and realize that EVERYONE is talking about chocolate cake. Every advertisement on tv has chocolate cake in it, they eat it on your favorite tv shows, everyone talks about how fantastic chocolate cake is, different ways to make it, how much icing they like or whatever, you’re not too interested. And still that’s fine. Sure it might be nice to like something that everyone else seems to like so much, they say it’s awesome so clearly you’re missing out on something, but really you don’t feel like you’re missing out on anything at all, cause ice cream is still a pretty fucking great dessert. 

Then you realize something else. It isn’t just that people REALLY like chocolate cake, it’s that everyone is obsessed with it. It’s people saying things like “It’s not dessert if you don’t have chocolate cake with it” and “there’s something wrong with you if you don’t like chocolate cake. Who would be happy with just ice cream! No no, it’s not HEALTHY to not like chocolate cake.” That’s when you start to feel like maybe there’s something wrong with you, like maybe dessert really can’t be dessert without chocolate cake, and maybe you should just forgo your delicious after dinner treat altogether, because when you’re at a dinner party no one else is going to want to eat just ice cream like you do, and you don’t want to force anyone else to skip their chocolate cake since it seems so important to all of them, it would probably be really hard for them to give it up. But really, you just don’t want anyone to choose cake over you. 

This is what being asexual is like. It is not fun. It is not freedom from the game of love and lust, from the pain that seems to come along with those things. As it stands, being ace, by our cultural standards, means that there’s something wrong with you. It leaves you constantly feeling like you’re missing out on the punchline of a joke that everyone else thinks is the best goddamn joke in the world. It’s confusing cause you feel fine, you feel normal. But you also feel isolated because not liking sex, or not feeling any desire for it, or not wanting a romantic relationship, these things are weird. You’re told that a healthy relationship must involve sex and romance. It must involve nice dates and compliments and whatever else comes along with romance, I don’t know, walks on the beach and committing to each other and posting cute pictures together on your social media and reminding each other you love them. Supposedly these things are necessary to “connect” with another person. And you feel like being in a relationship would mean that someone else would be sacrificing those things for you. And while you don’t really understand why, you know that they must be important to them so asking someone to give those things up for you is repellent. 

You instead resign yourself to just not having a relationship, or else doing those things and feeling awkward or uncomfortable or even disgusting and dishonest. In my experience anyway, I can’t speak for the entire spectrum, THIS is what asexuality feels like. It’s not a fucking joke. It’s not something you can wish to be just to escape getting your fucking heart broken again. Because as much as “real love” apparently hurts, feeling like you aren’t allowed to love anyone because you define it differently than everyone else does hurts just as much. Do NOT use my and many other people’s struggles as a joke and do not for a second think that being ace and/or aromantic is some kind of get out of jail free card.

Shaken Faith

This election is almost over.

Life will go on, for better or for worse.

For some of us, this election was eye opening in a way no election ever has been before. Not just on a political scale, but on a personal scale. I’ve had to reevaluate my opinions on people I had previously held to be “good, decent, hardworking people.”

These “good, decent, hardworking people” are my parents, they’re close relatives, they’re friends of my parents I’ve grown up with, they’re my grandfather who fought in World War II, they’re people I work with.

They all voted for Trump.

My mother posted on her Facebook that she and my father “proudly voted for Trump.”

I didn’t talk to her for days. I couldn’t. I knew she was going to vote for Trump, but my disappointment in how proudly she did so was and is acute.

This is a woman who I thought was a good Christian. She does Bible Study every morning and keeps a prayer book.

There’s been one bible verse rattling around in my head for the past few days as I’ve been wrestling with this new view of my parents.

I went to private Christian School as a child and my bible was always the King James, so that’s the translation I’m going to use for the following scripture:

Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?”

You shall know them by their fruits.

A few days before my mom announced who she proudly voted for. We talked about spiritual gifts. My Aunt hadn’t been doing well so my mom had her come down to Texas to be around family. My mom is very much not a care taker. This got her on the topic of Spiritual Gifts and how she’d taken plenty of quizzes and tests that told her that “Mercy” was not one of them.

By Mercy, she means Empathy. To her, Empathy is not a gift that God gave her. So she does nothing to cultivate it. She even said “When I see a homeless person, I think, GET A JOB!”

I can’t even begin to tell you how many times the phrase “pick yourself up by your bootstraps” has been uttered throughout my life. Never about her and her family though. It’s always about other people.

Her lack of Empathy coupled with her proud support of Trump has led me to the conclusion that she is not the good Christian woman I thought she was.

Her life bears no fruit.

She’s going to be furious at me if she ever reads this, but I honestly believe it. And a part of me is saying “you shouldn’t judge another person’s spiritual journey” but fuck it. I am judging.

Thinking back, it’s hard for me to see where my family has helped anyone beyond ourselves. The refrain I heard growing up was “you can only trust family.”

What did we ever do for our community or other people? How did we help? How did we bear fruit as Christians?

To me, it’s not about going to Church and doing Bible Study, and keeping people in our thoughts and prayers. How did I affect the life of someone else for the better without asking for anything for myself? How did I make the world a better place. What fruit did I bear today?

It’s as if modern Christianity has this idea that they don’t have to DO anything for their fellow man. That if these people who are down on their luck, sick, and tormented believed enough in God, then God will take care of them regardless of what anyone else does.

When did the concept of being a good Christian become coupled with material wealth and comfort?

When did the Christian community stop caring?

I don’t remember the Biblical Jesus sitting back and saying “I don’t have to do anything, God will take care of it…”

When someone came to him saying “Help,” I don’t remember him judging that person to see whether they were worthy of his help. That’s all Jesus did: he fed the poor and he comforted and healed the sick. He spent his time with the dregs of society. Hell, he even got in trouble for healing someone on the Sabbath.

What seems to be happening among the Christians my mother is a part of is that they only help as long as it’s the right people. It’s as if a person’s suffering must be pure for that person to be deserving.

What really astonishes me about my family is that they’ve forgotten so much. My grandmother was a social worker. She grew up traveling in the Carnival during the Depression. She had a passion for helping people because she knew what it was to be looked down upon and be called “Carnie Trash.” I don’t know what she’d make of this election. I’m scared she would vote Trump as well, forgetting how belittled she had been as a young woman and all the work she put into helping others in her community. She’s not here though, and all I can remember is her passion for people. All people.

When this election is over I will still be the primary caregiver for my 99 year old Grandfather, who voted for Trump. I will still be working for my Aunt and Uncle, who voted for Trump. And I will still be the daughter of a Mother and Father who voted for Trump.

As a Granddaughter, Daughter, Niece, and Employee, my faith is broken in these people.

I’m going to insert some Hamilton into this and say that what Daveed Diggs said about Thomas Jefferson in the Hamilton PBS documentary resonated with me on so many levels. He said that we shouldn’t separate the good from the bad. That Thomas Jefferson is a brilliant man, but “He sucks.”

I felt like he was talking about my family. I love them, I care about them. But they suck.

It’s taken me years to chisel out the lack of empathy my family inadvertently instilled in me. I do care about other people. I care a whole fucking lot. It’s an ongoing process to remind myself that it’s okay to care about other people. That they don’t need to suffer the right way or be perfect angels sent to earth for me to care and to want to help.

We are all imperfect creatures. We go through life together as part of a community. As a community, as people, it’s up to us to stand up and show love, and kindness, and forgiveness and to help as much as we are able without going “what’s in it for me?” or “are you good enough for me to help you?”

When this is over, as a country, as a world, we are going to have to figure out where we go next.

I choose love and acceptance. I choose kindness and care.

I choose to do my best to make this world a better place.

anonymous asked:

I don't want to be rude, but why do you care why and if people ship someone? It's their right to do that. I am not a shipper at all, but I hate when I see people writing pages upon pages of why others shouldn't ship Lauriver or Olicity. Let them enjoy their interaction, let them enjoy their history. Just let them hope for two characters together whether is Olicity or Lauriver and don't try and tell them that is wrong.

I understand where you’re coming from, Anon, and I completely respect your opinion. I really do, because I normally don’t do this. I’ve always believed that it’s good to form your own opinions. I just really have a problem with toxic relationships on tv, and people making them out as something to strive for. Laurel and Oliver’s relationship was beyond toxic, for reasons I listed in the post you’re talking about. {x}

See, young, impressionable viewers could listen to the L*uriver fandom and watch the show and think that that is the kind of love they want when they grow up. No self respecting woman would allow a man like pre-island Oliver to treat her like that. I know that present day Laurel wouldn’t put up with that shit, and Felicity wouldn’t either if Oliver were to ever revert back to his old ways (which he wouldn’t). 

And I also would like for them to stop using the “comic canon” argument because it has long been established that that is one thing this show is not. Oliver and Laurel are 100% NOT Dinah and Ollie from the comics. 

My point is that Oliver and Laurel didn’t have a good relationship, and I don’t appreciate their fandom making it seem like they had this once in a lifetime love, when it was anything but. Olicity, on the other hand, has a beautiful relationship. Oliver is a changed man now, and he and Felicity have undeniable chemistry, they communicate, they support each other and stand by one another through everything, and most importantly, they love unconditionally. Yes, they’ve had bumps in the road, and they’re gonna have more (especially the big one coming up), but I don’t have any doubt that they’ll make it out of that stronger because of the reasons I just listed. 

anonymous asked:

I'm seeing all these posts about colored contacts and specifically getting proper contacts that fit your prescription... but I've got 20/20 vision and don't have an eye doctor to get a prescription from. All the things saying "get them straight from your normal provider or have your eye doctor give you a specific kind!" but I don't wear glasses or contacts so I kind of can't do that?

Prescription for contacts is more than just Power, which is the strength of the lens or glasses. Prescription for contacts include the diameter of the lens and the base curve of the lens, the size and shape of the contact. If a lens is too large for your eye it can move around and scratch your eye, these scratches are corneal abrasions and the most common injury from wearing contacts.

If you’re in the US: the seller MUST request prescription information to sell lenses legally. If they aren’t requesting this information they are breaking federal law.  [Source] That could also be a sign of bootleg or non-FDA approved lenses which are risky to put in your eyes.  

If you’re not in the US: I know a prescription isn’t required in Canada and may not be required in other countries, but it is still recommended to go to an eye doctor for your first pair. Even if they are plano (no-power) lenses, I recommend going to an optometrist or a physical store that sells glasses/non-cosmetic lenses and explain they are your first pair because:

  • You can see if your eyes are able to wear contacts and get the base curve / diameter information (at an optometrist)
  • You can try on a trial pair of lenses to learn how to make sure they aren’t inside out, how to put them into your eyes and how to remove them.
  • You can learn about proper lens care, to avoid introducing bacteria to your eyes
  • You know the lenses purchased through an eye doctor or eyewear store will be legitimate and legal for your country. It lets you know what contacts should feel like in your eye. 

So if you don’t have a normal provider, find an eye doctor that is local to you and book an appointment. Some places will do a free consultation if you purchase the plano lenses through them. If you’re in a country that doesn’t require a prescription to purchase lenses then you can also go to an eye-wear store to purchase a pair – they should instruct you similarly but many not be able to give you the diameter/base curve information.

While some people will read this and get a prescription, I know there are a few who will chance going without. Whether you get a prescription or not, please please please do research into the dangers of contact lenses so you can make informed decisions. Contacts are risky, know the risks and know how you can reduce these risks.

There is some more useful information about contact lenses here. 

Hope this helps, 
Cosplay Tutorial

anonymous asked:

Same anon here - I'm not trying to say that it's black and white straight vs. gay, but there are differences between what the West considers rather "gay" behavior vs. what is acceptable in Eastern societies. And, although I do think that Usagi has some homosexual leanings as seen on the Kinsey scale, I don't think her admiration for Makoto's strength or the fact that she thinks Rei is cool means that she loves them in that way - it is definitely more of a girl crush, which is totally normal.

You’re kind of contradicting yourself, though. If you don’t think it’s a black and white thing, then why are you adamant that Usagi’s actions aren’t considered gay? That was my point. The post isn’t saying “Usagi is definitely gay for Makoto and Rei because of this!”, but “it’s pretty gay that Usagi is able to express a physical attraction to these girls so bluntly”.

And, again, I have to repeat this - you’re conflating “gay” and “unacceptable”, like something isn’t gay in Japan because Japanese people don’t object to it. Acceptable behaviour in Japanese society can be and still is gay - Japan’s homophobia/heteronormativity takes a different form, namely invalidation. When Japanese people allow this kind of stuff in narratives, it’s not because they don’t recognise it or don’t think that it’s gay. It’s just that, broadly speaking, they don’t think gay relationships are legitimate or “real” or that the characters will actually follow through with them. It is certainly still heteronormative but it does not deny when something is hells of gay. “It’s not gay in Japan for girls to fawn over each other and profess physical/emotional desire or attachment” is an over-simplification.

  • Me: Here's to all the awesome lesbians!
  • Tumblr: Yeah but what about gay men.
  • Me: Here's to all the awesome homosexuals!
  • Tumblr: Don't forget bi, pan and trans
  • Me: Here's to all the awesome lgbtq people!
  • Tumblr: Um, you're still not being inclusive of asexual and other gender and sexuality minorities.
  • Me: Here's to all the awesome lgbtqpia people?
  • Tumblr: You really should include people of colour.
  • Me: Here's to all the awesome people inclusive of everyone!
  • Tumblr: That's stupid. If you're going to be celebrating people, you really should specify those who are normally ignored by society. By stating "everyone" your post is kind of irrelevant. You may as well be celebrating cis, white, American males.
  • Me: I can't do this anymore. I don't know what you want from me.
  • Tumblr: *28 people like this*